What's the appeal - - Honestly

[dirk2024]

This!! Personally I don't want to lick or suck on feet, nor have mine licked or sucked. And I don't think I have any kind of subby/dommy feelings towards feet.

But I find feet (some, not all) to be sexy! Foot rubs are sensual. Wiggling toes are cute. Seeing a glimpse of the soles of someone's feet is mildly exciting.

It's an interesting looking body part that isn't usually put on display, and that makes it exciting!

Probably not a kink for me, per se. But I do find the act of bathing and massaging a woman's foot to be erotic. I think it's mostly becuase of the pleasure I know I am delivering. BTW - I prefer toenails paint-free.

My WIP for the Dark Fable event has a foot rub in it.

 

[dirk2024]

I find that quite similar to how I feel about the shoulder-clavicle area when exposed, i.e., this:

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Oh, baby! I love nibbling on clavicles!

 

[dirk2024]

Feet: I like the nonhuman variety of this fetish and explore it in several stories, typically feeturing(!) anthropomorphic and fantasy characters. Again it's difficult to articulate why. I suppose if you take a barefoot character with sharp talons, large claws, prehensile toes, etc., it not only looks raw and primal, but gives off a strong domination or predator/prey vibe as well. That said, I'm very picky about this one.

Does this include tentacles? Because if it does, and you have any such stories...umm, a friend of mine might want to know.

 

[MK_Whimsy]

Does this include tentacles? Because if it does, and you have any such stories...umm, a friend of mine might want to know.

Sorry, I'm fresh out.

 

[Erozetta]

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And those were just the ones that immediately came to mind for being easily explainable.

 

[onehitwanda]

And those were just the ones that immediately came to mind for being easily explainable.

I feel remarkably vanilla all of a sardine.

 

[Erozetta]

As an aside:

I don't write about many of my own kinks because I know that most don't find them to be a turn on in the same way I do. I have written about them, I've gone quite deep into them, but every time I do I end up with a comment saying I've gone too dark with it and someone asks if I'm okay, lol.

 

[big_cane_sugar]

I feel remarkably vanilla all of a sardine.

About ten minutes on Literotica was all I needed to know I'm a very watered-down vanilla.

 

[BobbyBrandt]

I experience the woman happy to surrender to me, to let me do what I want to do to her, and I feel something like power. Like I can take whatever I want and what I want is her and I'm taking her and she might as well enjoy it because it's happening anyway. Explicitly consensual, but implicitly not so much. Seems to me that a lot of women enjoy that too.

I've experienced this in real life and included scenes about it in some of my stories.

My second wife explained it to me as her needing to feel "needed" and not just "wanted". She desired to be so craved as a woman that the caveman in me would surface and that I would use her strictly for my own pleasure. It wasn't frequent, and it wasn't what I would consider domineering or submissive. It was primal, purely physical, and intense for both of us. It also usually resulted in an article or two of clothing getting ripped.

 

[EmilyMiller]

One other thing I'm aware of is that to me a lot of sex an element of implicit surrender/domination.

Some women get off on that, and some men. Sometimes it’s the other way around. But sex can just be fun for both without any domination overlay. When I have hetero sex, it’s not me surrendering to the guy, it’s me wanting to fuck. The surrendering goes back to this - I hope out dated - idea that men want sex, women don’t, and so women have to be seduced. Fuck that shit! Sex is wonderful, why the fuck would I need to be seduced?

 

[big_cane_sugar]

Some women get off on that, and some men. Sometimes it’s the other way around. But sex can just be fun for both without any domination overlay. When I have hetero sex, it’s not me surrendering to the guy, it’s me wanting to fuck. The surrendering goes back to this - I hope out dated - idea that men want sex, women don’t, and so women have to be seduced. Fuck that shit! Sex is wonderful, why the fuck would I need to be seduced?

I think BobbyBrandt did a better job explaining it than I did.

I was also uncomfortable with the surrender/domination language because I didn't want to imply the BDSM stuff, which I think might be a different thing than I was referring to. I didn't know how to express it very well. I should've thought more about that post but I was just hoping people would intuit what I meant. I certainly didn't mean to imply that women don't want sex.

 

[EmilyMiller]

I think BobbyBrandt did a better job explaining it than I did.

I was also uncomfortable with the surrender/domination language because I didn't want to imply the BDSM stuff, which I think might be a different thing than I was referring to. I didn't know how to express it very well. I should've thought more about that post but I was just hoping people would intuit what I meant. I certainly didn't mean to imply that women don't want sex.

It’s OK. Hot button (not that one!) issue for me.

 

[big_cane_sugar]

It’s OK. Hot button (not that one!) issue for me.

Understandably so. Lots of strong feelings involved in all this stuff, and human emotion and experience is so diverse, and language so imprecise, that even with the best of intentions we're not always going to understand each other very well on the first try. I really should have done a bit better, though. I felt dissatisfied with my expression of that idea at the time.

 

[NuclearFairy]

Does this include tentacles? Because if it does, and you have any such stories...umm, a friend of mine might want to know.

Are you asking about tentacle feet, or just tentacles in general?

 

[EmilyMiller]

Does this include tentacles? Because if it does, and you have any such stories...umm, a friend of mine might want to know.

Did someone say ‘tentacles?’

A new story in my Coleoidphilia universe is on my list of future projects. Probably crossing over with some other stuff / characters.

 

[NuclearFairy]

@EmilyMiller What are the names of your Coleoidphilia stories? I need to check them out, and you've got kinda a long list.

 

[EmilyMiller]

@EmilyMiller What are the names of your Coleoidphilia stories? I need to check them out, and you've got kinda a long list.

This is the series page. I also wrote a 750 word story with two of the main characters.

The Coleoidphilia Trilogy

Sadly @djrip’s lovey line drawing which used to be the series cover page fell foul of the image purge.

The whole trilogy is 60,000+ words, but Coleoidphilia itself (the first part) is much shorter.

 

[djrip]

This is the series page. I also wrote a 750 word story with two of the main characters.

The Coleoidphilia Trilogy

Sadly @djrip’s lovey line drawing which used to be the series cover page fell foul of the image purge.

The whole trilogy is 60,000+ words, but Coleoidphilia itself (the first part) is much shorter.

Those dirty obscene graphite smudges

 

[EmilyMiller]

Those dirty obscene graphite smudges

I loved that drawing

 

[BobbyBrandt]

Some women get off on that, and some men. Sometimes it’s the other way around. But sex can just be fun for both without any domination overlay. When I have hetero sex, it’s not me surrendering to the guy, it’s me wanting to fuck. The surrendering goes back to this - I hope out dated - idea that men want sex, women don’t, and so women have to be seduced. Fuck that shit! Sex is wonderful, why the fuck would I need to be seduced?

In my experience, and upon which my opinion is formed, seduction is a two-way, always consensual tete-a-tete between two individuals. Either one is free to shut it down at any time, or choose to continue participating. It's their choice.

If one is not granted a choice, then is isn't seduction - it's coercion. Not something that I find appealing.

 

[EmilyMiller]

In my experience, and upon which my opinion is formed, seduction is a two-way, always consensual tete-a-tete between two individuals. Either one is free to shut it down at any time, or choose to continue participating. It's their choice.

If one is not granted a choice, then is isn't seduction - it's coercion. Not something that I find appealing.

Seduction implies someone doing the seducing and a subject of the seduction, right?

Otherwise, it’s just two people deciding whether or not to have sex. Seduction implies one party is initially reluctant.

 

[EmilyMiller]

Non-seductive scenario #1

A: Wanna fuck?

B: Sure

A: Cool

Non-seductive scenario #2

A: Wanna fuck?

B: Not really, sorry

A: Cool

Seductive scenario #1

A: Wanna fuck?

B: Not really, sorry

A: Please, please, please, please, please

B: If you promise to stop bothering me, then OK I guess

 

[BobbyBrandt]

Non-seductive scenario #1

A: Wanna fuck?

B: Sure

A: Cool

Non-seductive scenario #2

A: Wanna fuck?

B: Not really, sorry

A: Cool

Seductive scenario #1

A: Wanna fuck?

B: Not really, sorry

A: Please, please, please, please, please

B: If you promise to stop bothering me, then OK I guess

Choice scenario #1 (Seduction)
A: Wanna fuck?

B: Sure

A: Cool

Choice scenario #2 (Seduction)
A: Wanna fuck?

B: Not really, sorry

A: Cool

No choice scenario #1 (Coercion)
A: Wanna fuck?

B: Not really, sorry

A: Please, please, please, please, please

B: If you promise to stop bothering me, then OK I guess

 

[NuclearFairy]

Seduction implies someone doing the seducing and a subject of the seduction, right?

Otherwise, it’s just two people deciding whether or not to have sex. Seduction implies one party is initially reluctant.

There is always a seducer and a seducee, but it's not really coercive.

When I wear a skimpy nightgown out to the living room where my SO is doom scrolling on his phone in the dark, and then lean against his arm until he notices what I'm wearing, that's seduction. Especially if he follows my swaying hips back to the bedroom.

When he spends the evening finding every opportunity to touch my shoulders or hips from behind while whispering everything he wants to do with me once the kids are in bed, that's also seduction.

It's very similar to flirting, just far more blatant.

 

[EmilyMiller]

Choice scenario #1 (Seduction)
A: Wanna fuck?

B: Sure

A: Cool

Choice scenario #2 (Seduction)
A: Wanna fuck?

B: Not really, sorry

A: Cool

No choice scenario #1 (Coercion)
A: Wanna fuck?

B: Not really, sorry

A: Please, please, please, please, please

B: If you promise to stop bothering me, then OK I guess

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