When flowers are depressing

[DopeyAngel]

I can see you're point here, but like some have already pointed out - some men don't take hints. With some ppl you have to sit down and tell them in exact detail - about 20 times.

However, I think you could be being a bit harsh. I don't think he deliberately goes out and gets you the wrong flowers, he probably thinks he's doing the right thing. Roses are expensive and in my experience, some ppl consider expensive to be the best etc. even when this isn't the case. You might consider that ringing up a florist doesn't take much effort, but it's more effort than not doing it at all. It takes thought and still time - no matter how little.

Does he ever buy you anything but flowers on special occasions? Whether he does or he doesn't it's probably worth thinking about.

Beware of discussing important issues during fights - many ppl regard it as a loss of temper or unimportant afterwards when the 'making up' has taken place. Why not try to discuss it with him gently? Or is it really a bigger issue than this? It is slightly trivial to expect him to remember everything that you like.

 

[Kitte]

I know your pain. I dont get flowers except on Valentines day. Corner store roses at best. Because "he forgets" till it is too late. He knows my fave flower and I have told him AGAIN AND AGAIN the part of the reason I love this flower is because it takes effort to get, and the effort is worth so much more then the flower itself.

But then again I cant get him to have sex either so maybe flowers should be a secondary concern.

 

[lobito]

what a coincidence that two people have this problem, exactly, but with different objects.

 

[DopeyAngel]

no no no it's three different objects..........

 

[dreamer]

Daisies...I'll never forget. From day one daisies told her I cared. They weren't enough...but they were her favourite.

 

[LadyDarkFire]

Or....

you could tie him face down to the bed, use his asshole as a vase and walk out. It's just a thought.

Thank you, I just woke up a sick child laughing at that.

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Now, while this idea would get the point across, I wouldn't suggest it. It sounds like you've put alot of effort into this relationship, and aren't getting alot out of it. You've brought it up, etc. Might I suggest counceling together?

I really do hope things change for you, and that you can work it out, or that you have the courage to walk away if you need to.