What have you learned on Lit?

[Joe6pack]

What the title says. This is my first thread and I hope it has some staying power. In particular, I am looking for useful posts and threads involving sexual techniques and how to's. I am sure there are a lot of these types of posts, but they are difficult to find. Also, if you have a useful technique you want to add that isn't in a previous post, that too is welcome. I am looking for new things to try with the wife, but this isn't limited to heterosexual sex. I am also hoping that others will find this thread beneficial in the future. I'll start it off with one of the first threads I read on lit:

G-Spot Orgasms

Here's another:

Hair Pulling

Of course, pictures and diagrams are welcome.

 

[nikkifromny]

Good question…

Hi, this post is pretty old, but maybe it's still okay to reply?

My favorite how-to section is here:
http://www.literotica.com/c/adult-how-to

There were two in particular, one for women about learning how to squirt and another one about how to give a blow job. But there's one thing I've learned that doesn't show up in the how-to's.

I came to literotica a few years ago. Up to that point I had only read erotica occasionally. I immediately noticed that the best stories used detailed and specific vocabulary. Hours of reading literotica and my sexual vocabulary has improved.

So now my dirty talk is more specific.
no: I want you to fuck me.
yes: I want to feel your cock inside me and I want you to bang me hard, baby.

Also, the same principle has made me much better at text cybers!

Nikki

 

[Felix_Jones]

I leanred...

That decent writing about sex is rare. Also that people stick to predictable and repetitive patterns when it comes to describing physical acts. I imagine there are only so many ways to describe something going into something else, and I guess that the more disengaged from the actual act a metaphor is the higher the chance for ridiculousness. Either way, this place has confirmed my belief that writing about sex, love, and everything in between is bloody difficult.

 

[Eilan]

This isn't what you want, but:

I've learned that most of the threads on the How To board wouldn't even exist if people would fucking communicate with each other. Not just talking, but listening.

I've also learned that inertia isn't just a scientific concept.

 

[StrayKat]

I mostly learned I dont want any damn cyber stuff apart from a few PMs, "introductions, do we match in some way", "when are we going to have rl coffee and talk".

 

[lovecraft68]

Literotica has taught me two very important and hypocritical things.

It is not rape if you call it non consent (because lit would never allow a rape story)

And it is okay to fuck a unicorn because they are nothing like horses and therefore not bestiality which is supposedly verbotten here.

 

[serpentwrap]

1. If you are a male, do not send PMs to litwomen, period.
2. If you are a female, you can send as many PMs to litmen. Dream on, men
3. Do not try to enter into cliques, aggressively or unobtrusively
4. Post loads of pictures for instant popularity
5. Always listen to Stella for best advice, and bronzeage for sifting the wheat from the chaff
6. Dont start threads with any merit. In all probability it'll never gather steam
7. The best mods are those who do not dole advice out of a assembly line, and as rapid
8. The worst mods tend to get anal in behavior
9. The most intelligent posters wouldn't give a rat's ass to what goes on here
10. Believe less than 10% of what you read here...

I have learnt lots more out here, but these 10 will suffice for now

 

[NippleMuncher]

1. If you are a male, do not send PMs to litwomen, period.

Seriously? You must not know how to interact with the lovely ladies of Lit.

 

[Vixandra]

Seriously? You must not know how to interact with the lovely ladies of Lit.

No, he's got a good point. I personally am not a big fan of random "hey baby lets cyber" PM's.

I have learned more about sexuality and the human experiance with it from Literotica and the research I have done springboarding off of it than just about anywhere else. I get my own sexual views, but being able to understand others' is important to me and I don't think I would know as much without Lit.

Take things with a grain of salt... or gallon of soy sauce, depending on the topic. There is a lot of BS out there but the diamonds in the ruff are worth it.

Having seen how well the bright, intelligent people around the world post here on Lit, I don't respond well to anyone sending me messages in text speak anywhere but my cell phone and often not even then.

I'm pretty sure my writing has improved as well but its also turned toward more untraditional story lines, which is all in good fun.

 

[serpentwrap]

Seriously? You must not know how to interact with the lovely ladies of Lit.

By the way, I have sent only one unsolicted PM so far, and that too quite a decent one.

 

[Scotsman69]

I hope I'm learning how to write better stories.

 

[NippleMuncher]

No, he's got a good point. I personally am not a big fan of random "hey baby lets cyber" PM's.

That was my point. I've initiated PM's with a number of the wonderful women here and have never had a bad experience. And I have to say that it's a two way street, as I've been crassly approached a few times. Who wants that? And just because this is a sex oriented site doesn't mean that the majority of the members are looking for cyber-trolls.

 

[nikkifromny]

OK, so please forgive these newbie questions, but the comments on this thread have made me realize the depth of my ignorance.
1. What's the gender split here in the forum? Is there any way to know if someone is male or female, really?
2. If you're a woman, and you do want a quick cyber, are there dos and don'ts for finding the right person?

Thanks,
Nikki Newbie

 

[CWatson]

What real people do in sex that characters don't. Man, if I had had this thread when I was 20.

 

[ejls]

I hope I'm learning how to write better stories.

Ah, but Scotsman, they don't get much better than yours.

 

[LoveToLurk]

What the title says. This is my first thread and I hope it has some staying power. In particular, I am looking for useful posts and threads involving sexual techniques and how to's. I am sure there are a lot of these types of posts, but they are difficult to find. Also, if you have a useful technique you want to add that isn't in a previous post, that too is welcome. I am looking for new things to try with the wife, but this isn't limited to heterosexual sex. I am also hoping that others will find this thread beneficial in the future. I'll start it off with one of the first threads I read on lit:

G-Spot Orgasms

Here's another:

Hair Pulling

Of course, pictures and diagrams are welcome.

I have learned to be more comfortable expressing what I think of as "naughty" or "taboo" thoughts/interests. It feels pretty affirming to read how many others share common desires and likes.

 

[strapon_tales]

That some people never learned from chatrooms. "A/S/L" is NOT the way to introduce yourself.