When it comes to the sex

[vividlyyours]

I enjoy stories with well developed characters, settings, and plots, so in my own stories I put a lot of thought into those aspects in my writing even in the shorter tales. My problem is that when I get to the sex scenes, I blank. Not so much that I can't imagine it, but rather I consider what will make the sex scene different enough to motivate the reader to continue. I have several stories in several categories written to that point that are still waiting for some creative inspiration. another visit from the muse if you wiill.

I also strive for realism, so while one may find harems in my stories One Lucky Sumbitch and City of Love, you won't see ten inch cocks, fourteen orgasms a day, women who squirt gallons, or virgin sisters who can deep throat in my stories.

What do you do to maintain interest in your sex scenes?

 

[Erozetta]

I don't aim for different, just enjoyable. Getting into the heads of different characters means approaching the sexual aspect in many different ways for different types of payoff. The rise and fall of the sex act will vary, but sex is ultimately sex regardless of how you try to switch it up.

 

[Areala-chan]

I don't focus on physical actions or attributes. I focus on the emotional connection, the intensities, the thoughts my MC is having, things about her partner she observes while she's going about the act. It lets me get away with some absolutely vanilla lesbian content that, if I wrote it differently, would probably have my readers yawning.

 

[gunhilltrain]

Your first sentence is the answer. If you've got that, any readers who like your stuff will be motivated to continue. If not - well, that's their problem. You can't write anything, much less a sex scene, if you are trying to gauge what they think. Even they don't know what they want. You don't even have to have a specifically sexual scene, especially if it's a chapter in a series. The characters may talk about something that has already happened or that they anticipate what may happen.

Here's a non-erotic piece of fiction I wrote.

https://classic.literotica.com/s/the-bridge-at-newark-bay

Here's one that is mostly a conversation about a guy picking up a girl he's just met (or does she pick him up?).

https://classic.literotica.com/s/last-stop-encounter

Since you asked what we do, does that give you some clues? (Your question has been asked several times before on AH.)

 

[Kumquatqueen]

I write how those characters will have sex. What do they say, think, feel? Why?

Generally only one or two sex scenes need to be described in detail - other occasions can be summarised in a line or two.

If you know your characters and what they do and why, then them having sex is like them doing anything else.

 

[joy_of_cooking]

I just write the same sex scene over and over. If you write fetish you can get away wath that.

 

[EmilyMiller]

I enjoy stories with well developed characters, settings, and plots, so in my own stories I put a lot of thought into those aspects instead of writing even in the shorter tales. My problem is that when I get to the sex scenes, I blank. Not so much that I can't imagine it, but rather I consider what will make the sex scene different enough to motivate the reader to continue. I have several stories in several categories written to that point that are still waiting for some creative inspiration. another visit fromt he muse if you wiill.

I also strive for realism, so while one may find harems in my stories One Lucky Sumbitch and City of Love, you won't see ten inch cocks, fourteen orgasms a day, women who squirt gallons, or virgin sisters who can deep throat in my stories.

What do you do to maintain interst in your sex scenes?

I used to have a very varied sex life with multiple partners. I’m now wholly monogamous, but it’s the most wonderful sex ever.

If you continually write, ‘insert tab A into slut B,’ [spelling intentional] without any other dimensions, of course it will get a little old.

But that’s where the emotion and motivations of your characters come in. Where how the sex serves the plot comes in. Where what the sex means to the people involved comes in. In these areas there is much more scope for variety.

 

[MrPixel]

...‘insert tab A into slut B,’ ...

Shame on you, Em. Shame shame shame.

 

[EmilyMiller]

Shame on you, Em. Shame shame shame.

Who me ?

 

[crookedletter]

I enjoy stories with well developed characters, settings, and plots, so in my own stories I put a lot of thought into those aspects instead of writing even in the shorter tales. My problem is that when I get to the sex scenes, I blank. Not so much that I can't imagine it, but rather I consider what will make the sex scene different enough to motivate the reader to continue. I have several stories in several categories written to that point that are still waiting for some creative inspiration. another visit fromt he muse if you wiill.

I also strive for realism, so while one may find harems in my stories One Lucky Sumbitch and City of Love, you won't see ten inch cocks, fourteen orgasms a day, women who squirt gallons, or virgin sisters who can deep throat in my stories.

What do you do to maintain interst in your sex scenes?

I think the block is maybe in seeing these strains of writing as distinct. As if you get your characters into position and then pivot to porn mode. You can do that, if you want. But if what gets your words flowing anywhere and everywhere else in your writing is your character development, then keep that going. Worry less about body parts than about what the characters are thinking and feeling.

I'd say worry less, too, about the goal of arousing your readers. If what gets you fired up about your story is your characters, then the readers you want will be fired up about the same thing.

I've read some very erotic scenes that don't refer explicitly to any anatomy. I personally like to describe the action, but it begins and ends with what the characters are experiencing.

 

[Bramblethorn]

I enjoy stories with well developed characters, settings, and plots, so in my own stories I put a lot of thought into those aspects instead of writing even in the shorter tales. My problem is that when I get to the sex scenes, I blank. ...

What do you do to maintain interst in your sex scenes?

I try to put the character and plot in the sex scenes.

Think of sex as a conversation that people have with their bodies. Think about how the way they fuck ties in with who they are and what they want. Are they wary of rejection? Do they want comfort? Are they trying to spite somebody? Are they selfish or generous? How do they react when they don't get what they want?

 

[DEFCOM5]

‘insert tab A into slut B,’ [spelling intentional]

SO GOOD!

 

[CalBishForNow]

Someday I want to write a story that's as erotic as possible with as little actual sex as possible. Just one act in missionary position, or maybe not even that, just a kiss, but 20,000 words of longing glances and lingering touches and innuendo-laden conversation.

Someday I also want to write a story that fully leans into the porn, where 10-inch cocks are below average and women can orgasm from titfucking and a high school where all the students are over 18 and half the teachers can pass for students.

In the meantime, I'm still having a lot of fun with the massive space in the middle. I've written at least 31 sex scenes (sometimes it's hard to say what counts as a sex scene) across 24 stories and none felt redundant. If a scene would have been redundant, I glossed over it with a line or two and went on to the next one. Otherwise, there are details to vary, between characters, their moods, their motivations besides simple horniness, and more.

 

[AllenWoody]

I enjoy stories with well developed characters, settings, and plots, so in my own stories I put a lot of thought into those aspects instead of writing even in the shorter tales. My problem is that when I get to the sex scenes, I blank. Not so much that I can't imagine it, but rather I consider what will make the sex scene different enough to motivate the reader to continue. I have several stories in several categories written to that point that are still waiting for some creative inspiration. another visit fromt he muse if you wiill.

I also strive for realism, so while one may find harems in my stories One Lucky Sumbitch and City of Love, you won't see ten inch cocks, fourteen orgasms a day, women who squirt gallons, or virgin sisters who can deep throat in my stories.

What do you do to maintain interst in your sex scenes?

You've described me exactly. I get an idea for a story, write the setup with character, scene, and background along the way. Then, when the characters finally end up in bed (or a phone booth or whatever), I begin to drift. Also like you I strive for realism, so most of my male MCs only have one orgasm per scene though I'm slowly learning to stretch that rule as needed. Not all of my female MCs have enormous breasts, very few in fact, in though my male MCs are never small, I don't go on about how huge they are, either.

So for my sex scenes I've found that what works best is a dynamic that gets me hot. Once I find that, and if I pop wood thinking about or writing it, then I know my energy will flow into the scene. Write for yourself, not your audience.

 

[Britva415]

when I get to the sex scenes, I blank. Not so much that I can't imagine it, but rather I consider what will make the sex scene different enough to motivate the reader to continue

Readers here aren't demotivated.

I think you're letting the perfect be the enemy of the good.

We here in the AH talk about negative comments from readers all the time, plus as a reader I read comments on stories I read, and I can't remember ever once seeing or hearing about a reader comment that the sex scene writing was repetitive or clichéd or otherwise not good enough.

At least, not writing-wise. Some of them are very quick to say "not good enough" when the sex scene writing just didn't match their expectations and projections in terms of specific personal fetish preference and individual cultural conditioning.

 

[AG31]

I don't aim for different, just enjoyable

Ding!!!!!!!

 

[M_K_Babalon]

My characters are somewhat realistic. They aren't fucking all over the house for hours, his or her dick isn't pissing cum and then reloaded shortly after.

 

[vividlyyours]

Readers here aren't demotivated.

I think you're letting the perfect be the enemy of the good.

We here in the AH talk about negative comments from readers all the time, plus as a reader I read comments on stories I read, and I can't remember ever once seeing or hearing about a reader comment that the sex scene writing was repetitive or clichéd or otherwise not good enough.

At least, not writing-wise. Some of them are very quick to say "not good enough" when the sex scene writing just didn't match their expectations and projections in terms of specific personal fetish preference and individual cultural conditioning.

"I can't remember ever once seeing or hearing about a reader comment that the sex scene writing was repetitive or clichéd or otherwise not good enough."

I do remember one story that in most respects was pretty well written, but had a comment that the sex read more like a list than anything. I agreed with that assessment and want to avoid it in my writing.

 

[vividlyyours]

This is all some great advice, thank you all.

 

[Britva415]

"I can't remember ever once seeing or hearing about a reader comment that the sex scene writing was repetitive or clichéd or otherwise not good enough."

I do remember one story that in most respects was pretty well written, but had a comment that the sex read more like a list than anything. I agreed with that assessment and want to avoid it in my writing.

Yes, I do know what you mean.

That's very different, though, from feeling "blank." Just allow yourself to go ahead and write the scene. It sounds like what's happening is you don't dare to just write.

As far as specifically addressing how not to write it like a list, the "listy" sex scenes are the ones which list move after move after move without talking about anyone's sensations or feelings or motivations or any of the other stuff which happens between the ears rather than in front of the "camera."

 

[Cinnyperez]

Since a lot of what I write is based on real people/situations, I find myself working hard to tweak them while keeping the realism. I want the stories to remain faithfully real without getting bogged down in the details of reality. I find myself having to take a beat and remember that readers probably don't care about every thought going through the main character's head when choosing which shoes to wear.

Also, to try to keep things interesting for the readers, I often write out the story framework and then mix all the character roles. This often leads to totally new storylines to expand on. The same goes for the sex scenes. If I feel like a scene I'm writing is too similar to something I've written recently, I'll insert a spontaneous position or location and try to rebuild the direction of the story based on that.

 

[UnexpectedLuggage]

My stories are all based, more or less, on fantasies of mine, so writing the sex bit isn't hard for me because that's the main focus. I try to give the characters some personality, and set up a plot so it isn't just some people fucking apropos of nothing.

I'm with you, though, in that I tend to keep the physical attributes more real. The women in my stories are all based on real people I know, which makes it easier, but I strive for the male POV characters to be realistic and, for lack of a better word, normal.

I will admit, though, for my last story I did come up with a fairly contrived way to have the MC have more explosive orgasms for the sake of the story. But usually I try to keep it pretty low key.

 

[AG31]

My stories are all based, more or less, on fantasies of mine, so writing the sex bit isn't hard for me because that's the main focus. I try to give the characters some personality, and set up a plot so it isn't just some people fucking apropos of nothing.

Sometime try stopping before adding the personality and plot. Give us a picture of your fantasy that's as vivid as you can make it. You didn't need personality and plot when you were fantasizing, did you? If you do this, would you let us know?

 

[UnexpectedLuggage]

Sometime try stopping before adding the personality and plot. Give us a picture of your fantasy that's as vivid as you can make it. You didn't need personality and plot when you were fantasizing, did you? If you do this, would you let us know?

I can't help myself but try to have some sort of plot happening to drive the events. My writer brain simply demands it.