Valentine's Day plans

[chinalady]

Okay...I know this is a month or so away...but I was wondering what plans do you have for your SO, boyfriend, girlfriend or spouse on this day? This is my first Valentine's Day with my guy, and would like this day to be special...and something worth remembering.
I remember that he once told me that he fantasized that I strip and give him a lap dance. I have never done those before. I guess it's because I'm pretty conscious how I'll move...but I am willing to try it...just for him.
I know I'm getting off topic here...but just in case I decide not to go through with the strip tease and the lap dance...can you share your ideas how you would want to celebrate with your special loved ones? Thanks.

 

[EJFan]

i think you'll do just fine if you give this a go... just remember that it's about the pleasure he derives from it and NOT about whether you could dance professionally. also, make sure you're getting somethign out of it too. if you can put your self-consciousness on the line, so should he.

in the past (not in a relationship recently) i always tried to incorporate something truly thoughtful along with the physical/sexual aspect of valentine's day. see if you can think of something you can make or buy that will memorialize a moment from your past and/or help create memories for the future.

 

[chinalady]

Thanks, EJFan. That's good advice. Along with the strip tease thing, I'm already looking for something sexy to wear at Victoria's Secret. Last month he mentioned that he wants to see me wear a corsette, thong along with garters and stockings. There's just too many to choose!
Yes, you read my mind exactly. I want to give him something special aside from just being intimate with him, though that's important too.
No offense to guys out there...but it's hard to buy anything for them. Sighs. Oh well. I'm sure I'll think of something eventually.

 

[EJFan]

certainly you know him and his tastes better than anyone... but i don't mean to suggest that you have to buy him something, necessarily. many guys, whether they admit it or not, are sentimentalists. i'm suggesting, whether it's bought or made or what have you, that the tangible gift(s) be memorable above all else.

 

[temp256]

I'll be sitting alone in my room like every year...

 

[pinkpunani]

We are going to put the little one to bed early, and have an indoor picnic in our family room. Probably feed each other, have a fire, watch a couple sappy movies or our wedding and reception tapes. Maybe have some good, lovey sex. No wine for me, cuz I have a bun in the oven, but he might have a little. We have done the whole striptease, wild sex, theme hotel, night out, and everything else, so this year we will just stay in. Stripping is a good idea though! I say go for it!

 

[SweetErika]

There have been several threads on this, and also some wonderful ideas for special treats, sexy acts, expressing love, birthdays, anniversaries, stripping and lap dances, so I'd search here and check out The Blank Manual. A cursory search brought this , but it's just the tip of the iceberg.

Edit: For sentimental/gift-like, one year in college I didn't have a ton of resources, so I put candies and really special little notes on why I loved him in balloons and blew them up. The notes were progressive (maybe from the smaller to larger reasons? I can't remember ), so I numbered and drew on the balloons, which he popped in order. There might have been 20 (his age) altogether, but when he came back from class, the floor and beds of his room were fairly well covered in a sea of red, pink, and purple. I'm pretty sure he stashed all of those notes somewhere, too.

 

[tbon45]

if im around that long probly get drunk thats the day my whore of a wife left.

 

[EJFan]

Edit: For sentimental/gift-like, one year in college I didn't have a ton of resources, so I put candies and really special little notes on why I loved him in balloons and blew them up. The notes were progressive (maybe from the smaller to larger reasons? I can't remember ), so I numbered and drew on the balloons, which he popped in order. There might have been 20 (his age) altogether, but when he came back from class, the floor and beds of his room were fairly well covered in a sea of red, pink, and purple. I'm pretty sure he stashed all of those notes somewhere, too.

this is so incredibly sweet!

 

[JustSkye]

I'll be working selling flowers.

 

[SweetErika]

this is so incredibly sweet!

That was a good year. I think he made me an Easter egg hunt in his dorm room, too.
That's the thing though... these are the types of gifts or acts I always prefer to receive because thought, time, and effort are truly valuable to me. Jewelry, lingerie, store-bought cards, and nice restaurants are fine, but anything with "no assembly required" will never make me melt (though I recognize for some people, these things DO require "assembly," and I melt like buttah in those cases because they've done their best).

 

[Eilan]

February is also our anniversary month. It's a huge treat for us to go out without the kiddies.

It'll probably just be dinner and sex for us.

 

[EJFan]

It'll probably just be dinner and sex for us.

i'll be having dinner... do i get half credit?

*hangs head and skulks out*

 

[ultimate_cin]

I'm going to make my boyfriend a mini-scrapbook listing the reasons why I love him.....

 

[EJFan]

I'm going to make my boyfriend a mini-scrapbook listing the reasons why I love him.....

i think this is a great idea and did something similar for a girlfriend... but i included a sort of diary (related to thoughts of her/us) and some items from special times we shared (movie tickets, cocktail napkins, etc.)

 

[Avery_Chisholm]

ahh fuck ya had to go reminding us singletons eh

 

[sub_girl]

<<<<hates valentines day. Soon they'll be a day for everything!..remember to wash your pants day, I think there should be a kink day where every1 should take part in some kind of kinky activity.....although v.day probably covers that for many?

 

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[chinalady]

certainly you know him and his tastes better than anyone... but i don't mean to suggest that you have to buy him something, necessarily. many guys, whether they admit it or not, are sentimentalists. i'm suggesting, whether it's bought or made or what have you, that the tangible gift(s) be memorable above all else.

What friend suggested to me was a glass plaque with both mine and my SO's on it with the date of our first date. I have to admit that it's very sweet, but I am undecided on what date to put on it because I really wasn't interested in him at the time. I didn't fall in love with him until three days later. On the other hand, it was our first date...and I wouldn't have fallen in love with him if we didn't have our first date. Ah, well. I'll think about it.
My SO is one of those sentimentalists. He loves it when I give him cards and send him emails. We have a long distance relationship and see each other on a weekly basis...so we send each other stuff to feel closer to one another.

 

[chinalady]

There have been several threads on this, and also some wonderful ideas for special treats, sexy acts, expressing love, birthdays, anniversaries, stripping and lap dances, so I'd search here and check out The Blank Manual. A cursory search brought this , but it's just the tip of the iceberg.

Edit: For sentimental/gift-like, one year in college I didn't have a ton of resources, so I put candies and really special little notes on why I loved him in balloons and blew them up. The notes were progressive (maybe from the smaller to larger reasons? I can't remember ), so I numbered and drew on the balloons, which he popped in order. There might have been 20 (his age) altogether, but when he came back from class, the floor and beds of his room were fairly well covered in a sea of red, pink, and purple. I'm pretty sure he stashed all of those notes somewhere, too.

Wow that's very creative! And so sweet! I can just picture him each time he read a different note. Very cool! Thanks for the link!

 

[chinalady]

I'll be working selling flowers.

We'll definitely need those on that day.

 

[chinalady]

That was a good year. I think he made me an Easter egg hunt in his dorm room, too.
That's the thing though... these are the types of gifts or acts I always prefer to receive because thought, time, and effort are truly valuable to me. Jewelry, lingerie, store-bought cards, and nice restaurants are fine, but anything with "no assembly required" will never make me melt (though I recognize for some people, these things DO require "assembly," and I melt like buttah in those cases because they've done their best).

I agree. It just makes us feel special. After our first date, he made me dinner. Just the effort and the time he put into it made me fall for him like a ton of bricks.

 

[chinalady]

February is also our anniversary month. It's a huge treat for us to go out without the kiddies.

It'll probably just be dinner and sex for us.

LOL! And I thought our anniversary and Valentine's Day were too close together. Our anniversary month is March...so I have to make that special as well. Dinner and sex sounds awesome! I don't think that I'll let that night of Valentine's go without having sex with him.

 

[chinalady]

I'm going to make my boyfriend a mini-scrapbook listing the reasons why I love him.....

Hmmm...that's a good idea! I just might do something similar for our anniversary month. Thanks for sharing.

 

[chinalady]

i think this is a great idea and did something similar for a girlfriend... but i included a sort of diary (related to thoughts of her/us) and some items from special times we shared (movie tickets, cocktail napkins, etc.)

That's very thoughtful and sweet, EJFan! Now those are the kind of gifts that just makes a girl fall in love all over again.