When is enough enough?

[christcat69]

Today I am very blue. I just broke up with my love of three years and am so cold inside. I love her with all my heart but about 3 months ago she lied to me ( for an extended period of time) and I decided one more chance. Last night I came up from work at 9 at night after a very long day and expected a kiss or hello or thanks for stopping for chinese because you knew I didn't want to cook. Instead I hear," When were you at Macoroni Grill?" I said "I've never eaten there." She was very insistant that I was because one of her drunk freinds saw me and talked to me. I have to say I've never been to Macoroni Grill but this girl told her I was there with some guy having drinks. She asks,"Why would soandso lie?" After three years I was thinking, why would she think I lied? She didn't think her accusations were accusation, or wrong in any way. What do you guys think?

 

[Cipher]

Today I am very blue. I just broke up with my love of three years and am so cold inside. I love her with all my heart but about 3 months ago she lied to me ( for an extended period of time) and I decided one more chance. Last night I came up from work at 9 at night after a very long day and expected a kiss or hello or thanks for stopping for chinese because you knew I didn't want to cook. Instead I hear," When were you at Macoroni Grill?" I said "I've never eaten there." She was very insistant that I was because one of her drunk freinds saw me and talked to me. I have to say I've never been to Macoroni Grill but this girl told her I was there with some guy having drinks. She asks,"Why would soandso lie?" After three years I was thinking, why would she think I lied? She didn't think her accusations were accusation, or wrong in any way. What do you guys think?

To her "why would soandso lie?? i would've asked, "Why do you think i'm lying" and "why do you feel the need to believe soandso"? If she truly feels that you were there and isn't trying to hear that you weren't, and she wants to believe her drunk friend, well so be it. I'm sure you'll be alot happier in the long run without being wrongly accused for something you didn't do.
I hope you don't feel blue for long

 

[Kitte]

Sorry you made me think of a song....

It's raining, it's pouring
My lovelife is boring me to tears, after all these years
No sunshine, no moonlight, no stardust, no sign of romance
We don't stand a chance
I always dreamed I'd found the perfect lover
But he turned out to be like every other man
I've loved,
I've loved
Raining (raining)
Pouring (pouring)
There's nothing left for us here
And we won't waste another tear
If you've had enough, don't put up with his stuff, don't you do it
If you've had your fill, get the check pay the bill, you can do it
Tell him to just get out,
Nothing left to talk about
Pack his raincoat show him out
Just look him in the eye and simply shout:
Enough is enough
I can't go on, I can't go on no more no
Enough is enough
I want him out, I want him out that door now

Enough is enough
Enough is enough
That's enough

If you've reached the end, don't pretend that is right when it's over
(it's over)
If the feeling is gone don't think twice just move on, get it over
(over, over)

Tell him to just get out, say it clearly, spell it out:
Enough is enough is enough
I can't go on, I can't go on no more no
Enough is enough is enough
I want him out, I want him out that door now

Enough is enough
Enough is enough
That's enough

I always dreamed I'd found the perfect lover,
But he turned out to be like every other man
I've loved (I had no choice from the start)
I've loved (I've gotta listen to my heart)
I've loved (Tearing us apart)

Enough is enough is enough
I can't go on, I can't go on no more no
Enough is enough is enough
I want him out, I want him out that door now

Enough is enough
Enough is enough
That's enough

No more tears (No more tears)
No more tears (No more tears)
No more tears (No more tears)
No more tears (No more tears)
Enough is enough is enough is enough is enough is enough
I've had it, you've had it, she's had it, we've had it

I always dreamed I'd found the perfect lover,

But he turned out to be like every other man

I had no choice from the start
I've gotta listen to my heart
Tearing us apart

Enough is enough is enough
I can't go on, I can't go on no more no
Enough is enough is enough
I want him out, I want him out that door now

Goodbye mister, goodbye, goodbye mister
Goodbye sugar
t's raining, it's pouring,
There's nothing left for us here
And we won't waste another tear
No more tears
Is enough is enough is enough is enough is enough is enough is enough
Is enough!

 

[penguindance]

 

[SXCRgirl]

It sounds like she's projecting. She's been lying to you for an extended period of time and she may feel guilty about having treated you poorly. So, instead of dealing with her guilt, she is lashing out because she is unhappy. I'm sorry that you're not feeling in a chipper mood but after a while, you'll realize that you deserve better.

*HUGS*

 

[christcat69]

Cipher

Thank you for your kind words. I was told I jump to conclusions but I'm pretty damned sure it was her doing that. I would wish the world away for just one day in that happy place with her.

 

[nakedangelina]

It sounds like she's projecting. She's been lying to you for an extended period of time and she may feel guilty about having treated you poorly. So, instead of dealing with her guilt, she is lashing out because she is unhappy. I'm sorry that you're not feeling in a chipper mood but after a while, you'll realize that you deserve better.

*HUGS*

I totally agree with SXCRgirl. Moving on is hard, but when the time comes it is for the best.
I hope you feel better about it soon.

 

[Cipher]

Re: Cipher

Thank you for your kind words. I was told I jump to conclusions but I'm pretty damned sure it was her doing that. I would wish the world away for just one day in that happy place with her.

I do understand what you're saying christcat, and from how you said it, it does sound like she might have been jumping at you..afterall, if you've been together that long and she's listening to a drunk girl that thinks she saw you at this grill..you can do without the drama. I do agree with what SXCRgirl said maybe her guilt finally got to her and she took it out on you

Relax, and hang out!!

 

[Guest]

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Only you really know if the relationship is worth going back to, too try and sort out. It hurts. Maybe this was the final straw for you... maybe it isn't.... Before you put 3 years of what sounded a good time behind you, think hard if you wanna try and save it.....

 

[christcat69]

Thank you all

I took off work today so I can cry. But 'morrow I have to go in so hopefully people are nice at work. I'm wise enough to know that people usually accuse because they feel guilty for something and want to counter it with somthing but I am blinded sometimes.

Black is black- Drain STH

 

[Cipher]

Re: Thank you all

I took off work today so I can cry. But 'morrow I have to go in so hopefully people are nice at work. I'm wise enough to know that people usually accuse because they feel guilty for something and want to counter it with somthing but I am blinded sometimes.

I like DrainSTH..hmm..maybe u should listen to track #4..seems appropriate.

"I wish...."


NO MORE CRYING!!

 

[christcat69]

Crying is my shelter right now.

That song will make me gush if I listen to it. Plus, I think it's almost time for my favorite freind (redrider). Vegas sucks man. Everyone is cold and I don't want to play with them today.

I still see you in my mind-Drain STH

 

[Cipher]

Re: Crying is my shelter right now.

That song will make me gush if I listen to it. Plus, I think it's almost time for my favorite freind (redrider). Vegas sucks man. Everyone is cold and I don't want to play with them today.

Yeah i guess ur right about that track..

*Hands box of kleenex over to christcat*..Here ya go girly..i think u'll be needing these..

 

[christcat69]

Thanks Cipher

Tissues are a neccessity it seems. Thanks for being so sweet. xoxo

There's no sense but nonsense-Charles Manson

 

[Cipher]

Re: Thanks Cipher

Tissues are a neccessity it seems. Thanks for being so sweet. xoxo

You're welcome! Glad i could be here for ya..it always helps when you have someone to talk to and hang out with for awhile when you're down and out..like i said..i know the road your on all to well..listening is the least i can do.

..But when you're mad after u cry..u know that lil anger part comes out after u've cried awhile..listen to Ministry..they always make me feel better..LoL

 

[christcat69]

R U in my head?

I love Ministry for those angry times.

 

[Cipher]

Re: R U in my head?

I love Ministry for those angry times.

Nope..not in ur head..LoL

I just know what i like to listen to when i'm in a particular mood..LoL
I like to share my "mood music"..LoL

 

[floridaguy64]

Sorry you made me think of a song....

It's raining, it's pouring
My lovelife is boring me to tears, after all these years
No sunshine, no moonlight, no stardust, no sign of romance
We don't stand a chance
I always dreamed I'd found the perfect lover
But he turned out to be like every other man
I've loved,
I've loved
Raining (raining)
Pouring (pouring)
There's nothing left for us here
And we won't waste another tear
If you've had enough, don't put up with his stuff, don't you do it
If you've had your fill, get the check pay the bill, you can do it
Tell him to just get out,
Nothing left to talk about
Pack his raincoat show him out
Just look him in the eye and simply shout:
Enough is enough
I can't go on, I can't go on no more no
Enough is enough
I want him out, I want him out that door now

Enough is enough
Enough is enough
That's enough

Barbra?


Honestly Chris............... I've been there all too often........... I feel for you.