want my WIFE to DOMINATE me..

[Baskin Robbins]

i want my WIFE to dominate me in every way in our home life! sexual, cleaning etc. i want to wear her panties and bra and clean the house as she spanks me to keep me cleaning! bring out the riding crop as she SPANKS my ass.

Why is she so resistant to dominating me?

I've given her every opportunity to take me!

WHY WILL WOMEN NOT TAKE MEN?

Damnit! I want to experience an orgasm without feeling an obligation! -- Women ... in general don't have to worry a/b "premature" orgasm.

Why can we not FUCK??

Fuck me!!

 

[Baskin Robbins]

I want a fuck without having to think...

Why do women HAVE to attach so much to sex?

 

[Baskin Robbins]

Sounds like a Guys' playground!

 

[Kajira Callista]

i want my WIFE to dominate me in every way in our home life! sexual, cleaning etc. i want to wear her panties and bra and clean the house as she spanks me to keep me cleaning! bring out the riding crop as she SPANKS my ass.

Why is she so resistant to dominating me?

I've given her every opportunity to take me!

WHY WILL WOMEN NOT TAKE MEN?

Damnit! I want to experience an orgasm without feeling an obligation! -- Women ... in general don't have to worry a/b "premature" orgasm.

Why can we not FUCK??

Fuck me!!

hmmmm maybe she cant dominate you because you are way too busy attempting to dominate her?

 

[rosco rathbone]

Damnit! I want to experience an orgasm without feeling an obligation! -- Women ... in general don't have to worry a/b "premature" orgasm.

I can't say I feel any obligation attached to my orgasms; nor do I worry about "premature" orgasms--I just let fly willy-nilly--and I'm a Master, not a Sub. Perhaps you are approaching this issue from the wrong direction.

 

[3113]

Are you serious?

Why is she so resistant to dominating me?

You bitch and complain (jokingly? Seriously?), but you don't tell us anything. What have you said to her? And what has she said back? Have you told her EXACTLY what you want? Or have you just "given her opportunities" to do it and you're pissed that she hasn't read your mind? (hint: only mothers are mind-readers)

More questions: Did she know about these desires for domination BEFORE you married her? Has she ever done it before and is now withholding? How have you been acting up till now? How long have you been married?

I mean, if for 10 years you've been the man of the house in classic, conservative, vanilla fashion and then one day you say, "honey, I want to do household chores on my knees, wearing your panties and I want a spanking...." well, your wife might well think you've lost your mind.

Next set of questions: if you have told her what you want, clearly and in writing, have you asked for it all at once, or given her time to adjust and learn and get into it? Once again, unless you started when you were dating, it sounds like your wife may need some adjustment time. I know I would.

Don't give her a long list. Start small. Start with: "Give me orders. Household chores to do...."

Now that sounds pretty easy for a wife to do, yes? But it may be harder than you think for her to do that. If the house is her domain, then it might be hard for her to tell you to "do the dishes," when she's always done them herself and knows how to do them. So, once again, she's going to need to teach you first, exactly how she wants it done, then start ordering you around.

And if she's been raised as most girls are, to be polite and self-effacing, it may be hard for her to "order" you to "Do the dishes, Slut!" rather than say, "Sweetheart, would you be so kind as to wash the dishes, pretty please when you have time?" You don't spend years being diffident in your requests and then suddenly, one day, start barking orders like a four-star general.

In short, if you just want to complain, fine. But if you want real answers to your questions, we need a LOT more information about the situation. Not just a list of your WANTS, but an idea of why your wife might be reluctant to meet them.

Finally...why don't you put your WIFE on this forum? Dominating you may make you wife feel uncertain and uncomfortable--it may make her want to laugh, feel silly, feel wrong. But if she loves you, and wants to make you happy, she'll likely give it try IF she has some knowledgable folk offering her ideas and ways of viewing the experience. There are so many wise and experienced people here. Why not give her a chance to really understand your needs and what it is you want--and how she can satisfy them?

 

[luxey313]

i want my WIFE to dominate me in every way in our home life! sexual, cleaning etc. i want to wear her panties and bra and clean the house as she spanks me to keep me cleaning! bring out the riding crop as she SPANKS my ass.

Why is she so resistant to dominating me?

I've given her every opportunity to take me!

WHY WILL WOMEN NOT TAKE MEN?

Damnit! I want to experience an orgasm without feeling an obligation! -- Women ... in general don't have to worry a/b "premature" orgasm.

Why can we not FUCK??

Fuck me!!

She is domming you, by not giving you what you want.
Stop whining like a bitch and show good behavior, and maybe she wood.

 

[Netzach]

Boy that's enticing, whoo. Hard to keep my panties on thinking about that.

 

[FurryFury]

I've said it before and I'll say it again. It seems to me that many male so called subs tend to be very demanding. I personally think it's because men are raised in this society feeling entitled to whatever they want. I also think that many men are simply explorers who want to experience things that might be considered sub like but in fact they want to drive this puppy themselves, they just want to work through whichever woman they happen to be fucking.

If you are serious, you should try to read Akasha's The Good Girl's Guide to Domination. It has some hints for males. One of them is don't be pushy!!! You could also do a google search or look at some of the threads on here about how to convert a 'nilla partner to a kinky though in some cases it just can't be done.

If your lady is coming from a previously 'nilla sex life with you to a sudden shift that could pose some real transition problems. She might be willing and she might not, but you have to bring it up in just the right low key way that doesn't threaten.

Some might say use movies ie: porn. I don't advise it. Women don't always like porn. It might turn her off unless you know she is into porn in general.

I would say bring it up during a relaxed time when you two are talking about fantasies. Try one of her's first. Ask her if she has any fantasies that she would like to try in RL. If she will tell you one, then ease into trying it.

Later after you have pleased her, share one of your fantasies with her. Not a laundry list of what you'd like but ONE small fantasy. See if she is willing to give back to you as you gave to her. There should always be give and take.

Keep in mind many fantasies should remain just that so If she tells you that she fantasizes about being gang raped for instance (which is a very common fantasy) that doesn't mean she wants to play in RL at that. Don't get too over eager or in too deep too fast. Try to discern with her help which fantasies she would really like to play with in RL and which should be kept in that wonderful sex organ, (her brain,) only.

I liked the idea of you asking to perform a chore for her. Pick one she complains about. Ask her to teach you. Tell her you will do this for her from now on. Follow through with that and do it well. Ask for a reward, say a kiss or a even little spank if she thinks you missed a spot, tell her you love it when she takes charge. Do it with your clothes on unless you are sure, she is very comfortable with your clothes off. Mention how happy it makes you to make her happy. (Trust me doing some house work can only get you "points" even in the most 'nilla of relationships.)

Okay, remember, you must communicate. That means you have to listen to her and be able to actually digest the information you get from her, even use it and she has to do the same thing for you.

I hate seeing things about how someone's Dom isn't doing the "right" things for someone. Or even worse how a "Dom" is trying but she doesn't ever seem satisfied with his efforts and he doesn't know what she wants.

You know why that is??? Lack of communication, that's why that is! You can't expect anyone to read your mind despite all the media loves stories that would make you think differently.

Remember if you REALLY want to please HER you can find out how to do that by talking with and listening to her. However if what you REALLY want is for her to do X to you and she doesn't feel the slightest bit Dom or kinky, it's going to be hard to get what you want. You'll never know if you don't talk about it though.

I don't advise calling your interest sissification, BDSM, fetish, SM, or any of those other really scary terms. Never call pain if you are into that, pain unless you are sure she is into giving it to you, call it sensation instead. Call your interest it a fantasies that you would like both of you to "play" with. Explore some of hers and some of yours if she is willing.

Good luck,

Fury

 

[Betticus]

She is domming you, by not giving you what you want.
Stop whining like a bitch and show good behavior, and maybe she wood.

Bitch betta have my money!

 

[catalina_francisco]

i want my WIFE to dominate me in every way in our home life! sexual, cleaning etc. i want to wear her panties and bra and clean the house as she spanks me to keep me cleaning! bring out the riding crop as she SPANKS my ass.

Why is she so resistant to dominating me?

You know, we see this again and again from both men and women who have started in a vanilla relstionship and then decided to change the path and call it something else and then act stunned if their partner is not exactly thrilled or interested. Wake up and get the message, just because you decide you want to try the kinky chocolate, doesn't necesarily mean your partner wants to give up their white chocolate to join you, or that they can switch over overnight when you ahev likely been thinking about it for months or years. Now just suppose some of you get lucky and your partner is also hiding some desires in that direction, that does not mean they are sharing your desires and may find all the things you think hot, as totally repulsive. That is why when you seek a partner in D/s, it is a good idea to have an idea of what rocks your boat and be able to express that to potential partners so you find somone who matches your particular kinks and hot spots. Sort of reminds me of those people who think if you are into same sex relationships, then you should naturally find everyone of that gender, straight or not, attractive and hot....doesn't work that way. Basically communication only works so far, it cannot change a person into being someone they are not just because your little heart desires it.

Catalina.