what would you do?

[rosebud5446]

what would you do? *need help*

Okay... I've been trying to figure out what to do with this all day. My birthday is coming up, and some of my aunts and uncles are having a get-together out of town from where i live(it will also be for my cousin- we are 6 days apart). The next day, I am planning to drive about 5 hours away for a concert, out for dinner, stay the night, probably shopping or something. Well, today I just realized that I was planing on using the money I get from them for my birthday (I pretty much always get money from them) to fund my trip. The problem is... they always give checks, and considering this get-together will be Saturday evening, and the concert is Sunday... I will not be able to deposit or cash the checks in time for the trip.
My boyfriend said just call them, and tell them what's going on, but it just seems weird "hey, i want money for my birthday, and i want it in cash" <of course i wouldn't say it like that, but it just seems kind of rude. Is it? What would be the best way to do this.
My mom said that when i get the check, explain it to them and ask for cash, but I don't think they will have cash, she said 'well, just have them go to the ATM'. I'm not going to do that! That is def. rude!
What is the best way to handle this situation???

 

[bobsgirl]

Okay... I've been trying to figure out what to do with this all day. My birthday is coming up, and some of my aunts and uncles are having a get-together out of town from where i live(it will also be for my cousin- we are 6 days apart). The next day, I am planning to drive about 5 hours away for a concert, out for dinner, stay the night, probably shopping or something. Well, today I just realized that I was planing on using the money I get from them for my birthday (I pretty much always get money from them) to fund my trip. The problem is... they always give checks, and considering this get-together will be Saturday evening, and the concert is Sunday... I will not be able to deposit or cash the checks in time for the trip.
My boyfriend said just call them, and tell them what's going on, but it just seems weird "hey, i want money for my birthday, and i want it in cash" <of course i wouldn't say it like that, but it just seems kind of rude maybe???
My mom said that when i get the check, explain it to them and ask for cash, but I don't think they will have cash, she said 'well, just have them go to the ATM'. I'm not going to do that!
What is the best way to handle this situation???

Could your mom discreetly pass the word to your relatives?

 

[rosebud5446]

it's my dad's side of the family, and they really don't like each other. good call though.

 

[wicked woman]

Haven't thought of the answer but I know asking for cash isn't the answer. Definitely rude.

Just had a thought. Are there any Money Marts or places that cash cheques for a fee? Not a good buy but if you're in a pinch.

 

[M's girl]

I would never ever ask for the cash and would consider that rude too. Glad I'm not the only one. If you are so sure though you are going to get that money, then can't you just ask your mother to lend it to you when you promise to pay her back as soon as you can cash the cheques or maybe you can even sign them over to her or something?

I mean, your mother knows about the siatuation anyway already...?

 

[rosebud5446]

I know that it's rude to ask someone for that. That's why I was asking if there was any way to get it that wasn't rude... I don't think there is, so I'm going to try and figure out something else. The only reason I was even thinking about it is because I already have the concert tickets and it was kind of planned out already. The reason I'm so broke, is that I was supposed to get paid last friday, but apparantly I'm not in the payroll system at work yet even though I started like 3 weeks ago... so I won't get paid until after the concert. Stupid~ I will have tons of extra cash (paychecks, birthday money, ect...) like... 3 days after the stupid concert, but as for now, I'm broke. Of course that would happen.
As for my mother... She's more poor than I am. I mean, she makes (a little) more money, but is constantly poor because she spends it on booze and other stupid crap she doesn't need.

meh.

 

[SweetErika]

If you cut your trip down to the bare necessities (gas, cheap food and an inexpensive place to stay), how much do you need?

If you have a good relationship with your family, would it be possible to explain how you planned to go to the concert, but something happened with payroll and you haven't been paid for almost a month, then ask them for a small loan for the bare necessities to be repaid in the next week?

I'd keep it separate from the birthday thing, and I think it'd be wise to ask now - maybe they'll give you cash when you get there in lieu of checks so you can make the concert.

I'd also do it now so you can still plan to sell the concert tix, if necessary.

 

[rosebud5446]

Yeah, I thought about selling the concert tickets, but they were at will call and I'm the only one that can pick them up (5 hours away!).
I did talk to one of my aunts that is helping me through college (my parents don't do that stuff, so my aunts and uncles are, so I would say we're pretty close) and I asked her if I could get my monthly check I get from her a little early and explained the situation and that I would be back up financially like 3 days later, and first she said it was stupid that it has taken a month for me to get into payroll, she understood and said it was fine.