What Are You Thinking? Continued 14

I think I am done for the night. To my fellow Litsters. Goodnight. And Good luck.
 
I should be asleep…combination of kid with no clue about other people and animals also with no clue about others has me not sleeping…not happy
 
Too bad the only one playing with my boobies tomorrow will be the nurse when I get my mammogram. :rolleyes:

As much as having a mammogram is a totally sexy experience, that shouldn’t be denied anyone with mammaries, I for one hope the story after is “healthy and clear” as well as sexy.

Will be thinking of you BFG

xxxxx
 
Wondering if it's my failing that I sometimes can't find anything to say in reply to messages, or if it's that the other person really didn't give me anything to continue the conversation with. Or maybe the connection just isn't there, which means it's incredibly rare for me to have that connection.

Maybe this should go in the Emptiness thread.
 
Wondering if it's my failing that I sometimes can't find anything to say in reply to messages, or if it's that the other person really didn't give me anything to continue the conversation with. Or maybe the connection just isn't there, which means it's incredibly rare for me to have that connection.

Maybe this should go in the Emptiness thread.

It’s either there or it isn’t. You can’t force it. It’s rare for everyone. Hang in there. 😘
 
It’s either there or it isn’t. You can’t force it. It’s rare for everyone. Hang in there. 😘

That’s the secret sauce isn’t it? It could be the way a sentence is constructed, the use of a particular verb, very often it’s the overall tone of the message you’re responding to or even the ideas contained in the words.

But it’s more complex than that even. How are those words and ideas received? What mood is the reader in the first time they read them.

Hope it comes together for you soon CheekyGirl
 
Wondering if it's my failing that I sometimes can't find anything to say in reply to messages, or if it's that the other person really didn't give me anything to continue the conversation with. Or maybe the connection just isn't there, which means it's incredibly rare for me to have that connection.

Maybe this should go in the Emptiness thread.

What gets me are the messages that literally leave you with nothing to go on! “Hey, saw your post on the boards! Would love to chat - 38/M/USA”

Which post? What were your thoughts on it? Give me something to go on and reply to!
 
What gets me are the messages that literally leave you with nothing to go on! “Hey, saw your post on the boards! Would love to chat - 38/M/USA”

Which post? What were your thoughts on it? Give me something to go on and reply to!

They did not see your post. They copied and pasted that message to everyone they thought had a vagina.
 
They did not see your post. They copied and pasted that message to everyone they thought had a vagina.

This as well. If the person can’t be bothered to try to understand what the poster is looking for, why should they reply?

This is valid the other way round too. And women can be equally monosyllabic despite initiating the conversation. Im sure not to the same extent but it does happen.
 
It’s either there or it isn’t. You can’t force it. It’s rare for everyone. Hang in there. 😘

Thanks :heart:

That’s the secret sauce isn’t it? It could be the way a sentence is constructed, the use of a particular verb, very often it’s the overall tone of the message you’re responding to or even the ideas contained in the words.

But it’s more complex than that even. How are those words and ideas received? What mood is the reader in the first time they read them.

Hope it comes together for you soon CheekyGirl

It is often the tone, but then I worry that I'm inferring that too much, based on more my insecurities or biases than anything else. Thanks :heart:

I've found sometimes it depends on my energy level. In which case, I let it sit until the next day and then review it again. If I still can't find anything to say then, it's because that thread of the conversation has died. Depending on the person, I either reply with something totally different or I let the conversation RIP. :)

That's true, my energy level and mind set matters too... but never thought of just changing the conversation, interesting! :heart:

What gets me are the messages that literally leave you with nothing to go on! “Hey, saw your post on the boards! Would love to chat - 38/M/USA”

Which post? What were your thoughts on it? Give me something to go on and reply to!

Ugh, those are just ignored because, exactly - they're just cutting and pasting. :rolleyes::heart:

Do you feel that you want the connection, and just can’t? Or, is it more semantics, “i should be able to do this.”
If it’s the latter, I hope you can let that go a bit. You don’t owe anyone here anything. Lit at your comfort level.

Usually the first, sometimes the second.... I hadn't thought of the distinction, but I think it is important. Thanks :heart:
 
What’s the point of putting a thread on ignore when I can still receive notifications from that thread? 🙄
 
What gets me are the messages that literally leave you with nothing to go on! “Hey, saw your post on the boards! Would love to chat - 38/M/USA”

Which post? What were your thoughts on it? Give me something to go on and reply to!

They did not see your post. They copied and pasted that message to everyone they thought had a vagina.

so much of this, same with 'wow I love your profile.'

Wow I like your profiles😁🤣 sorry had to say it....😝
 
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