I've devised a new way to keep tabs on what Dusty does wrong. We are going to have a demerit system when she recieces 5 points she will be punished. She earns 1 point for being bratty when I consider it being bratty, for forgetting to take her medication and other minor mistakes. Two points for forgetting to write her diary, 3 points for cutting herself down, and 5 points or more for self injury.
ways to keep track of punishable offenses
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Shadowsdream
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Very good system and a loving system if I may say so.
Punishment that reinforces love and caring is always effective.
Have You also developed a system of rewards?
Punishment that reinforces love and caring is always effective.
Have You also developed a system of rewards?
tassie
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hmm, interesting idea, but would be a bugger for me, i just cant get over this bratty thing! I try really hard, but ive got such a "smartmouth" sometimes it just comes out. i'd end up with more minus marks than we'd know what to do with.
the withdrawal of play, sitting in the corner on my own until i've learned my lesson or something like that is working, He's very patient thankfully and im getting there, but it still creeps out when im not looking
rewards are the best, for me anyway, good behaviour = a bath, im so lucky at times!
the withdrawal of play, sitting in the corner on my own until i've learned my lesson or something like that is working, He's very patient thankfully and im getting there, but it still creeps out when im not looking
rewards are the best, for me anyway, good behaviour = a bath, im so lucky at times!
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Shadowsdream said:
Yes, it is a very loving and caring system and I understand that punishments happen because she loves me and wants me to be the best that I can be. When I am forgetting my medicine, cutting myself down or hurting myself than I am not being the best and that is bad. I'm harming what she cherises. I'm very lucky, I have a very loving Domme...
Rewards? oooh we must discuss that
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taivish the scamp
tavish has what I call a scamp mode where he gets a bit fresh and he is allowed to do it cause it amuses Me.
But when I have had enough or of he goes too far, I use his given name and he knows to stop immediately. This works for us cause I basically do not punish.
He does it right the first time or I correct him. He is not allowed to push my buttons because he signed on voluntarily forever. He is no longer his own man, he belongs to me till death us do part. He knows he had a choice and so he is happy to be my slave boy.
We will see how well he does when we are living together permanently. I am sure he will be tempt fate. I am also sure I will have a special remedy for him in case he does.
Ebony <love that scamp>
tavish has what I call a scamp mode where he gets a bit fresh and he is allowed to do it cause it amuses Me.
But when I have had enough or of he goes too far, I use his given name and he knows to stop immediately. This works for us cause I basically do not punish.
He does it right the first time or I correct him. He is not allowed to push my buttons because he signed on voluntarily forever. He is no longer his own man, he belongs to me till death us do part. He knows he had a choice and so he is happy to be my slave boy.
We will see how well he does when we are living together permanently. I am sure he will be tempt fate. I am also sure I will have a special remedy for him in case he does.
Ebony <love that scamp>
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Ebony
Good luck to You and tavish when You go full time real time.
My slave can also be a bit scampish ( he says it is to make Me laugh) and I adore it. BUT, like You when it is enough, it is enough.
I look forward to hearing all about Your journey and am soooo happy for You and tavish.
Good luck to You and tavish when You go full time real time.
My slave can also be a bit scampish ( he says it is to make Me laugh) and I adore it. BUT, like You when it is enough, it is enough.
I look forward to hearing all about Your journey and am soooo happy for You and tavish.
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JenJ said:
it was not meant to be a criticism, I was just stating an alternate point of view. I am usually the odd woman out on this baord cause I am more service oriented. I have a slave to make my life more easy. It is just a fluke I met one I fell in love with.
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systems like that can be very comforting in the transition times, as well as a good way for the both of you to learn the other's expectations.
it's wonderful to be able to watch as your relationships grow and change. thank you for sharing it with us!
it's wonderful to be able to watch as your relationships grow and change. thank you for sharing it with us!
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Ebonyfire said:
Actually, Ebony, I understand this perfectly.
I understand the need for a service oriented slave. When Himself and I started talking about a third person, we really did not know what we wanted. After many months (like 7 months) of talking with different people, we both realize that a slave is just what we want.
Neither of us are particularly punishment oriented. He rewards me when I do as he asks and talks to me about the need to follow orders. If I have failed in someway to please him, he talks to me aabout it. He denies me certain pleasures. The worst thing that he can do is not talk to me or call me. He knows this and I know this. He is very careful to use this only when I have done something very bad. (Just once was enough for me).
Like you and Shadow when I have pushed the envelop too far he will let me know by the tone of his voice. That is all I need.
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tassie said:hmm, interesting idea, but would be a bugger for me, i just cant get over this bratty thing! I try really hard, but ive got such a "smartmouth" sometimes it just comes out. i'd end up with more minus marks than we'd know what to do with.
the withdrawal of play, sitting in the corner on my own until i've learned my lesson or something like that is working, He's very patient thankfully and im getting there, but it still creeps out when im not looking
rewards are the best, for me anyway, good behaviour = a bath, im so lucky at times!
See I deal with a smart mouth with a slap. Yes I face slap! I have not had to do it often (I think I did it once when I was in the UK). but I have to be really exasperated to slap.
Ebony
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