Violations of common courtesy

[cymbidia]

I understand that in this forum we talk about things which are enormously exciting. i know that many people are looking forward to doing one or more of the things we discuss frakly and openly. I accept that there are a small number of people who come here to find whack material, who don't want to participate in our small community, or who don't want to leave the shadows.

That's okay.

We're online.

It's to be accepted and anticipated and is why we all have to be careful not to give out too much info about ourselves here in the open.

What pisses me off, however, and something i find insulting and time-wasting, is when a heretofore unknown PM's me with some kinda suggestion that s/he and i go try out one of the sexual practices that are being discussed (or having pics shown about).

Let me make this perfectly clear: i am not going to engage in any online, verbal sexual chat with you. I don't do it with people i already know and it's laughable to think i'd do it with someone i don't know.

I am not going to meet you so we can see how big an anal plug you can take just cuz we happen to reside in the same state.

I will not and cannot use my email/PM time to teach you to switch, use a dildo on your partner, masturbate yourself or anyone else, pierce anything on anyone, take erotic pain, or anything else like that.

Asking me that kinda stuff as a friend, as someone with whom i already have had other interactions, will get you a reply of some kind. Asking my that kinda thing out of the blue, as a total stranger, will get you a reply, too, but not a kind or welcoming reply.

Anyone who has asked me about PM'ing me regarding BDSM questions knows what i always say: if it's not personal, then ask it in the forum. That way, the asker gets the benefit of everyone's wisdom and we all get to learn from the questions being asked. I always say that.

It's not that i don't want PM's!
Like everyone, i love them. They provide us all a way to chat on a more personal level, outside the wide-open place that is this Forum. I just want everyone to have a chance to grow from the good questions so many of us ask.

However, i really really really don't like getting what amounts to propositions from strangers.

There's no way in hell i want to do that with you is always gonna be my answer - if i even give one - to such PM's.


Ahem.
I feel better!
Maybe i should get back to unpacking now?

 

[MissTaken]

Nicely put.

After all, one wouldn't approach a gal in a club or at a social function and ask for these sorts of things. It shouldn't happen on line, either.

As you so aptly put it, common courtesy.

 

[Ebonyfire]

I understand that in this forum we talk about things which are enormously exciting. i know that many people are looking forward to doing one or more of the things we discuss frakly and openly. I accept that there are a small number of people who come here to find whack material, who don't want to participate in our small community, or who don't want to leave the shadows.

That's okay.

We're online.

It's to be accepted and anticipated and is why we all have to be careful not to give out too much info about ourselves here in the open.

What pisses me off, however, and something i find insulting and time-wasting, is when a heretofore unknown PM's me with some kinda suggestion that s/he and i go try out one of the sexual practices that are being discussed (or having pics shown about).

Let me make this perfectly clear: i am not going to engage in any online, verbal sexual chat with you. I don't do it with people i already know and it's laughable to think i'd do it with someone i don't know.

I am not going to meet you so we can see how big an anal plug you can take just cuz we happen to reside in the same state.

I will not and cannot use my email/PM time to teach you to switch, use a dildo on your partner, masturbate yourself or anyone else, pierce anything on anyone, take erotic pain, or anything else like that.

Asking me that kinda stuff as a friend, as someone with whom i already have had other interactions, will get you a reply of some kind. Asking my that kinda thing out of the blue, as a total stranger, will get you a reply, too, but not a kind or welcoming reply.

Anyone who has asked me about PM'ing me regarding BDSM questions knows what i always say: if it's not personal, then ask it in the forum. That way, the asker gets the benefit of everyone's wisdom and we all get to learn from the questions being asked. I always say that.

It's not that i don't want PM's!
Like everyone, i love them. They provide us all a way to chat on a more personal level, outside the wide-open place that is this Forum. I just want everyone to have a chance to grow from the good questions so many of us ask.

However, i really really really don't like getting what amounts to propositions from strangers.

There's no way in hell i want to do that with you is always gonna be my answer - if i even give one - to such PM's.


Ahem.
I feel better!
Maybe i should get back to unpacking now?

Cym, I have always said you are nicer than I am. I just ignore them. Got an uninvited PM today from someone I do not know from Adam. Suffice it to say it was deleted!

So, all I can say to whoever you are who PM'd me, Ditto what Cym said!

Ebony

 

[RisiaSkye]

I don't have this problem--I don't get random propositions in PMs.

Story feedback, however, is another matter. I cannot tell you how many arrogant and incredibly stupid emails I've gotten suggesting that I'll *OBVIOUSLY* be interested in someone because they read my story and like the sex scenes.

To all those types: Get real, kids. Life is not that easy. Personal interaction is not a service-station for the salving of your sexual frustration.

 

[KillerMuffin]

Wel gawddammit, cym. I was all set to PM you about this 18 inch anal plug I wanted you to stick up my butt, too. I lived in your state at one time. The state of messiness. We move a lot, too.

I read your story, though, Risia. Wanna play hanky panky in an elevator? I know all about resolving your clausterphobia problems with good sex minus all that foreplay stuff.