when is the best time to tell a partner you have a fetish???

[scottishgirl]

At the moment i am single and enjoying dating. Saying that i am curious about how i would tell a boyfriend that i have a daddy fetish. Would i tell him straight away? Would i yell out "daddy" during sex and just hope for the best? What if he doesn't like it? How did you tell your partner of your fetish??

Xxxxx

 

[masterdrakin]

Well its best to not hide it but you dont want it out there for everyone unless your ok with it. Strike up a conversation on sexual likes and fetishes and go from there or you could ask his opinion on said fetish and judge his reaction

 

[LondonDevil]

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[Calliesdad2010]

i would do it as early as possible

see if u sexually compatible

 

[Missingout]

I think when you're comfortable with that person its quite normal to want to share and explore your sexuality and ideas. And you worry so much about the fear of being judged about your fantasies.

This^^
It took me 20 years

 

[Rob1514]

At the moment i am single and enjoying dating. Saying that i am curious about how i would tell a boyfriend that i have a daddy fetish. Would i tell him straight away? Would i yell out "daddy" during sex and just hope for the best? What if he doesn't like it? How did you tell your partner of your fetish??

Xxxxx

Well, baby girl, best not to spring in on him like a kick in the spine. Send out some "feelers", something a little suggestive. If he seems receptive then ask him to keep an open-mind, then say "baby, I have this kinky fantasy ...".

Honestly, chances are good that he'll be receptive, and if he isn't then you can always stick with me, baby girl ... I will take very good care of you

It was a gf that introed daddy/daughter roleplay to me, and now look at me

 

[OnceFuturePoly]

OP is asking about Daddies, and what I wrote was for wanting something enough different than a Daddy that I thought it should be in it's own thread instead of here.

Sorry to have been so far off-topic.

 

[Confi]

Try and not spring it on him, he may act defensively about it, even if the scenario does turn him on (Oh, daddy-daughter, people will think I'm sick, I'll say I hate it).

Strike up a conversation about fetishes, feel free to lead the conversation if you find him being a bit shy about it.

 

[abella117]

when u feel it's the right time

 

[anal_xplorer]

Try to bring while having sex he'll just think its the heat of the moment he'll bring it up at a later time then you could just drop hints and who knows he might have a daughter fetish.

 

[Rysil]

Personally if I were the guy I would want to hear something like that after we have had a chance to be intimate with one another. I am not saying sex or intercourse per se. I am saying give yourself and him a chance to know each other for just a bit. Because if this is a boyfriend candidate and not a night stand, you want to see if you are compatible. Ease into it and drop hints the best you can, because even if you don't think he's listening? He is. He's just pretending he's not. It's Male stealth mode. If he is willing to be open for you that says a lot about him, so just be yourself. In the end that's what's gonna matter most.

 

[scottishgirl]

Thank you for the sound advice. You are all very wise and friendly x

 

[blonde_duchess]

Ya i would definitely wait quite a while and drop hints here & there like looking at sexy schoolgirl costumes while saying something like Oh would you spank me if i wear that...see what his reaction is. then in bed little by little it will unfold if he has any imagination. eventually you 2 will discuss your fantasies & by this time it should be cool to say i love to roleplay daddy daughter! hope it all works out for ya!

 

[Jasper_Whitlock]

Well its best to not hide it but you dont want it out there for everyone unless your ok with it. Strike up a conversation on sexual likes and fetishes and go from there or you could ask his opinion on said fetish and judge his reaction

I agree with you on this. From the get go me and my girlfriend have been open about fetishes, but I've never shared it all with her. I'm not so sure how she'd react to my futanari, incest, etc fetishes that I jerk my rattlesnake to. But with the majority (I'd say 75% at least) of my turn ons I've shared with her and she is into the same. I sometimes wonder if she hasn't told me all of hers, but if she isn't comfortable I understand. Hell, I'd be a hypocrite not to.


My best advice I can give is to agree with the act of striking up a conversation. I've never hid it that I'm kinky and she's pretty much known from a good start in the relationship that I like BDSM and such.

Strike up a conversation with him scottishgirl, when/if, you start a serious relationship and ask him what his fetishes are and his opinion on some. Throw random ones into the mix along with the daddy one to find out what all you want to know. Hopefully he'll give a positive review and the A-OK light for 'Daddy, fuck me hard' in the middle of sex is green.