What is your outlook?

[ImOnIt]

I was talking to two different friends of mine recently, and i heard two very different points of view.

My friend said that as her life philosophy, she was alive and isnt the point of living to have sex? Therefore it makes sense to focus on having sex, to have the joy of this and live your life while staying as healthy+attractive as possible.


On a separate night, someone else thought that happiness attached to anything physical is fleeting and temporary, and if you would become sad by losing something, then you were never really happy because of it. It is a state of mind, and not to be attached / connected to possessions.

I paraphrase, of course... but there is no doubt to me that each expression was sincere.

It got me thinking. Mind=blown. I felt that these are not mutually exclusive, but they certainly represent quite different ways of living. Perhaps forum readers have thoughts on this, and may find it interesting to share.

 

[lindahotstuff]

They are two different ways of thinking but quite rightly they aren't - nor should they be - mutually exclusive.
I am deeply in love with my husband, and he with me, and we have a wonderful relationship that has lasted 15 years. Sex is an important part of that relationship.
But sex for us is also about total physical and mental pleasure seeking. And we need other people to achieve that full sexual pleasure and satisfaction. So we have our own partners and invite others to join us both in bed. This enhances our relationship, and our sexual hedonism is quite distinct from the emotional love we have together.
Our relationship is forever, our sexual play is fleeting, hence we are always experimenting, trying new things,and pushing our boundaries.
It's the best of both worlds!

 

[Sayyid]

Sex is fun, have as much as you want as long as it's safe and consensual.

 

[MasterMischief]

In all things, moderation?

 

[bigdaddymackman]

Many different things make many different people happy.

For some it's sex, for another it's being in a position of power. Someone else finds happiness in amassing things like cars and jewelery and still another finds happiness in charity work.

Finding what makes you truly happy in life is what is important.

You only go around once, so find what make you happy and do it to the fullest.

Moderation?.....Naw

 

[MasterMischief]

In this context, I was merely suggesting that focusing too much on anything would be bad. I see no reason not to enjoy sex as long as it does not become an obsession.

Humans are complex beings and I believe it takes many things to make us complete.

 

[Tawny_Temptress]

Many different things make many different people happy.

For some it's sex, for another it's being in a position of power. Someone else finds happiness in amassing things like cars and jewelery and still another finds happiness in charity work.

Finding what makes you truly happy in life is what is important.

You only go around once, so find what make you happy and do it to the fullest.

Moderation?.....Naw

ITA! and it is a different thing for different people.

 

[SimonBrooke]

My friend said that as her life philosophy, she was alive and isn't the point of living to have sex? Therefore it makes sense to focus on having sex, to have the joy of this and live your life while staying as healthy+attractive as possible.

The point of being alive is that there is no point in being alive. We are a random artefact of a complex Universe. We aren't here 'for a reason', we have to make our own reasons (or not).

Through good sex you make someone else happy by making yourself happy. That seems to me a win/win and is a good reason for promoting sex as a positive value in itself, but it isn't the point of being alive (unless you choose to make it so).

On a separate night, someone else thought that happiness attached to anything physical is fleeting and temporary, and if you would become sad by losing something, then you were never really happy because of it. It is a state of mind, and not to be attached / connected to possessions.

That's the Bhuddist philosophy. It seems to me, in the end, to be motivated mainly by fear of pain, and seems rather bleak, timid and negative philosophy. Pain happens, and it isn't nice. But to avoid the good things in life because you fear the bad ones? Might as well cut your own throat now.

You only go around once, so find what make you happy and do it to the fullest.

Pretty much, yes.

There is no pie in the sky. There is no jam tomorrow. You are not going to wake up sitting on the right hand of God. You are not going to be reborn, neither as a dung beetle nor as a butterfly. This is what you get, and this is all you get. Use it well.

 

[subwannabe]

Sometimes people just analyze shit to death.