What drives some of you to cheat?

[iago84]

Is it the adrenaline? Caught up in the moment? Or is it just because you don't get enough from your significant other?

And for those who have? Did you regret it or did it start a whole new chapter in your life for the better?

 

[iago84]

Fair enough. I'd love to hear how you felt about the whole situation.

 

[Badxxxwifey]

Alcohol and big dicks XD

 

[iago84]

Alcohol and big dicks XD

Oh. Well that's hot and ain't that the truth.

 

[iago84]

If you want to chat about experiences, let me know.

 

[iago84]

For me it's getting high..it's like truth serum to what I really want in the moment

Yes that can be a big factor too lol

 

[iago84]

Mmm yes that too x

Well, we apparently need to hang out then.

 

[magicalmoments]

I've done quite a bit of self analysis of why I was a cheater and quite frankly, what it came down to is: that I was a selfish cunt, pure and simple.

 

[JohnsonLongwood]

A wife who can't and a hard cock.

 

[Easyvirtue]

Definitely the rush and the fact she’s into far more kinky shit that my partner.

 

[Crownvic]

Things at home get stodgy....new toys are nice to play with..

 

[StrongMaster7]

There is an old saying that some men are as faithful as their opportunities.

As I've expressed in other posts, I live in the real world. Lit is a community of folks who are more sex-centric, IMO, than the average in the real world. I'm a decent-looking man in good shape. I have friends of many genders and persuations, ages, and backgrounds. I'm unaware of any women in my world who want to fuck me other than my wife. I know that I could find a woman out there who would, but I haven't run across any real opportunities.

So, being unable to run a controlled experiment, I'm left to wonder what my 'record' would be if, over the years, I'd had a dozen real opportunities. Given the weeks-long droughts in my marital sexlife, if the right opportunity came along at the right time...mix in alcohol...ideal circumstances...it's certainly plausible I might have slipped.

For me it would be all about sex. I'm 100% happy with every other aspect of my marriage. I'm very lucky that way. It's just a sad irony that sex is so important to me and my happiness and is totally unimportant to her except for an urge after a week or more for a few minutes of 'the usual'. And I'm thankful for that.

 

[HampshireBoy]

Being stuck and unable to finish a game of solitaire, oh you didn't mean at cards?

 

[iago84]

There is an old saying that some men are as faithful as their opportunities.

As I've expressed in other posts, I live in the real world. Lit is a community of folks who are more sex-centric, IMO, than the average in the real world. I'm a decent-looking man in good shape. I have friends of many genders and persuations, ages, and backgrounds. I'm unaware of any women in my world who want to fuck me other than my wife. I know that I could find a woman out there who would, but I haven't run across any real opportunities.

So, being unable to run a controlled experiment, I'm left to wonder what my 'record' would be if, over the years, I'd had a dozen real opportunities. Given the weeks-long droughts in my marital sexlife, if the right opportunity came along at the right time...mix in alcohol...ideal circumstances...it's certainly plausible I might have slipped.

For me it would be all about sex. I'm 100% happy with every other aspect of my marriage. I'm very lucky that way. It's just a sad irony that sex is so important to me and my happiness and is totally unimportant to her except for an urge after a week or more for a few minutes of 'the usual'. And I'm thankful for that.

I totally get this. It's not about not caring ir loving my wife, because to me it's just the sex that I need.

 

[GuySLut]

My wife and I have been sharing each other right after we met. We don’t need to cheat. If she or I find someone to play with we tell each other.
We have known other couples who haven’t handled their relationships well and they ended terribly.
We have met many who do cheat on their significant others and seem to need the thrill.
It’s a complicated world .

 

[sixfoot4]

Lust

 

[Afterhours22]

Lack of intimacy in the relationship and I'm not just talking sex either.

 

[RachelWalsh]

Alcohol and big dicks XD

I feel you girl. Lol

 

[LexiSmiles92]

ummmmmmm combination of things ... for me. For one it was kinda that the fulfillment of a longtime desire/fantasy was right in front of me and of the same mind. It lasted less than a month but was acted upon almost daily until the guilt overcame me and I confessed. It led us to a different way to define our marriage. But overall, the hurt in that moment that I caused wasn't worth the sex -- regardless of how amazing it was. I'll never forget the tangible pain that could be felt in the room when I confessed or in the eyes of the one I love most. I'll never forget it. But as I said -- it brought changes to "us" that we would have never otherwise made and to something that "fits" us better. I wish I had been braver before it started.

My two cents

 

[JulieAnn42]

A combination of circumstances, including being away from my husband for a few days at a seminar. Then just giving in to lust.

 

[twister947]

My dick.

 

[Islander55]

A combination of circumstances, including being away from my husband for a few days at a seminar. Then just giving in to lust.

Exactly. I never set out to cheat but when the stars align, I found it hard to say no. For me a seminar in Boston was one of those occasions.

 

[lc69hunter]

Is it the adrenaline? Caught up in the moment? Or is it just because you don't get enough from your significant other?

And for those who have? Did you regret it or did it start a whole new chapter in your life for the better?

In my long life (73 years old), I have slept with almost as many married women as I have single women (not quite, but fairly close). The reasons are as varied as you can imagine. The easiest one? Opportunity. Out of town at a conference or business trip, a one-off, no harm no foul. In these, she also has the tacit thrill that she is cuckolding hubby. The others? Revenge, missing something in the relationship, things of that nature. The most common? Needing an itch scratched discretely that hubby is not scratching. They love their husband and their family and feel that this has nothing to do with them. Neither you, not she, have any desire to embarrass or humiliate the husband. This is why being discrete in your dealings is so important. At one point, I was servicing three wives in that scenario, at the same time. I have never judged a woman who does it for the right reasons.

 

[artgorden]

Alcohol and big dicks XD

And my wife an myself cheat for the same reason.

 

[magicalmoments]

But something that people who fantasize about “sharing,” hotwife, etc… should consider before starting… is that once she starts, you may not be able to stop her. What begins as a little fantasy fulfillment can quickly become a way of life.

This is very true. I've spoken to dozens of wives over the years, who started taking sex partners outside marriage after years of encouragement from their husbands who had a cuckold fetish, who having started having new partners found they loved it and regretted resisting their husbands wishes for so long.