Wanting more...

[Nemea]

Okay so by nature im very very submissive - When it comes to sex, but also in general. I love taking care of my bf in all sorts of ways.

The thing is my bf has never been dominant before and i can feel that he dosnt really know what to do, when to do it and how much. Ive tried to tell him and drop hints so often but he dosnt really take it in
Anyone got some ideas for me to "make" him more dominant?

Hugs Nemea

 

[catalina_francisco]

Firstly you need to talk to him openly and honestly and see if it is for him. If he is interested, perhaps you could both read through threads here, and perhaps to get him in the mood, some of the stories. Hints are all very good, but they don't always work if the other person is not on the same page as you.

Catalina

 

[redheadedtxn]

Good luck. Send him links to D/s articles and tell him this interests you deeply.

 

[tumbledown]

It can take time for him to find his stride, and it can happen in a kind of off-and-on way too... be patient, give lots and lots of positive feedback, and who knows where it might go!

 

[roomfor1more]

If he is not already dominating in the bedroom then it is possible that becoming more dominant in the bedroom is something that makes him uneasy. Alternatively he may wanting to become more dominant in the bedroom but is looking for cues from you. My suggestion would be to suggest a few things that might help him get comfortable with the idea maybe like using neck ties to tie your limbs down to the bed, or using a blindfold then letting him do what he wants. It does not have to be these exact suggestion but something that you feel is not threatening to him that might make him take an interest in becoming more dominant. Then start to encourage him to become more dominant by letting him what you want and respond to it accordingly. Much of this is going to come down to communication, support, encouragement and feedback. Should that not work then I would suggest talking to him outside of the bedroom and explain to him what you are wanting from him.

 

[xperia2995]

maybe he wants another kind of relationship (maybe a vanilla love relation) convince him to take turns and play your style alternatively