Vibrator vs. dildo

[allndc]

I am young and horny and I want to buy my first toy and I need some advice on which will help get me off the best. Should I go for a vibrator or a dildo?

 

[JadeDragon]

dildo vs vib

I would say hun that you go with both! Why the hell not hu! You might like one some days and the other other days.... No one can have too many toys!

Jade

 

[SexyChele]

Why not solve both problems and get a vibrating dildo?

If I had to choose one over the other, I would go with a vibrator. Since this is your first toy, you can always go back and get more.

 

[lilpriss]

I'd get a vibrator first... get a phallic shaped vibrator if you feel like adildo just don't turn it on

 

[lovechild27]

I am a dildo girl all the way...

 

[pw27]

I say go for a vibrator, cylindrical in shape. You can try out both ways with one toy.

 

[Lust Engine]

The old adage of "you've got to try on a lot of shoes before you find the right fit" might work here. Go on... be brave & daring! Get a few. Try 'em all and find out which one (or which ONES) works out for you. Half the fun is in the exploration & experimentation!

 

[xx_La_Reina_xx]

I have to agree with those who say get both....every gal should have her own lil "toy box"

 

[Lust Engine]

I have to agree with those who say get both....every gal should have her own lil "toy box"

Subscribing to the more is better theory I see!

 

[SexyChele]

The old adage of "you've got to try on a lot of shoes before you find the right fit" might work here. Go on... be brave & daring! Get a few. Try 'em all and find out which one (or which ONES) works out for you. Half the fun is in the exploration & experimentation!

I would normally agree with this, however, I can also remember being very young and just starting to develop my toy box. Cost was a definite issue! And most really good dildos and vibes cost $$$, unfortunately. The originator never stated if cost was an issure, but if it is, they may be in a position of only being to purchase a little at a time.

 

[Lust Engine]

I would normally agree with this, however, I can also remember being very young and just starting to develop my toy box. Cost was a definite issue! And most really good dildos and vibes cost $$$, unfortunately. The originator never stated if cost was an issure, but if it is, they may be in a position of only being to purchase a little at a time.

Very very good point Chele! I never considered that the original poster might not have deep pockets. My apologies! I guess I'm just too pleasure oriented. Hopefully she's got some extra holiday cash coming around and she can splurge some on her carnal pleasures.

 

[Guest]

How young are we talking here? You'll be allowed to walk into an adult bookstore to shop?

As for which toy to buy... Think of it this way. If you buy a vibrator, you have the wonders of vibrations. AND, if you shut it off, you have a "dildo".

 

[psyche]

I am young and horny and I want to buy my first toy and I need some advice on which will help get me off the best. Should I go for a vibrator or a dildo?

I would also recommend a vibrating dildo - the best of both worlds. One thing to keep in mind that I didn't think about until I had tried several different kinds of toys is whether you would prefer a hard non-giving type or one that is 'softer'. I have used both and I really prefer the gel dildos. When you cum, a gel dildo will 'give' and move with your body, I find the hard plastic dildos uncomfortable because they don't 'give' at all. They feel more unnatural.

If you do buy a vibrator, the best are the plug in ones. They go forever (LOL!) and they really vibrate. I like my vibrating dildo but it would never replace my electric vibe.

 

[xx_La_Reina_xx]

Subscribing to the more is better theory I see!

hehe..as they say..variety is the spice of life............

 

[Lust Engine]

hehe..as they say..variety is the spice of life............

Ooooo... a well seasoned woman!

And I'm gonna resist tempatation on making comments about your "rack"!

 

[MightyZor]

I recommend getting a real penis to vibrate your pussy.

 

[xx_La_Reina_xx]

Ooooo... a well seasoned woman!

And I'm gonna resist tempatation on making comments about your "rack"!

seasoned..accomplished...it's all good...

And..as for my "rack" that's allllllll goood tooooooo...

 

[xx_La_Reina_xx]

I recommend getting a real penis to vibrate your pussy.

*making an addition to my christmas list*

 

[Lust Engine]

*making an addition to my christmas list*

Just make sure you're wearing your Christmas stocking before Santa, uh...drops off your present this year.

 

[xx_La_Reina_xx]

Just make sure you're wearing your Christmas stocking before Santa, uh...drops off your present this year.

*singin* Santa baby, hurry down the chimney tonight!

 

[Shadowedge]

ok...I'm sorry, but I have a problem here. I decided that I wanted a toy of my own and made the mistake(?!?) of telling my boyfriend about it. he got really offended, and said the idea made him uncomforatable, and it would upset him. can someone tell me what happened? Logic explaining this phemonoem? advice on how to get him comfortable with the idea? coping sratigys? Anything?

cause I want a toy for christmas.......I've been very naughty, and nice.....

 

[Madame Manga]

He doesn't like the idea of competing with nine inches of plastic? Gee, do I hear a little insecurity there? A dildo ain't a replacement for a man; for one thing, they can't give head. ;-) It's an expansion of your sexual possibilities.

As long as you didn't say, "Honey, you aren't big enough or firm enough and you just can't keep it up long enough to suit me," he has no grounds for complaint. You might want to assure him that you like his cock just fine and that all you are doing is developing your sexuality.

He may not realize that women learn more slowly in the self-pleasuring area and that experimentation of this kind comes naturally as you get older and better acquainted with your body. He may have figured out how to masturbate when he was 12 and never changed his technique since. Women usually don't get expert at it until much later, both for anatomical reasons and for cultural ones.

In any case, don't let him dissuade you. Every woman deserves toys. Buy it and use it. Learn what you like to do with it. Buy more, in different sizes, if you don't like the first one, or even if you do. Explore your body and your reactions with no pressure from another person. You may well become more orgasmic, if you have any problem with that, simply from practice.

Then some day start telling him in detail just HOW you use your toy. Most men will stiffen up immediately at the idea of a woman pleasuring herself. He may want to watch. He may even BEG to watch. That nine inches of plastic may become a good friend of his some day. Yes, I speak from experience. ;-)

Good luck!

MM

 

[Bandit58]

He doesn't like the idea of competing with nine inches of plastic? Gee, do I hear a little insecurity there? A dildo ain't a replacement for a man; for one thing, they can't give head. ;-) It's an expansion of your sexual possibilities.

As long as you didn't say, "Honey, you aren't big enough or firm enough and you just can't keep it up long enough to suit me," he has no grounds for complaint. You might want to assure him that you like his cock just fine and that all you are doing is developing your sexuality.

He may not realize that women learn more slowly in the self-pleasuring area and that experimentation of this kind comes naturally as you get older and better acquainted with your body. He may have figured out how to masturbate when he was 12 and never changed his technique since. Women usually don't get expert at it until much later, both for anatomical reasons and for cultural ones.

In any case, don't let him dissuade you. Every woman deserves toys. Buy it and use it. Learn what you like to do with it. Buy more, in different sizes, if you don't like the first one, or even if you do. Explore your body and your reactions with no pressure from another person. You may well become more orgasmic, if you have any problem with that, simply from practice.

Then some day start telling him in detail just HOW you use your toy. Most men will stiffen up immediately at the idea of a woman pleasuring herself. He may want to watch. He may even BEG to watch. That nine inches of plastic may become a good friend of his some day. Yes, I speak from experience. ;-)

Good luck!

MM

I got my first vibrator 5 months ago and it's added a whole new dimension to my sexual life. When I told my lover I'd got one he said that it saved him buying one for me! As we're in a LDR it adds to our phone sex, and when we're together we both use it as part of our lovemaking, in fact I used it on myself while he watched and once he put it on my clit while he was inside me and I had the biggest orgasm I've ever had It has made me more orgasmic which adds to his pleasure because he loves to see (and hear) me cum

BTW I just turned 44 a couple of months ago.....shows what a sheltered life I'd led up till then!

 

[Lust Engine]

It's an expansion of your sexual possibilities.

Then some day start telling him in detail just HOW you use your toy. Most men will stiffen up immediately at the idea of a woman pleasuring herself. He may want to watch. He may even BEG to watch. That nine inches of plastic may become a good friend of his some day. Yes, I speak from experience. ;-)

Good luck!

MM

Tell the poor insecure guy to get over it! I agree 110% with Madame Manga here. It DOES expand your horizons! It gives you a chance to discover you & your body's reactions to stumulations. Ask him why he's so deathly afraid of it (big sissy!).

And I also agree with MM on the 2nd point here. You could always show him by demonstrating it; heaven knows that'd get me roaring! If he doesn't like it still, then it shows that he doesn't care about YOUR pleasure. It's not a replacement for him any more than him masturbating is a replacement for you. Include him with the new toy play.

But yes, I agree that he is awfully insecure and for no real valid reason either.

Good luck!

 

[Lust Engine]

*singin* Santa baby, hurry down the chimney tonight!

You're just gonna rush the poor guy, aren'tcha? Ye of little patience! Care for one of Santa's helpers in the meantime???