Violent Men

[Lucy_Lastic]

Firstly, not men who are voilent towards women, no way.

But men who deal in violence... I saw Tom Hardy playing the Kray twins. I can't explain why but when they did certain violent things I found it... stimulating.

Boxers are the same. And I got taken to a couple of bare knuckle fights (illegal but happen quite a lot) by a guy I was seeing at the time and I don't think I've ever seen anything so brutal or stimulating close up in real life. My guy said it was quite common (thats why he took me) and judging by the number of women there, he was right.

Anyone else?

 

[tonyreid]

Firstly, not men who are voilent towards women, no way.

But men who deal in violence... I saw Tom Hardy playing the Kray twins. I can't explain why but when they did certain violent things I found it... stimulating.

Boxers are the same. And I got taken to a couple of bare knuckle fights (illegal but happen quite a lot) by a guy I was seeing at the time and I don't think I've ever seen anything so brutal or stimulating close up in real life. My guy said it was quite common (thats why he took me) and judging by the number of women there, he was right.

Anyone else?

as an ex boxer all i can say is i have been with a few women who loved to see me fight and were often dripping wet by he time the fights were over

 

[whenagain]

Firstly, not men who are voilent towards women, no way.

But men who deal in violence... I saw Tom Hardy playing the Kray twins. I can't explain why but when they did certain violent things I found it... stimulating.

Boxers are the same. And I got taken to a couple of bare knuckle fights (illegal but happen quite a lot) by a guy I was seeing at the time and I don't think I've ever seen anything so brutal or stimulating close up in real life. My guy said it was quite common (thats why he took me) and judging by the number of women there, he was right.

Anyone else?

I doubt you’re alone in this.

 

[Mystories189]

I did fuck a guy who got in a fight with my husband a few years ago. It did really turn me on

 

[whenagain]

I did fuck a guy who got in a fight with my husband a few years ago. It did really turn me on

I’m assuming your husband lost that fight?

 

[Mystories189]

Yup

 

[Jacques_Corbin]

Early in our marriage, when we lived in Virginia Beach, we went to Oak Grove Lake, and passed by a homeless guy begging for money. We didn't have any to spare at the time, so we kept walking. He stood and grabbed my wife's arm. I just saw red, and punched him with every pound I had, and I'm pretty sure I broke his jaw. After he was down, I hald my wife, asked if she was okay, and we went right back to the car.

A couple of park goers told me I should have just given him something, and they should call the cops. I told them to fuck off. I have the right to protect my wife, and I did. When he was no longer a threat, we left the area. If I had continued attaking after he was down, then I would have been wrong. Also, nobody has the right to touch a woman against her will, especially after she refuses to acknowledge him. Third, it was plain to see that my wife was pregnant. I would gladly go before a jury and plead that case before any 12 Virginians.

Unfortunately she has a RH Negative blood type, and even with medication, carrying to term has not been successful. We hope to try again next year.

But, anyways, it's not just being violent, it's knowing when to be violent, and how much violence to use.

 

[EdwardsOtherSide]

Retired soldier here.

Oh yeah, this is a thing.
Straight women (within my experience) get turned on by a man who is capable of violence, but mature and self-disciplined about where and when (and don't need to make a big, dick waving show of how "dangerous" they are).

One woman said it was the guardian or protector archetype. Interestingly, I was the first military type she had ever gotten involved with, and her previous guys were more the harmless or poser types.

I could easily go on for pages, but that is the short version.
(For additional, relevant philosophy, see Musashi & Marcus Aurelius.)

 

[littlecordelera]

I'm sorry to rain on this thread, but I haven't met any of these women who are supposedly turned on by violent men. Most often that violent streak gets directed toward us. And besides, violence is rooted in fear. That last thing I want is a guy full of fear.

 

[twister947]

Early in our marriage, when we lived in Virginia Beach, we went to Oak Grove Lake, and passed by a homeless guy begging for money. We didn't have any to spare at the time, so we kept walking. He stood and grabbed my wife's arm. I just saw red, and punched him with every pound I had, and I'm pretty sure I broke his jaw. After he was down, I hald my wife, asked if she was okay, and we went right back to the car.

A couple of park goers told me I should have just given him something, and they should call the cops. I told them to fuck off. I have the right to protect my wife, and I did. When he was no longer a threat, we left the area. If I had continued attaking after he was down, then I would have been wrong. Also, nobody has the right to touch a woman against her will, especially after she refuses to acknowledge him. Third, it was plain to see that my wife was pregnant. I would gladly go before a jury and plead that case before any 12 Virginians.

Unfortunately she has a RH Negative blood type, and even with medication, carrying to term has not been successful. We hope to try again next year.

But, anyways, it's not just being violent, it's knowing when to be violent, and how much violence to use.

In all likelihood, the situation could have been handled without any violence at all.

 

[Bbl87]

I imagine (being a guy, just trying to spitball here!) it's the capability for violence more than a violent nature, or at least that's how it sounds to me.

I think it says alot more about a man when he is very capable of violence but shows restraint unless a situation calls for it. I might be projecting a little bit, as someone who has worked in the criminal justice field for awhile now.

 

[HumpDayHoratio]

I'm sorry to rain on this thread, but I haven't met any of these women who are supposedly turned on by violent men. Most often that violent streak gets directed toward us. And besides, violence is rooted in fear. That last thing I want is a guy full of fear.

Reread Jacques Corbin and EdwardsOtherSide‘s posts again. I think you’re missing the point…

 

[HumpDayHoratio]

In all likelihood, the situation could have been handled without any violence at all.

In all likelihood you’re right…buuuuut…there is a very high chance his wife could have been hurt by this guy. The homeless population by and large has some mental health issues (whether that is MH due to drugs or possible PTSD) and I’ve seen random guys snap that were just sitting docile in the park before.

I will tell you as a former soldier (having dealt w PTSD on a small scale) and just growing up in the South, you’re spring loaded to protect women and children. Just how we were raised.

Neither you or I were there, so I won’t necessarily make a judgment call on overreaction.

 

[TastySuckToy]

I think it's much less to do with the actual violence and more of a man projecting masculine strength, which women know most men use to provide and protect women.

 

[EmmaJ622]

Yup

That's an intriguing and very sexy story - thankyou. And I can't help asking: what happened next - are you still with your husband?

 

[Bbl87]

It actually reminds me of something we were told during my training to carry a firearm. It's along the cliche "with great power comes great responsibility" bit from Spiderman (yes, I'm a nerd, get off it!).

When you are capable of or entrusted with the means to seriously injure or kill someone, you need to hold yourself to a higher standard. You are morally (if not legally) responsible to do everything in your power to avoid exercising what you are capable of doing. You should be among the calmest people in intense situations, otherwise you shouldn't be entrusted with that responsibility.

 

[Broken_paladin]

I'm sorry to rain on this thread, but I haven't met any of these women who are supposedly turned on by violent men. Most often that violent streak gets directed toward us. And besides, violence is rooted in fear. That last thing I want is a guy full of fear.

Violence isnt always rooted in fear. Not even close. Sometimes its a necessity. Sometimes its just a part of someones personality.

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

Most often that violent streak gets directed toward us. And besides, violence is rooted in fear. That last thing I want is a guy full of fear.

The right man can control that violence

Aims it towards a legitimate threat and shows no mercy to protect himself and his loved ones

But as soon as the threat is over will pick up a puppy and kiss it's little nose and rub it's little belly because...puppy

The right man will also go out of his way to avoid the violence and survive the fight by not being in it. But if the fight comes to him.... his opponent has made a costly mistake

I never want to fight. I have had enough of it. If I never punch another person that is perfectly fine with me. But put someone I care about in danger and I'll find the willingness real quick

 

[TallGlassOfSarcasm]

I don't know about violence and/or fighting, but I tend to date blue collar guys who have very physical jobs, and that carries over into their physiques, attitudes, sexual experiences, etc. We can all kick ass if we have the right motivation and weapon, and that's nice, but a guy who spends his time sweating and using his body all day, chasing perps, working on a construction site or responding to a fire or cardiac arrest and carrying a patient down 20 flights - that does it fo me. Oooh la la.

But then I get turned on in traffic if I see a big, strong arm resting on a window of the car next to me. Maybe I have a low threshold for these things...I guess I just dig guys who can hold their own.

You may also just have a very high sex drive. I dunno.... just spitballin' here. I'm not a doctor or anything.

 

[Bbl87]

The right man can control that violence

Aims it towards a legitimate threat and shows no mercy to protect himself and his loved ones

But as soon as the threat is over will pick up a puppy and kiss it's little nose and rub it's little belly because...puppy

The right man will also go out of his way to avoid the violence and survive the fight by not being in it. But if the fight comes to him.... his opponent has made a costly mistake

I never want to fight. I have had enough of it. If I never punch another person that is perfectly fine with me. But put someone I care about in danger and I'll find the willingness real quick

Well put. Being prone to violence and being capable of violence are two different things.

 

[Mystories189]

That's an intriguing and very sexy story - thankyou. And I can't help asking: what happened next - are you still with your husband?

Yup, still with my husband. It was actually a huge issue for a while. My husband got over it.

 

[J_Bone]

I'll preface this by saying I don't like fighting or violence and don't condone it unless absolutely necessary. But there can be times when it is. I'm anything but a violent guy, but through training and experience, do know how to fight.

One afternoon I was at a GF's house when one of her roommates' exes (who had been abusive to her) showed up ranting and raving and banging on the door demanding to see her. My GF told him through the door that she wasn't there and to please leave, to which he kept banging and threatening and demanding to be let in to look for her. I could see the fear and panic on my GF's face and at that point went out the back and around the house to the front and confronted the guy and told him that she wasn't home and that we'd let her know he stopped by and it would be best if he left, basically trying to be nice and reason with him, which just seemed to piss him off even more.

Wasn't a few seconds later when he took a wild swing at me and missed, then another. He was bigger than I was, but quite slow and not nearly as fit. After the second swing and miss, I tagged him with a couple of quick jabs followed by a cross, nothing too hard, but it was enough to stun him and he dropped to one knee. I resisted the urge to finish him off and hoped that would just be it and he'd go. But he said something about a lucky punch and lunged at me followed by a couple more wild swings that missed. I landed a couple more jabs followed by two combinations to the head and face, knocking him to the ground again. I told him again he should just leave and if he kept coming at me, it was only going to get worse for him. He did one more time and he ended up on the ground again after two left jabs and a hard overhand right that knocked him again to the ground. Finally, on all fours with an eye swelling shut and bleeding from the nose and mouth, he finally raised a hand indicating that he'd had enough. I retreated to the front porch and watched him slowly get up and walk to his car and drive down the long driveway to the highway until he was gone.

After he was gone, my GF opened the door and grabbed me and kissed me like crazy, nearly suffocating me with her tongue. She'd watched the whole thing from the window and kind of embarrassingly told me how turned on she'd gotten watching the fight, how she loved seeing me totally dominate another male, yet use restraint knowing that I could have destroyed him but didn't, even saying I was just toying with the guy. She grabbed my hand and slid it inside her shorts and I found her panties completely soaked through just from watching. Wasn't long until we were fucking like animals and she was dirty talking about how horny watching the fight had made her. And this was a girl who really hated fighting and confrontation, so go figure.

I wasn't really fighting FOR her, but just to protect her. But I guess there's something primal about it. I mean, in the wild, male animals often fight for the right to breed a female. Interesting phenomena anyway.

 

[Diosax]

I'm sorry to rain on this thread, but I haven't met any of these women who are supposedly turned on by violent men. Most often that violent streak gets directed toward us. And besides, violence is rooted in fear. That last thing I want is a guy full of fear.

I def feel like there's a psychological component to this. Women perpetuate toxic Masculinity too and seen so many women getting "aroused " by a man fighting is just an example of that.

I personally like to stay away from aggressive men. The type of men that get aggressive and violent by random stuff or towards other men usually behave that way due to some unsolved trauma and sometimes that type of men are the ones that end up being abusive in relationships, whether is physically and emotionally.

Big pass for me.

 

[longboy2022]

Firstly, not men who are voilent towards women, no way.

But men who deal in violence... I saw Tom Hardy playing the Kray twins. I can't explain why but when they did certain violent things I found it... stimulating.

Boxers are the same. And I got taken to a couple of bare knuckle fights (illegal but happen quite a lot) by a guy I was seeing at the time and I don't think I've ever seen anything so brutal or stimulating close up in real life. My guy said it was quite common (thats why he took me) and judging by the number of women there, he was right.

Anyone else?

when you say 'stimulating', would that be mentally, fantasy or physical? If physical, details please.

 

[longboy2022]

I’m assuming your husband lost that fight?

yeah, he was ko'd out on the floor whilst Mr Thug ripped her panties off and fucked her, both standing over his prone body. after, he said 'what's this on my face' 'antiseptic cream' replied the whoring wife.