What do you wish for your EX???

[koalabear]

Slow death, by being pulled apart by camels, tied to an ant hill? Or are you like me and got along fine with the ex. All I know it hurts to stand by her bedside after 2 surgeries for an anurism. Her still thinking we are married, not remembering she has a son and unable to open her eyes or move her left side. Me being the asshole I am, it shouldn't bother me. But it does, especially when you have to tell your son she is fine, He is not allowed to see her yet, too young and he doesn't understand that one bit. Be careful what you wish for your Ex, you may get it and it is very hard to explain to a child. Just rambling.......TY

 

[thumbs2_ca]

I used to be bitter but not any more.
I hope she finds happiness and gets help for her problems. She wouldn't when I was married to her.

 

[Chuckus]

Well as much as I hate her for what she did to me, I hold no ill feelings towards my ex-wife. Sure it used to bug me and bother me, but in my heart of hearts, I do care for her as a human being. After all we were together for quite a period of time and shared many happy memories together. Sure she burned me and I felt the flame hot on my ass............but I do and will always care about her, just not ever like I used to once upon a moon ago. Those days are long gone.............many years ago I let it go and just simply let it be. I do not, to this day, like what happened but I cannot change it. I learned from it and grew from it and moved on.


..........as for my ex. To make a long story short, her parents called me..........said she was on the OR Table dying. Massive Liver failure. I got to the hospital in Charleston SC and a miracle happened, at the last minute a Liver became available. I showed up and did the right thing...........even my ex was said to have asked for me before the "drugs" kicked in and wanted to see me........she pulled thru and is alive today and doing well. On my part there was no choice in the matter, I did what my heart told me to do, without flinching. Sure it was "weird" and "awkward" but it was the right thing.

Koala, been there to an extent............felt that. My heart goes out to you.

 

[lilminx]

It depends on which ex you're talking about- I have never been married, but I do have many people that I've dated. There is only one person I've dated where things have ended on a bad note (due to his inability to cope with not being wanted), and I really don't wish anything for him. I don't care one way or the other...

 

[Shylady]

((((Bear))))) Sorry it has been so rough for you.

My thoughts and prayers are with you.

 

[GuyJD]

My ex-wife used to enjoy putting me down but it always pissed her off when it would never affect me. It burned her ass for me to "think for myself" and make a great decision. It seemed that she hated that I hardly took her out but everytime I would, she'll find something to pick a fight about (in public). So why anger her anymore than she is?

I only hope that she finds the kind of guy that she's looking for and one who will make her happy. I wish her good health and happiness in her future.

 

[freakygirl]

i have a few "ex boyfriends".. but none of them were important enough to worry about now (mainly high school relationships).. i have 1 ex husband.. and as i've said before. He his my best friend in the whole world. Better friends than lovers we have always said. I wish him NOTHING but happiness in his life. Now.. the ex boyfriend that is also the father of one of my kids, hmmm well let's see. I think he got what he had coming to him, without me wishing it on him. After i broke up with him, i started dating his step brother, whom i'm married to now. And no, holidays at the family house are not uncomfortable (atleast not for me). I actually get a kick out of "Dave" (not his real name) and the way he acts.

 

[shyybabe]

I wish I had the number for the FBI hotline to report a sighting of Ben Ladin at his house, but no that would be too swift and painless.

A more appropriate wish would be to have inflicted on him the tortures he has inflicted on others, but triple. Adults can understand what is being done to them but children cannot.

But enough bitterness for tonight. I could continue on this subject far too long.

 

[Debbie]

Koalabear you are a kind person for standing by your ex in her time of need. *hug* Take care of yourself and your little boy.

My ex was a mean person, physically and emotionally violent. he did not even stop the beatings when I was pregnant with our first son, I just learnt to work harder, keep quiet and stay out of trouble.
When I finally found the strength to leave him I didn't hate him. Hate, IMHO is something that eats away at you and serves no purpose. I felt sorry for him. He has no idea what love is. He was raised by a vicious, cold man who taught his son that women were lowly creatures to be mistreated and cruelly dominated.

At the worst times, after we split up and he was stalking me, (we do not have stalking laws here) and calling me all hours of the night I have to be honest and say that there were things I wanted to do to him.

1. Collect as many cockraoches as I could and toss them in the open window of his flat while he was sleeping (he hates cockroaches but hey the poor little bugs didn't deserve to be punished )

2. Superglue all the key locks in his car

3. Completely dismantle his car into teeency weeency bits. not damage it, just pull it apart so that it would take forever to put back together.


But I never did these things. I'm not a goody two shoes but i didn't want to be like him. Unkind and hurtful.

 

[Domcop]

depends on which ex we are talking about here- lol
for my ex-fiance- i would wish her the best that life could bring to her and her new family. she is a great person and deserves nothing but the best.
for my most recent ex- i would wish that she would lose all control of her rectal muscles and her ablity to prohibit gasses and/or other sustances from exiting- especially at the most inopportune times lol.
as you can see i think xxxtremely highly of her as a fellow human being.

 

[Shelby]

I wish my ex nothing but the best. I fell in love with him when I was 14, I've loved him all my life. We just couldn't be married. By the time I was 22 there was nothing left. But I do love him. And wish him everything he need and wants. It just wasn't what I had to offer.

 

[RisiaSkye]

My two-time ex boyfriend was the best man at my wedding. Does that tell you enough?

Honestly, I wish them all nothing but happiness. We were kids, and past mistakes are just that--the past.

 

[MissTaken]

As we have children,

I hope that he finds self respect and a little zoloft. I wish him happiness

I also need the NRA to go down in flames and his right to bare arms completely rescinded. (However, in general terms, I would never support such legal action)

Ah, well.....In light of the fact that the second won't be the case, I will hope for his happiness so as to ensure that we all remain happy.

IN truth, we are far better apart than together and I hold no ill will.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

Maybe a little story would illustrate; when my ex's family disowned her because she had a black boyfriend, and she was thinking of marrying him, I offered to give her away at the wedding.

She didn't marry him (he turned out to be a total flake), and she has her problems and is screwed up, but none of that is really her fault. I have no ill will towards her. Her father on the other hand; a number of people will be dancing on his grave after he dies - and I will be one of them.

 

[celiaKitten]

No ill feelings toward my ex ... just for his own sake, I hope he figures out that variety is the spice of life - at least when it comes to sex. I mean - really - there's only so many times in a row that missionary is exciting ....

 

[pabloback]

tomost of my exes , health wealth and eternal happiness
to that one bitch i bequeath
rabies

 

[JazzManJim]

Oh yeah..the ex...

Lets see..my ex. The one woman I loved more than my own life and for whom I would have given everything just to be with her. The woman in whom I pinned my future, and believed in with everything I was. The only woman I've ever loved, and the only woman who I've ever thought could make me happy forever.

Of course, she's now the ex. The woman who stood me up three times at the verge of marriage. The woman who couldn't stand to be around me because she believed that my very existence was a physical threat to her. The woman who wishes openly that she could replace me with her now-boyfriend. The woman who barely says two words to me, but never hesitates to insult me harshly when she believes no one is around friendly to me. The woman who said that our time together was nothign but pain and suffering for her. That ex.

Honestly, I feel nothing for her one way or the other. The only reason she exists to me at all is because I visit my children, and have to see her. If it weren't for that, I would barely remember that she exists.

It's funny how something as strong and fervent as the love I have for her can be turned off so completely and irrevocably.

 

[teresafannin]

My first husband was killed in a car accident a few years after our divorce. I will always have a very special place in my heart for him & had he lived, we probably would have gotten back together. We were just too young the first time around. My second husband & I had a very bitter divorce, but he came through for me when it really counted. The night my son was killed, my ex is the one who dealt with the police department, the medical examiner & identifed my son, so I wouldn't have to see him. He wanted my last memory of my son alive to be a happy one & I will always be grateful that he spared me that pain, I know it was the hardest thing he will ever do. I wish him nothing but happiness, he is a good man, just not the right one for me.

 

[Gilly Bean]

Most of my ex's are people I would not mind being friends with now. Except one. He played so many head games, lied about everything, was slimy, greasy, and gross. He practically stalked me for weeks after we broke up, until I threated him with a restraining order. I wish he would fall off the face of earth, and I would never have to see him ever again. Luckily, it has been years since I have.

 

[*bratcat*]

 

[Elizabeth]

Well, I have 2 sons with my ex. He is a pathetic excuse for a parent. That being said, I don't have to wish for horrible things to happen any more. He is slowly drinking himself to death. I still can't forgive him for the amount of pain he caused my children. So, I hope it hurts. Bad.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

I also need the NRA to go down in flames and his right to bare arms completely rescinded. (However, in general terms, I would never support such legal action)

Hey! I am the NRA, Moses is my Prez, and all that jazz!

 

[LRC]

((((((((BIG WARM HUGGGGGGGGGGG))))))))))

She is very lucky to have someone like you...................



and



me too.



Hug the cub.

 

[MissTaken]

Recanting......my no ill will statement

I just got off the phone with the jerk and well,

~all bets are off!

Retribution could be wonderful!

 

[Isolde]

Well, since I have two of them....lets see...

The first walked out and left me with two small children to support on my own and quit the military because I was taking legal steps through JAG to have him send me some money to help support his kids....something he never did. Then, when I got the divorce a few years later wouldnt do it until Office of Recovery took him on and took it out of his check.

Not to mention made a million excuses not to see his son and daughter...well, I dont have to wish him ill will. He has finally found out what he has missed by being away from his kids. He is married again and has two more and recently has been bending over backwards for both the kids and I. He even complimented me on how I looked the last time I saw him....talk about shock!


My second one....the manipulator...the emotional parasite....the abusive asshole...the guy who went home to mommy and started spreading lies so that he didnt look like the bad guy....

Well, I believe he will get what is coming to him also. I still have to get the divorce together but I am doing that. He will never see his kids unsupervised and he will never make the effort to get to them..(he is in another state now)....so he has lost his kids. To me that is the worst thing in the world. If nothing else, the kids are the only things that justify both marriages.

I have four..two girls and two boys and they are my treasure. Even if the idiots are gone they left me something that cannot be replaced in this or any other lifetime. For that I cannot thank them enough.

As for the other stuff....they will sow what they reap....it just takes time....