Welcome new folks, passersby and friendly types of all varieties (Part II)

[monster666]

I'd like to take some time to say hello and welcome to people who are wandering in here for whatever reason.

By and large, we attempt to be a friendly bunch, though discussion of that very thing has been the subject for some pretty heated debate lately. Evidently, we are such a friendly group we fight over just how friendly we are. Try to ingore whatever cowpies tosses are going on and come on in anyways. Take a look at the sticky at the top of the threadlist. There is some pretty good stuff in there, and that is what most of us aspire toward, regardless of perceived past successes or failures.

We like hearing from you. Though not required, if you'd reply to this thread telling us a little about yourselves, including any personal BDSM info you'd like to share, it would be appreciated by many. If gives us a heads up that you are here, allows us you welcome you personally, and gives us a clue about what you are about.

I guess I should start by introducing myself.

I am hetero male, 45 years old (barely) and I am a perv. After unsuccessfully completing a 12 step program for pervs (Day by day, I am still a perv) I checked in here. I am married to a woman who loves pervs, but doesn't want to be one herself. For a perv, that's a bummer, but it hasn't been a dealbreaker for us. An alpha type normally, I prefer taking a submissive role in the bedroom, but find it fun to switch from time to time. My first real BDSM experience was about 15 years ago when I was unmarried. Since then, I have had a few very good experiences and some not so good experiences. I have never been in a 24/7 D/s relationship, and am not sure my interest in things D/s would ever really extend beyond the bedroom.

Okay, so what's your deal?

 

[cymbidia]

Excellent idea! We should do a new one of these every six months!

I'm going to repost my offering from the last "Welcome" thread and i urge others to do so, too. Perhaps it will help those who are newer here to know a bit about us individually as they step up and begin to speak out.

Hello. I'm cym, bifem masosub. I've been involved with BDSM sexuality since the beginning of my first sexual relationship almost 30 years ago. Obviously, then, the majority of my BDSM experience has been of the skin-to-skin type, though i have wandered the online realms, too - but in the past. I no longer "play" online at all because it lacks too much of what i need and crave with regard to...to...everything of importance to me as far as emotional relationships and/or the expression of my sexuality.

I've had several important D/s BDSM relationships in my life. I've grown, i've changed, i've gained in all ways from those associations of strength and intensity. At present, finally, i may have met the dominant that i've been getting ready for all my life and we're in the beginning stages of what could be my--our--last D/s BDSM relationship. I hope so, anyway.

I'm 45. I've been actively subbing since i was 15. I'd kill anyone (or want to) who touched my daughter the way i was touched way back then. But that, as the saying goes, was then. I was a different girl than she is and the world was a far different place, too. Perhaps the truth more closely lies with the truism that most of us made choices for ourselves as teenagers and young adults that we would deny our kids.

Though i was born in San Diego, i've lived in northern California, in the San Francisco Bay area, for most of my adult life. I love it here. If one wants to be fully accepted as a sexual freak, this is the place. I'm out and active in my local community and participate in many regional kink events, too.

Currently unemployed, i've most happily and lengthily been a middle school science teacher. (That's 13 and 14 year olds for you who are outside the US.) I'm well-read, well-educated, and well-travelled. Sometimes a bitch, i'm much more likely to try to find a middle ground, a place where we can all be winners in any given disagreement. I collect pre-1900 science textbooks and very old etiquette books. I'll happily bore you into abject submission if you give me the slightest opening to talk about...well...almost anything.

Please read the stickies at the top of the Forum as you come in, slip your shoes off, and grab a comfy corner of the sofa. Welcome to our place of sanity and reality in the chaos of the slipstream.

 

[Rubyfruit]

Thank you for the welcome, Monster.

It was interesting learning more about you.

My deal?

I am married, bisexual and we swing. I have always been attracted to alpha males and females. I love people who are confident enough to have firm opinions, but open enough to listen to what others have to say. I am attracted to highly intelligent people, but not those who use it to make others feel stupid.

Before I married, I was involved in the scene for about a year, most of that time being with one Master. Sexually speaking, it was an awakening for me. I was so turned on by pleasing him, submitting to him and being used by him, that I was on a sexual high for months. I orgasmed for the first time by penetration and I squirted for the first time too. It was an extremely intense sexual relationship and mind fuck (in the good sense).

I was testing my limits a lot during that year, discovering what I liked and didn't like about bdsm. I discovered that while I do (to this day) like a man to be in control, I don't like being under his control at all times. I also discovered that there are limits to the amount of pain I can take pleasure from.

I like public parties and I like for sex to be involved. I like variety in sexual partners and sharing that with my mate.

In short, while I am extremely submissive sexually, I am not a Submissive in the strict sense of the word.

 

[SexyChele]

Good idea, and since I didn't contribute to the "other thread", I'll do so here....

I'm 42, single, and consider myself straight - though I do like to enjoy another woman on occasion. (Yeah, now figure that out! ) I'd always been told by the men I dated in my 20s that I was "kinkier" than most women they dated, but I had no clue as to what they were truly talking about. Then I met my first Dom at 29, and we began to explore and stretch mutual kinks. Neither of us knew or realized that what we were doing had a name - we just knew that we liked it. He was also the only man who has ever brought me to orgasm.

When that ended, I drifted back into the 'nilla world always looking for a man who had a kinky side, but not sure how/where to find it. It wasn't until last year that I finally "discovered" BDSM, and realized that that was what I had engaged in when I was 29-32 and still wanted. But I still didn't know how to find some one to get involved with. I did have an "online thing" last summer. While I learned a few things, and the guy and I are still friends, it was destined not to go anywhere. Plus, I found it simply did not fulfill what I needed - that body next to mine, touch, look, taste, sound.

I have been actively searching for a Dominant male partner for a few months, and have met one that I've been seeing for about 1 1/2 months. Of course, now I'm getting emails daily from other Dominants, so I guess I'm having what is known as a "feast".

I know I have a lot to learn, and want to find just the right man that I "click" with who can teach me, who can help me stretch and experience new things. I don't know if I'll ever be "24/7" - just can't see it happening for me right now - but I do know that BDSM is part of my sexuality, and always will be.

I guess that's all for this gal's "deal".

 

[Parklife]

It's always enjoyable getting to know a bit more about the people behind the posts....

I'm a 28 yr old single, bi-curious submissive male. I could see myself in a 24/7 with the right companion but as I'm fairly new to everything perhaps that's just a bit of over-enthusiasm. Can't say i've had much skin-to-skin experience aside from the occasional roleplay from relationships past. That and moving to the Bay Area of CA probably sparked my interest in more heavily learning about the BDSM lifestyle 4 years or so ago. (how could one go to the Folsom Street Festival and NOT be intrigued ) Instead, i've made the dive into reading, watching, learning, thinking about those things that interest me until i have the opportunity to experience them.

I'm attracted to strong independent women with confidence and intelligence and hope to someday find one that has a dominant side to her sexually. I've done well finding the former, but not the latter so far in life. (perhaps I'm just not looking in the right places)

I'm not into physical pain per se but am into exploring just what those limits might be. The problem I see living the 'mental' life (little skin-skin) I do now is the realization that those things which seem either completely 'doable' or 'avoidable' in my mind may or may not be so in a physical interaction. Somehow I let this bother me into thinking, maybe I have no place here at all into i find out. (is this normal??)

Stumbled onto this place fairly recently and have been impressed with the breadth and depth of the posters. Definitely a place i feel comfortable so far.


Park~

 

[P. B. Walker]

I'm a 32 year old heterosexual male, non-masochist, slighty-sadistic, switch Top/bottom. I am more into the D/s and B/D part of BDSM than the S/M part. I prefer to just keep my activities limited to the bedroom since BDSM is a sexual kink to me. I could never give up good ole vanilla sex. I would not chose to be in a 24/7 relationship or a TPE type relationship. I have very limited skin-to-skin experience. I've mostly Topped a few times in the swinging setting. I was in an online relationship that lasted almost a year where I was in the Dom role. I've also had a few online/phone relationships where I played both the bottom and top roles. At this time, I would perfer skin-to-skin experiences over online/phone experiences. The role I chose is a matter of mood and who I am with at that moment. I have never submitted or bottomed in R/L, which is something on my list of things to do one day. I am not actively looking for BDSM play partners at the moment. I take things as they come mostly.

PBW

 

[~*sunkyssed_kym*~]

Thanx for asking Monster............

I am 42,single,hetro sub. Although I am fairly new to BDSM as a whole, I've long desired to submit to the right man. HE came along a year ago in MY-Sir. Even tho our relationship via the net started out as being tame, HE soon brought out my long time fantasies. In chating with HIM, I found myself opening up and telling HIM all of my repressed desires. I decided I wanted to experience HIS control fully, and with HIS permission; I booked my ticket. We finally came face to face in February when I flew to England to meet him. In April HE flew to Florida to visit me and we have explored the joys of BDSM to a greater extent. We also have pushed the envelope a bit more as time has passed. Things that I once said NO F*&#ing way to; I'm now saying yes, I wish to try. Some of which I have found that I really enjoy.
Now I am looking forward to mid-October, when I once again will cross "the big pond" to be with HIM for several weeks. Its a bitch; only being together for a few short weeks at a time. But HE makes the time spent together worth all of the heartbreak of separation.
HE has given me a gift that I had only dared to dream of. With each day, we are growing together to form a beautiful relationship. I owe HIM much and joyfully submit to HIS command.


-kym-

 

[Quint]

I'm reposting because so much has changed since the last one. Makes me proud. I'm human after all, see? I'm changing! Woo, look at me!

Ahem. Yes. I am a 19-year-old Letters major, which only recently has failed to be a source of constant exhilaration. I'm a word slut and a big fan of Kevin Smith (Silent Bob). Oh, right, the kinky sex stuff. I am presently involved in a LDR with a man whose dominance is eerily perfect for my needs. I don't switch for men, especially if you beg. Still undecided on girls, but they're a moot point right now anyway.

I've discovered a nice spring of masochism that will only grow with repeated meetings between T (my domly half, known in these parts as Unity), but my true passions lie in fear and humiliation, both of which T is willing to carry as far as I can take. I have a really pathetic toybox and an even more pathetic bank account, so no hopes for me. Donations welcome.

Alpha males get me wet. I also have this weird thing with centaurs. If I want to, I can eroticize just about anything to T, but I'm trying to break that habit as a nagging thought has surfaced that such manipulation of his kinks to meet mine might in some circles be regarded as "topping." Plus I already got him interested in all of the ones I wanted, heh heh heh. I love oral sex although I gag very easily, anal sex although I've only had it once, and brutal fucking after about ten minutes of sweet gentle initial penetration. I don't orgasm much but I've stopped caring--until somebody mentions theirs, at which point I begin to cry. That's okay too, because T likes it when I cry.

Welcome, all and/or sundry! It's a scary world over here, but I think I just drew most of the attention, so feel free to sneak in at any point.



The strangest thing about this post is that it is not at all induced by drugs of any sort, as they are a hard limit.

 

[mskittykatt]

i'm a 30yo bifem masosub, (thanks for the right words there Cym) in a committed, monogamous relationship with my Dom.

the only word i had to associate with myself untill fairly recently was kinky or 'fucked up' depending on who you asked.
i am happily a housewife - although i recently took a very part time job to fund our growing toybox.
i am definately more comfortable as the Top with my female partners although that is in the past and i doubt it will be relavent anytime soon.
i'm more into the D/s and S&M then bondage, although we are playing around a little with that.
my favorite toy right now actually came from the kitchen section at Fred Meyer - it's a plastic strainer-type flat, wide plastic utensil that is deliciously stingy and a great warm up...
we're working towards a TPE - slow and steady building a strong foundation.

 

[Red Menace]

I'll introduce myself again, as my other post is now burried deep somewhere in the other topic... and I want to get my post count up so I can get an AV.

I somehow ended up living in LA a couple months ago but San Diego will always be home to me. I'm single, no children except my cat and working as an interior designer.

I'm a het femsub, 30 yrs, very cute (if I do say so myself) and looking for someone to play with... possibly to develop into something more serious. Not too sure about that 24/7 thing just yet, though. Maybe with the right Dom. I had my first taste of BDSM about 10 years ago and haven't stopped thinking about it since. Not that I was a very good sub... but then he wasn't a very good Dom. Inexperience on both sides, I guess. So, being older and wiser now... or at least older... I'm actively looking for a Dom on various web-sites. Sometimes, I really hate the internet. I've met the man I want to really play with, but distance has made it hard to get together. Dating was so much easier when the pool was limited to people in your own backyard.

 

[Ricckk]

Hi

Hi Yall:

I've read this board for a few days & thoroughly enjoyed them. I am 52/Male Dominant from Orlando, USA.

I have been in the D/s lifestyle for about 20 years and have had an online relationship for the last 5 years. This relationship is just as "real" as "real time"; it is just not "in person". Many people don't think that it is possible to have a successful long distance relationship (other than a fantasy/"cyber" relationship), but in reality it only requires patience, focus, and a great deal of trust.

How's that for opening a can of worms right off the bat?!?

Thanks for the warm welcome that a few of you folks gave me after my first post!

Ricckk

 

[Red Menace]

Re: Hi

Hi Yall:

I have been in the D/s lifestyle for about 20 years and have had an online relationship for the last 5 years. This relationship is just as "real" as "real time"; it is just not "in person". Many people don't think that it is possible to have a successful long distance relationship (other than a fantasy/"cyber" relationship), but in reality it only requires patience, focus, and a great deal of trust.

How's that for opening a can of worms right off the bat?!?

Hiya Ricckk. Here's a bucket of water to douse all those on-coming flames with.

 

[lilfrk]

Hello, I'm a freak, some sort of combination of bi-female, masochastic, sub, switch with a little sadistic streak. There...that explains it all nicely doesn't it? Let's face it...I aint got a clue so I'll just stick with the freak part. It fits, I like it.

I'm married to my high school sweetheart, we've been together 14 and a half years. We have an 8 year old daughter who drags Barbi around on a leash.

I'm sub to my Man. I doubt I'll ever get to switch. But I'm hoping someday to try out the Bi part of who I am.

I have been at lit *gasp* 2 years. Sometimes I post, sometimes I lurk. Just depends on how safe I'm feeling. I've met some really wonderful friends here and I've brought a couple of friends here. It's a good place to hangout.

My deal is: I'm rambling, I'm going to bed because napping is better than bowling.

 

[cymbidia]

Re: Re: Hi

Here's a bucket of water to douse all those on-coming flames with.

Actually, Red, and the last half of this past summer notwithstanding, we haven't ever tended to do much flaming here at all. We're a pretty low-key and tolerant group, most of us, for the most part.

Ricckk, i welcomed you earlier and i'll repeat that here: you seem like a steady, calm, and deeply thoughtful kind of person. We can certainly use such in this place. Additionally, there are a number of people who are struggling to make LDR's work; i'm sure your experiences will be of immediate and immense value to them. Welcome.

 

[Ricckk]

Flames

Sokay you two....I can deal with flames <s>. Thanks again for the welcome!

 

[Felicia4411]

Hi everyone. I'm pretty new to Lit and was looking at all the threads under BDSM and thought this sounded like the one to start out on. I'm new into the BDSM scene. I've always been pretty submissive and didn't realize that there was something out there that involved that. I don't know much about it and asked around, I think on the "how to" forum and was told by quite a few people to get the book "Screw the roses, send me thorns" (I think that's the title) and couldn't find it at any bookstore here so I ordered it online, should get it soon. I'm 20, engaged to be married in December and will also be getting my degree in December. So I just wanted to say hi and maybe get to know some people.

 

[RisiaSkye]

This is (more or less) cross-posted from the original thread

I'm RisiaSkye, bifem masochist & Switch, married to major lurker and rare poster MasterMe, also a Switch. We've been together for nearly 9 years, and have been slowly exploring BDSM for most of that time. This is my second long(ish) BDSM relationship, though I have dabbled with the "kinky sex" angle pretty much since the first time I progressed beyond kissing.

This BDSM stuff () is a lifelong thing for me, I think. I am, however, all but totally ignorant about the world of BDSM that exists on the 'net. Essentially all of my experience of this kinda sexuality, insofar is it involves going beyond reading and thinking and into some kind of sexual contact with another, has taken place in the RL/skin-to-skin world and in monogamous or closed-poly relationships. I've never done "the Scene" and I'm not much for public play.

I live in Southern California, and I'm not-quite 27. I'm a college teacher, Ph.D. student, and writer, though at points past I have been a hotel maid, a waitress, bartender, English tutor, motel manager, telephone psychic and a phone sex operator. I collect Stephen King first editions and books on the occult and am fascinated by 19th century Bibles and 20th century French philosophers. I'm a sarcastic beyatch on occasion, but I'm generally pretty nice. (What? I AM!)

Welcome, new faces!

 

[Red Menace]

Re: Re: Re: Hi

Actually, Red, and the last half of this past summer notwithstanding, we haven't ever tended to do much flaming here at all. We're a pretty low-key and tolerant group, most of us, for the most part.

If you say so, Cym.

But seriously, as far as flames, tantrums and hissy-fits, this place is a lot more polite about it than others I've seen. The on-line thing does get sort of a bad rap around here, though. But to each, their own... who am I to say anything.

Hello, Felicia. Always nice to see someone newer than me.

 

[monster666]

Hey, I know you. Haven't I seen you hanging out with those GB types?

Welcome, Ruby.

Thank you for the welcome, Monster.

 

[monster666]

Glad to meet you, Park!

It's always enjoyable getting to know a bit more about the people behind the posts....

Park~

 

[monster666]

Hey, I know you too! Welcome back, PBW.

 

[monster666]

Re: Thanx for asking Monster............

You are welcome, and welcome to DBSM talk!

 

[monster666]

Re: Hi

It's what we try to do, sometimes better than others, I suppose. Welcome.

Thanks for the warm welcome that a few of you folks gave me after my first post!

Ricckk

 

[monster666]

Well, congrats on the pending nuptuals, and welcome!

I'm 20, engaged to be married in December and will also be getting my degree in December. So I just wanted to say hi and maybe get to know some people.

 

[monster666]

Another familiar face. Hiya, mskitty.