What do you think love is?

[bad kitty]

I see far too many married women thinking that love is warm fuzzies all the time. That you are so in love that you melt everytime you see your partner/ lover/ or spouse. When a woman realizes that they don't feel specialness when they look at the SO then they think it is over. Personally I don't think that you ever can maintain the warm fuzzies. I have heard many people say they love someone but they are no longer in love with them. What exactly does that mean? If love is still there it can be all worked out. It is when you don't have love there that you realize how lucky these people are even though they don't see it. I think they give up too easily. What do you think?

 

[Jim_Henson]

Your face.

Its the way your body reacts to being without em.. love is an addictive substance.

 

[bad kitty]

Oh Cheffie. You are a muppet after my very heart.

 

[Calamity Jane]

I see far too many married women thinking that love is warm fuzzies all the time. That you are so in love that you melt everytime you see your partner/ lover/ or spouse. When a woman realizes that they don't feel specialness when they look at the SO then they think it is over. Personally I don't think that you ever can maintain the warm fuzzies. I have heard many people say they love someone but they are no longer in love with them. What exactly does that mean? If love is still there it can be all worked out. It is when you don't have love there that you realize how lucky these people are even though they don't see it. I think they give up too easily. What do you think?

I don't think love is about warm fuzzies... but I disagree that if you love someone, you can work everything out.

And there's a Danger in Loving somebody too much
And it's sad when you know its your heart they can't touch.
There's a reason why people don't stay who they are
Cause baby sometimes love just ain't enough.
Baby sometimes love just ain't enough.

Love doesn't conquer all. Sometimes, it just makes life more difficult.

 

[brevdravis]

Love is affection of course. Love is all those little things that make up a relationship. Love is knowing someone as well as yourself. Love is feeling "wrong" when you wake up in a bed alone.

It's all those things and a lot more. It isn't exclusive to one person in your life, at least for me....

Love is whatever you want it to be. I personally see it this way, others may see it differently.

Stuart

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Love isn't anything I understand or know about...but I know that passion is only a small part of it.

 

[ithaqua]

Love.

Love is a raging burning fire that eats you up inside and then somehow you have to learn to live with the empty shell.

 

[peachykeen]

Re: Love.

Love is a raging burning fire that eats you up inside and then somehow you have to learn to live with the empty shell.

You are a rock, you are an island...

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Re: Love.

Love is a raging burning fire that eats you up inside and then somehow you have to learn to live with the empty shell.

That's what i don't agree with. The 'raging fire' stuff is nice, but it is also fleeting. I look for a cozy feeling, and a deep friendship on which to build love.

 

[ithaqua]

Re: Re: Love.

REM Losing my Religion

Oh no I've said too much
I haven't said enough

Hi Peachy

You are a rock, you are an island...

 

[ithaqua]

Re: Re: Love.

Well, if you don't have the raging fire, then all that is left is the cold empty shell.

I was really looking for an up side here.

That's what i don't agree with. The 'raging fire' stuff is nice, but it is also fleeting. I look for a cozy feeling, and a deep friendship on which to build love.

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Re: Re: Re: Love.

Well, if you don't have the raging fire, then all that is left is the cold empty shell.

I was really looking for an up side here.

Well, to take your metaphor way past it's usefulness...

If you conserve the firewood, you can keep things warm for alot longer than if you burn it all at once...also, there's less property damage!

 

[TheOlderGuy]

love

may indeed be
something quite different
to different people

each relationship i was in
prior to the current one
we loved each other
and i think it was sincerely

but it meant something totally different
to me
than it did to her
and so in the end it failed
and nobody was really to blame
altho, blame always finds it's way in there

now i am with someone
who truly understands me
loves me
accepts me
is on my side totally
is a real partner in this crazy life

and i do the same for her

 

[bad kitty]

I can see the raging fire in the beginnning and occasionally renewed, but I don't see it continually that way. I am afraid too many people think that is how is is supposed to be and if the fire ever dies down to coals that all is lost. I have never known anyone in my life to maintain a raging fire.

 

[brevdravis]

Every relationship I've ever been in has been passionate. The "Fire" is great, but the relationship usually steadies down to a nice steady blue flame.

Nice, and hot, and constantly fun.

Stuart

 

[ARaynes]

Love is a many of things....and just because you love someone doesn't mean you are in love with them. I love my friends, (well some) but I am not in love with them.

As far as love goes, I think love is a feeling that is over all the greatest. I don't think it is the warm fuzzies, I just know that when I wake up and feel repulsed by the man next to me, it isn't love. Love isn't controling or bitter. Love is a feeling where you want the best for the person next to you.

I believe you can love more than one, because I have.

 

[ithaqua]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Love.

If love is a warm fuzzy fealing, then those are a dime a dozen. If you cheepen love to the level of friendship, then what is the distinction?

Well, to take your metaphor way past it's usefulness...

If you conserve the firewood, you can keep things warm for alot longer than if you burn it all at once...also, there's less property damage!

 

[Johnny Mayberry]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Love.

If love is a warm fuzzy fealing, then those are a dime a dozen. If you cheepen love to the level of friendship, then what is the distinction?

I'm not trying to cheapen it at all...but I prefer depth, and a strong foundation, over having something that is very 'hot and heavy', based more on lust and infatuation than anything else.


And what's so bad about friendship, anyways?

 

[Unregisstered]

I don't think it is the warm fuzzies, I just know that when I wake up and feel repulsed by the man next to me, it isn't love. Love isn't controling or bitter. Love is a feeling where you want the best for the person next to you.

I believe you can love more than one, because I have.

I so know what you mean. I have felt repulsed and totally turned off by my husband. We are actually on the way to improvement I think. He doesn't repulse me any more.

 

[bad kitty]

Every relationship I've ever been in has been passionate. The "Fire" is great, but the relationship usually steadies down to a nice steady blue flame.

Nice, and hot, and constantly fun.

Stuart

That would be a dream come true. May I be so nosey as to inquire how long these blue flame relationships lasted?

 

[huskie]

it's admiration and respect

 

[peachykeen]

I think the problem here is everyone thinks love is a feeling.

 

[brevdravis]

I'm in my second year of my marriage. Our relationship is very strong still, sexually exciting, and all around fun. Before that, my dating relationships generally lasted about six to seven months.

Stuart

 

[ithaqua]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Re: Love.

And what's so bad about friendship, anyways?

Nothing, but those I have, and enjoy, and leave with no emotional scarring.

Translation: Not Love.

 

[ithaqua]

I am all ears, what else is it?

I think the problem here is everyone thinks love is a feeling.