When you think of trans girls

[subbyclarajane]

What do you think of? I’ve seen us lumped in with CD, sissy, femboy… - - - I just… feel like a girl that was unfortunate enough to be born with testicles instead of ovaries. Clinically, I have a girl brain, and I can back that up.

Are there any other cock-having people that feel like you have a female brain? Or do these other personalities feel like male-brained people with female characteristics/needs?

Or am I oversimplifying?

Love to hear from actual folx in these categories.

 

[subbyclarajane]

And while I’m at it.

What’s the deal with trans girls being entry-level queer meters? Like, “Not sure you like cock? Try a trans girl, today!”

How about, “Like girls but tired of pussy?”

Heh heh, that makes me chuckle. Because I can’t ever imagine being tired of pussy.

 

[Somerandomdudepnw]

What do you think of? I’ve seen us lumped in with CD, sissy, femboy… - - - I just… feel like a girl that was unfortunate enough to be born with testicles instead of ovaries. Clinically, I have a girl brain, and I can back that up.

Are there any other cock-having people that feel like you have a female brain? Or do these other personalities feel like male-brained people with female characteristics/needs?

Or am I oversimplifying?

Love to hear from actual folx in these categories.

I think a lot of that mentality on this site is because it is a lot of older people here that use outdated terms, or their only experience with Trans people is watching Trans porn where they use those terms

 

[subbyclarajane]

I think a lot of that mentality on this site is because it is a lot of older people here that use outdated terms, or their only experience with Trans people is watching Trans porn where they use those terms

Seems fucked that the porn industry gets to decide my genre. Or you know, the government.

 

[Somerandomdudepnw]

Seems fucked that the porn industry gets to decide my genre. Or you know, the government.

For sure. I do know there's people trying to change the porn industry, but that still doesn't help with our overlords

 

[subbyclarajane]

For sure. I do know there's people trying to change the porn industry, but that still doesn't help with our overlords

Change the porn industry! That feels like shoveling sand with a fork. But I like some of the ethical porn trends I've been seeing.

 

[Escierto]

What do I think of? I think of my girlfriend who is just so cute I can't even imagine how a human can be so cute. She has always been a girl from the time she was small playing with dolls with the other girls and wearing a dress with her hair long. Now almost forty years later, she is still a girl.

 

[subbyclarajane]

What do I think of? I think of my girlfriend who is just so cute I can't even imagine how a human can be so cute. She has always been a girl from the time she was small playing with dolls with the other girls and wearing a dress with her hair long. Now almost forty years later, she is still a girl.

Girl brain is girl brain. I think that's my point. I've had two men who identify as CD (on FetLife) tell me they feel like men but prefer the female aesthetic. I'm a trans woman, I feel like a woman. I've NEVER felt like a dude. Before my egg cracked, I couldn't even refer to myself as a man, or even a guy. I was a 'male', and even that never sat quite right.

Can't believe I had no idea. It's just... insane how OBVIOUSLY a girl I've been my entire life.

 

[Razzyricho]

I think it’s subjective right? The only real objective definition is natural biology, you’re either born with the male or female chromosomes…
Gender is just a word that humans have come up with to define that idea culturally.

How you choose to identify is autonomous and your basic right as a human. Who cares what anyone else thinks really.
Anyone who wants to argue a point or debate that issue with anyone over an individual’s personal choice is just an oxygen thief…

 

[subbyclarajane]

I think it’s subjective right? The only real objective definition is natural biology, you’re either born with the male or female chromosomes…
Gender is just a word that humans have come up with to define that idea culturally.

How you choose to identify is autonomous and your basic right as a human. Who cares what anyone else thinks really.
Anyone who wants to argue a point or debate that issue with anyone over an individual’s personal choice is just an oxygen thief…

Oxygen thief. I LOVE THAT.

Although, I do neurologically have a female brain. All of my clinical neurodivergence has expressed in the female variant since I was four years old. And intersex presentations have been shown to exist in both XX and XY scenarios, and there are biological females with XY pairs. It's rare. But the research points to biological sex being determined upstream.

I'm being pedantic. It doesn't actually matter. But I do think it's interesting.

Oh, I also have aromatase excess syndrome, which means my brain turns testosterone into estrogen at an alarming rate. Which is arguably an intersex designation, though I'm XY.

 

[Razzyricho]

Oxygen thief. I LOVE THAT.

Feel free to use that term, I’ll send you my account details so that you can pay me royalties each time you repeat the phrase.

I’ll do you a deal as a fellow LIT member, $5k into my account for every time you use the phrase in future (written or spoken), an absolute bargain!

 

[subbyclarajane]

Feel free to use that term, I’ll send you my account details so that you can pay me royalties each time you repeat the phrase.

I’ll do you a deal as a fellow LIT member, $5k into my account for every time you use the phrase in future (written or spoken), an absolute bargain!

You're charming. And an entrepreneur. Much applause.

 

[Razzyricho]

Just doing my bit to keep the cogs of society turning darlin’…

 

[subbyclarajane]

Yes, the economy won't turn itself.

 

[CdKimMajick]

What do you think of? I’ve seen us lumped in with CD, sissy, femboy… - - - I just… feel like a girl that was unfortunate enough to be born with testicles instead of ovaries. Clinically, I have a girl brain, and I can back that up.

Are there any other cock-having people that feel like you have a female brain? Or do these other personalities feel like male-brained people with female characteristics/needs?

Or am I oversimplifying?

Love to hear from actual folx in these categories.

I recently came out as a full-time crossdresser I live as a woman. But at this point not sure if I go past just living as one or going full transition.

I think I have a female brain or it's developing into one.

I don't know why you get lumped into the cd group. They are different but I think some people dont understand that

 

[CdKimMajick]

And while I’m at it.

What’s the deal with trans girls being entry-level queer meters? Like, “Not sure you like cock? Try a trans girl, today!”

How about, “Like girls but tired of pussy?”

Heh heh, that makes me chuckle. Because I can’t ever imagine being tired of pussy.

I consider myself bi but women and pussy don't really turn me on anymore. But thinking about or looking at a hard cock gets my panties wet instantly.

I don't get why trans girls are advertised like that. I know I get messages on other sites from guys who have straight as sexual orientation and they hit on me. One told me as long as you're wearing women's clothes and I fuck you that dont mean I'm gay or bi cause your presenting as a woman.

 

[Escierto]

I consider myself bi but women and pussy don't really turn me on anymore. But thinking about or looking at a hard cock gets my panties wet instantly.

I don't get why trans girls are advertised like that. I know I get messages on other sites from guys who have straight as sexual orientation and they hit on me. One told me as long as you're wearing women's clothes and I fuck you that dont mean I'm gay or bi cause your presenting as a woman.

Yeah. It's the Get Out of Gay Free card. I used to use it myself but the more I thought about it, I realized my sex life with my girlfriend is no different than that of a gay couple.

 

[subbyclarajane]

I recently came out as a full-time crossdresser I live as a woman. But at this point not sure if I go past just living as one or going full transition.

I think I have a female brain or it's developing into one.

I don't know why you get lumped into the cd group. They are different but I think some people dont understand that

As I understand it, you have a girl brain or you don’t. My clinical presentations have been female since I was a toddler. I just learned to mask it. I also have an intersex condition that ensures my estrogen was so high since puberty that I’ve been functionally sterile. As my clinical presentations existed before puberty, that condition may be irrelevant, but the testosterone to estrogen conversion happens in the brain, so it’s compelling at least.

While an AMAB person can be socialized female, they will still have male brain extroversions that are extremely apparent in the presentation of neurodivergence. No matter what they were taught.

If you want to know which kind of brain you have, study the different types of BPD, BP, ADHD, AuDHD, Autism, or other variations you might have. Look at the differences between male and female presentations, and there’s an excellent chance one of them will resonate. That’s your answer.

Why am I going deep on this topic? Because there’s a contemporary discourse, founded in ignorance, that makes the assertion that being transgender is some kind of curable condition. It’s not. If you have a female brain, you don’t convert. You suffer the ignorance in the wrong body and hope your life doesn’t end early because of it.

I think it’s entirely possible you have a female brain. But even if you don’t, that doesn’t invalidate your identity. Some aspect of your wiring, nature or nurture, has made you more comfortable living a female existence. That’s just as valid as knowing your brain type. No one can take it from you.

 

[CdKimMajick]

As I understand it, you have a girl brain or you don’t. My clinical presentations have been female since I was a toddler. I just learned to mask it. I also have an intersex condition that ensures my estrogen was so high since puberty that I’ve been functionally sterile. As my clinical presentations existed before puberty, that condition may be irrelevant, but the testosterone to estrogen conversion happens in the brain, so it’s compelling at least.

While an AMAB person can be socialized female, they will still have male brain extroversions that are extremely apparent in the presentation of neurodivergence. No matter what they were taught.

If you want to know which kind of brain you have, study the different types of BPD, BP, ADHD, AuDHD, Autism, or other variations you might have. Look at the differences between male and female presentations, and there’s an excellent chance one of them will resonate. That’s your answer.

Why am I going deep on this topic? Because there’s a contemporary discourse, founded in ignorance, that makes the assertion that being transgender is some kind of curable condition. It’s not. If you have a female brain, you don’t convert. You suffer the ignorance in the wrong body and hope your life doesn’t end early because of it.

I think it’s entirely possible you have a female brain. But even if you don’t, that doesn’t invalidate your identity. Some aspect of your wiring, nature or nurture, has made you more comfortable living a female existence. That’s just as valid as knowing your brain type. No one can take it from you.

I've dressed since my teens and I absolutely know if I came out back then I would have transitioned by now.

I've always felt more female tendencies then male all my life

 

[subbyclarajane]

I've dressed since my teens and I absolutely know if I came out back then I would have transitioned by now.

I've always felt more female tendencies then male all my life

Sounding more and more transgender. And I think that's what I might be exploring in this post. CD in particular is confused with transgender all the time, from what I've seen anecdotally. But is it a passing point on the way to finding you're transgender? Is it exclusively when a cis-gender person prefers the clothing and presentation of a polar opposite gender? Neither? Some variation of both? Or a title that can be claimed by any regardless of gender?

What's funny is, I wear 'male' clothes on a regular basis for safety. But I get ma'amed without a second glance. No one believes I have dude parts. Those clothes make me uncomfortable, feel unnatural. In those instances, I'm cross-dressing according to my actual gender, but I wouldn't claim the title crossdresser. I would also say my clothing of choice has zero relationship on my sexuality, and even 'sexy' clothes don't really turn me on. I've felt like there is a sexual relationship to crossdressing, but perhaps not.

It's all so fascinating, but meanings evolve. Trying to get a beat on where people are today.

 

[NuclearFairy]

I dated a guy who was a cross dresser, and I have a couple of relatives and a few friends that are female to male transgendered, even though I have never known any male to female transgendered women in person. Yeah there's a huge difference between my ex who liked to wear women's clothes and my younger brother who was born with the wrong parts. For one of them it's a fetish, for the other it's his life.

 

[subbyclarajane]

I dated a guy who was a cross dresser, and I have a couple of relatives and a few friends that are female to male transgendered, even though I have never known any male to female transgendered women in person. Yeah there's a huge difference between my ex who liked to wear women's clothes and my younger brother who was born with the wrong parts. For one of them it's a fetish, for the other it's his life.

Wow, that's such in interesting observation. Thank you for your insight!

 

[Escierto]

For one of them it's a fetish, for the other it's his life.

This.

 

[stickygirl]

As I understand it, you have a girl brain or you don’t. My clinical presentations have been female since I was a toddler. I just learned to mask it. I also have an intersex condition that ensures my estrogen was so high since puberty that I’ve been functionally sterile. As my clinical presentations existed before puberty, that condition may be irrelevant, but the testosterone to estrogen conversion happens in the brain, so it’s compelling at least.

While an AMAB person can be socialized female, they will still have male brain extroversions that are extremely apparent in the presentation of neurodivergence. No matter what they were taught.

If you want to know which kind of brain you have, study the different types of BPD, BP, ADHD, AuDHD, Autism, or other variations you might have. Look at the differences between male and female presentations, and there’s an excellent chance one of them will resonate. That’s your answer.

Why am I going deep on this topic? Because there’s a contemporary discourse, founded in ignorance, that makes the assertion that being transgender is some kind of curable condition. It’s not. If you have a female brain, you don’t convert. You suffer the ignorance in the wrong body and hope your life doesn’t end early because of it.

I think it’s entirely possible you have a female brain. But even if you don’t, that doesn’t invalidate your identity. Some aspect of your wiring, nature or nurture, has made you more comfortable living a female existence. That’s just as valid as knowing your brain type. No one can take it from you.

I think we should be careful of making binary judgements about brain sex, because we can see how historically, definitions have been made for the sake of neatness and not reality. It's often reported by adults who are diagnosed autistic that they then feel that they become 'more autistic' and I think the same is true of ones sense of gender. The cork is taken out of the bottle and there's no way the genie is going back.

I share your eyerolls at the language of posters who have a porn-led sense of what transgender means. I'm equally baffled by the porn models with huge erect dongs and Pirelli boobs that occupy the fantasies of so many men, but that's the money talking.

I like Escierto's Get out of Gay Card idea. Men love cocks: they love their own of course, but they like other cocks too, but get squicked by the what's on the other end of it. Shemale porn actors, with their hairless genitals provide an airbrushed version of dick.

The real world impact of how 'transgenderism' is portrayed is a hot political topic and a useful diversion from stuff like the economy. Trans women are regarded as predatory men, hell bent on perverting and stealing women and children. In the UK, a group of old white men recently defined what a woman is and our politicians breathed a collective sigh of relief. They can hide behind the law, along with the Terfs, and ban us from any meaningful role in society.

But hey... this is a porn site. Fantasies are fine - seriously - and getting yourself off is the stuff of life! Good on the actors with their silicon boobs, pouting lips and waggling dicks. They must have some rich endocrinologists advising them.

 

[jakie69]

I have a female brain, i was born a girl with testicles and a penis and lived as a confused boy, not understanding why I liked dolls and dresses and wanted to be one of the girls.

I’m trans female and hid it for years, I masked my gender for fear of so many things. Since coming out I have been able to accept my gender and finally embrace it. I’ve been living as a female for many years now and I have one last step to take to what I class as womanhood.

For me cd, femboy, shemale, sissy etc were all sexual terms and I never classed them as a gender label. I’ve used them in a sexual context myself and I’ve had guys telling me they’re not gay but want to try a tranny or they’re not into cock but I look like a woman so it’s ok.

I’m bisexual and can’t imagine being tired of cock or pussy but I guess it happens. I never considered being trans the reason I was bi although when I came out I did get told I was obviously gay or a tranny or I probably never liked pussy and only got married to hide being a fag. Truth is I love sex whether it’s with a man or a woman. My sexuality has nothing to do with my gender.