Useless Doms?

[St_George]

Thanks for the response everyone! Some interesting results. I wonder what results would be achieved if a psychologist were to analyse the personalities of a large number of Doms and subs. Would there be a pattern do we think? I do not know enough about the whole subject (phsycology) to undertake it.

 

[Gil_T2]

Thanks for the response everyone! Some interesting results. I wonder what results would be achieved if a psychologist were to analyse the personalities of a large number of Doms and subs. Would there be a pattern do we think? I do not know enough about the whole subject (phsycology) to undertake it.

I'm sure the results would NOT differ much from the Vanilla ppl.

the lifestyle is what pleases us & so many vanilla ppl are not pleased with their lot in life.

 

[ghosst_K&H]

If I wasn't here Karen and Holly would live off of Tyson Chicken patties, rice, and instant potatos.

Boh are pretty useless in the kitchen.

 

[graceanne]

If I wasn't here Karen and Holly would live off of Tyson Chicken patties, rice, and instant potatos.

Boh are pretty useless in the kitchen.

Oh, my gosh! Ghosst! How are you?

 

[Master_n_Mentor]

My sub said once that one of the reasons she wanted to submit to me sexually was because she had to look after me in R/L. Meaning that, left to my own devices I would probaby "put the cat on the stove and the kettle out for the night" through absent mindedness, or being distracted or somesuch. So, here is my question: Is this a trait common to Dominant types? Sexually competant but absolutely useless in everyday situations? Or must I blame my incompetance on something else?

Trying to keep a straight face... the reason you are abscentminded is that your brain is focused on the truly imporatant things within your life. The cat being put in the stove (as long as it's not in the microwave and turned on) is not a major concern, putting the pot outside is not a concern either. But, the safety of your loved ones, is always in the forfront of your mind.

That's the line I give My wife (and sub) when invariably in the morning I ask; where the hell did I put ... (you can fill in the blank there from shoes, to keys, to whatever).

She never buys it, but perhaps you will... ROFL

 

[Lorelei_11]

My sub said once that one of the reasons she wanted to submit to me sexually was because she had to look after me in R/L. Meaning that, left to my own devices I would probaby "put the cat on the stove and the kettle out for the night" through absent mindedness, or being distracted or somesuch. So, here is my question: Is this a trait common to Dominant types? Sexually competant but absolutely useless in everyday situations? Or must I blame my incompetance on something else?

lol.. I've been this way. Just to much on the mind and so you overlook the simple things. Which can cause your poor cat to wonder what he's doing on the stove.

I haven't been around many dominant types, but I'm enjoying reading what others have to say on this thread.

 

[Inconsequential]

I disagree, it strikes me more that Hillary is a sub and Bill is her Dom.

I don't know, I'm glad she accepted his polyamoury, but I won't hijack the thread with politics. *giggle*

I've known male and female Dom/mes to be scatterbrained, and still dominant.

 

[Inconsequential]

Thanks for the response everyone! Some interesting results. I wonder what results would be achieved if a psychologist were to analyse the personalities of a large number of Doms and subs. Would there be a pattern do we think? I do not know enough about the whole subject (phsycology) to undertake it.

It's been done. It's been published, it's been done in three different countries.
Some of it's interesting, some of it's long winded. But some of it was interesting.

 

[St_George]

What sort of interesting? Can you remember any of the conclusions. Where can one find a copy?

 

[Inconsequential]

What sort of interesting? Can you remember any of the conclusions. Where can one find a copy?

I remember one in Holland, one published by the Sorbonne University in France, not sure where to find it on the net tho. I'll see if I can find a copy and post the titles. They are in psychology magazine tho. I remember that for sure. Just can't remember what year or month.

 

[College_geek]

Okay, so I normally don't post in this forum because I've only been experimenting with like bondage and D/s roleplay with my boyfriend (so I feel a bit intimidated by everyone else in here ^_^), but this thread caught my eye.

I don't necessarily know from personal experience, but I do remember a conversation I had with two classmates between studying for out final. I asked them if they tended to be dominant or submissive in sexual situations, since I had been feeling very dominant in my relationship at the time and wanted to see how other people acted. Both of them said submissive, which I kinda found weird at first because at least one of them was a very strong, forward woman. She told me that she feels so in-charge and dominant in her normal life that in a sexual situation, she enjoys not being in control. Now I don't know if that means she just likes her partner taking the wheel or if she really truly submits, but I found that concept interesting.

Ultimately, it probably all depends on the individual, but I could see a lot of submissives feeling that way, that they have to take care of others out of the bedroom, so they want to be taken care of inside the bedroom.


But these are just the odd ramblings of a self-proclaimed switch who doesn't know that much about the lifestyle, so take with a grain of salt.

 

[English Gentleman]

I like that! Very well put! I like to think that as men we worry about the 'big picture', we step back and ponder, while our partners get bogged down in details such as shopping and eating(!) etc.

You're right though, it's a terrible excuse, and for some reason(!) our partners will never buy it!

Trying to keep a straight face... the reason you are abscentminded is that your brain is focused on the truly imporatant things within your life. The cat being put in the stove (as long as it's not in the microwave and turned on) is not a major concern, putting the pot outside is not a concern either. But, the safety of your loved ones, is always in the forfront of your mind.

That's the line I give My wife (and sub) when invariably in the morning I ask; where the hell did I put ... (you can fill in the blank there from shoes, to keys, to whatever).

She never buys it, but perhaps you will... ROFL

 

[Inconsequential]

Okay, so I normally don't post in this forum because I've only been experimenting with like bondage and D/s roleplay with my boyfriend (so I feel a bit intimidated by everyone else in here ^_^), but this thread caught my eye.
I asked them if they tended to be dominant or submissive in sexual situations... She told me that she feels so in-charge and dominant in her normal life that in a sexual situation, she enjoys not being in control.
Ultimately, it probably all depends on the individual, but I could see a lot of submissives feeling that way...

I see a lot of people who only play in the bedroom, part-timers, closet subs, and sometimes I see it in this in the lifestyle Dom/mes that are masochist. I don't know how broad a spectrum it covers, but I've found them everywhere.
I can see how this would be a comfortable situation tho especially for a S/switch. If the person really is full S/switch. That way you can have your cake and eat it too.

 

[Sylvia2]

LOL gracie! Though Master Gil wants to know what K is doing pulling things out of the oven in the first place - "that's the subbie's job"

OOoohh no, no, no. My dom husband cooks because he likes to be in control...I eat what he wants, when he wants me to eat it. I only help in the kitchen when he tells me to, whether it's cooking or fucking.

Suits me just fine...