Walked in on....

Rebellious_Sub

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Ok, so this just happened to me and I am sitting here, angry and although not embarassed, I have just had to field a few questions from the vanillia who happened to open the door just now durning session with Master...

So, now that I am here, sitting thinking... I guess maybe I am just wondering how many others have had this experience? Seriously a joy kill...

*sigh*
 
While I haven't been walked in on while cybering, as a parent I _have_ been walked in on while bumping uglies with their mom. And of course in college, getting walked in on by the roommate was a "not rare" occurence... I imagine it's much the same if you were masterbating for Master.

I don't know what your living arrangements are like RS, but in my past arrangements, that was what locks were for. Live and learn
 
Rebellious_Sub said:
Seriously a joy kill...

*sigh*
bummer...

has not happened to me - sorry it happened to you.

Was it someone you live with?
 
Hmm firstly, Master was in the room with me... we were not cybering, but after he left to ..."collect himself" .... I logged on..

And... no, I was walked in on by someone who does not live here... who walks into someone's bedroom without knocking when one does not live in that house?
 
Rebellious_Sub said:
Hmm firstly, Master was in the room with me... we were not cybering, but after he left to ..."collect himself" .... I logged on..

And... no, I was walked in on by someone who does not live here... who walks into someone's bedroom without knocking when one does not live in that house?

you OK? Safe?

.
 
Shank, thank you so much for asking that. I am...safe physically yes. Emotionally, I am furious... (and a bit hurt at the things that have transpired since the walk in... but I am not able to get into that or I will start to cry....which I am fighting doing right now...)
 
Rebellious_Sub said:
Shank, thank you so much for asking that. I am...safe physically yes. Emotionally, I am furious... (and a bit hurt at the things that have transpired since the walk in... but I am not able to get into that or I will start to cry....which I am fighting doing right now...)

take your time, just breathe, feel your safety, and sort it out later....



.
 
Rebellious_Sub said:
Shank, thank you so much for asking that. I am...safe physically yes. Emotionally, I am furious... (and a bit hurt at the things that have transpired since the walk in... but I am not able to get into that or I will start to cry....which I am fighting doing right now...)

*snuggles*
 
*snuggles back* Thanks Wench... I need that...

Thanks also Shank.. I am going to go now.. I need to go try to get myself calm too. *tears coming anyways*

Take care everyone..

Yes, door lock being purchased tomorrow.
 
Just shut your front and back door, then you can do what you want in any room of your house without people wandering in uninvited. Personally, I have always made it clear to anyone who entertained the idea of just inviting themselves into my house, even if the door were open to catch a breeze, that they can just think again as it is not welcome or advised...it worked well.

Catalina :rose:
 
Wow RS, that certainly is a bummer. Talk about getting outted.

I wish I had a lot of wisdom or experience to share with you, but I'm already "out" to my family and most of my friends. The fallout was dealt with many moons ago.

All I can think to offer in the way of advice is this. Do not be defensive if the topic comes up, be proud and happy of your relationship with your Master. If anything is said, remind people that what two concenting adults do in the privacy of their bedroom is nobody's business but theirs, and it certainly isn't the business of someone who doesn't have the common decency to knock or announce their presence before barging in to someone's bedroom.

If you are getting a lot of flack about this, you might read the book When Someone You Love Is Kinky by Dossie Easton & Catherine A. Liszt, available directly from the publisher at http://www.greenerypress.com/ for ideas on how to approach discussing this with family or friends.

Sorry that happened to you, RS and hope this helps.
 
That's happened to me with my daughter. And my sister (she was drunk, normally she knocks). lol That's why we have a lock on our door now. I haven't had a person who's not a member of my household walk in on me, and personally I'd be furious. *hugs*
 
Rebellious_Sub said:
Ok, so this just happened to me and I am sitting here, angry and although not embarassed, I have just had to field a few questions from the vanillia who happened to open the door just now durning session with Master...

So, now that I am here, sitting thinking... I guess maybe I am just wondering how many others have had this experience? Seriously a joy kill...

*sigh*

RS I feel your pain. A few weeks ago while my son was at baseball camp and my daughter was in Florida with her friends, my Husband and I were having some pretty fierce sex in the kitchen of our house. I was face down on the island with my hands tied behind my back - well, you get the picture.

It was about dusk and all of the sudden the motion detector lights around the pool in the backyard all came on and we saw my son's 17 year old friend standing in the middle of our back porch staring at us through the window like a deer in headlights. He was sneaking in to swim. I have no idea how long he was out there before he tripped the lights or what all he saw, but I was really upset. I would have probably thought it was funny if I didn't think that it would hurt and embarrass my son so badly, but I knew it would. My Husband walked out buck-naked and told him that if he breathed a word to anyone about what he saw he would rip him a new asshole (Daddy can be such a sweet talker sometimes - lol). The kid swore he wouldn't say anything and so far I think he has kept his word.

We got a better lock for the gate, one you can't reach over and unlock if you are tall enough. So, that's my terrible walked in on experience. And your right, it is seriously a joy kill.

Skye
 
ImSkye said:
RS I feel your pain. A few weeks ago while my son was at baseball camp and my daughter was in Florida with her friends, my Husband and I were having some pretty fierce sex in the kitchen of our house. I was face down on the island with my hands tied behind my back - well, you get the picture.

It was about dusk and all of the sudden the motion detector lights around the pool in the backyard all came on and we saw my son's 17 year old friend standing in the middle of our back porch staring at us through the window like a deer in headlights. He was sneaking in to swim. I have no idea how long he was out there before he tripped the lights or what all he saw, but I was really upset. I would have probably thought it was funny if I didn't think that it would hurt and embarrass my son so badly, but I knew it would. My Husband walked out buck-naked and told him that if he breathed a word to anyone about what he saw he would rip him a new asshole (Daddy can be such a sweet talker sometimes - lol). The kid swore he wouldn't say anything and so far I think he has kept his word.

We got a better lock for the gate, one you can't reach over and unlock if you are tall enough. So, that's my terrible walked in on experience. And your right, it is seriously a joy kill.

Skye


Skye,

Very similar experience, Master had me tied up, I was bent over, and he was using his new toy... a paddle to redden my ass when the door to my bedroom was tossed open...

The person who opened it had no right to do so, he is my ex husband.. and so vanilla.. he was threatening to take my son who is 13 from me, was going to call the cops, .... oh Master was so upset, and we (Master and I) had been dealing with a lot over the last few weeks as it were...

As we speak I am reading thu instructions on how to install this new lock... and I let my ex know that for one, he may not enter my home without knocking on the outside door first and let in by ME... and he is not to EVER open my bedroom door again. Period.. but just in case... that lock is going up right now.

My son, btw was not home durning this... and Master and I never play if he is... this was our time, and I am furious over losing it, as Master lives so far from me to begin with... an 8 hr drive...

When Evil_Geoff had posted about cybering, that made me smile a little - because I would have much rather been walked in on while cybering for Master than the way that it happened.. There are definately a lot of feelings flying around here.
And EG, I am grateful for the advice.. this becoming defensive is a stance that I started to take, and then I attempted to educate my ex on simple acceptance.. *sigh* ... not working, but ...

Well, life.. what a mess sometimes.. But time marches on, so it's time to move on... repair, prepare and forget dispair.
 
I'm sorry that happened to you. *hugs*

How rude of anyone to just walk in without permission.

Now I'm thinking that maybe you might want to consult a kink-friendly lawyer, if you can find one, to talk through how to keep your ex from trying to get your son.
While I know perfectly well that it's bullshit to take children from a parent because of the things they do in the bedroom as consenting adults, I can see very well how the other parent and judges could see it differently.
 
Rebellious_Sub said:
Skye,

Very similar experience, Master had me tied up, I was bent over, and he was using his new toy... a paddle to redden my ass when the door to my bedroom was tossed open...

The person who opened it had no right to do so, he is my ex husband.. and so vanilla.. he was threatening to take my son who is 13 from me, was going to call the cops, .... oh Master was so upset, and we (Master and I) had been dealing with a lot over the last few weeks as it were...

As we speak I am reading thu instructions on how to install this new lock... and I let my ex know that for one, he may not enter my home without knocking on the outside door first and let in by ME... and he is not to EVER open my bedroom door again. Period.. but just in case... that lock is going up right now.

My son, btw was not home durning this... and Master and I never play if he is... this was our time, and I am furious over losing it, as Master lives so far from me to begin with... an 8 hr drive...

When Evil_Geoff had posted about cybering, that made me smile a little - because I would have much rather been walked in on while cybering for Master than the way that it happened.. There are definately a lot of feelings flying around here.
And EG, I am grateful for the advice.. this becoming defensive is a stance that I started to take, and then I attempted to educate my ex on simple acceptance.. *sigh* ... not working, but ...

Well, life.. what a mess sometimes.. But time marches on, so it's time to move on... repair, prepare and forget dispair.
OH, you poor thing. My heart is going out to you right now ... how horrible, on so many levels.

WHY is it that we must be made to feel like deviants by those who don't understand the lifestyle? WHY is it that WE must explain and try to smooth the waters??? It's so damn unfair :(
 
Sheeesh, you're ex?!!! Why the heck haven't you secured your house before this if he is in the habit of wandering in uninvited? Forget securing your bedroom door, just do the front and back doors...after all, letting him come in the house and not the bedroom is not going to stop him hearing through the door, recording the sounds, etc. I just find myself shaking my head wondering why you have stood by and accepted this up to now. Add to this I am concerned about the welfare of your son, and you, not to mention your property if your house is that easy to access by anyone basically. Stop being a victim and be proactive.

Catalina :rose:
 
I do have locks on both front and back doors, a door handle lock, deadbolt lock and a chain lock. However, we had simply locked the door handles, and not thinking, had proceeded to our activities...

My ex has a key for my home. He has my son from time to time.. and was easier to give him a key so in case something should happen where I was not home..ect...

Anyways, he uses that key to let himself in, other times, when my son is not with him.. this is disturbing. I have had talks with him about it which have gone unheeded. So, something else must be done, and I am becoming a stronger woman, and I DO and have become proactive in my life...

I do thank you for the concern and caring though. Situations such as this can become rather sticky, I do think I will take Chris's idea and find me a nice lawyer with some kink... probably need one. ...
 
Rebellious_Sub said:
I do have locks on both front and back doors, a door handle lock, deadbolt lock and a chain lock. However, we had simply locked the door handles, and not thinking, had proceeded to our activities...

My ex has a key for my home. He has my son from time to time.. and was easier to give him a key so in case something should happen where I was not home..ect...

Anyways, he uses that key to let himself in, other times, when my son is not with him.. this is disturbing. I have had talks with him about it which have gone unheeded. So, something else must be done, and I am becoming a stronger woman, and I DO and have become proactive in my life...

I do thank you for the concern and caring though. Situations such as this can become rather sticky, I do think I will take Chris's idea and find me a nice lawyer with some kink... probably need one. ...


My suggestion, get real about your whole situation as in making firm boundaries which means changing your locks AND not giving your ex a key. What do you expect to happen when you are in the middle of a seperation/divorce that is obviously not amicable? When I was a single mother (divorced) the only person who had keys to my house were me, and once the children were older them....no ex, no friends, no boyfriends no matter how serious, no parents, no-one but us...it worked wonderfully.

Catalina :rose:
 
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catalina_francisco said:
My suggestion, get real about your whole situation as in making firm boundaries which means changing your locks AND not giving your ex a key. What do you expect to happen when you are in the middle of a seperation/divorce that is obviously not amicable. When I was a single mother the only person who had keys to my house were me, and once the children were older them....no friends, no boyfriends no matter how serious, no parents, no-one but us...it worked wonderfully.

Catalina :rose:

Yup....When I lived alone there was no way I would give my ex a key to my house. My teenage daughter had one to let herself in after school when I was working and didn't get home til 6pm or so, but she was the only one. She lived with my ex but I made it clear to her that the key was for HER not him and she respected that.
 
Rebellious_Sub said:
Skye,

Very similar experience, Master had me tied up, I was bent over, and he was using his new toy... a paddle to redden my ass when the door to my bedroom was tossed open...

The person who opened it had no right to do so, he is my ex husband.. and so vanilla.. he was threatening to take my son who is 13 from me, was going to call the cops, .... oh Master was so upset, and we (Master and I) had been dealing with a lot over the last few weeks as it were...

As we speak I am reading thu instructions on how to install this new lock... and I let my ex know that for one, he may not enter my home without knocking on the outside door first and let in by ME... and he is not to EVER open my bedroom door again. Period.. but just in case... that lock is going up right now.

My son, btw was not home durning this... and Master and I never play if he is... this was our time, and I am furious over losing it, as Master lives so far from me to begin with... an 8 hr drive...

When Evil_Geoff had posted about cybering, that made me smile a little - because I would have much rather been walked in on while cybering for Master than the way that it happened.. There are definately a lot of feelings flying around here.
And EG, I am grateful for the advice.. this becoming defensive is a stance that I started to take, and then I attempted to educate my ex on simple acceptance.. *sigh* ... not working, but ...

Well, life.. what a mess sometimes.. But time marches on, so it's time to move on... repair, prepare and forget dispair.

RS,

I don't know what your relationship is with your ex, but I tend to agree with everyone about changing your outside locks and setting stronger boundaries. I spoke with a friend’s husband who is a detective with our local police department and he told me to tell you not to worry, you didn't break any laws. But unfortunately neither did your ex-husband because you gave him a key. He also said you should change your locks. I really hope all this works itself out for you.

Skye
 
I have had a locksmith come in tonight, and re secure my house.Was no easy task for a Sunday, but a necessary one. I am taking your advice on this matter, and have informed my ex that he is not welcomed here.

Thank you all for the advice, and I have taken it to heart. Do not assume that one is weak because one is soft spoken, and I do learn from my mistakes.

Thank you Skye, I am glad to hear that I didnt break any laws... and I knew that because I had given out a key, that was going to void the fact that he was tresspassing.. It is clear now. I am firm, and will not allow for it to happen again.


~RS
 
Sprinkles22 said:
OH, you poor thing. My heart is going out to you right now ... how horrible, on so many levels.

WHY is it that we must be made to feel like deviants by those who don't understand the lifestyle? WHY is it that WE must explain and try to smooth the waters??? It's so damn unfair :(

This is a mess because her son is caught in the middle but if you could remove that then why would you even justify our lifestyle to those that don't get it.

Most of the family I don't speak to and haven't for years is going to be told that I am in this. My rules will be simple if they want a place in my lfe after they find out about this part of me then they won't flame me at all. The harshest thing I will accept is something along the lines of I think its wrong but your an adult and capable of making your own decisions. If anyone has more then that to say then they will know that they will be ignored for the rest of our combined lives.

Now I am not saying anyone should take this tact but most of these people that I would be talking to about my kink I haven''t spoken to in 6 years so I'm not lossing much if I go another 30 or more.
 
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