What kind of pics

[lost_in_you]

do it for you? Especially if you're sending them by phone? One of the current NSAs is a really tough read and doesn't volunteer when things are good but I know when things are bad. The 'bad' came when the pics were in a series of a striptease. I guess I had too many clothes on because the response was it was too PG. Ha. So I went the other route and sent him a video of me getting off with my favorite toy. He liked that one.

So from all of you in Lit-land, how do you spice up pics so you aren't doing the same thing over and over?

Excuse me if this has been asked and is posted somewhere obvious. I used the search function and browsed a couple of the various categories here but didn't find this any mention of this. Likely user error.

Thanks for your help! Any suggestions, beyond that I post pics here, is greatly appreciated!!

 

[NippleMuncher]

Like every other sexually related question, it is going to depend on your partner's preferences, not what anyone else has to say on the subject. What does it for me is different than what it takes for your NSA partner. You also have to take into account that tastes change depending on mood or desire.

 

[lost_in_you]

Sorry. I'm aware it's not cookie cutter from one person to the next. Was really just trying to get some ideas since he isn't the type to volunteer what he wants to see. Except pics.

I'm the type that wants everything to be a returned for a touchdown in dickland. (Too much football tonight. Sorry!) To send something and have it be PG, even though it was just the one time, that I know of, is awful.

Thanks for the feedback though.

 

[EdwardMidweston]

So from all of you in Lit-land, how do you spice up pics so you aren't doing the same thing over and over?

Thanks for your help! Any suggestions, beyond that I post pics here, is greatly appreciated!!

Just off the top of my head, why not browsethrough the Amateur Pictures forum and "borrow" whatever ideas are most applicable? Or perhaps, read some stories in favorite categories and act out some of the scenarios.

Better yet, use the "cribs" as idea generators and them give them your own personal touches.

Who knows, it might work.

 

[lost_in_you]

Just off the top of my head, why not browsethrough the Amateur Pictures forum and "borrow" whatever ideas are most applicable? Or perhaps, read some stories in favorite categories and act out some of the scenarios.

Better yet, use the "cribs" as idea generators and them give them your own personal touches.

Who knows, it might work.

Thanks, Edward! I apparently hadn't browsed far enough on the main page. Just spent the last little while looking through amateur pics and think that will be a definite go-to. I'd tried the same approach with porn shots but couldn't find anything that reflected 'me'. If that makes sense.


One question: What are "cribs"?

 

[EdwardMidweston]

Cribs? I meant quick, rough basics of ideas borrowed from other people--something like "crib sheets" used for last minute bone-ups before tests in school. (Or cheat sheets carried into the exam room, for those so inclined.)

 

[rthnck]

The eye of the beholder

Like every other sexually related question, it is going to depend on your partner's preferences, not what anyone else has to say on the subject. What does it for me is different than what it takes for your NSA partner. You also have to take into account that tastes change depending on mood or desire.

What he said! Show me some butt, spread legs, on all 4's looking over your shoulder and you will have me at "hello". I would think that 'NippleMuncher' would be pretty enthralled by breasts and nipples which do almost nothing for me (although I could be wrong ).

So, as stated above..erotica is in the eye of the beholder. You know what your BF likes so you have to focus your imagination on what turns him on and produce the images that will rev his engine.

 

[bailadora]

<snip> I would think that 'NippleMuncher' would be pretty enthralled by breasts and nipples ......

Whatever gave you that idea?

Regarding the topic at hand: If a man is disinclined to tell me what he likes, I'm not very likely to bust my ass figuring it out. Then again, I have no patience for guessing games. YMMV

 

[Eilan]

Regarding the topic at hand: If a man is disinclined to tell me what he likes, I'm not very likely to bust my ass figuring it out. Then again, I have no patience for guessing games. YMMV

Yeah, particularly in a NSA relationship. Sounds like too much work for too little reward.

 

[lost_in_you]

What he said! Show me some butt, spread legs, on all 4's looking over your shoulder and you will have me at "hello". I would think that 'NippleMuncher' would be pretty enthralled by breasts and nipples which do almost nothing for me (although I could be wrong ).

So, as stated above..erotica is in the eye of the beholder. You know what your BF likes so you have to focus your imagination on what turns him on and produce the images that will rev his engine.

Thanks!

Regarding the topic at hand: If a man is disinclined to tell me what he likes, I'm not very likely to bust my ass figuring it out. Then again, I have no patience for guessing games. YMMV

Yeah, particularly in a NSA relationship. Sounds like too much work for too little reward.

Eh, yes, he's an ass and has issues expressing himself. But it's something every one of his friends accept and roll with or get off the bus. It's been a good time for 10 years, in an on/off again fashion. He gives me what I want and vice-versa. That I want to explore this one area that I have no experience with and asked for advice with should not have been perceived as me busting ass to figure it out. It's only been since I moved away and can't go home as much that this has been an issue.

Thanks for the suggestions, everyone. I'll now carry on with not busting my ass.

 

[NippleMuncher]

Whatever gave you that idea?

I may have mentioned it once a while back.

Thanks for the suggestions, everyone. I'll now carry on with not busting my ass.

Now don't go busting our balls about it. We don't know your history, you, or him, so the best we can offer is our experience, which is what you asked for. Our experience is you have to talk with your partner to know what floats their boat. If he is uncommunicative, that is unfortunate for both of you, because he could have so much more if he were willing to talk about it.

We're happy that you're happy with what you've got. Kudos for trying to spice things up a bit. Good luck with your endeavors.

 

[lost_in_you]

I may have mentioned it once a while back.



Now don't go busting our balls about it. We don't know your history, you, or him, so the best we can offer is our experience, which is what you asked for. Our experience is you have to talk with your partner to know what floats their boat. If he is uncommunicative, that is unfortunate for both of you, because he could have so much more if he were willing to talk about it.

We're happy that you're happy with what you've got. Kudos for trying to spice things up a bit. Good luck with your endeavors.

Ha. I feel like I just got written off into 'what an ass' land.

There was definitely no ball busting intended!! I laughed at 'bust my ass' when bailadora used it because that was not at all how I meant for things to come across. I was trying to be funny with it in closing-thought for sure using a instead of would give it away. If that's not what you're talking about, sorry?

Y'all should know that all the suggestions and personal perspectives are appreciated. My thanks is just that, my true appreciation.

 

[NippleMuncher]

Ha. I feel like I just got written off into 'what an ass' land.

Not at all, it just seemed as though you were dismissing the perspectives given. My last comment was heartfelt, I do wish you good luck with your endeavors and think it's great that you're trying to spice things up.

 

[bailadora]

I may have mentioned it once a while back.

You don't say. Must have missed it somehow.

Our experience is you have to talk with your partner to know what floats their boat. If he is uncommunicative, that is unfortunate for both of you, because he could have so much more if he were willing to talk about it.

This. My opinion is that if he's not willing to give you some pointers, he should be damn grateful for whatever the hell you care to send him. My comment wasn't a slap at you; it was more of an observation of how unappreciative he appears to be of your efforts. But if you are happy with him, then more power to you and rock on with your bad self.

 

[NippleMuncher]

You don't say. Must have missed it somehow.

I'm pretty discreet about it, so I'm not surprised. What can I say, I'm a nipple man with nipple pleasures. If you'd like, I could put you on my bosom buddy list and keep you abreast of things in the future.