What Are You Thinking? Continued 5

[LikeableMe]

Someone gave me some good advice today. She told me not to let work have control of my emotions. She said that if they get in your head and bother you, they’re winning, and not to allow them to have that kind of power. I have decided to submit a complaint. Hopefully that will put an end to it!

Too much of our time is spent at work, to allow them to bully and ridicule us.

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

Someone gave me some good advice today. She told me not to let work have control of my emotions. She said that if they get in your head and bother you, they’re winning, and not to allow them to have that kind of power. I have decided to submit a complaint. Hopefully that will put an end to it!

Too much of our time is spent at work, to allow them to bully and ridicule us.

A while back I took a job that was in some ways a 'dream job' for me. After 16 years in the private security industry, I became an operations manager for a local branch of the security company I was working for at the time. I had decent money and a nice bog private office, huge desk. I also had more responsibility than I'd ever had before and absolutely NO personal time.

Like you, I could barely find time to sleep. I would open the office, work there all day, then go home and get called out to work a post somewhere for however many hours and have to go open up the office the next morning.

All this so that the Branch Manager could drive around playing salesman with clients, having long lunches and golfing. When I brought up how I was doing his job too, he'd just say I was being groomed to take his place.

Now bear in mind, this was good money to ME, but still far less than most Op mangers make anywhere else. I was having panic attacks while driving to places I'd never been, all over my state, trying to do like three jobs at once.

It started taking a tole on my health. So I made a decision and after just a couple of months in that job, I left it. I went to work for a company doing tech support from home. Thats where I am now.

Now I don't know what your situation is, but I discovered that sometimes less money and status is worth it, as long as there is less STRESS.

Just my two cents.

 

[LikeableMe]

A while back I took a job that was in some ways a 'dream job' for me. After 16 years in the private security industry, I became an operations manager for a local branch of the security company I was working for at the time. I had decent money and a nice bog private office, huge desk. I also had more responsibility than I'd ever had before and absolutely NO personal time.

Like you, I could barely find time to sleep. I would open the office, work there all day, then go home and get called out to work a post somewhere for however many hours and have to go open up the office the next morning.

All this so that the Branch Manager could drive around playing salesman with clients, having long lunches and golfing. When I brought up how I was doing his job too, he'd just say I was being groomed to take his place.

Now bear in mind, this was good money to ME, but still far less than most Op mangers make anywhere else. I was having panic attacks while driving to places I'd never been, all over my state, trying to do like three jobs at once.

It started taking a tole on my health. So I made a decision and after just a couple of months in that job, I left it. I went to work for a company doing tech support from home. Thats where I am now.

Now I don't know what your situation is, but I discovered that sometimes less money and status is worth it, as long as there is less STRESS.

Just my two cents.

What you have said has just mirrored some of my situation so much more than you can imagine! My job prior to this was one I was passionate about, but they kept messing me around by promoting me without pay/contract, then demoting me and promoting me whenever they wanted my skill set. I got fed up and left for this job. This one pays better, but like you - I’m not paid what others in the role are getting. I am responsible for the running of three fast paced departments (but the last job was even faster paced, so my calm during busy periods surprises them)

So with that in mind, in the last two months, I’ve been physically and verbally assaulted on multiple occasions. Two of the incidents became police matters, with me having to give statements. In one incident, the perpetrators found out where I live - well, the street anyway, so I’m trying to dodge them seeing which building I go into. I’ve been so stressed by these things and the lack of support when they happen, that I’ve been having breathing difficulties and chest pains. I got so anxious after one of the physical attacks that I felt that there was a rock in my throat, and I temporarily lost the ability to speak!

To add insult to injury, I’ve been doing the job without a contract all this time - and I found out today that they’ve given the contract to someone else, and I’m expected to continue in the job anyway. The very reason I left the job I was passionate about. I agree with you wholeheartedly that sacrificing your health for a job isn’t worth it, but part of me worries about starting somewhere new when my health is suffering. At this point of my life, I just want a work-life balance. I haven’t even been able to stay in touch with friends since taking this job. I don’t think a job should be all-consuming!

Thank you for your reply, it was really helpful to have someone understand the situation!

 

[Deleted member 1306910]

What you have said has just mirrored some of my situation so much more than you can imagine! My job prior to this was one I was passionate about, but they kept messing me around by promoting me without pay/contract, then demoting me and promoting me whenever they wanted my skill set. I got fed up and left for this job. This one pays better, but like you - I’m not paid what others in the role are getting. I am responsible for the running of three fast paced departments (but the last job was even faster paced, so my calm during busy periods surprises them)

So with that in mind, in the last two months, I’ve been physically and verbally assaulted on multiple occasions. Two of the incidents became police matters, with me having to give statements. In one incident, the perpetrators found out where I live - well, the street anyway, so I’m trying to dodge them seeing which building I go into. I’ve been so stressed by these things and the lack of support when they happen, that I’ve been having breathing difficulties and chest pains. I got so anxious after one of the physical attacks that I felt that there was a rock in my throat, and I temporarily lost the ability to speak!

To add insult to injury, I’ve been doing the job without a contract all this time - and I found out today that they’ve given the contract to someone else, and I’m expected to continue in the job anyway. The very reason I left the job I was passionate about. I agree with you wholeheartedly that sacrificing your health for a job isn’t worth it, but part of me worries about starting somewhere new when my health is suffering. At this point of my life, I just want a work-life balance. I haven’t even been able to stay in touch with friends since taking this job. I don’t think a job should be all-consuming!

Thank you for your reply, it was really helpful to have someone understand the situation!

You are most welcome dear. I think a lot more people understand this than you think. Unfortunately. I was lucky in that my new job started the day after my last two weeks started. I have to say that there a lot of things to recommend working from home. Its not always easy, but it is better than that other shit!

 

[SassySheDevil]

Are you back because Fara and Chris have departed or coincidental?

I was "back" before they departed. You may check my posting history if you like.

 

[Sh75]

Definitely not sunshine, that's for sure

 

[LikeableMe]

Finally fell asleep for two hours it’s almost lunch time now, and I’m behind, but yay - sleep.

 

[Sexybritches69]

I may need some help today. Hopefully admin will step up.

 

[PrettyLilPussy19]

Waking up with a headache is the rudest thing your body can do to you....

 

[parker77]

14 more minutes buddy and I’m shutting that game off.

but mom, it’s the week before Christmas and we aren’t doing anything at school tomorrow!

 

[beachbaby179]

I hear plows outside. Yuck.

 

[parker77]

Waking up with a headache is the rudest thing your body can do to you....

poor thing, but that ain't even close to rudest.

 

[PattiJolene]

One more day....

 

[fsa52]

So glad this is my last day of work!!

 

[F3x0r]

Thursday is a slow slow day

 

[TTawhere]

A while back I took a job that was in some ways a 'dream job' for me. After 16 years in the private security industry, I became an operations manager for a local branch of the security company I was working for at the time. I had decent money and a nice bog private office, huge desk. I also had more responsibility than I'd ever had before and absolutely NO personal time.

Like you, I could barely find time to sleep. I would open the office, work there all day, then go home and get called out to work a post somewhere for however many hours and have to go open up the office the next morning.

All this so that the Branch Manager could drive around playing salesman with clients, having long lunches and golfing. When I brought up how I was doing his job too, he'd just say I was being groomed to take his place.

Now bear in mind, this was good money to ME, but still far less than most Op mangers make anywhere else. I was having panic attacks while driving to places I'd never been, all over my state, trying to do like three jobs at once.

It started taking a tole on my health. So I made a decision and after just a couple of months in that job, I left it. I went to work for a company doing tech support from home. Thats where I am now.

Now I don't know what your situation is, but I discovered that sometimes less money and status is worth it, as long as there is less STRESS.

Just my two cents.

What you have said has just mirrored some of my situation so much more than you can imagine! My job prior to this was one I was passionate about, but they kept messing me around by promoting me without pay/contract, then demoting me and promoting me whenever they wanted my skill set. I got fed up and left for this job. This one pays better, but like you - I’m not paid what others in the role are getting. I am responsible for the running of three fast paced departments (but the last job was even faster paced, so my calm during busy periods surprises them)

So with that in mind, in the last two months, I’ve been physically and verbally assaulted on multiple occasions. Two of the incidents became police matters, with me having to give statements. In one incident, the perpetrators found out where I live - well, the street anyway, so I’m trying to dodge them seeing which building I go into. I’ve been so stressed by these things and the lack of support when they happen, that I’ve been having breathing difficulties and chest pains. I got so anxious after one of the physical attacks that I felt that there was a rock in my throat, and I temporarily lost the ability to speak!

To add insult to injury, I’ve been doing the job without a contract all this time - and I found out today that they’ve given the contract to someone else, and I’m expected to continue in the job anyway. The very reason I left the job I was passionate about. I agree with you wholeheartedly that sacrificing your health for a job isn’t worth it, but part of me worries about starting somewhere new when my health is suffering. At this point of my life, I just want a work-life balance. I haven’t even been able to stay in touch with friends since taking this job. I don’t think a job should be all-consuming!

Thank you for your reply, it was really helpful to have someone understand the situation!

I've been in that situation as well. I worked at a job that I loved with people that were great to work with. While the company president could be a nice guy, he could also be a manipulative jerk. Two employees had nervous breakdowns in the relatively short time that I worked for the company.

I became disillusioned when he did some rather underhanded financial things with regard to a customer that were designed to line his pockets. We wound up losing that customer as a result. He also was cooking the books with the sales director to change the way order bookings happened to maximize the payout the company made in commissions for the sales.

Ultimately, he and I had a falling out over something that had nothing to do with work - a fundraiser for a local non-profit where he didn't do the things he needed to. The co-ordinator for the non-profit took the event away from my boss without telling him and put it in the hands of another businessman. My boss blamed me for his shortcomings and abused me verbally in front of other staff about it at work, but it was his own fault.

After weeks of stress and sleepless nights over the whole deal, I decided that my health wasn't worth it and gave my notice, telling HR that I would stay to train my replacement - which I did. I left without another job and it took me a few months to find a situation that was right. Tough times. My long-time girlfriend at the time and I had been on-again and off-again due to life's ups and downs and the distance and we were in the process of reconciling and making a decision to be together. Leaving the job and some other things about it made me lose some self-confidence at the time and we separated for good.

Ultimately, that decision was good for me professionally, but not personally. The company president's financial malfeasance was later found out by corporate and the board of directors and he was fired. I was asked to come back as the VP of R&D by the new president, but decided not to take the job. I probably should have.

 

[littlebirdjoy]

Ugh... so much mixed going on. Excited for Christmas with Daddy and Miss L. Ow I have an infection in my cheek. Sad they are going away for 5 days right after Christmas. Ecstatic that right after they are back we get to plan the summer. Sleepy but wanna write naughtiness for Daddy. Mixed.

 

[Leigh81]

I hope all this stuff fits on the plane

 

[Esslemont]

One more day....

Amen to that sister.

 

[AlpineFresco]

Oh my god those baths were amazing.

 

[barefootgirl69]

It's that time of the year again, eh?

I thought that was Saturday. Now, I'm all confused!

 

[TTawhere]

Bath? I thought it was a shower?

 

[TTawhere]

He's a Brit. They only take baths.

:::Reflects on lack of bath at the In-Law's house:::

 

[Joe_Bob_Gautama]

Wondering how many hideous sofas wind up in landfills every year due to porn-related stainage.

 

[Esslemont]

Thinking that work is way better when I’m not actually doing any work.

The students agree. Fuckers.