What pissed you off today? Mark II

[Bramblethorn]

So did ya know she's fucktarded enough to list her real name and links to her books? https://www.amazon.com/Adelyn-Birch/e/B019PLC03O/ref=dp_byline_cont_pop_ebooks_1

She writes here that "I choose to remain anonymous" immediately before signing herself "Adelyn Birch", so I think that might be a pen name.

(Not that it matters either way; I'm not planning on sending her a Christmas card ;-)

I get kinda (okay super) defensive of anyone on the autism spectrum, admittedly mostly because of my son. Second- While there are key differences, I read a lot of another Lit posters writings on Aspergers and her life and it gave me more hope for my son's future. They're not on her sig line anymore so I can't share (shoulda bookmarked on my desktop now that I think about it.). Someone saying she is heartless and lacks empathy is not only grossly wrong but needlessly cruel.

Uh huh. I think what people often miss is that every autistic person is different. Just because they happened to meet an autistic person who was a jerk doesn't mean every autistic kid is doomed to grow up that way! Better to look at the individual and find out what they're capable of than making assumptions.

 

[Blue]

She writes here that "I choose to remain anonymous" immediately before signing herself "Adelyn Birch", so I think that might be a pen name.

(Not that it matters either way; I'm not planning on sending her a Christmas card ;-)



Uh huh. I think what people often miss is that every autistic person is different. Just because they happened to meet an autistic person who was a jerk doesn't mean every autistic kid is doomed to grow up that way! Better to look at the individual and find out what they're capable of than making assumptions.

Well according to the esteemed and prestigious 'Adelyn Birch' you're more than capable of jealousy-fueled mass murder, so I think I'll keep my distance from ye regardless...

 

[Bramblethorn]

“It can so thoroughly destroy a relationship that at one time seemed invulnerable. If it’s well-hidden, and you’re not specifically looking for it, the condition can reveal itself slowly, one misunderstanding and baffling meltdown at a time. And it makes me wonder… How many of us are struggling with something that reveals itself in such cruelly deceptive ways?”
~David Finch, has Asperger's.

Ugh. Thanks for chasing that up. I can't say I'm surprised by the dishonest quoting; just reading through the reader responses she quoted made me suspect there was some very selective editing going on.

Now, about the nuance I mentioned. Claims are made all over the site that because certain forms of autism have symptoms similar to e.g psychopathy (Take note that the only symptom of psychopathy she ever seems to be sure of intertwining with autism is the potential for a lack of empathy) then they must be in some way intertwined.

Which is stupid because it's not even the same kind of empathy. Psychopaths like Ted Bundy can be extremely good at reading and manipulating people, they just don't care about them.

The primary reference for the author's constant claims that autism and narcissism may be linked is a woman called Dr. Susan Heitler, The story behind this one is much shorter. She's some doctor of (I think) 'clinical psychology' who makes her money as an online marriage counsellor. My problem's not with her, but the source material on the site linked me to a Psychology Today article where she repeatedly postulates a possible link between Asperger's and narcissism.

She's honest enough to tell us in the conclusion that her counselling has made her familiar with narcissists but she lacks any detailed background working with autistic people or familiarity with the condition, and so her claims are really just assumptions. So I guess a criticism I could throw at her is to not sounds so sure of herself next time round.

So the author of the site uses sources who admit that they don't actually know what they're talking about. Nuff' said.

Yeah, I'm not a huge fan of Psychology Today; they have some good articles but as that one shows, their quality control is lacking. I think it's quite irresponsible for a psych professional to speculate like that on a subject she admits she doesn't know much about, and equally irresponsible for PT to publish it.

I may be generalising unfairly from a small sample, but in my experience relationship counsellors are prone to over-pathologising unfamiliar things because the nature of their work skews what they see. I read another blog - I think that might also have been in PT - where a counsellor was talking about how nonmonogamy is harmful to relationships because every nonmonogamous couple she meets has a problem.

Well obviously they do. EVERY couple she meets in a professional context has a problem. Nobody pays that kind of money just to sit there telling a counsellor how great it's going!

Critique is too long for me to write, here's the wikipedia article on it.

I'll give the developer of the theory, Simon Baron-Cohen, some credit. He seems to genuinely be a major contributor to modern understanding of the neurology of autism and not just some quack selling autism-free vaccines. But hey, even Einstein once claimed he'd proven that the universe was static. /quote]

Yep. Baron-Cohen is one of the biggest figures in autism research, he's certainly no Wakefield, but the "extreme male brain" theory of autism is... problematic. These days there's a lot of suspicion that female autism is badly under-diagnosed, partly because girls are more likely to get the sort of socialisation that helps mask it, and less likely to get the sort of psychiatric attention that might identify it.

I'd keep going but without access to material there's not much I can do.

Yeah, down for me too now. Karma maybe!

Anyway, thanks for that. I'd formed the impression that it was heavily biased bullshit but sometimes it's good to hear from supporting voices

 

[Vixandra]

She writes here that "I choose to remain anonymous" immediately before signing herself "Adelyn Birch", so I think that might be a pen name.

(Not that it matters either way; I'm not planning on sending her a Christmas card ;-)



Uh huh. I think what people often miss is that every autistic person is different. Just because they happened to meet an autistic person who was a jerk doesn't mean every autistic kid is doomed to grow up that way! Better to look at the individual and find out what they're capable of than making assumptions.

Nope, her books link to her psychopath page, then she uses the same name on her anti-aspie page with an awful ending. I'm writhing in pain, literally in my hips and I could trace her down. Once I had that, I may have posted about the sow on Facebook and have friends with kids on spectrum. I just asked that they not buy any of her books. Guess it may spread a tiny bit... probably not much though, I am picky in my friends.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Blue]

People. People who don't appreciate. Who don't value. Who don't behave well. Who don't know 'sorry' or 'thank you'. People blessed with worth I. Their lives who fail to value it for what it is. It's fine to be a glass half empty person imo if you accept you have a glass and some water and that this in itself in this world is something. Recognising it for being half a glass ( empty even) is practical but a fing clean glass and water is no given in life.

TreAt your glasses and water with respect.

I think we need a bigger glass and more wine.

 

[seela]

I think we need a bigger glass and more wine.

I'll drink to that.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[MeekMe]

People that feel they get to demand something of a child they felt no obligation to provide for. Fucking pathetic piece of shit.

 

[MindiRosa]

Just someone I used to know.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[MeekMe]

I officially hate yellow. It's the worst color.

 

[seela]

I officially hate yellow. It's the worst color.

I'm sorry you're having a hard time with the dress.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[MeekMe]

:slump: Thank you. I have a dress, but I am at max frustration. :mumbling: Beagoodfriend. Beagoodfriend.

 

[La damnee elle la licorne]

 

[Eva_Star]

50 Shades Darker

*I've read the crap books so I knew what was coming but still...*


1. Christian randomly says "I'm not a dominant. The actual term is sadist because I like to punish and inflict pain." Good for you,Chris but the problem is the entire first book was about you being a Dom. Yeah, he likes to inflict pain but he was totally all about a 24/7 subs and running her whole life?? wtf.

2. Ana is all decked out in sexy lingerie before she gets into her dress for the ball. Christian comes in an puts in some ben wa balls...later, he takes off her dress for some mid ball fing and no lingerie. Irritating.

3. He puts her in a spreader bar and then just has regular sex with her...boring.

4. She wants to be spanked...and he spanks her all weak like maybe 4 times...what a sadist!!!

5. He takes her to the Red Room and just blindfolds her,cuffs her and has regular sex. You people are in a room with every single sm equipment known to man and that is all you do??

I felt like being all husband watching football-esque and yelling at the screen.

*Put on the nipple clamps on her!*
*Cuff her to the suspension hooks!*
*WTF...spank her ass with some damn authority!*

Anyway...meh. It was ok.

 

[Blue]

...

I don't know about 50 Shades Darker but I was so disappointed by 50 Shades of Grey when it came out that I checked if they had a BDSM consultant or anything. Of course they didn't.

I'm not ever going to watch the sequel. It sounds even worse than the first one.

You'd think that maybe they should have had preview screenings with a BDSM-orientated audience while filming, since we're supposed to be the target audience?

Actually, nah, made $100m or something so I guess they're not bothered about quality since it's apparently unnecessary.

~ ~ Edit ~ ~

Heheh
I was just thinking about how it's pretty much a psychopath abusing a college girl...
You could say that Christian's morality is a little...

GREY?

https://encrypted-tbn2.gstatic.com/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcSca8XEK7V5NEWIQZljj7C0x4g-tlq4PTMju1kDO4LPnTvhhp56IQ

 

[MeekMe]

We aren't the target audience for 50SoG.

 

[Collar_N_Cuffs]

We aren't the target audience for 50SoG.

Oh, speak for yourself Meeks!
I LOVED it! So realistic! I could just taste it.

 

[MeekMe]

Oh, speak for yourself Meeks!
I LOVED it! So realistic! I could just taste it.

I found her terrified reactions to him stalking her to be very realistic. So hawt.

 

[Blue]

I found her terrified reactions to him stalking her to be very realistic. So hawt.

What woman doesn't love a nice stalking every now and then?

 

[Eva_Star]

What is even MORE disturbing is that I will definitely go to the next movie too. smh.

I finish what I've started!

 

[MeekMe]

What woman doesn't love a nice stalking every now and then?

I know I love stalkers. I think it's sweet and shows dedication.

 

[cookiecat]

What is even MORE disturbing is that I will definitely go to the next movie too. smh.

I finish what I've started!

Commitment is an excellent quality!!