When did you know you were straight/gay/bi?

[Cheyenne]

Another thread has taken a slight twist from talking about being gay to talking about when you knew what your orientation was. I think the topic deserves its own thread.

So, at what age do you remember being aware of what your orientation is? And what made you think of it?

 

[Cheyenne]

Originally posted by Starfish

Abaca, I wanted to see and touch other girls at 4 and yes, I remember it. At 5 I was letting boys and girls touch me, and vise versa. I remember that too.

So? What do you have to say about that?

I don't think which sex you "played doctor" with at ages 4 and 5 has anything at all to do with your sexual orientation when you get older. It has more to do with which kids your age happen to live in your neighborhood. As a kid, I only had a girlfriend my age in the neighborhood and that's who I played doctor with. My younger brother and sister were close enough in age with another little boy up the street so that they played doctor with him (I "caught" them one day.) As far as I know, all of us kids ended up being straight.

No, I don't think at age 4 or 5 you have any clue of what your orientation is. It is, however, natural then to claim that the other sex has cooties and you only like your own.

 

[Markov Cain]

40-ish and still deciding.

 

[Nicole]

It's something I've always known, I'm straight, and I've been aware of that since as far back as I can remember.

I've thought about being with a woman, but only just in the very recent past (like a couple of months), but I truly don't know if that's something that I would ever be able to carry out. Who knows?

Again it's just something that I've always been aware of. You know when you sit and watch people walking down the street? I've never been able to think or say "gee I could do her" if a gorgeous woman walked past, it's just something that doesn't interest me.

But then saying that, the thing that gets me the hottest in a Porno movie is watching two women together ... odd I know, but it's more the affection they show for each other than the sexual act, although I do pay attention LOL.

Mind you I find it fascinating to learn about why women love women and men love men, and why some like both. It's what makes our world go round and me proud to part of it.

I'm aware I just rambled, it's been a long day and I got about three hours sleep last night, sorry. Now I will return you to the topic at hand. Goodnight.

 

[Markov Cain]

See, Nicole doesn't know yet either.



You see, we are sexual beings. We can get turned on by the curve of fine furniture, or that certain sportscar, or that special piece of lace, or leather...

 

[rambling man]

I believe there is a difference between letting your mind wander down the roads of fantasy and actually being one orientation or another.

 

[teresafannin]

I am bi-curious & have been since I was 10 or 11. My parents are very conservative & other than some playing in junior high, I have never acted on it. I love my fiancee with all my heart, but should the right woman come along, I would like to experience it.

 

[Nicole]

I am bi-curious & have been since I was 10 or 11. My parents are very conservative & other than some playing in junior high, I have never acted on it. I love my fiancee with all my heart, but should the right woman come along, I would like to experience it.

Okay then Teresa, how about we try together?

And yes Markov, you would probably be right on the not deciding yet thing, but like Teresa, I've never felt the urge yet to try it, mainly because the "right" woman has never come along. Like I said though ... who knows

 

[Markov Cain]

I've done it all! Now I am trying celibacy except for when I need to prove to my wife that I still love her. And I do and show it in many ways, but she still thinks sex is great and I am too busy enjoyng life. When I go to bed, I want to get three or four hours of good solid sleep. When she's in the mood, I only get an hour or so. Not that it's a wasted hour or anything. But I've seen that movie too many times and I know how it cums out in the end!

 

[teresafannin]

Hi Nicole, come on over. You know you are one of the people I would love to meet in real life. I don't know if I will ever have the opportunity, I would never do anything to hurt my sweetie. He has been a rock for me this last 2 years. I was not very selective about who I was with for a long time, the man I am with now is my soul mate & we both knew it early on in our relationship. I have several female friends who are bi, but the sparks aren't there.

 

[willywanker]

I'd have to say sometime in Junior High, I knew for sure I was straight. I paid lots of attention to the girls on their side of the gym but didn't have any interest then, have none now in the guys I showered with after gym.

Also, some of those first exploritory kisses kind of sealed it for me. My ex used to like to rent a gay porno every now and then to make up for all the lesbian scenes in porno's. Watching two guys kiss just makes me quessy, ewwww.

 

[sexy-girl]

i had very very strong suspicions around 11 or 12 i guess ... however in school there is alot of preasure to fit in and i was always reasonable popular in school i would be asked out by boys and always say no ... not fully knowing that it was beacuse i was a lesbian ... i always assumed that eventually i would HAVE to go out with boys eventually HAVE to get married and have kids ... i knew that there was lesbian sex between two women but i didnt know you could fall in love with a woman and spend your whole life with her


i realised for sure that i was a lesbian by the age of about 14 i knew i had no interest in boys or being with them sexually i knew i was very intrested and attracted to girls ... however i was finding more preasure to go out with boys eventually i did have a boyfriend for a short while ... being asked out by the most popular boy in school and all my friends urging me to go out with him was difficult i guess part of me was half wishing i wasnt really a lesbian .. beacuse i'd never met any girl that was a lesbian and it seemed impossible that i would ever find a girl to be with sexually or to fall in love with


i guess the rest is history i didnt stay with the boy very long i had some brief encounters with girls that were either mostly straight or completely straight (it was just fooling around for them) i met my girlfriend while i was still pretty young and then thats when everything really clicked into place where i could be happy about being a lesbian i may of known before i met her that i was gay ... but this was the first time i was happy i was

 

[april-wine]

i would have to say i knew definately at around 14, i was totally attracted to females....but high school being what it is i never took action.....then there was college....lol.....a time of freedom, i guess......i can't say guys are out, i just haven't had one good relationship with a man......and my relationships with women although they have ended, have never ended badly.......strange really......i wonder why that is????

 

[Demian]

Boner at Earliest Memory for Mammaries...

All during my childhood while me and my "Deacon's son" friend and I were blowing each other and Fantasizing about girls at school and Big tittied wives in our Church...Hit the Jackpot at the age of 19...Wut a letdown...Christians overhype Sex so much...and they're worse than Politicians...Sneaken around talkin out of both sides of their Mouthz...I'm a PK

 

[rambling man]

sex the first time is always a let down..you have to learn how to have sex right for it to be mindblowing and incredible

 

[Demian]

No

It ended up being a young co-worker flattered to be my First Time...It got really Hot and Great when I went back to those neglected Church Ladies...WOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[rambling man]

And now it's time for Church Chat, with your host, the Church Lady..

Did Dana Carvey in drag ever turn anyone on? hehehehehe

 

[Guest]

When I was about 10 or 11, my best friend at the time and I would play around with each other... taking our shorts off, walking around the house naked when no one was home, and occasionally sucking each other's cock. I can't recall either of us ever cumming though....
Being naked in the lockerrooms with guys never really bothered me, and I can't say it ever arroused me.

Then, in my freshman year in college, a buddy of mine and I were double-teaming this girl ... pretty soon, she and I are in a 69, with me on the bottom... and he's fucking her from behind... well, it's not long, and I'm licking her juice off his shaft as he's fucking her, and kissing his balls... he cums in her, and I'm lapping his spunk as it drips out of her pussy. We go on to suck each other's cocks in various positions of play with her (she was SO hot). We remained fuck buddies for some time after that.

I guess it's been an evolution since then.

 

[sexy-girl]

hehe and i was worried about being too graphic in some of my posts

 

[OUTSIDER]

I've always known I'm straight, but I have looked at gay porn and I really know I'm straight because when I have I found them repulsive and interesting all at the same time, just like the photos of an autopsy.

 

[nasty]

I don't remeber the exact age. I DO remeber how it happened. I was alone at camp with a guy, a song came on the radio, and istarted acting REALLY goffy. Brushing my hand against his chest, things like that. Nothing graphic, sorry.

 

[nasty]

BTW

I'm a bi male. I just wanna get that straight. That pun wasn't exactly attended.

 

[Starfish]

. Sorry all (short fuse)

 

[Svedish_Chef]

I knew I was bi at 10

 

[Orlanth]

When I fall in love with my bestfriend back in high school when I was 13. He does not know how I did feel.
Time went on, I fall in love with others. I got over them, its life. I am bi-curiouse, probley will go to my grave that way.