What do you think of taking children to a psychologist?

[*bratcat*]

 

[Guest]

Join Scientology.

 

[CoolidgEffect]

So it may cost us close to $500 for the appointment...I think it is worth it. We found that this psychologist helped us immensely when we were dealing with the abuse of our two oldest by their birthparents.

I think you already have an answer to your question.

 

[Anne Waters]

My oldest had some serious trouble adjusting to 1st grade, developed a compulsive hand washing thing. We went about half a dozen times and it helped. It shouldn't be a big deal.

 

[miles]

Do it, cat.

 

[Purrde Flower]

If you have had positive results from this person and they aren't a load of BS then it might be good for them to go. But for children it might take quite a while for them to open up. Or do you just want her to explain it to them or something?

 

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[Calamity Jane]

I think it could help a great deal, especially if they're comfortable talking to her. They may not feel they can really unload on you, because you're too close to the situation. Just don't limit the psychologist to discussing death and grief. Leave it open for the kids to discuss anything at all, issues at school, issues at home, whatever. There may be a whole lot going on inside those heads that you don't have a clue about, just because they're kids, and they don't know how to express things.

 

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[RhumbRunner13]

I think it could help a great deal, especially if they're comfortable talking to her. They may not feel they can really unload on you, because you're too close to the situation. Just don't limit the psychologist to discussing death and grief. Leave it open for the kids to discuss anything at all, issues at school, issues at home, whatever. There may be a whole lot going on inside those heads that you don't have a clue about, just because they're kids, and they don't know how to express things.

PCG's thoughts go along with mine Cat. It sounds, birth parents et al, that the issues may be more than they seem. Could you do family counciling as well?

Rhumb

 

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[Guest]

Child psychology can do wonders. Play therapy, alone, has been proven to do wonders for children.

 

[Bob_Bytchin]

To go or not to go?

Well, in the past year, my oldest daughter has had some very serious issues. Her self-esteem just bottomed out, she became violent towards her siblings, she became totally disrescpectful, she became suicidal, and became just way too much for my wife and I to handle.

We took her to a Psychiatric Center, and they diagnosed her as severe bi-polar. They put her on 3 or 4 medications to help her, but the meds just seemed to aggravate her condition. On a return trip, she saw a different doctor, who diagnosed her as having severe depression. She was put on different meds, and seemed to get worse.

Finally, we admitted her to a long-term facility, and after some standard tests, they found out that she has a mild brain-seizure disorder. It's not life threatening, or disabling, and can be managed with the right meds. Now she is doing a whole lot better, but this all could have been avoided if the first two psychiatrists weren't so quick to jump the gun.

Initial visits should be free...that would allow you to find the right psychiatrist for you.

Good luck.

 

[bored1]

Do what you have to do to make your children well. If seeing a psychologist helps your children, then by all means do it.

 

[Guest]

My four kids are going through some extremely stressful times right now seeing as how their favourite uncle is dying of brain cancer - he was just operated on last Tuesday for his third brain primary and is partially paralyzed on his right side now because of the close proximity of the surgery to the brain stem. My 11 yr old is acting out at school in extremely negative disrepectul ways. My 8 yr old is whiny and pouty half the time. My older two are just sad and act out in sarcastic negative ways, as well.

I have made an appointment with the psychologist who has helped us through so many other family problems. I wish she wasn't our psychologist so that I could invite her over for dinner...she is that close to us. We have an open-ended appointment at the end of the day where she will talk to all of us...as a group and individually...for as long as we need.

So it may cost us close to $500 for the appointment...I think it is worth it. We found that this psychologist helped us immensely when we were dealing with the abuse of our two oldest by their birthparents. What do you think? Do you think this may help...or do you have any other options for me to look at?

Man...whats wrong with yer family. Everyone seems to be dying these days.

Dont let the children go to pshychologists

you are bring lazy

these pschycolo9gist dont know anything

it is up to you to fulfil yer role as a parent and give them shelter

Use your wisdom

if they see you can handle it and you are strong...they will become strong also...

dont look for the easy fix ok

btw real yayati here cant be bothered to log in

 

[Debbie]

Re: Re: What do you think of taking children to a psychologist?

Man...whats wrong with yer family. Everyone seems to be dying these days.

Dont let the children go to pshychologists

you are bring lazy

these pschycolo9gist dont know anything

it is up to you to fulfil yer role as a parent and give them shelter

Use your wisdom

if they see you can handle it and you are strong...they will become strong also...

dont look for the easy fix ok

btw real yayati here cant be bothered to log in

If that really is you yayati? Bugger off.


*Bratcat* My kids are 13 and 9. When bigrednz's Mum was in hospital the nurses told us to prepare the kids that she probably wasn't going to make it. Even before I started talking to them they were very arguementative, picking fights with each other, hanging back when we visited, looking very uncomfortable and making excuses to go to the car, the vending machine, the patients lounge. Not wanting to go to school etc.

I found a very interesting link that might help.

http://www.hospicenet.org/html/talking.html

Also I got a book from the library for my 9 year old to read that was about a child losing a family member. It was aimed at his age group and we read it together and he wandered off and came back and started talking about the boy in the book and how he might have felt. I just listened, I knew he was expressing his feelings and that it could help.

These links might help too.
http://www.womenspace.ca/canadiankidsbooks/index.html
http://www.womenspace.ca/canadiankidsbooks/grief.html

We were very lucky bigrednz's Mum surprised the doctors and pulled through but it was a very stressful time for them. It is hard enough being an adult and coping with the loss of a loved one. Children are amazing though. If you can help them in anyway through this then yes the psychologist would be helpful.

The nurses at the hospital may have some good ideas too or contacts. One nurse gave me the phone number of a local community group called Coping with Grief that offered free counselling and support to those who had terminal family members.

Good luck.

 

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[Lancecastor]

I went through the same thing with my kids after my father's recent death, BC.

$500. is a lot of cash for something you all have to go through anyway.

Hate to say it...Yayati could be right.

Spend $50. on a few books and the other 450 on stuff with the kids....go places the Uncle likes/liked to go, etc.

Funeral homes have free literature on the grieving process for people of all ages, too.

Sorry to hear about your uncle's pain.


Lance

 

[miles]

Pseudo-yoyotwat and Lancecastor - :

I'll keep my eyes open for IQ transplants for you two idiots.

 

[Georgia Girl]

If you uncle is utilizing hospice care at this point, here, grief counseling is a portion of what is included in their fee. That counseling is for the entire family.

Granted that is here, it could be different there but it is something to check into.

Dawn

PS......best wishes to all of you, I hope his passing will be gentle.

 

[teresafannin]

I think in some instances, seeing a professional can be very helpful. My sister & her daughters saw a therapist together for about a year after my son was murdered. My niece was only 7 at the time & my sister was having a very hard time dealing with her own grief. It was really good for both of them. My niece is now 10 & she loves to hear stories about Justin. The therapist was able to explain that her mom's tears were healthy & that crying is a part of missing someone. It made the first year much easier for them both. Good luck to you all, I was 10 when my favorite uncle was killed by a drunk driver & it took a long time for me to be able to deal with it.

 

[Sillyman]

Generally I don't believe in taking kids to a psychologist unless they are exhibiting dangerous or destructive abberant behavior. Still, if you think it's best for them, that is your perogative.