What is up with the height obsession women have?

[Le Jacquelope]

Speaking of bizarre and unfounded assertions ...

It amazes me that someone so familiar with rage can't work out when it's not present. But then, I suppose that your own always is. Background noise, eh?

Your virulent intolerance is not a figment of imagination, nor is it justified. Unless you have a "shoot on sight" policy, which you seem to have now.

You asked me to provide documentation. See that post right up above? I was simply acknowledging that while I had attempted to, at this moment I could not.

Yes, there are BBW sites. Hurrah. They prove that some men fetishize overweight women. Here's an interesting bit of trivia: I spent some time last month helping to edit an article that addressed the claim of traditional psychologists that women don't have fetishes. I am, of course, reliant on the author's research, but she explained the concepts in enough detail that I have some faith in it. That offers some interesting thoughts on why you're not seeing many (although I did find some) short man fetish sites. It's quite possibly down to a lack of female-driven fetish sites in general.

Ok, I'll take a handicap on this. Show me threads here on Lit about some gal idolizing short men. Show me an article by a woman who idolizes short men. I'll count one article by one woman to have as much weight as an entire fat admirer site.

BTW I never said women don't have fetishes. And also I pointed out that there are many men who do not CARE about weight: that is not a fetish, that is simple open mindedness. I also gave you a saying from Mexican culture that also debunks the "fetish" argument. You intentionally ignored all of that. Why?

But, again, we're back to the percentage game. Some men like bbws. Some women like short men. More commonly, both groups face difficulties on the dating scene. Is there some particular reason you feel passionately about insisting that short men have the more difficult time?

Simple.

Because my original point was that while (only 25% of) big women can lose their bigness, 0% of short men can ever become taller (except with platform shoes). Zero.

I would also stand by the contention that fewer women (proportionately) will tolerate dating shorter men than men who will date big women. You and I can go out in the street and see and prove that.

 

[LukkyKnight]

Some of us are tall. Some of us have had bad experiences with shorter guys and their issues of dating someone taller....

I prefer to have someone taller than I am.

Heh:
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[Igor_1066]

I’m not really sure if it’s worth it. Is it?

Absolutely. From a physical, emotional, and social standpoint, all yes.

 

[IrezumiKiss]

There is a saying in Mexico: bone is for the dog, meat is for the man.

Good quote. I'ma have to use this. I would use it in my sig, but I do have lots of love for the skinny gals as well!

I just did a Google on this and only came up with the same phrase on someone's blog, but inverted. It seems it's an overall Latin-based expression, not just in Mexico. Gee...I wonder why?

 

[renard_ruse]

"But you're the one who suggested that men don't have a counterbalancing limiting desire. That seems very unlikely to me. Or is the point that you want to complain about this and pretend that no one else faces any challenges of any sort on the dating front?"

I know you're responding to the original poster, but I would like to comment.

I'll state up front, I'm just under 5'8." So, yes I do have opinions on this subject.

I don't think there's a counterbalancing limiting desire that RULES OUT women for most men. That is the point; these ads that the poster is referring to always flat out state, 6' or taller, 6'3" or taller, or tall only, etc. That is what his question is about, and one that I have always asked as well and still haven't heard any real explaination from women. Tall men will give some pseudo-scientific blather about evolutionary crap, but women themselves never give any satisfactory explanation with any logic to it.

How many personal ads from men did you ever see saying must be "C" cup or larger, or must have large breasts? Even if they do have this requirement they would never put it in a ad simply out of basic politeness, and most men don't have such a requirement. Preference is different than a requirement. Preference means you take something as one factor out of the totality and balance it. The height requirement that a lot of women seem to have ignores any other factor, including looks (nice face, in shape body, cute butt, nice eyes, etc), intelligence, personality, sense of humor, even income is not as important, and certainly not penis size. No, just "tall" for these women he's referring to. You can have all that, and still be unappealing to such women. It doesn't seem to have rational sense to it.

I think what the poster wants to know, from women themselves who have this requirement, is why? Some sort of logical explanation other than simply "I like tall men" on one hand, or pseudo-scientific unproven theories about evolution on the other.

We shorter men go on with our lives, but yes, having some sort of answer would at least make it easier to accept.

 

[pinkstarfish]

Lets start it out by saying, yes, I'm not very tall. 5'5''

Every time i read a personal ad every single one of them say the same thing. TALL!!!

What is it? I mean do woman have a fear of not being able to reach stuff? I see a ton of guys taller than me that are just flat out ugly. But when responding to a online personal ad they will get more attention because they can proudly state that they are 6'3''. The fact that they look like a sea donkey in person doesn't come up until much later. But me, who is fairly good looking guy won't even get a response because I am under the oh so impervious 5'9''.

What is the story with this woman?

Please post a picture of yourself so that I may judge you by your physical appearance. Kthx.

 

[johnnycornbeef]

Please post a picture of yourself so that I may judge you by your physical appearance. Kthx.

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[sutherngent985]

I'm short. I'm me and if that is not good enough... then it is her loss. It's funny because I've let it bother me in the past, but have also seen women taller than me and it hasn't made a difference.

When I was younger, I hated being short. I would have given anything to be even 5'8...Im 5'4 on a good day and no one in my family is over 5'8. But as I have gotten older, I have come to accept it as something I cant change.

It used to bug me that almost every personal said they wanted someone taller, or over 6 ft or whatever. If I see an ad that says tall or whatever, I just pass it by. I dont let it bother me anymore. I once saw an ad from a guy that went as far specifying a waist to hip ratio for the woman he was looking for. Im sure if you ladies had seen that you would have raised hell too.

I have dated plenty of women who didnt have any problem with my height. My current girlfriend is 5'11 and I know she doesnt have a problem with it. If anyone else has a problem with it, its their problem and not ours.

There are more important things to look for in a partner than height, or cars or money. Ladies, if that is all you are looking for, go look up the definition of SHALLOW in the dictionary. If its just a personal preference, then I hope you find what you seek.

 

[_prudence_]

Who told you all this shit?

Women don't care how tall a man is. They really don't care if he is ugly, which is a good thing for most of us.

This is just a variation of the "does size matter" game.

You may have got me washing the car but I have to disagree with you on this. How often do you see a woman with a man shorter than her? There are exceptions of course, but generally the man is taller.

 

[Cheyenne]

You may have got me washing the car but I have to disagree with you on this. How often do you see a woman with a man shorter than her? There are exceptions of course, but generally the man is taller.

Well, since men ARE taller on average than women, of course the norm would be for the man to be tallest in a couple. That's the way we are physically made.

 

[bronzeage]

You may have got me washing the car but I have to disagree with you on this. How often do you see a woman with a man shorter than her? There are exceptions of course, but generally the man is taller.

You missed a spot below the door. Bend over a little more and you can see it.

There are a couple of tall young women who work for me. 5'9" and taller, always in heels. They are usually with men their height or shorter. One of them prefers shorter men because she likes aggressive guys and if a shorter man will approach her, he has already passed the first test.

Men and women all have personal preferances of who they think looks most attractive, but very few of are so shallow to let it be the deciding factor in who we finally end up with.

For myself, I like redhaired women. I'll go out of my way to get a better look at redhead as she walks by. How many redhaired women have I dated? If you don't count the one in tenth grade, just one.

 

[Le Jacquelope]

You missed a spot below the door. Bend over a little more and you can see it.

There are a couple of tall young women who work for me. 5'9" and taller, always in heels. They are usually with men their height or shorter. One of them prefers shorter men because she likes aggressive guys and if a shorter man will approach her, he has already passed the first test.

Men and women all have personal preferances of who they think looks most attractive, but very few of are so shallow to let it be the deciding factor in who we finally end up with.

For myself, I like redhaired women. I'll go out of my way to get a better look at redhead as she walks by. How many redhaired women have I dated? If you don't count the one in tenth grade, just one.

Now you're starting to retreat.

First, you said "Women don't care how tall a man is", as in all women.

Now, after that statement was utterly dashed to shit by the crowd of women who came in here and contradicted you, you're saying "very few women care."

BZZZZZT. Wrong again.

But then as you said explicitly in my thread on this, you only care about your opinion, not facts.

 

[_prudence_]

Well, since men ARE taller on average than women, of course the norm would be for the man to be tallest in a couple. That's the way we are physically made.

True, but not all men are 6ft and over, shorter men tend to date shorter women.

You missed a spot below the door. Bend over a little more and you can see it.

For myself, I like redhaired women.

Hey, I'm holding the hose, no need to bend, just redirect the spray.

I can see why you like it here then, I've noticed an awful lot of redheaded lasses 'round these parts.

 

[isthisdesire]

I'm not reading all these posts.

I'm 5'3 and my first real, serious relationship was with a guy my exact same height. not everyone cares.

 

[bronzeage]

Now you're starting to retreat.

First, you said "Women don't care how tall a man is", as in all women.

Now, after that statement was utterly dashed to shit by the crowd of women who came in here and contradicted you, you're saying "very few women care."

BZZZZZT. Wrong again.

But then as you said explicitly in my thread on this, you only care about your opinion, not facts.

I am careful to never confuse your opinion with facts.

 

[Le Jacquelope]

I am careful to never confuse your opinion with facts.

The FACT is, several women came in here and said the exact opposite of what you claimed. Why do you keep denying that?

 

[TheDivineMsM]

I'm not Napoleon short nor Big Bird tall, but even if I were no taller than a fire hydrant, there is NOTHING I would do to make you and that beautiful real-woman's curvy ass of yours feel "manly."

WHERE In the HELL is my drawing???

 

[Guest]

Lets start it out by saying, yes, I'm not very tall. 5'5''

Every time i read a personal ad every single one of them say the same thing. TALL!!!

What is it? I mean do woman have a fear of not being able to reach stuff? I see a ton of guys taller than me that are just flat out ugly. But when responding to a online personal ad they will get more attention because they can proudly state that they are 6'3''. The fact that they look like a sea donkey in person doesn't come up until much later. But me, who is fairly good looking guy won't even get a response because I am under the oh so impervious 5'9''.

What is the story with this woman?

it's just a preference......i've dated men of all sizes, try not to worry about it

 

[Aestuo]

For myself, I like redhaired women. I'll go out of my way to get a better look at redhead as she walks by.

hey, how you doing?

*wanders off slowly*

 

[Le Jacquelope]

Another reason why BlackShanglan and Bronzeage are full of shit:

http://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=25257511&postcount=75

Why yes i do have a checklist!
5'10" or taller

http://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=25262181&postcount=157

That height thing for me is SOoo not negotiable too....

Once again, let's compare this to BlackShanglan and Bronzeage's kook rants:
http://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=24480849&postcount=21

Who told you all this shit?

Women don't care how tall a man is. They really don't care if he is ugly, which is a good thing for most of us.

This is just a variation of the "does size matter" game.

 

[TheDivineMsM]

Interesting topic...
My .02
In all my personal ad's i state must be 5'10 or taller. It is a preference, and i have certainly dated men who were shorter. i also state must love sports too. (i state nothing about money) When dealing in online dating, i have to have a way to weed people out or i will have everyone from 18-80 5ft to 9ft emailing me. And that's just a lot of work.
We all put out there in personal ads what our idea of the "perfect" date is, but we also know, (well the smart ones anyway) that we are all beautifully flawed, and that love could come to you in any shape, size, color or form.

 

[TheDivineMsM]

Another reason why BlackShanglan and Bronzeage are full of shit:

http://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=25257511&postcount=75


http://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=25262181&postcount=157



Once again, let's compare this to BlackShanglan and Bronzeage's kook rants:
http://forum.literotica.com/showpost.php?p=24480849&postcount=21

"Its not negotiable"
I have dated shorter, VERY RARELY but i have.

 

[The Raven]

I like my man to over power me. Everywhere.

 

[Redneck_Cowboy]

I'm 6'3" tall for you gals that like your men tall.

 

[posterOfAgirl]

i'm tall
i like tall men
fuck you all