What Are You Nosey About Today?? 🦝

[AmberLGreen]

Why does all the juicy stuff happen while I am working?

We do it deliberately so that we can give you a consolatory hug ((((hug))))

 

[Texastuffbbc]

Well my covid avatar reminder and cyber hugs to all you ladies….handshakes to the gents. Lol

 

[AmberLGreen]

Well my covid avatar reminder and cyber hugs to all you ladies….handshakes to the gents. Lol

Lol I am beginning to think you like jigsaw puzzles. We have had the smile and now the eyes. Do we get the nose or chin tomorrow?

 

[Texastuffbbc]

Lol I am beginning to think you like jigsaw puzzles. We have had the smile and now the eyes. Do we get the nose or chin tomorrow?

It is a fun way to enjoy the community. Lol

 

[Azuldrgon]

We do it deliberately so that we can give you a consolatory hug ((((hug))))

*hugs back*

 

[barefootgirl69]

I’m trying to go through the archives of my entire Lit experience and tally the e-bones based on the new and agreed legal definition (as passed in this place on this day).


I’m nosey if you know your tally of e-bones? (Tally is a fun word isn’t it?) I digress.

Do you know your count, do you remember them all do you think? Would you be happy if your count was known? What about if the fact you were in someone’s count was common knowledge?

*adds them up and divides by the number of years I've been here*

Not bad. Not bad at all.

I think I remember them all. I'm pretty good at that because I like longevity. People should be able to do whatever they want with whomever they want without fear of judgment, but we all know it still happens. BOTH men and women who "get around" are side-eyed. Probably because that's how we are taught in society.

I'm sure it's common knowledge or it used to be about who I was with simply because of some of the threads I've posted in. *

 

[LikeableMe]

I’m feeling nosey about secrets. Has someone asked you to be their little secret? Have you asked someone to be your little secret? How do you feel in general about being that secret/ or putting someone in that role if so. Do you accept or is that a hard no. Maybe you enjoy being or keeping the secret, maybe it’s spicier.

Tell me all your secrets about secrets.

I was someone’s secret, and he was mine. At first it was fun, as we were just getting to know each other, so at that stage it’s okay not to be saying much about them to others. I used to laugh at him and call him “my dirty little secret”. I’ll add here that we were both single. But then things started to get more serious, and I started to introduce him into my life, and expected to be introduced into his as well. We got close enough that he was like family.

But other than being mentioned as “someone spoken to in passing”, I was never introduced into his life. I remained a secret, to a huge degree.

So for me, being someone’s secret is only okay to a point. When we spend half a decade talking daily, sharing our problems, our successes, drying each other’s tears - well, I expect there to be no secrets at that point.

If there are clear boundaries, that are spoken about from the start, that’s something else altogether. But I’m the kind of person who gives all to my friendships, and if someone is married, or whatever else - it doesn’t matter to me. I’m not going to be someone’s bit on the side, but friendship I can do. And if that friendship has longevity, then surely it should eventually cross over into becoming a family friend, and being there for the whole family?

I guess I’m not really a fan of secrets. Withholding can have its’ place, but when people get closer, I feel that someone usually ends up wanting more.

 

[AmberLGreen]

I’m feeling nosey about secrets. Has someone asked you to be their little secret? Have you asked someone to be your little secret? How do you feel in general about being that secret/ or putting someone in that role if so. Do you accept or is that a hard no. Maybe you enjoy being or keeping the secret, maybe it’s spicier.

Tell me all your secrets about secrets.

Like what you are doing here… very sneaky

In Lit world I post too much to have secrets. In the real world there are secrets that I may tell one person but not another and the reasons for that would vary.

I am a good keeper of other people’s secrets

 

[LikeableMe]

I’m nosey/curious about random messages. Ones that give no true invitation to reply.

“Hi, I’m M/46 want to chat sometime?” - how do you even reply to that, in all seriousness? Spark a conversation if you want a reply! “Hi, I saw your post on flowers, I’m a gardener and love roses. What do you grow?” - something like that allows the conversation to start naturally. Do these random short messages actually work for anyone?

And messages with just a physical description “M/46, fit and athletic. Let’s chat”. This is a forum - I don’t mind what you look like, I’m more interested in whether you can hold a conversation!

“Heya babe, how you doing? Let’s chat sometime. Speak soon sexy “ - that from someone with one post, and I’ve never spoken to before.

I’ve made these examples up, but I do receive these. I’ve always been curious - are these people actually expecting replies? Do these kind of messages actually get responses? I once told someone to think of me as someone they met in a bar. That they would have to at least strike up a conversation before I would accept a drink.

Just my random thoughts on random messages!

 

[Daisy_Love]

I’m nosey/curious about random messages. Ones that give no true invitation to reply.

“Hi, I’m M/46 want to chat sometime?” - how do you even reply to that, in all seriousness? Spark a conversation if you want a reply! “Hi, I saw your post on flowers, I’m a gardener and love roses. What do you grow?” - something like that allows the conversation to start naturally. Do these random short messages actually work for anyone?

And messages with just a physical description “M/46, fit and athletic. Let’s chat”. This is a forum - I don’t mind what you look like, I’m more interested in whether you can hold a conversation!

“Heya babe, how you doing? Let’s chat sometime. Speak soon sexy “ - that from someone with one post, and I’ve never spoken to before.

I’ve made these examples up, but I do receive these. I’ve always been curious - are these people actually expecting replies? Do these kind of messages actually get responses? I once told someone to think of me as someone they met in a bar. That they would have to at least strike up a conversation before I would accept a drink.

Just my random thoughts on random messages!

Because they’ve cast that line out to multiple women and they’re hoping to hook one to e-bone? Get in your ‘virtual knickers’
Simples
And exactly as Rainshine says, I don’t reply either

If someone is actually interested in getting to know you, they make effort, consistently. Talk is cheap and I expect there’s a lot of that in these here threads.

 

[LikeableMe]

The answer for me is I don’t reply. To me that’s just people stabbing around in the dark hoping to hit a target any target. Not interested.

Because they’ve cast that line out to multiple women and they’re hoping to hook one to e-bone? Get in your ‘virtual knickers’
Simples
And exactly as Rainshine says, I don’t reply either

If someone is actually interested in getting to know you, they make effort, consistently. Talk is cheap and I expect there’s a lot of that in these here threads.

I’m the same, I never reply to those. I received one just yesterday, which remains in my inbox, untouched. It also requests a read receipt, which I ignored.

Surely these kind of messages are ignored so much that it makes them pointless to even send in the first place?

Maybe I’ll reply to one in future, with my questions, and see what comes back

 

[Daisy_Love]

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Haha a read receipt uh huh I relate! Pretentious much !

 

[Jd192235]

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Haha a read receipt uh huh I relate! Pretentious much !

I didn’t even know there were read receipts… you’re always teaching me something D. Lol

 

[LikeableMe]

I didn’t even know there were read receipts… you’re always teaching me something D. Lol

The thing with read receipts though, is that the reader has to confirm whether to send the acknowledgment or not. So they’re pretty much pointless

 

[AmberLGreen]

Sneaky? How so?

Sneaky in a mischievous way not a malicious way. As in “OK while the list of e-boning is still being compiled, let’s find out what other things you are all up to”

 

[Texastuffbbc]

I believe that some of us, myself included, usually review the post of the ladies and try to connect based on what they have found to be interesting. As for me, I try the friendly introduction because I have found not every lady on LIT is interest in new chat partners, especially if they already have a number of people they have developed friendships or other ships with.

I do appreciate those that have responded to those friendly messages. Unlike in a club, body langue and facial expressions cannot be determined. Sometimes you get it right, but many more times you get it wrong.

I am curious what types of introductory messages are more accepted. And no I am not “thirsty” but very conversational.

 

[LikeableMe]

I believe that some of us, myself included, usually review the post of the ladies and try to connect based on what they have found to be interesting. As for me, I try the friendly introduction because I have found not every lady on LIT is interest in new chat partners, especially if they already have a number of people they have developed friendships or other ships with.

I do appreciate those that have responded to those friendly messages. Unlike in a club, body langue and facial expressions cannot be determined. Sometimes you get it right, but many more times you get it wrong.

I am curious what types of introductory messages are more accepted. And no I am not “thirsty” but very conversational.

Conversational messages are more likely to get replies, in my opinion. I can’t speak for everyone though!

I talk about DIY quite a bit on the boards, as I am teaching myself to fix up my home. Sometimes people will message me and ask what I’m working on, and tell me about their DIY experiences. It sparks a conversation, and follow up questions.

Someone simply saying “hey, want to chat” just stumps me. What am I supposed to say in response to that? “Sure”. “Okay, I like kittens. What’s your favourite type of cat?” Or is that where we arrange an appointment to talk?

Maybe I’m not the norm, as I do have a degree of social anxiety. I once had someone invite me to PM them, and I tried multiple times but kept deleting my message. By the time I managed to put something together, the person had completely forgotten the invitation

I like things to be easy, natural and not stressful, replying shouldn’t be a chore.

 

[Texastuffbbc]

That is a very smart way to approach things. I am curious by nature so….

 

[Texastuffbbc]

Sneaky in a mischievous way not a malicious way. As in “OK while the list of e-boning is still being compiled, let’s find out what other things you are all up to”

Well I can say I am not on a list. Maybe one day I will be again, but it is all good. The other things I am up to is learning how to MMOB when I sense my input is not warranted and finding good stories to read.

 

[LikeableMe]

I spent year in big Pharma, I know people hate us, but I tried to explain the whole variant mutations to people and most called me silly. When you have done something for over 30 years you just might know a little bit. I actually sold vaccines.

And what DIY projects are you working on. I am becoming a bit of a handyman, but DIY stuff my patience is not there yet. Lol

Ah, the controversial industry. I think emotions are high on the topic of that specific vaccine. Everyone has had such different experiences during the pandemic. I had someone I’ve known four years send me a private message, asking me if I’m going to get the vaccine, and letting me know I would ‘unfriended’ if I did. I didn’t answer his question, but my response was along the lines of “you may as well unfriend me now then, as I won’t be held hostage to other people’s personal views. I’m entitled to my own opinions”.

DIY - well, so far I have wallpapered, painted, laid flooring, fitted hooks and door handles. I have a long way to go, and I’m relying on google to help me with my endeavours!

 

[Texastuffbbc]

Ah, the controversial industry. I think emotions are high on the topic of that specific vaccine. Everyone has had such different experiences during the pandemic. I had someone I’ve known four years send me a private message, asking me if I’m going to get the vaccine, and letting me know I would ‘unfriended’ if I did. I didn’t answer his question, but my response was along the lines of “you may as well unfriend me now then, as I won’t be held hostage to other people’s personal views. I’m entitled to my own opinions”.

DIY - well, so far I have wallpapered, painted, laid flooring, fitted hooks and door handles. I have a long way to go, and I’m relying on google to help me with my endeavours!

The industry is controversial because the media makes it. Being a person having been on the inside I know the good the industry does and yes some bad I never could stomach, cost of some medicines are just ridiculous. I thought and think the vaccine was rushed and I too was “I friended” because of my views. The bad Pharma industry has saved many lives and extended the life expectancy of people, but we were demonized. For me it was my career choice and was very good to my family. My number one goal was to never over sell and to recommend other options when my product did not fit, because of cost especially.

I am curious what this pandemic would have looked like without big Pharma intervention?

 

[AmberLGreen]

Well I can say I am not on a list. Maybe one day I will be again, but it is all good. The other things I am up to is learning how to MMOB when I sense my input is not warranted and finding good stories to read.

What is MMOB?

 

[LikeableMe]

What is MMOB?

I was about to ask the same question, then “mind my own business” popped into my head. Now I’m wondering if it’s that

 

[Texastuffbbc]

What is MMOB?

I was about to ask the same question, then “mind my own business” popped into my head. Now I’m wondering if it’s that

Ding…ding…ding….that is the right answer. I have tried to learn the abbreviation language, but some of them are just difficult. MMOB, especially in cyber can help you appreciate when someone want you to take part In Their “business” Lol.

 

[Chillygirl]

I’m feeling nosey about secrets. Has someone asked you to be their little secret? Have you asked someone to be your little secret? How do you feel in general about being that secret/ or putting someone in that role if so. Do you accept or is that a hard no. Maybe you enjoy being or keeping the secret, maybe it’s spicier.

Tell me all your secrets about secrets.

I like to keep my stuff private. The guys I chat with know I chat with other guys. I haven’t been exclusive with anyone. I’m honest about it and I expect the same honesty. It’s not about being sneaky or dirty secrets....I just prefer not to announce who I’m getting involved with.