What Are You Nosey About Today?? 🦝

[AmberLGreen]

Ding…ding…ding….that is the right answer. I have tried to learn the abbreviation language, but some of them are just difficult. MMOB, especially in cyber can help you appreciate when someone want you to take part In Their “business” Lol.

I have never had anybody tell me to MMOB yet. Maybe I am asking the wrong questions so I must up my game.

 

[LikeableMe]

I have never had anybody tell me to MMOB yet. Maybe I am asking the wrong questions so I must up my game.

Maybe people don’t mind you all up in their business

 

[AmberLGreen]

I like to keep my stuff private. The guys I chat with know I chat with other guys. I haven’t been exclusive with anyone. I’m honest about it and I expect the same honesty. It’s not about being sneaky or dirty secrets....I just prefer not to announce who I’m getting involved with.

That’s ok. I will just use mind control in private

 

[Texastuffbbc]

I have never had anybody tell me to MMOB yet. Maybe I am asking the wrong questions so I must up my game.

Nope it is more male intuition that I put the MMOB phase in play. I have business that I don’t want people to be in too, but I am talkative in various ways, so I am careful with my words. I might just like holding a conversation for more then a few e-boning minutes. Lol….but I am sure the post conversation would be good after the first 45 minute session. Lol…LMBOATM

Oh and now I am showing the back. Lol

 

[AmberLGreen]

That’s ok. I will just use mind control in private

Back to the subject of unsolicited messages. I can’t complain because I send enough of them myself. I do respond to most unless I am in too many conversations at that time. I can type at around 80 wpm but enough I struggle sometimes

“Hey, how are you” normally get a “I am good, how are you” response. “Do you mind me asking what type of panties you are wearing” normally get a “Yes, I do mind” response. I think the worst one I had was when I had actually been online for just a few days. He asked if I wanted to watch him masturbate until he came so hard it would knock down walls. I didn’t know how to respond to that but my body responding by clenching every orifice in my body

I am about to send another unsolicited message to discuss something controversial that I wouldn’t do in public because it involves politics and ethics and I don’t want to be hated because of my career choice.

 

[Texastuffbbc]

Back to the subject of unsolicited messages. I can’t complain because I send enough of them myself. I do respond to most unless I am in too many conversations at that time. I can type at around 80 wpm but enough I struggle sometimes

“Hey, how are you” normally get a “I am good, how are you” response. “Do you mind me asking what type of panties you are wearing” normally get a “Yes, I do mind” response. I think the worst one I had was when I had actually been online for just a few days. He asked if I wanted to watch him masturbate until he came so hard it would knock down walls. I didn’t know how to respond to that but my body responding by clenching every orifice in my body

I am about to send another unsolicited message to discuss something controversial that I wouldn’t do in public because it involves politics and ethics and I don’t want to be hated because of my career choice.

Checking my inbox….lol

I use to send many of those types of messages, not the rude ones, but have learned if I want a response, the least I can do is go look at topics the lady has been active in and formulate a message that is an appropriate icebreaker. Sometimes what I find tells me to just MMOB, but putting in a little effort has paid off from time to time.

 

[Chillygirl]

I try to respond to all of my messages even if it’s just a “thanks for the compliment.” I know I don’t have to, I know a lot of them are just blind messages sent out in masses but i have to respond.

 

[Azuldrgon]

One of the benefits of trying to be so private is not so many unsolicited inbox messages. Once many Lit guys find out a poster is female, it makes them a target. I'm a guy btw.
I feel bad for them because many times, the messages come across as thirsty or as the mass produced ones. I messages Amber a few days ago and we had a wonderful conversation about our kids and stuff. It was a great conversation. I also try to have conversations with others I find interesting or that mention something I want to hear more about.
It's not all thirsty stuff. When you actually treat the folks on here like the human beings behind the screenname, you can discover some pretty awesome people you can be friends with.

*Gets off of soapbox*

 

[Texastuffbbc]

I try to respond to all of my messages even if it’s just a “thanks for the compliment.” I know I don’t have to, I know a lot of them are just blind messages sent out in masses but i have to respond.

The funny thing is I have sent messages, not blindly mind you, that were inquisitive by choice, but could be connected to post of the person and got no response. I just have learned to roll with it now. I have been accused of blind messages, but when I asked a friend was I doing something out of line, yes I consults a few of the ladies for advice, she said no and that was one I would put on your “other” list.

 

[LikeableMe]

One of the benefits of trying to be so private is not so many unsolicited inbox messages. Once many Lit guys find out a poster is female, it makes them a target. I'm a guy btw.
I feel bad for them because many times, the messages come across as thirsty or as the mass produced ones. I messages Amber a few days ago and we had a wonderful conversation about our kids and stuff. It was a great conversation. I also try to have conversations with others I find interesting or that mention something I want to hear more about.
It's not all thirsty stuff. When you actually treat the folks on here like the human beings behind the screenname, you can discover some pretty awesome people you can be friends with.

*Gets off of soapbox*

If I could this, I would.

 

[Azuldrgon]

If I could this, I would.

*blush*
You just did.

 

[SassySheDevil]

I’m feeling nosey about secrets. Has someone asked you to be their little secret? Have you asked someone to be your little secret? How do you feel in general about being that secret/ or putting someone in that role if so. Do you accept or is that a hard no. Maybe you enjoy being or keeping the secret, maybe it’s spicier.

Tell me all your secrets about secrets.

This thread has been fun..
*sigh" I've been too many peoples secret. I don't mind certain levels. Not everyone wants their stuff thrown out there. But you can usually tell when someone doesn't want you to mention them, because they are talking to other people.
If someone says "I just don't like my personal life out there" that is understandable, and I don't mind that.
But if you are afraid to even mention me as a friend. Red flags go up.

"Who made you laugh today"- Nope. Not gonna mention Sassy, cause my others will then find out.

On instance really stands out. The proof after I'd been told not to mention him. I wasn't suppose to mention him. But I could see others had. A lot. We talked via KIK most times. So I brought up the fact that he would do the same. Mention others, but not me. His excuse. "We talk on KIK, I can just tell you here"

One day, one of those women was really hurting about something. So I reached out, and asked if there was anything I could do. Offer an ear, anything.
Long story short.. It was about him. He had told her that she needed to mention him less. So he was pulling away from her, because now he was re-thinking their relationship. Blah, blah, blah.
We eventually realized that pretty much everything we'd been told was the same. After comparing notes, we confronted him. She left Lit (for a while) and he got mad at me for ruining that relationship. Turned everything around on me, made a million excuses, and somehow managed to make it all my fault.


I wont do the dirty little secret anymore. Again, I'll keep personal info to myself. Certain levels of secrets.
But if you are afraid to even mention me in public. Nope. I'm done. If you can't at least acknowledge our friendship. We don't have one.

Be up front. Tell me there are others. That way I can decide if I want to get involved. Don't lie and tell someone she is the only one. Too many women talk, and it often comes out.

*disclaimer.. How I Lit. Not for everyone*

 

[Texastuffbbc]

One of the benefits of trying to be so private is not so many unsolicited inbox messages. Once many Lit guys find out a poster is female, it makes them a target. I'm a guy btw.
I feel bad for them because many times, the messages come across as thirsty or as the mass produced ones. I messages Amber a few days ago and we had a wonderful conversation about our kids and stuff. It was a great conversation. I also try to have conversations with others I find interesting or that mention something I want to hear more about.
It's not all thirsty stuff. When you actually treat the folks on here like the human beings behind the screenname, you can discover some pretty awesome people you can be friends with.

*Gets off of soapbox*

That is a good soapbox. I too have messaged a few people more so as an introductory icebreaker and have been warmly accepted. It is not always thirst that gets my messages, but curiosity. You are absolutely correct about the number of messages the conversational ladies get. I friend, no we never e-boned, hipped me to this fact. I was like damn!

One of her early reply’s to me after we got to know each other was your user name said “thirsty” but you are so easy to talk to.

 

[AmberLGreen]

One of the benefits of trying to be so private is not so many unsolicited inbox messages. Once many Lit guys find out a poster is female, it makes them a target. I'm a guy btw.
I feel bad for them because many times, the messages come across as thirsty or as the mass produced ones. I messages Amber a few days ago and we had a wonderful conversation about our kids and stuff. It was a great conversation. I also try to have conversations with others I find interesting or that mention something I want to hear more about.
It's not all thirsty stuff. When you actually treat the folks on here like the human beings behind the screenname, you can discover some pretty awesome people you can be friends with.

*Gets off of soapbox*

My conversations with you are some of the ones I enjoy the most. You are one of the greatest guys and always lift my day.

Big hugs and

 

[Azuldrgon]

This thread has been fun..
*sigh" I've been too many peoples secret. I don't mind certain levels. Not everyone wants their stuff thrown out there. But you can usually tell when someone doesn't want you to mention them, because they are talking to other people.
If someone says "I just don't like my personal life out there" that is understandable, and I don't mind that.
But if you are afraid to even mention me as a friend. Red flags go up.

"Who made you laugh today"- Nope. Not gonna mention Sassy, cause my others will then find out.

On instance really stands out. The proof after I'd been told not to mention him. I wasn't suppose to mention him. But I could see others had. A lot. We talked via KIK most times. So I brought up the fact that he would do the same. Mention others, but not me. His excuse. "We talk on KIK, I can just tell you here"

One day, one of those women was really hurting about something. So I reached out, and asked if there was anything I could do. Offer an ear, anything.
Long story short.. It was about him. He had told her that she needed to mention him less. So he was pulling away from her, because now he was re-thinking their relationship. Blah, blah, blah.
We eventually realized that pretty much everything we'd been told was the same. After comparing notes, we confronted him. She left Lit (for a while) and he got mad at me for ruining that relationship. Turned everything around on me, made a million excuses, and somehow managed to make it all my fault.


I wont do the dirty little secret anymore. Again, I'll keep personal info to myself. Certain levels of secrets.
But if you are afraid to even mention me in public. Nope. I'm done. If you can't at least acknowledge our friendship. We don't have one.

Be up front. Tell me there are others. That way I can decide if I want to get involved. Don't lie and tell someone she is the only one. Too many women talk, and it often comes out.

*disclaimer.. How I Lit. Not for everyone*

*hugs*
And this is the bullshit that pisses me off about people.
Sassy is a cool chick.
And deserves to be treated better.
It's why every time I see her post when I'm able, I leave a hug for her.
Some folks I like I don't hug because they don't like that.
It's alright.
I want to say loudly that Sassy is my friend.
Period.

 

[Azuldrgon]

I have a feeling people secretly desire her to be all up in their business lol


OMG, I’m not the only one! Dang my parents for teaching me to be polite and kind!

*hugs*

 

[Azuldrgon]

My conversations with you are some of the ones I enjoy the most. You are one of the greatest guys and always lift my day.

Big hugs and

*hugs her back*

 

[SassySheDevil]

I’m nosey/curious about random messages. Ones that give no true invitation to reply.

“Hi, I’m M/46 want to chat sometime?” - how do you even reply to that, in all seriousness? Spark a conversation if you want a reply! “Hi, I saw your post on flowers, I’m a gardener and love roses. What do you grow?” - something like that allows the conversation to start naturally. Do these random short messages actually work for anyone?

And messages with just a physical description “M/46, fit and athletic. Let’s chat”. This is a forum - I don’t mind what you look like, I’m more interested in whether you can hold a conversation!

“Heya babe, how you doing? Let’s chat sometime. Speak soon sexy “ - that from someone with one post, and I’ve never spoken to before.

I’ve made these examples up, but I do receive these. I’ve always been curious - are these people actually expecting replies? Do these kind of messages actually get responses? I once told someone to think of me as someone they met in a bar. That they would have to at least strike up a conversation before I would accept a drink.

Just my random thoughts on random messages!

Almost always just delete. Like you said. Find a way to give me something to reply to that lets me know it is not just a big cut and paste, and I will most likely respond. I used to respond to everyone. But now (if my messages are on) I only respond to those that give me something to respond to.

But this reminds me of all the Cut and Pastes in the personals and something that I assume goes along with this. (What Daisy said.. Cast a big net..)

I see people who either just constantly cut and paste the same ad for a personal, or cut and paste a comment in the KIK or Skype threads.
I read right passed those guys.
Does that ever work?? Why are they so lazy? Do they not realize that sometimes, a little effort goes a long way?

If I have ever responded to such an ad. It was because of something fun someone said, humor, wit, etc.

 

[Azuldrgon]

Yeah, make your stuff unique.

If you want to say hi, that's fine. But make it something to respond to. Make it a conversation starter and don't make it so blatant that you're thirsty. Every woman on here, if I can have permission to say it, has no desire to open a message where the first line is something like "Let's fuck" or "Play with your tits" or whatever. You would never do that in person. Why be a jackass and do it on here?

It's called respect, folks. It's not that difficult.

 

[Texastuffbbc]

Yeah, make your stuff unique.

If you want to say hi, that's fine. But make it something to respond to. Make it a conversation starter and don't make it so blatant that you're thirsty. Every woman on here, if I can have permission to say it, has no desire to open a message where the first line is something like "Let's fuck" or "Play with your tits" or whatever. You would never do that in person. Why be a jackass and do it on here?

It's called respect, folks. It's not that difficult.

Respect is very important. I make an effort to not say anything online that I would,not say if I was face to face and had just met a person. If the conversation evolves, so be it. If not they will know they always have a listening ear should they ever need it. I am by nature a Barnabas type!

 

[LikeableMe]

This thread has been fun..
*sigh" I've been too many peoples secret. I don't mind certain levels. Not everyone wants their stuff thrown out there. But you can usually tell when someone doesn't want you to mention them, because they are talking to other people.
If someone says "I just don't like my personal life out there" that is understandable, and I don't mind that.
But if you are afraid to even mention me as a friend. Red flags go up.

"Who made you laugh today"- Nope. Not gonna mention Sassy, cause my others will then find out.

On instance really stands out. The proof after I'd been told not to mention him. I wasn't suppose to mention him. But I could see others had. A lot. We talked via KIK most times. So I brought up the fact that he would do the same. Mention others, but not me. His excuse. "We talk on KIK, I can just tell you here"

One day, one of those women was really hurting about something. So I reached out, and asked if there was anything I could do. Offer an ear, anything.
Long story short.. It was about him. He had told her that she needed to mention him less. So he was pulling away from her, because now he was re-thinking their relationship. Blah, blah, blah.
We eventually realized that pretty much everything we'd been told was the same. After comparing notes, we confronted him. She left Lit (for a while) and he got mad at me for ruining that relationship. Turned everything around on me, made a million excuses, and somehow managed to make it all my fault.


I wont do the dirty little secret anymore. Again, I'll keep personal info to myself. Certain levels of secrets.
But if you are afraid to even mention me in public. Nope. I'm done. If you can't at least acknowledge our friendship. We don't have one.

Be up front. Tell me there are others. That way I can decide if I want to get involved. Don't lie and tell someone she is the only one. Too many women talk, and it often comes out.

*disclaimer.. How I Lit. Not for everyone*

This strikes a chord that I’m not in a position to elaborate on right now.

Privacy and secrecy are different. I don’t mind being private, but I don’t want to be a secret.

I’m glad you and this other person worked out what was going on, hopefully before either of you got in too deep!

 

[SassySheDevil]

What is MMOB?

I was about to ask the same question, then “mind my own business” popped into my head. Now I’m wondering if it’s that

These were way funnier though

MMOB Master Musicians of Bukkake (band)
MMOB Mainstreet Moms Oppose Bush (California grass roots organization)
MMOB Minding My Own Business
MMOB Mainstreet Moms Operation Blue
MMOB Multi-Media on Board (transportation; various locations)
MMOB Muscle Mustangs of Brevard (car club; Florida)

 

[Azuldrgon]

I want to know if we can get a spreadsheet of who is e-boning who

Full disclosure.

No, I do not have a spreadsheet on this because it would be a full-time endeavor. Plus some folks keep it private anyway.

But it reminded me of how some folks think it's weird I have a spreadsheet regarding my nieces and nephews. If you include my two children, there are a total of 16 of what we call the "grandbabies" that my siblings and I have. It's the easiest way to keep track of their birthdays and such.

Carry on.

 

[Texastuffbbc]

These were way funnier though

MMOB Master Musicians of Bukkake (band)
MMOB Mainstreet Moms Oppose Bush (California grass roots organization)
MMOB Minding My Own Business
MMOB Mainstreet Moms Operation Blue
MMOB Multi-Media on Board (transportation; various locations)
MMOB Muscle Mustangs of Brevard (car club; Florida)

Much funnier indeed. I don’t think I have ever stayed in one thread this long and had fun with the community. The playground has become my “sweet spot!”

 

[Texastuffbbc]

Full disclosure.

No, I do not have a spreadsheet on this because it would be a full-time endeavor. Plus some folks keep it private anyway.

But it reminded me of how some folks think it's weird I have a spreadsheet regarding my nieces and nephews. If you include my two children, there are a total of 16 of what we call the "grandbabies" that my siblings and I have. It's the easiest way to keep track of their birthdays and such.

Carry on.

I just keep a spreadsheet now of my sports card collection….making it far easier to keep track of that revenues stream.