What is Love?

[JackLuis]

I was reading and found this, which explains, perhaps why Dom-Sub is prevalent, maybe?

From "Is Love An Art?"

Fromm claims that love has been widely misunderstood. According to his interpretation, love “is a relatively rare phenomenon and its place is taken by a number of forms of pseudo-love” (Art, p.65). For instance, the desire to escape aloneness may be expressed in a passive form of submission or dependence, wherein a person seeks an identity through another. Here, the individual renounces their responsibility and sense of self, and attempts to live through the perceived greatness or strength of the other. This mode of unhealthy relatedness may be experienced at a personal, social, national, even religious level. In all cases, the individual looks to another for the answers to the problems of living, and thus attempts to escape the challenges and demands of freedom and responsibility. There is often simultaneously the practice of domination and control on the part of the perceived more powerful partner. Yet the controlling partner is often equally dependent on the submissive other for the fulfilment of their own desire. Fromm interestingly points out that the two modes of living are frequently exercised by the same individual, submissive or dominating in relation to different people.

It might also explain the herd politics of recent days too.

 

[JackLuis]

Save Humanity: Have Sex
Sexual reproduction confers evolutionary benefits

Sex is necessary, Love is optional?

The piece in the op, identified several variations of Love, which weren't sexual. In this fluffy piece we find that Love facilitates a biologically advantageous mixing of genes for advancement of human evolution.

"Hey, Baby, want to advance your evolution?"

"Sorry, but you would be a downgrade, shorty,"

 

[JAMESBJOHNSON]

Love is a process, not a thing or an event.

 

[JackLuis]

Love is a process, not a thing or an event.

Thank you James.

If the act of love is a process, is the emotion just lust? Has our 'civilization' just avoided acknowledging lust and called it love, or is there a someting beyond rutting like animals?

 

[Liar]

Love is the instincts that tells us that it's a good thing for the advancment of the spieces to stick together. At it's most basic, it's how group perseverance transcends self perseverance.

 

[lovecraft68]

Thank you James.

If the act of love is a process, is the emotion just lust? Has our 'civilization' just avoided acknowledging lust and called it love, or is there a someting beyond rutting like animals?

Lust is an emotion that can be had with any woman (or man) that one finds attractive. Love is what makes us want to be with that person for more than just tthe physical act.

You can fuck anyone, but can only love a select few. For the record I do believe in true love and soul mates and also believe that I have been fortunate enough to find mine. However I have been in love previously and feel that you can fall in love more than once in your life.

 

[JackLuis]

The human need for love is rooted in our awareness of our individual separateness and aloneness within the natural and social worlds. This is one of the existential dichotomies which characterize the human condition: “Man is alone and he is related at the same time” (Fromm, Man for Himself, 1947). Many philosophers have addressed this paradoxical aspect of being human, and there has been a general consensus on the essential relationship between well-being, flourishing, even survival, and the experience of loving relationships and friendships. As the Irish poet Brendan Kennelly notes, “the self knows that self is not enough, / the deepest well becomes exhausted” (from Familiar Strangers). The possibility of love exists within an acknowledgement of this insufficiency.

Love is what covers up our loneliness that comes from being trapped in our heads?

 

[Boxlicker101]

"Love" is just a four letter word.