What was this thread about?....oh yeah ADHD...support group? 😅

[Wild_Honey_66]

That's how I got a diagnosis.
I was asked to assess a multitude of executive functioning skills in my kids and realised I had none of them
I also got slapped with an autism diagnosis, which explains SO MUCH

Yep. I recognized that my son had autism at an early age, but it was as he grew that I started to see how much he and his father had in common.

 

[Diosax]

I've never been officially diagnosed but I'm a poster child for it. I pick at every loose thread, I whistle and tap on things incessantly, ooh, something shiny! What? Sorry, repeat that last part again?

It's funny how some things can pull me in - anything dangerous, high stimulation, sexually charged situations... I love playing chess, for some reason that pulls me in. I can study interesting new things in depth, but if it's something more familiar it can be hard to focus.

I fucking hate paperwork! I was serious about putting off billing, you'd think that it would be the easiest part after doing a two week long project when the only thing standing between me and several thousand dollars is a quick report and an invoice, but I often have to force myself to sit down for twenty minutes and finish it.

Checks out!! Sounds like you may be hyperactive but idk bc I'm learning as I go

But yes sometimes I put off doing things bc i can't get myself to do them and then i find out it took me almost no time to do it.

I know you're not asking me, but I'm answering anyway.

Three of my gremlins have official adhd diagnoses. I don't have one, but I feel pretty comfortable saying it's a good bet that I could get one.

I'm asking everyone! That's why I made the post

Yesterday I was watching YouTube videos about adhd and *I got teary eyed* with a TEDx Talk when a presenter said women and girls don't get diagnosed bc in girls in presents differently. She said it presents as headaches, anxiety and sleeplessness and that was my childhood and teenage years!! My mom would take me to the dr/neurologist bc of the headaches and i would just be told it was stress.

Since I was diagnosed I've now become convinced my niece has it too!

 

[Wild_Honey_66]

Checks out!! Sounds like you may be hyperactive but idk bc I'm learning as I go

But yes sometimes I put off doing things bc i can't get myself to do them and then i find out it took me almost no time to do it.

I'm asking everyone! That's why I made the post

Yesterday I was watching YouTube videos about adhd and *I got teary eyed* with a TEDx Talo when a presenter said women and girls don't get diagnosed bc in girls in presents differently. She said it presents as headaches, anxiety and sleeplessness and that was my childhood and teenage years!! My mom would take me to the dr/neurologist bc of the headaches and i would just be told it was stress.

Since I was diagnosed I've now become convinced my niece has it too!

Anxiety is a big one at our house, too. And migraines! Myself and three daughters.

In addition to the genetic prizes, we spent 20 years in a domestic abuse situation. As we move towards healing, it's interesting to begin to sort out which issues come from where. Eg, my severe depression and anxiety has improved tremendously, while one of my daughter's has not. Does that mean that hers is more influenced by genetics? Not necessarily, but it's a question worth asking.

 

[HoneyMeadows]

No formal diagnosis here but got slapped with "generalised anxiety" and apparently so did my grandmother. It ain't general, I can tell you exactly what sets me off. I didn't have the capacity to fight for the diagnosis but I may now, we'll see how I get on I guess

 

[aussiegeekygal]

Oh, honey... That's a shit sandwich of a situation. I'm glad you're out and on the way to healing.

I have PTSD which really got in the way of diagnosing everything else. I had a shit of a time finding the right meds to stabilize me during the worst of times and it wasn't until I was prescribed Adderall that my brain went... "Finally!"

I am in awe of your strength and the role model your girls have in you. You're a force

 

[AlexBailey]

Has anyone been given an explanation for causes and how ADHD presents?

Some effects are what I suspect to be the symptoms and others could be the effects. I feverishly studied many different mental health issues when my oldest son got arrested on a 5150 (dangerous to himself and others) when he was twelve. He was officially diagnosed with bi-polar disorder and oppositional defiance disorder, but it took a lot of digging and study to reach that conclusion - one that he agrees with even 13 years later.

As for ADHD...
Is depression the result of insecurity based on constant self analysis? Is it from over-thinking situations and fretting about missed opportunities, dissatisfaction with living situations? Not everyone with ADHD has depression, I've known musicians and artists who can channel it for creativity, though honestly they weren't necessarily happy all the time...

Some people have hyper-motor control issues as the result of their diets. I've known parents of ADHD kids who saw a complete turn around in their kids when they started the Feingold diet.
https://www.webmd.com/add-adhd/childhood-adhd/what-is-the-feingold-diet Really, check it out. My wife was a Waldorf preschool teacher who witnessed several families struggling with ADHD change their diets and find relief.


My father had a sensitivity to corn that made him hyperactive and agitated. If he avoided corn products including corn syrup he did well and had great amounts of patience. I have lots of environmental allergies, a lot of them effect my breathing and make me feel jittery and agitated, discovering that lavender is one of them and avoiding it greatly improved my life.

 

[cheekygirl75]

Anxiety is a big one at our house, too. And migraines! Myself and three daughters.

In addition to the genetic prizes, we spent 20 years in a domestic abuse situation. As we move towards healing, it's interesting to begin to sort out which issues come from where. Eg, my severe depression and anxiety has improved tremendously, while one of my daughter's has not. Does that mean that hers is more influenced by genetics? Not necessarily, but it's a question worth asking.

Sending many, many hugs - good for you for getting out of that & lots of love & positive thoughts with your & your girls' healing.

No formal diagnosis here but got slapped with "generalised anxiety" and apparently so did my grandmother. It ain't general, I can tell you exactly what sets me off. I didn't have the capacity to fight for the diagnosis but I may now, we'll see how I get on I guess

Interesting, and ADHD has a strong genetic component, so if your grandmother had it, it's a lot more likely you do. Good luck on getting the diagnosis!

 

[ToPleaseHim]

Ah, my people.

Diagnosed as an adolescent and as an adult.

Pretty sure I get nothing done unless the deadline is approaching. It’s my MO, even medicated.

 

[Mo_Bandy]

Dude just here for the drugs although I have some of the worst ADD. Since I was a kid. Here is another song with some decent references.

 

[AlexBailey]

some links a Friend of O/ours kept collecting (and i asked Him to share with me)



https://www.additudemag.com/adhd-in...080621&goal=0_d9446392d6-4589642752-300096145

OMG, yes. As a kid growing up positive reinforcement is critical. I heard everything my parents said about me and was haunted at night hearing the echoes and trying to figure out if it was worthwhile for me to be in this world as a kid.

"Why can't you just sit still?"
"Your sister loved that teacher when she was in his class, what wrong with you?"
"Why are you always chewing on your sleeves? "
"You lose everything!"
"We should have stopped after our second kid."
“Don’t embarrass us!”
"He's not bad, he just doesn't know how to act."
"You'll never be able to hold a job if you can't ____." ( fill in the blank)
"What's wrong with you?"
" What's wrong with you?!"
Nevermind the cross dressing issues...

I was suicidal from about 11 to 17, mostly by taking on hazardous dares, challenging my right to exist and giving fate ample opportunity to take me out.

I had a couple of high school teachers connect with me and recognize some talents that didn't show up on report cards. I honestly think they pulled me back from the brink.

 

[LaisDeMarieDeFrance]

 

[fsa52]

OMG, yes. As a kid growing up positive reinforcement is critical. I heard everything my parents said about me and was haunted at night hearing the echoes and trying to figure out if it was worthwhile for me to be in this world as a kid.

"Why can't you just sit still?"
"Your sister loved that teacher when she was in his class, what wrong with you?"
"Why are you always chewing on your sleeves? "
"You lose everything!"
"We should have stopped after our second kid."
"He's not bad, he just doesn't know how to act."
"You'll never be able to hold a job if you can't ____." ( fill in the blank)
"What's wrong with you?"
" What's wrong with you?!"
Nevermind the cross dressing issues...

I was suicidal from about 11 to 17, mostly by taking on hazardous dares, challenging my right to exist and giving fate ample opportunity to take me out.

I had a couple of high school teachers connect with me and recognize some talents that didn't show up on report cards. I honestly think they pulled me back from the brink.

Wow, kudos to those teachers and to you as well! Hugs!!

 

[Diosax]

Anxiety is a big one at our house, too. And migraines! Myself and three daughters.

In addition to the genetic prizes, we spent 20 years in a domestic abuse situation. As we move towards healing, it's interesting to begin to sort out which issues come from where. Eg, my severe depression and anxiety has improved tremendously, while one of my daughter's has not. Does that mean that hers is more influenced by genetics? Not necessarily, but it's a question worth asking.

No formal diagnosis here but got slapped with "generalised anxiety" and apparently so did my grandmother. It ain't general, I can tell you exactly what sets me off. I didn't have the capacity to fight for the diagnosis but I may now, we'll see how I get on I guess

Oh, honey... That's a shit sandwich of a situation. I'm glad you're out and on the way to healing.

I have PTSD which really got in the way of diagnosing everything else. I had a shit of a time finding the right meds to stabilize me during the worst of times and it wasn't until I was prescribed Adderall that my brain went... "Finally!"

I am in awe of your strength and the role model your girls have in you. You're a force

I think this is why I'm barely getting diagnosed now bc I took care of a lot of other underlying stuff and now the symptoms are more obvious.

Thank you all for sharing

 

[Diosax]

It wouldn't be my thread if I didn't share a tiktok

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTR8tbj7y/?k=1

Who can relate?

 

[hotoldrguy]

 

[cheekygirl75]

I can definitely relate to this one!

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTR8Ecuou/?k=1

 

[hotoldrguy]

I can definitely relate to this one!

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTR8Ecuou/?k=1

This is sooooo me!

 

[aussiegeekygal]

I can definitely relate to this one!

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTR8Ecuou/?k=1

It. Me.

 

[HoneyMeadows]

I thought everyone did this????

I can definitely relate to this one!

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTR8Ecuou/?k=1

 

[cheekygirl75]

I thought everyone did this????

I know, right? It’s hard to imagine what it’s like to not do this

 

[Diosax]

I thought everyone did this????

I know, right? It’s hard to imagine what it’s like to not do this

Right!

 

[Cotswolds]

It wouldn't be my thread if I didn't share a tiktok

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTR8tbj7y/?k=1

Who can relate?

100%

 

[Cotswolds]

I can definitely relate to this one!

https://www.tiktok.com/t/ZTR8Ecuou/?k=1

Same. My eldest daughter is also guilty of wondering around with her toothbrush

 

[AlexBailey]

I don't know if it's ADHD... Do you all have music constantly playing in you head? I do.

It's like a constant nagging soundtrack, right now I have two songs competing for my attention. I just saw the Elvis movie so one is "Suspicious Minds", the other is that obnoxious 90s pop song "Don't Steal My Sunshine." FFS! Just shoot me!

There's always something playing in my head. One of my besties used to always ask "What's playing?" and she'd try to get the most annoying things stuck in my head.

 

[hotoldrguy]

Do you all have music constantly playing in you head? I do.

It's like a constant nagging soundtrack, right now I have two songs competing for my attention. I just saw the Elvis movie so one is "Suspicious Minds", the other is that obnoxious 90s pop song "Don't Steal My Sunshine." FFS! Just shoot me!

Only once in a while. Usually I have multiple thoughts vying for attention