What If He/She Doesn't Sexually Satisfy You?

[juicylips]

Do you tell them?

If you do, how do you go about it?

JL

 

[Liontamr]

I'll be checking out this thread for sure! I'm trying to figure out that myself.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Of course you tell them, show them how if it is possible....

Don't go flat out and say, "You are not any good at licking pussy are you."

More like, "You know if you moved a little higher I would love what you are doing even more."

 

[T.H. Oughts]

I just had a thought:

Sex is like breast feeding a baby.... everyone says it is a natural thing.... but everyone needs some pointers along the way....

 

[MrKinkMaster]

I think "pointers" are ok... but its not always fun being a "teacher" either.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

I think "pointers" are ok... but its not always fun being a "teacher" either.

Yes, I think we get to an age were we don't want to be teachers... the odd pointer is fine... but not for the a to z.......

 

[MechaBlade]

Say, hey "it feels really good if you do that" or "That really doesn't do much for me" or whatever the situation calls for. He/She will understand that you have preferences.

 

[Liontamr]

Problem I'm facing though isn't exactly poor technique. It's that she'd rather not go down on me.. She doesn't even want to attempt it or wants to talk about possibly attempting it.

How exactly does a person - who by the way has never experienced the pleasure - say it would mean the world to him for at least one single trial lick before being told "no not ever"?

 

[MrKinkMaster]

Problem I'm facing though isn't exactly poor technique. It's that she'd rather not go down on me.. She doesn't even want to attempt it or wants to talk about possibly attempting it.

How exactly does a person - who by the way has never experienced the pleasure - say it would mean the world to him for at least one single trial lick before being told "no not ever"?

My ex wife was the same way. We talked about it and she would give me head if I wore a condom. The sensation isn't the same, but its pretty damm close.

 

[juicylips]

Problem I'm facing though isn't exactly poor technique. It's that she'd rather not go down on me.. She doesn't even want to attempt it or wants to talk about possibly attempting it.

How exactly does a person - who by the way has never experienced the pleasure - say it would mean the world to him for at least one single trial lick before being told "no not ever"?

Tell her what you have just posted here. How it would mean the world to you to have her try it. But some women just won't. Could be something in her past or her upbringing that makes it taboo for her. You need to find out if something like that is the reason why. You can't force her if she is totally against the idea.

Talk to her.
JL

 

[RastaPope]

Well, if you're sure there's no chance, either kick her to the curb or get it elsewhere.

And no head is better than indifferent head.

 

[juicylips]

My ex wife was the same way. We talked about it and she would give me head if I wore a condom. The sensation isn't the same, but its pretty damm close.

You have got to be fucking kidding me!!!!

Who the fuck would rather lick a condom than a cock???

OMG!!

JL

 

[MrKinkMaster]

You have got to be fucking kidding me!!!!

Who the fuck would rather lick a condom than a cock???

OMG!!

JL

Like I said EX wife

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Problem I'm facing though isn't exactly poor technique. It's that she'd rather not go down on me..

Try being fresh out of the shower when you suggest.. some people don't like the thought of someone having pee'd out of it.

Cover it in her fav flavoured sauce....

 

[Liontamr]

MrKinkMaster - I suggested that as well with no positive responce I'm afraid. I've suggested condoms, creams, any kind of covering no matter how sticky and hard to remove it may be..

juicylips - Well I haven't put it quite that way to her, but she knows how much it would mean to me (that is the next time we get together.. I should explain this is a LDR I am dealing with) .. Her reasons are that she has a bad gag reflex and that quite frankly me being uncut (deep personal secret revealed lol) leaves her "unsetteled"

I can see what you mean about the upbringing and so on when it comes to the look of my cock, but the gag thing bothers me especialy when she knows she can throw on any taste on top of it and has only to lick with the tip of her tougne to try it.

btw... Sex between us is amazing. I will grant her, she is a tiger when it comes to that!

 

[T.H. Oughts]

Her reasons are that she has a bad gag reflex and that quite frankly me being uncut (deep personal secret revealed lol) leaves her "unsetteled"

Darlin I love giving head and have never been with an un-cut man in my 21 years of sex life.....

Maybe she is trying to put it to far down her throat, a lot of people gag if going to deep....

Try with you sitting upright in a chair with her kneeling infront of you. I know I can deep throat very easy in that position.

 

[Liontamr]

(lol this has quickly become a "how do I get her to give me head" thread)

Thing is, I don't care if she doesn't even take me into her mouth.. Licks and kisses covering me would be a fine start.. And if she didn't want to after trying that, then I'd be more than willing to "drop it" knowing that she gave it a try. Problem is she has no desire at all to want to try no matter what I tell her...

I'd hate to think something that seems somewhat trivial to me may become an issue, but after talking about it this past week and hearing she didn't want to discuss it any more it looks like it will be.

 

[T.H. Oughts]

I'd hate to think something that seems somewhat trivial to me may become an issue, but after talking about it this past week and hearing she didn't want to discuss it any more it looks like it will be.

There are millions of men in the world in your same place... just be thankful maybe that you have a regular woman to give you satisfaction in other sexual areas.... some an't getting "any"

 

[WhiteRose]

Cover it in her fav flavoured sauce....

*instant visions of bbq or soy sauce* hehe

Liontamr, has she ever told you WHY she won't even kiss it or lick it? The gag reflex wouldn't have anything to do with that, so there has to be more to it. Is she worried about hygiene or does she just get squeamish at the thought of putting her mouth "down there"? Does it bother her when you perform oral sex on her? And does she kiss you afterwards? Has she ever tried it with anyone in her past? Could just be some psychological "ew" to her and if you could find out why she feels that way, maybe the two of you could work your way through it. Good luck

 

[freescorfr]

Communicate: the sexual relationship mirrors the communication in the relationship.

 

[juicylips]

Communicate: the sexual relationship mirrors the communication in the relationship.

Some of us don't have your gift for communication, f.


JL

 

[juicylips]

And no head is better than indifferent head.

You really believe that? Cut her off while she is blowing you if you don't like it?

JL