update and help ?

[tbon45]

hi everybody just wanted to post an update. im getting better i can walk alittle more still cant have sex but im getting alot of practice with my tounge ya know what i mean. also i have learned alot with what i have taken for granted in life and with my wife. i never realy thought about how much she has or had done fore me and our kids. i have just told her how much i appreciated her and how much i love her.
she has been going through alot with taking care of me working taking care of the kids. i know some things are normal and have to be done but on top of everything else its alot for her.

now here is where i need some help how can i do some thing very special for her for valintines also just because of what she has done for me? it has to be some thing so special she would want to brag abou it. i try to to think of things but i just cant come up with some thing romantic enough. please help me. thanks.

 

[Just_4_Giggles]

Hire a cleaning lady for that week, take her out for a romantic dinner (if you are up to it) or have one brought in, shove the kids off to grandma's for the weekend, get her a gift certificate for a massage.

Be sincere when you look into her eyes and tell her how much you appreciate all she does. Give examples and don't stop after just one sentence.

We females often feel like we are in servitude to others and the positive feedback is important...be consistent with that.

Good Luck! (and hope you are feeling better!)

 

[Lynxie]

Hire a cleaning lady for that week, take her out for a romantic dinner (if you are up to it) or have one brought in, shove the kids off to grandma's for the weekend, get her a gift certificate for a massage.

Be sincere when you look into her eyes and tell her how much you appreciate all she does. Give examples and don't stop after just one sentence.

We females often feel like we are in servitude to others and the positive feedback is important...be consistent with that.

I think that's a perfect idea! It would give your wife a break from all her hard work, and give you two some time when you could just relax alone together.

Glad to hear you're doing well! Keep us posted on how everything goes

 

[SweetErika]

Great ideas! The most meaningful things to me have always been those that show raw emotion and take time and effort. I think it'd be wonderful if you wrote down some of your thoughts on how much you love her and how much she means to you. Then read them to her, and give her the card or note to keep.

 

[Bobmi357]

Hiring a cleaning lady for a week is a swell idea, but may not be feasible if finances are tight as they tend to be when one partner is unable to work.

Another idea. CALL GRANDMA and ask her to take over for a day, then send the wife out for a spa makeover. Let her have a full day off, a day to be pampered, have her hair done etc. Then get her the biggest card you can, saying two things.

1) I LOVE YOU
2) THANK YOU

Its never easy when you cannot do for yourself and have to rely on your spouse for even the simplest of things. I know, I've been there. I'm thankful and happy to say that the latest set of treatments I've had seem to be working, its been more than 30 days without severe pain. You never know, nor appreciate how much your spouse does for you until you find yourself unable to move, unable to do more than hobble from one place to another and she's doing EVERYTHING for you.

Just holding her hand and telling her thanks and letting her know you appreciate what she's doing goes a long way to making her life easier. People find work a burden, but if they are appreciated and acknowledged for that work, it becomes a lot easier.

 

[tbon45]

thanks guys for the replys. i think im gonna go with the idea's you have on here. the saturday before valintines day ill make some app. to get her hair done and her nails and then to top it all off get a full body massage. i just have to figure out how set it all up.

 

[tbon45]

here is a pic of my back. i had 40 staples.

 

[Bobmi357]

here is a pic of my back. i had 40 staples.

LOL!! No offense man, but I could have lived without that photo

 

[Just_4_Giggles]

here is a pic of my back. i had 40 staples.

Wow! I wish you the speediest of recoveries!

To coordinate: call one of your wife's best friends and ask her what the posh, hip spa is in town, call them up, give them a credit card number and order a gift certificate. Massage will be about $100 USD, hair about $60 unless there is color/foils, etc. (Friend will know what your wife has done). Even just the massage and a pedicure, or massage and facial will be heaven. To be on the really really safe side, a $200 gift certificate should cover at least 2 really nice pampering things for her, maybe 3. But believe me, a one hour massage in and of itself would be perfectamundo!

Let us know what you did and how she liked it!!

Gigs

 

[Just_4_Giggles]

I'm thankful and happy to say that the latest set of treatments I've had seem to be working, its been more than 30 days without severe pain.

Sheesh, Bob, what's up with that if you don't mind me asking?

 

[Just_4_Giggles]

I think it'd be wonderful if you wrote down some of your thoughts on how much you love her and how much she means to you. Then read them to her, and give her the card or note to keep.

That's really great too, S_E -

Do that too