What Are You Thinking? Continued 14

Well there are platonic friendships and I feel they can be just as rewarding as the sexy ones.

And I don't consider it hovering around if a platonic friendship turns sexy. Both are adults and things change
A lot of friendships turn sexy and that is perfectly acceptable when it is what both parties want. What we are discussing, is when one party has made it very clear that they don’t want a sexual chat but the other will take an everyday chat and try to steer it in a sexual direction.

Example:
Him - How was your day?
Me - Pretty long. I ache all over
Him - You probably need a massage
Me - That would probably help
Him - Imagine me sliding the straps of your bra off your shoulders…
Me - No thanks. I don’t want to imagine you doing that
Him - Not hitting on you. I am not here for that. I was just being nice.


Well, it isn’t “nice” and if you are repeating this behaviour, you are not a “nice guy”, you are a predator
 
My point exactly, so called nice guys aren't always nice.


Not getting personal here, as I don’t know about you and your relationships with the ladies here, but some constantly put pressure on the ladies hoping for the day they give in. I don't think there's anything wrong with pursuing a lady, but if you're only being nice to get some pum pum, then you're not really a nice guy. I want to add if you constantly put a lady in an uncomfortable situation, where she has to constantly reject you by joking or trying to get past your advances, then you aren’t respecting her and you definitely aren't platonic on your end.


I wonder if I have been guilty of the same, because I do hunt for ladies on occasion. I just hope they aren't uncomfortable with my actions.
So you are generalizing and guessing since you aren't privy to that kind of information.

Yes I am a nice guy
 
My point exactly, so called nice guys aren't always nice.


Not getting personal here, as I don’t know about you and your relationships with the ladies here, but some constantly put pressure on the ladies hoping for the day they give in. I don't think there's anything wrong with pursuing a lady, but if you're only being nice to get some pum pum, then you're not really a nice guy. I want to add if you constantly put a lady in an uncomfortable situation, where she has to constantly reject you by joking or trying to get past your advances, then you aren’t respecting her and you definitely aren't platonic on your end.


I wonder if I have been guilty of the same, because I do hunt for ladies on occasion. I just hope they aren't uncomfortable with my actions.
We have been friends for quite a while and you have never been guilty of that. You are very respectful of women and any boundaries that are in place. I wish there was more of you around 😘
 
My point exactly, so called nice guys aren't always nice.


Not getting personal here, as I don’t know about you and your relationships with the ladies here, but some constantly put pressure on the ladies hoping for the day they give in. I don't think there's anything wrong with pursuing a lady, but if you're only being nice to get some pum pum, then you're not really a nice guy. I want to add if you constantly put a lady in an uncomfortable situation, where she has to constantly reject you by joking or trying to get past your advances, then you aren’t respecting her and you definitely aren't platonic on your end.


I wonder if I have been guilty of the same, because I do hunt for ladies on occasion. I just hope they aren't uncomfortable with my actions.
They always have the right to say no, or joke along for a good laugh.
 
They always have the right to say no, or joke along for a good laugh.
How many times should they have to say no? When does feeling like you are backed into a corner stop being a good laugh?

I am all for a good laugh and will do that openly on threads with people I have interacted with. A good laugh is when you are bantering about things in general. When somebody starts saying “imagine me doing….” That is when it is taking a personal turn and is not done for a comical response.
 
A lot of friendships turn sexy and that is perfectly acceptable when it is what both parties want. What we are discussing, is when one party has made it very clear that they don’t want a sexual chat but the other will take an everyday chat and try to steer it in a sexual direction.

Example:
Him - How was your day?
Me - Pretty long. I ache all over
Him - You probably need a massage
Me - That would probably help
Him - Imagine me sliding the straps of your bra off your shoulders…
Me - No thanks. I don’t want to imagine you doing that
Him - Not hitting on you. I am not here for that. I was just being nice.


Well, it isn’t “nice” and if you are repeating this behaviour, you are not a “nice guy”, you are a predator
Youre being very nice with that example.
Im sure it would be more like.

Example:
Him - How was your day?
Her - Pretty long. I ache all over
Him - Here is a pic of my dick, bet that makes you smile. Now show us your tits.

🤷‍♂️
 
How many times should they have to say no? When does feeling like you are backed into a corner stop being a good laugh?

I am all for a good laugh and will do that openly on threads with people I have interacted with. A good laugh is when you are bantering about things in general. When somebody starts saying “imagine me doing….” That is when it is taking a personal turn and is not done for a comical response.
Imagine you and me Debbie on a deserted island. Oh the possibilities of us dying, but at least we would be laughing 🤣
 
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