What's love got to do with it?

[bbwpeach]

I'm curious. How many people feel that love is essential to, or at least, an important part of good sex? How many feel that it's not at all necessary? How has love or lack thereof of influenced your sexual relationships?

 

[guns44]

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[jlbl932]

Required?

Hmmm… An interesting 3 part question: I think sex is NOT required for love. Obviously, there can be love without sex; such as between family members. I also think there can be good sex without love; such as a spontaneous meeting and roll in the hay! However, having said that, I also think somewhere in the medium there can be “Special Relationships”; perhaps not arising to love, but filling a void. Humans are complicated beings. I personally tend to gravitate to the mid-range on this one!... I can’t just jump in the hay with anyone…For me, it takes a little “connection”… Otherwise, it’s a little awkward introducing yourselves after the fact – or act!!!

 

[screwher]

No I don't think love is needed to have fabulous sex. Yes my wife and I are still crazy I'm love after almost thirty years and we have a great sex life. But she's also not in love with her boyfriend. But she says he's a fantastic lover and they have fantastic sex!

 

[luv23way]

Love supplied...sometimes

Well, love seems to have the potential to enhance sex to greatness, but I don't believe it's required. But I think liking someone and being familiar with that persons sexual preferences and tastes definitely makes it better! Do lovers love another? Sometimes maybe, maybe not. But is the sex hot as fuck? Oh yeah!

 

[AnAmericanDarling]

I'm curious. How many people feel that love is essential to, or at least, an important part of good sex? How many feel that it's not at all necessary? How has love or lack thereof of influenced your sexual relationships?

These are good questions. It really takes LOVE for fabulous sex, in my opinion. For me, without love, sex is something I enjoy, but it's missing the romance to it and that's when it's at its best, when there's the romance.

 

[bbwpeach]

These are good questions. It really takes LOVE for fabulous sex, in my opinion. For me, without love, sex is something I enjoy, but it's missing the romance to it and that's when it's at its best, when there's the romance.

I'm on the same page! Casual sex doesn't do much for me, personally, but I understand it's the opposite for many other people.

 

[Iceprincess12]

I don't think love and sex are related at all. I see love as a feeling and sex as a physical act. One doesn't need the other.

 

[yellowrocket]

Chemically being IN love allows all those other things to happen and those chemicals in the brain flow that much more freely, if you're really compatible in that way. Now I've had damn fine sex when not in love, but that moment when full trust and harmony happens in the sack, my kids are about the only thing I wouldn't trade for that.

And there are days I debate if I need all 3 of them.

But seriously no they aren't necessary together, but I'll be damped if they can't make a good thing better going either way.

 

[StormyWindows]

Really interesting question. I think simply getting to know someone and forming a connection or clicking makes sex better. I think if you feel something for them it changes how sex feels completely. It just feels different being inside someone u love vs. a one nighter or a quick fuck with someone you don't.

That being said I have had friends where sex was not that great...others where sex was amazing but we did not have a lot in common...still clicked tho.

 

[bbwpeach]

Chemically being IN love allows all those other things to happen and those chemicals in the brain flow that much more freely, if you're really compatible in that way. Now I've had damn fine sex when not in love, but that moment when full trust and harmony happens in the sack, my kids are about the only thing I wouldn't trade for that.

And there are days I debate if I need all 3 of them.

But seriously no they aren't necessary together, but I'll be damped if they can't make a good thing better going either way.

Of course you need all three of them. Hopefully you won't need to consider a trade.

Really interesting question. I think simply getting to know someone and forming a connection or clicking makes sex better. I think if you feel something for them it changes how sex feels completely. It just feels different being inside someone u love vs. a one nighter or a quick fuck with someone you don't.

That being said I have had friends where sex was not that great...others where sex was amazing but we did not have a lot in common...still clicked tho.

It's so interesting to see all of the different responses and experiences here.