Wake for Byron: All that and a bag of chips...

[Que]

I have really enjoyed some of the threads that have been bumped to show the genius of this man. I feel I am, too late, gaining an even greater appreciation of who Byron was and what he meant to so many.

I think it says a lot about the love people have expressed for him was despite the squabbles and fights they feel they had with him.

I get the impression that unlike Doc, in the quote;

"Ah, Doc, I was just playin'..."

"Well, I wasn't." -Doc

That he actually was playing. It sounds as if he bore no malice. Several stories in the wake about a Litizen thinking there was enmity only to get a PM from Byron that indicated he bore no hard feelings.

That's true friendship...and family.

 

[4est_4est_Gump]

Why Johnny Ringo, you look like somebody just walked over your grave.

 

[Noor]

Whistling past the grave yard, nothing could go wrong.

Byron is still awaiting autopsy, I suspect he has been dead since the 3rd or 4th. I do not consider myself religious, but I am finding that I am having a very hard time with his being alone for so long. I also don't want him cut up.

I haven't had a normal day of eating, sleeping, etc... since the 4th, although I have stopped forgetting momentarily that he is gone.

Last night at a friend's cafe after I read the "he is in a better place" post I just couldn't get the image out of my head and started crying. People from all different religions-Christian, Muslim, Hindu just started hugging me and saying his soul/essence/whatever had left his body the moment he died so he really wasn't in a refrigerated drawer in the morgue, he was with whoever cared about him.

That made it worse for a while but eventually I stopped after they gave me some orange jelled fruit candy that they give to crying kids. I only actually had one to be polite, because they so seriously read all the ingredients to make sure I could eat it and I thought Byron would find it amusing that they were treating me like a hurt kid but it helped. I think could if I could have had it, they would have given me a warm cup of chia instead.

 

[4est_4est_Gump]

I am so fortunate to be surrounded by my family, but at the same time, I do not want them to come home and find me at my last post.

 

[Magnetron]

Well ... shit ..... sorry for yours and everyone's loss.

 

[Beco]

Life is short, precious and worthy of celebration and appreciation.

Reminds me of that scene in Gravity....just get on with it, or start living

 

[Chainzz]

Very sorry for your loss, noor.
He read as a well traveled, intelligent and humorous guy
and his presence will be greatly missed here.
rest in Peace

 

[Que]

Byron is still awaiting autopsy, I suspect he has been dead since the 3rd or 4th. I do not consider myself religious, but I am finding that I am having a very hard time with his being alone for so long. I also don't want him cut up.

I haven't had a normal day of eating, sleeping, etc... since the 4th, although I have stopped forgetting momentarily that he is gone.

Last night at a friend's cafe after I read the "he is in a better place" post I just couldn't get the image out of my head and started crying. People from all different religions-Christian, Muslim, Hindu just started hugging me and saying his soul/essence/whatever had left his body the moment he died so he really wasn't in a refrigerated drawer in the morgue, he was with whoever cared about him.

That made it worse for a while but eventually I stopped after they gave me some orange jelled fruit candy that they give to crying kids. I only actually had one to be polite, because they so seriously read all the ingredients to make sure I could eat it and I thought Byron would find it amusing that they were treating me like a hurt kid but it helped. I think could if I could have had it, they would have given me a warm cup of chia instead.

I agree that his right and proper best place is amongst his friends here on earth. Nothing about his next adventure comforts any that he reluctantly had to leave behind.

Can you imagine though how ably he will be able to fit in where he is going over that last horizon of science as the Peter O'Toole line went?

I picture him giving Einstein hell, flipping Adolf the bird, explaining to Hendrix he has his guitar strung backwards, discussing philosophy with Gandhi till Gandhi is apoplectic on some point of order...asking straight up, "WTH?" to Jesus of Nazareth...

I don't know if he will just hang-out on the GB or slide into the musician's lounge for a jam session.

You know they love him as much as we miss him.

 

[Skiddles2014]

Byron is still awaiting autopsy, I suspect he has been dead since the 3rd or 4th. I do not consider myself religious, but I am finding that I am having a very hard time with his being alone for so long. I also don't want him cut up.

I haven't had a normal day of eating, sleeping, etc... since the 4th, although I have stopped forgetting momentarily that he is gone.

Last night at a friend's cafe after I read the "he is in a better place" post I just couldn't get the image out of my head and started crying. People from all different religions-Christian, Muslim, Hindu just started hugging me and saying his soul/essence/whatever had left his body the moment he died so he really wasn't in a refrigerated drawer in the morgue, he was with whoever cared about him.

That made it worse for a while but eventually I stopped after they gave me some orange jelled fruit candy that they give to crying kids. I only actually had one to be polite, because they so seriously read all the ingredients to make sure I could eat it and I thought Byron would find it amusing that they were treating me like a hurt kid but it helped. I think could if I could have had it, they would have given me a warm cup of chia instead.

I am sorry for saying he is in a better place and that it hurt.

I just assumed from reading posts about him not being able to speak at times, that he was suffering.

I liked Byron and I like you, I did not intend to downplay your feelings for him or think that my words would make the pain go away. It's just something people say I guess.

I've lost a few people that were very close to me over the years, it may not seem like it now and you might not want to accept it, but eventually the pain goes away and all you will be left with is good thoughts and memories of a good friend.

Again, I'm sorry.

 

[Noor]

I do not want to outlive my child.



I will be waiting for you...

His parents are in their 90's. His friends have been staying with them and helping, there are also local family members. Luckily, Byron was very neat and organized, but still it's hard, a lot of work and very emotional to deal with his things.

Almost all his friends have known him all their lives, their kids too, and despite their pain, have been very supportive. It's a fairly large extended family of friends and relatives that seems to operate fairly efficiently despite everyone being in shock and living all over the place.

I get daily check ins and updates of what is happening. I knew mostly who these people are from Byron who for whatever reason explained everyone in his life that he could think of complete with their stories. Except a few they didn't really know about me until last Thursday but that doesn't seem to matter much, they have been very nice. Byron told me it was like this but it is still kind of surprising considering how reclusive he was.

 

[Noor]

I am sorry for saying he is in a better place and that it hurt.

I just assumed from reading posts about him not being able to speak at times, that he was suffering.

I liked Byron and I like you, I did not intend to downplay your feelings for him or think that my words would make the pain go away. It's just something people say I guess.

I've lost a few people that were very close to me over the years, it may not seem like it now and you might not want to accept it, but eventually the pain goes away and all you will be left with is good thoughts and memories of a good friend.

Again, I'm sorry.

It's okay, I understood the above, it's just the stuff that goes through my head, could this have been prevented, he is alone, why didn't I get help sooner,? I am sure it will not be as bad once there is a cause of death, he is interned in some manner and I know where his remains will be. It feels like he is in a nowhere land alone right now.

Byron was an amazing artist and had the temperament to go along with that, that is why there were periods that he couldn't speak. Plus he tried to be careful with his words when he was drinking.

 

[LJ_Reloaded]

Byron in Exile died? Aw that's fucked up. No, I'm not gonna troll this thread, even though everyone knows the history he and I had. If it were Dick Cheney I would celebrate, but it ain't. Death's no damned joke, it will come for everyone. Well, except Dick Cheney.

I got one thing to post today and then I gotta contemplate mortality for a bit.

 

[Noor]

I have really enjoyed some of the threads that have been bumped to show the genius of this man. I feel I am, too late, gaining an even greater appreciation of who Byron was and what he meant to so many.

I think it says a lot about the love people have expressed for him was despite the squabbles and fights they feel they had with him.

I get the impression that unlike Doc, in the quote;

"Ah, Doc, I was just playin'..."

"Well, I wasn't." -Doc

That he actually was playing. It sounds as if he bore no malice. Several stories in the wake about a Litizen thinking there was enmity only to get a PM from Byron that indicated he bore no hard feelings.

That's true friendship...and family.

Yes, he was playing and he didn't always understand that his words hurt them.
Sometimes, I would explain why people got hurt and he would try and fix things, sometimes the fixing just made it worse. However, he was very protective of those he cared about.

Sometimes he would use the board to let off steam when he was upset in rl, so some of the tirades were after that, he didn't want them to take it to heart, he just got in a mood and figured the GB was a better place to have an argument about something. I once get a pm from someone who said what is up with Byron? after he was going overboard posting grumpy things and game of thrones references, and I didn't have the heart to tell them that it was because I had refused to watch game of thrones with him and he was just working it out of his system.

He could have the personal conflict resolution skills of a gnat. He was actually getting much better at it, some of the solutions of his were unusually but they worked.

 

[Noor]

i wonder what what byron would say
about a
truly crazy byron thread
being stuck to the front page of the gb?

He would have loved it! "OMG! AWESOME!" loved it! He would be chortling!

 

[Noor]

I try to with Grumpy as often as I can. He doesn't appear to appreciate it nor the fragility of a heartbeat or a breath taken, but that's OK because if something happens at least I'll know I told him how much his presence in my life meant.

I'm happy to see so many people posting on this thread. It's too bad Byron can't see what an influence he had.

Luckily Byron understood and appreciated it, it made him very uncomfortable at first, but then he loved it. We did talk about death and wishes not because of our deaths but our parents are elderly.

 

[Noor]

One time Byron made me so angry that I went off on a tirade about how important my dad is up me and what I've done to try to preserve what time we have left and I remember him telling me that he wished he had had kids if they would be like me.

This wasn't all that long ago and he still was adept at hurting my feelings on a regular basis so I didn't interact with him but I will always remember what he said with fondness. Sometimes appreciation from a source you consider to be antagonistic means so much more than sweet words from friends.

Some things he did not get though I tried to explain. He really didn't understand how he was hurting you and he really tried. He thought you had him on ignore and the day you answered a post, he was so happy.

 

[Lorilei]

The first time he referred to me with his "Ain't she something?", I felt so proud.

 

[Noor]

The first time he referred to me with his "Ain't she something?", I felt so proud.

I am so jealous, he never said that about me, not ever!

Actually I am told I don't have a jealous bone in my body. Byron was very shy about saying stuff about me. I am hearing all sorts of stuff he told other people now that he is dead.

He never really said anything as flattery, he meant it when he said that, Lorilei.

 

[Lorilei]

I am so jealous, he never said that about me, not ever!

Actually I am told I don't have a jealous bone in my body. Byron was very shy about saying stuff about me. I am hearing all sorts of stuff he told other people now that he is dead.

He never really said anything as flattery, he meant it when he said that, Lorilei.

Thank you.

 

[butters]

it's so good that byron's family/friends are keeping you in mind and updated, noor. it can't lessen the blow but it stops you from being left dangling in cyberspace wondering and wondering. i'm sure speaking with you has helped them, too, in some way.

it's heartwarming how many have spoken well of him here, considering his talent for rubbing people up the wrong way at times that in itself speaks very highly for the regard people held - and still hold - him in.

my thoughts are with you, sweetheart.

 

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[Disgustipated]

Why didn't LT get a sticky when he choked on a peanut and died?

 

[NHKitty]

Luckily Byron understood and appreciated it, it made him very uncomfortable at first, but then he loved it. We did talk about death and wishes not because of our deaths but our parents are elderly.

You were lucky to have him in your life.

 

[glynndah]

I'll keep you in my thoughts.