warm up for anal?

[lilevilpunk]

I want to try anal sex for the first time...I have 5 months to wait untill I will be able to actually do it for real. Is there any thing that I can do to make it easier for me? Or is there anything I should know?

 

[Bandit58]

You can try just playing around that area with a finger, getting used to being touched there first, then in the shower try inserting a soapy finger. Later you could use a small vibe with lube and a condom on it, to get used to the sensation of having something in there. It's quite strange at first to have something going IN as opposed to going OUT

Most of all, relax. There are two sphincters, one can be consciously relaxed, the other takes a little effort to "open up" as it were. Gentle pressure, and if it hurts, just stop and try again another time. You have five months which is plenty of time to get used to things. The most important things are relax, take your time, and plenty of lube especially when you're just getting started.

Anal sex can be one of the most wonderful things you can do with a trusted partner. Good luck!

 

[lilevilpunk]

You can try just playing around that area with a finger, getting used to being touched there first, then in the shower try inserting a soapy finger. Later you could use a small vibe with lube and a condom on it, to get used to the sensation of having something in there. It's quite strange at first to have something going IN as opposed to going OUT

Most of all, relax. There are two sphincters, one can be consciously relaxed, the other takes a little effort to "open up" as it were. Gentle pressure, and if it hurts, just stop and try again another time. You have five months which is plenty of time to get used to things. The most important things are relax, take your time, and plenty of lube especially when you're just getting started.

Anal sex can be one of the most wonderful things you can do with a trusted partner. Good luck!

I am just really nervous...and kinda afraid. It seems to me that that sort of thing would be painful

 

[Halo_n_horns]

I'm curious as to why it's going to be so long for you to try it? The person who can best teach you to do it is seen in your bathroom mirror every day.

Also, bottom play can be done the right way, or it can be done the way all too many people do it; by just sticking it in. All too few have done it successfully using the latter technique.

I can give you some steps to follow that will all but guarantee your success, but it depends on your willingness.

 

[Bandit58]

I am just really nervous...and kinda afraid. It seems to me that that sort of thing would be painful

I was afraid at first too, due to a bad first experience which put me off anal sex for over 20 years. But I found someone who introduced me to it gradually, who prepared me well, and took his time and was gentle and did not force things.

Anal sex done right should not hurt. Pain is the body's way of saying something is wrong and you should stop. Don't expect to get it right the first time you try. In fact it was the second visit to my long distance lover before we actually got to penile penetration.

 

[coolr]

my guess as to her waiting is that her SO is probably in a different state/country possibly? but the whole soapy finger thing that was posted, i tried it a looong time ago, and it burned, the whole soap in the asshole thing, no good, i'd suggest some sort of lube or something else

 

[Meat Whistler]

Get a decent lube (KY is even acceptable) and get a dong (the cheapest one will work). Start with a smaller dong; you can find anal-specific ones. Anyhow, use a lot of lube and push out (like you're going to shit), while shoving the cock into your ass.

Relax. Go slowly. Use lots of lube. Push out while shoving in.

 

[lilevilpunk]

my guess as to her waiting is that her SO is probably in a different state/country possibly? but the whole soapy finger thing that was posted, i tried it a looong time ago, and it burned, the whole soap in the asshole thing, no good, i'd suggest some sort of lube or something else

My husband is currently deployed and I have to wait for him to get back

 

[lilevilpunk]

Get a decent lube (KY is even acceptable) and get a dong (the cheapest one will work). Start with a smaller dong; you can find anal-specific ones. Anyhow, use a lot of lube and push out (like you're going to shit), while shoving the cock into your ass.

Relax. Go slowly. Use lots of lube. Push out while shoving in.

A friend of mine suggested small anal beads, would that work for just beginning??

 

[Meat Whistler]

A friend of mine suggested small anal beads, would that work for just beginning??

Anal beads work because you can easily use a smaller bead and work your way up to the larger beads. However, they are often awkward in terms of sliding them in because the way they are so bendy. If you can spend money on a decent toy, I would go with an anal wand that has varying sized beads and is harder/not bendy.

You can usually find a set of anal toys for a reasonable price and that will allow you to play and try out various sizes and textures.

 

[coolr]

not trying to stray off topic, but meat whistler, your av totally throws off my thought process, oddly strange................ lol

 

[lilevilpunk]

Anal beads work because you can easily use a smaller bead and work your way up to the larger beads. However, they are often awkward in terms of sliding them in because the way they are so bendy. If you can spend money on a decent toy, I would go with an anal wand that has varying sized beads and is harder/not bendy.

You can usually find a set of anal toys for a reasonable price and that will allow you to play and try out various sizes and textures.

I plan on doing some more shopping tomorrow. I already have some lube and a few toys for my pleasure (hehehe), now that I think about it I want to go shopping today and I will keep my eye out for the wand. Thank you

Sorry I look like ass in this pic...havent slept very well since hubby left

 

[Halo_n_horns]

I plan on doing some more shopping tomorrow. I already have some lube and a few toys for my pleasure (hehehe), now that I think about it I want to go shopping today and I will keep my eye out for the wand. Thank you

Sorry I look like ass in this pic...havent slept very well since hubby left

You don't look like an ass. It's actually a pretty cute pic. I'd love to see some lube ads that looked like that.

Anyway, while your hubby is gone is the perfect time for you to do this and be ready for him when he comes back. This isn't a difficult process to learn and it does not take two people to teach it to yourself. Self exploration is by far the most right way to start learning about this subject. There's also some little tricks that I've learned that will make the learning process far easier and tremendously more pleasureable.

 

[SueJ]

What a wonderful present to give your husband upon his return! I hope all goes well for you. You've received wonderful advice here about preparing yourself. Go really slow, as everybody said. That's truly key. Start very small and work up the sizes gradually. Big "yes" to the finger in the shower 10-15 seconds a day. Even if it's a slight burn, it's short-lived, works as a pain-desensitization practice, and will help a lot when the time comes.

Also, my husband and I both dislike the thick gel lubes like KY. We prefer the thinner types that are more akin to my natural lubrication, but I guess everybody has their personal preferences for all these things.

 

[lilevilpunk]

What a wonderful present to give your husband upon his return! I hope all goes well for you. You've received wonderful advice here about preparing yourself. Go really slow, as everybody said. That's truly key. Start very small and work up the sizes gradually. Big "yes" to the finger in the shower 10-15 seconds a day. Even if it's a slight burn, it's short-lived, works as a pain-desensitization practice, and will help a lot when the time comes.

Also, my husband and I both dislike the thick gel lubes like KY. We prefer the thinner types that are more akin to my natural lubrication, but I guess everybody has their personal preferences for all these things.

Ok another qyuestin....the same frined told me to put just a little lube around my ass at first, to make sure my skin doesnt have a bad reaction. Does that really happen?

 

[SueJ]

Ok another qyuestin....the same frined told me to put just a little lube around my ass at first, to make sure my skin doesnt have a bad reaction. Does that really happen?

Gee, I don't know, but it certainly makes sense to test it; after all, we're all allergic to different things. I found out recently that I'm allergic to Vitamin E! It makes my skin flake and pimple! It was in my vitamins for years and it wasn't until I ran out of vitamins and my skin cleared up that my doctor and I were able to pinpoint the culprit. So, certainly it's possible that there could be a reaction to something.

I've heard that it's best to stay sugar-free if you use a flavored lube. And anything with flavorings or additives obviously introduces more ingredients that could give you a reaction. My husband and I love the lubes made by the company "Wet".

 

[lilevilpunk]

Gee, I don't know, but it certainly makes sense to test it; after all, we're all allergic to different things. I found out recently that I'm allergic to Vitamin E! It makes my skin flake and pimple! It was in my vitamins for years and it wasn't until I ran out of vitamins and my skin cleared up that my doctor and I were able to pinpoint the culprit. So, certainly it's possible that there could be a reaction to something.

I've heard that it's best to stay sugar-free if you use a flavored lube. And anything with flavorings or additives obviously introduces more ingredients that could give you a reaction. My husband and I love the lubes made by the company "Wet".

Yeah it made sense to me to test it, and I will have to look for their products.

 

[bluntman47]

So is it a surprise for your husband when he gets back, or does he know? Hell, I think I'd desert if I knew my oh-so-sexy wife was waiting for me to fuck her ass... if he does know, I bet he'd appreciate some very hot pics of you preparing for him!

 

[lilevilpunk]

So is it a surprise for your husband when he gets back, or does he know? Hell, I think I'd desert if I knew my oh-so-sexy wife was waiting for me to fuck her ass... if he does know, I bet he'd appreciate some very hot pics of you preparing for him!

I let him know last night and the first things out of his mouth were "I WANT PICTURES!!!" LOL

 

[MCPW]

I let him know last night and the first things out of his mouth were "I WANT PICTURES!!!" LOL

Who wouldn't!!!!!

 

[Guest]

I am just really nervous...and kinda afraid. It seems to me that that sort of thing would be painful

Not always is it painful. I would think having riods is much worse.

 

[silverwhisper]

so, uh...how'd it go? btw: you most assuredly do not look like ass in that pic, lilevilpunk.

[wanders off in search of her am pics thread]



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[Guest]

Damn me for not reading the entire thread.

 

[FurryFury]

so, uh...how'd it go? btw: you most assuredly do not look like ass in that pic, lilevilpunk.

[wanders off in search of her am pics thread]



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Yeah I agree you look cute as hell!

Anal can be great!!! I was terrified of it for a long time. You have great advice there, use it and all will be great! I'm just sorry I wasted so much time being scared of doing it!!! LOL.

The first toy we got is stiff plastic but it does have some give to it enough to be pleasant not too much that you can't get it in! It has little bead like round areas that get bigger further up the wand plus a small vibe you can put up the hallow shaft. Great toy!!! It's classified as an Anal Plug but it can be used elsewhere and is a thin dildo thing.

If you already did it, you should report back and let us know about it!

Please?

Fury

 

[Lust Engine]

I let him know last night and the first things out of his mouth were "I WANT PICTURES!!!" LOL

Who wouldn't? Hell, if you looked "horrible" in the one above- you must be a stone cold fox on days you feel great. That earlier pic of you is hot!