What's good for the goose is good for the gander

As long as we are using GROSS generalizations, I hope you don't mind if I offer a rebuttal. And as long as you are going to focus on extremes, I will assume I am allowed the same, over the top accusations about men.

Let's talk about that which you claim all men must have. Must have for what exactly, I am not real clear, but I will assume for a moment we are simply talking about introductions since that is the frame of reference you offer. 1) Confidence? If you mean the 'courage' to actually smile and say hello or engage a woman in conversation, then yeah, we can pretty demanding that way. Funny how you men can walk up to a stranger (i.e. other man) in a bar and immediately break into discussion of zone reads or the NBA draft. Or how about the conversations men actually admit to having in the bathrooms in public. Standing there with your dicks in your hands, you talk to complete strangers about the most trivial of subjects. But heaven forbid, you be encouraged to speak to a woman. 2) A healthy amount of looks? Once again, we women can be a finicky lot. It's bad enough that we make exceptions for you throwing on dirty, wrinkled clothes fresh off the floor. But is it really overly demanding to expect you to take a bath. Or heaven forbid, actually wash your hair? I don't have time to go into the fineries of personal hygiene including trimming nose hair, brushing your teeth, washing your hands and trimming your fingernails. these are the things we can see from across the room. 3) Humor? Once again, we obviously expect a lot if we expect a man to HAVE a sense of humor beyond high school bathroom wall jokes. 4) Emotional Baggage? You mean like looking for a quick mindless fuck you don't even have to buy a drink? Or are we talking about mommy's boys who want someone to fuck like a whore but pick up your dirty socks in the morning and wash the racing strips out of your shorts?

Now onto your view of the picture perfect woman's world. Women are allowed to have baggage? You mean like continually being judged from across the room if you are a good fuck? Or if you will put out? Or are you speaking of actually trying to show some minimal level of interest in a man? Yep, we can be real pushy that way. Be big as hell? Ummm ok. Yeah that works if the place is empty. And you are not palling around with a friend that is taller, more blonde, thinner, bigger breasts, etc. Maybe you haven't noticed when the larger of two women sits all alone while man after man after man asks her more attractive friend to dance. Ask yourself another question. How many times do people say, look at that dork with that beautiful woman vs. look at the pig with that handsome stud? Men are FAR more likely to judge harshly based on looks than women are of men. This is a non argument. Baggage? Oh, I assume you mean like hoping we get treated with some semblance of respect and kindness and to just some disposable cum rag?

Hypocricy in the dating scene? How much are we expected to spend on clothes compared to men? Make-up? How are often are men raped? Stalked? dumped if they don't fuck on the first date. Or immediately after if they do? I'm guessing you don't get all stressed out if you don't get called back. Ever.

So if I go outside in cum fuck me heels, a mini skirt and tank top with my tits spilling out all over, and get hit on, THAT is your version of women having it so good? It's too bad all a man has to do is show a little kindness and interest and his own self respect. Too bad indeed. For us.

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Damn Mary that was cool.
It's lost on LT, I mean geez, you not only were dead on, you used fully constructed sentences and words of more than 2 syllables, so don't expect him to get this, but it was one cool reply indeed. :kiss:
 
Jesus Christ, Moanique posts 20 times more to me and in my threads than I post ABOUT her.

I guess her daddy/hubby isn't doing it for her.

Of course no REAL man would want to do anything that involves touching that walking pile of asscrack cocaine.

Shit, what do I do to shake off this harpy? I think her mental problems might be contagious...
 
Since when do men talk to strangers in restrooms?

That is when they're not looking for mansex.
 
Jesus Christ, Moanique posts 20 times more to me and in my threads than I post ABOUT her.

I guess her daddy/hubby isn't doing it for her.

Of course no REAL man would want to do anything that involves touching that walking pile of asscrack cocaine.

Shit, what do I do to shake off this harpy? I think her mental problems might be contagious...

Fuck off, Shit head, I thought you had me on ignore? Make up that useless greasy hairball you call your mind.
 
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WTF. Will the harpying ever end? I'm starting to wonder if Moanique started this thread and not me...
 
ROTFL. At least Ishtard and Cap'n Hypocrite didn't resort to "You're desperate for pussy."
 
Boys get molested a lot but they only recently started talking about it. Guys, now they just get killed.


And THIS is exactly my point about emotional, over the top outbursts. What the hell kind of discussion is this? A race to see who can out extreme the other into submission so they finally give up and go away. Was my post outlandish and filled with extreme opinions? Of course it was. I was using your own strategy to illustrate how ridiculous it is.

Discussions about men/women issues are never civil.

They always, ALWAYS go this way:
1) Women complain about their dating woes
2) Guys coddle her and rouse to arms to high tech lynch the guy she's whining about
* 3) If some guy complains about his dating woes, it's immediate Jihad City on his ass
4) loop back to #1


* this is where we've been this week, in this cycle

Do women complain? Sure. Same as men. Is it a constant, recurring theme in our daily lives? Not in mine and not in the people I associate with. You need some new surroundings.

That's why I've grown a bit short with the beloved of late. The wasted potential for interesting debate does begin to get on one's nerves. That and the "reassertion of my claim is the most powerful form of proof!" school of reasoning.

I am quickly growing tired of this as well. I was hoping I could last until I was no longer a newbie. But I think I am finally being worn down. I simply do not have the energy or patience to continue these 'discussions.


But here's a question - are the standands for each gender relaxing as society approaches more flexible gender roles? Are women who are more financially independent feeling secure enough to dress down a bit? Are men feeling less pressure to pay for meals and dates? Are people of both genders making roughly equal progress on that whole dreadful "making the first move" issue?

Having led a rather Bohemian college life, I'd say from my own exprience that men and women have done roughly equal amounts of "making the first move," that hardly anyone ever went on a formal date at which one participant paid for the other's food, and that (it being college) dress was decidedly casual. I wonder how the players on the current stage are handling things.


Now LJ, please pay attention. THIS is how one might go about engaging in a discussion about gender roles and inequality. A civil tone laced with moderation and a clear willingness to entertain opinions, thoughts and ideas on the subject. Even those that might be contrary to your own.

As is so often the case, it is more about how you say it, than what you say. It hurts you and your opinions.
 
{SPEECHLESS}...

Damn Mary that was cool.
It's lost on LT, I mean geez, you not only were dead on, you used fully constructed sentences and words of more than 2 syllables, so don't expect him to get this, but it was one cool reply indeed. :kiss:

Thanks M! :kiss:

It's really hard to discuss real issues when the person with whom you are trying to converse is busy screaming about being a victim all the time.
 
Just cleaning up...

women are how many times more likely to be victims of domestic violence?
how many tmes more likely to be victims of sexual violence?
how many times more likely to be victims of domestic murder?
I don't know about the UK, but in the US, domestic violence against men is vastly underreported. DOJ stats say it's almost 1 to 1.

men get higher insurace because, statistically, they're a higher risk.
were it women who were the higher risk, would you insist that men pay the same? there are also discounts for low risk age groups and low risk post codes. they simply work on numbers.
As I said, a man who is 99 years old and has no accidents or tickets his whole life, STILL pays more for auto insurance. His risk has always been proven to be zip. But being male is an automatic negative for him with insurance. It has nothing to do with his actual conduct. Same for life insurance. Even in the realm of insurance, this is anomalous.

Insurance companies price-discriminated against minorities, too, using these SAME actuarial tables, until this practice was banned. The same exact argument was used.

we live longer due to physical differences, not lack of stress.
Untrue. The difference between men's and women's lifespans have plummetted due to lifestyle changes.

no such thing as national service here. that's just your fucked up gov.
but women who want to fight on the front lines here?
in the uk, men still earn more.
I can't say anything about the UK.

women, even if they work the same hours, still shoulder more of the housework and child rearing.
teenage boys are still allowed more freedom than girls.
sexual women are still labeled whores and sluts.
In the States, Madonna? Whore? Who gives a fuck anymore?

amongst minorities here, i've never heard of a man being killed by his own family as an "honour killing".
Shit, that's not a British thing, that's an Islamic thing. They're crazy as fuck.

i still here people ask men what their girlfriend would like, as though she can't speak for herself.
the media bombards us with images of physical perfection to live up to. flat/large chested girls are teased mercilessly.
Large chested girls get their tires changed roadside a lot quicker, over here. *ducks*

women just face different issues than men.
And no one tells them "quit whining!"
 
And THIS is exactly my point about emotional, over the top outbursts. What the hell kind of discussion is this? A race to see who can out extreme the other into submission so they finally give up and go away. Was my post outlandish and filled with extreme opinions? Of course it was. I was using your own strategy to illustrate how ridiculous it is.
Actually, it's true. Boys do get molested - a LOT - and they have had a hard time talking about it until these last few years.

And men are more often victims of murder than women, in the US.

What over the top outburst did you see in that?

Do women complain? Sure. Same as men. Is it a constant, recurring theme in our daily lives? Not in mine and not in the people I associate with. You need some new surroundings.
Stay out of the bookstores if you want to avoid a great deal of that whining. The book shelves are dripping with it. Oh and so is television. Want me to name a few shows for ya?

I am quickly growing tired of this as well. I was hoping I could last until I was no longer a newbie. But I think I am finally being worn down. I simply do not have the energy or patience to continue these 'discussions.

Now LJ, please pay attention. THIS is how one might go about engaging in a discussion about gender roles and inequality. A civil tone laced with moderation and a clear willingness to entertain opinions, thoughts and ideas on the subject. Even those that might be contrary to your own.

As is so often the case, it is more about how you say it, than what you say. It hurts you and your opinions.
Okay then how have I attacked you?

The only thing I have done is disagree with you. That's the only basis you have for accusing me of not being civil. I've been totally nice with you.

The only way to be 'civil' in your book is to shut up.

Sorry, but a lot of men like me are now increasingly fed up with this bullshit. We're only going to push harder for equal treatment.
 
You know exactly what I'm talking about. "Me so unsatisfied! Me troll you long time!" is a backhanded swipe at her Asian heritage and you know it. Besides having no honor, you're a hypocrite as well.
Look, bedwetter boy, I had no idea she was Asian. I don't care if you believe that or not, what you believe is, like you yourself, of no relevance.

If she is Asian and you're not just blowing smoke then I'm sorry and I take that comment back.

Although you're being racist now for saying she's Asian - hell, you're being speciest now. Humans aren't THAT fucking weak and stupid. Well, you are. Nevermind. Our species has to have its low points. Good luck bringing up the evolutionary rear, bedwetterboy.
 
Look, bedwetter boy, I had no idea she was Asian. I don't care if you believe that or not, what you believe is, like you yourself, of no relevance.

If she is Asian and you're not just blowing smoke then I'm sorry and I take that comment back.

Although you're being racist now for saying she's Asian - hell, you're being speciest now. Humans aren't THAT fucking weak and stupid. Well, you are. Nevermind. Our species has to have its low points. Good luck bringing up the evolutionary rear, bedwetterboy.
You, who has some command of the Japanese language, downloads anime and oriental porn, keeps a close eye on Chinese human rights issues, and who keeps the smallest scraps of personal information at your fingertips for ready ammo, want us to believe that you didn't know that?
 
As Vetteman and Phrodeau pointed out, LT knew exactly what he was doing by posting that line, because first I never concealed my heritage here, hell look at my av, my ethnicity is pretty much written all my face, but also because when contacting me by PM with alt accounts, kissing up to me and trying to get started with me in some hot and heavy cybering session, which he did not get, he asked me several times about my origins and I never had any problems being forward about that.

So he only apologized because he got called on being such a racist fucktard, but he knew what he was doing when he posted it.
Also, without being directed at me personally, he pretty much gave up any right to whine about those who use the N word in life or on board.
 
Another thing I meant to mention earlier:

Although you're being racist now for saying she's Asian - hell, you're being speciest now. Humans aren't THAT fucking weak and stupid. Well, you are. Nevermind. Our species has to have its low points. Good luck bringing up the evolutionary rear, bedwetterboy.

:rolleyes:

You know LT got his ass handed to him neatly carved, sliced and vaccuum packed when he tries shit like that.

1. Mentioning someone's heritage in no way makes them racist

2. I'd love to see LT do a full board search on Vetteman's entire posting history here, and come up with ONE single racist sentence.

... That should keep LT busy for a while, lol.
 
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