Update about Last Night

[nasty1]

Just thought I'd get everyone who gave a damn about last night, an update. I just e-mailed Erica, &, I told her, spare my feelings, &, if you just want to be friends, tell me. She e-mailed me, saying, "It's my fault I didn't tell you that in the 1st place. I didn't want to hurt your fellings, but, I did, anyway." I am disappointed that she just wants to be friends,(I'm gonna die sexually inexperienced, I just fucking KNOW it,)but, friends is better then nothing. Though, I did say I was still a bit hurt.

 

[Ham Murabi]

I feel your pain

 

[nasty1]

I appreciate that, but, since you don't have a wheelchair, &, cause of that, you can count your dates on 1 hand, you don't really know I I feel. I'm sorry. I didn't mean for taht to sound harsh. I'm just a bit disappointed, is all.

 

[Ham Murabi]

Ack

 

[nasty1]

I'm sorry, again. I know everyone means well, but, unless they were in my shoes, nobody really knows how I feel. Maybe if I wasn't so disappointed, I wouldn't be so blunt.

 

[Guest]

 

[lilminx]

nasty, why are you saying that you're sexually inexperienced? I've seen you post about sexual things you've done.

 

[Ham Murabi]

Ack

Sorry, I almost always make that noise when I'm trying to keep from laughing.

 

[nasty1]

nasty, why are you saying that you're sexually inexperienced? I've seen you post about sexual things you've done.

Yeah, but, not enough to sneeze at. And, Rose, A few months ago, I made a friend, &, expressed an interest in her. But, she said she wasn't looking to get "bogged down." FF to last night, I come to find out in an e-mail she sent me that her & another guy were going out. So, I was disappointed, cause, I felt she lied to me. But, she just wanted to spare my feelings.

 

[nasty1]

I figured it out. Erica likes my looks & persoality. And, we have a lot in coomon. She didn't wanna date me cause of my wheelchair. Hmmm...it's the only thing that I can think of. Just lost a friend.

 

[st4nton]

now i can sleep tonight.

 

[nasty1]

If you just come in here to torment me, PISS OFF!!!! I'm not really in the mood.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

I figured it out. Erica likes my looks & persoality. And, we have a lot in coomon. She didn't wanna date me cause of my wheelchair. Hmmm...it's the only thing that I can think of. Just lost a friend.

Honey, you're using that wheelchair as a crutch. Just cus she likes your looks and personality doesn't mean she feels that attraction to you. I think lots of people are beautiful/handsome and nice, but that doesn't mean I'd date them.. I like them as a person and appreciate their appearance.

Secondly, have a conversation with Pixie Mischief. I think it might do you some good.

 

[nasty1]

I've thought about doing that, too. Think I will.

 

[lilminx]

I agree with Vixenshe, hon. She just might not be attracted to you as someone she wants to date. It's not easy to tell someone that.

I think sometimes you might try too hard and may end up coming on too strong. I could be wrong, never having seen you in action IRL, but it's just a feeling I get.

 

[Ms_Lilith]

And nasty, sweetie.. sex is not always happiness. Always remember that... in the end, it doesn't matter how much experience in the bedroom you have, if you're unhappy. Happiness is found within, not fabricated by the presence of others.

Why?

Because when that person leaves, you become unhappy again... that person is merely a bandaid.

 

[nasty1]

Actually, I thought I was pretty subtle about it. I only mentioned the dating thing to her a few times. I didn't want to scare her off, like I'm afraid I have a few other people that I've actually dated, cause I DID come off too strongly.

 

[nasty1]

And nasty, sweetie.. sex is not always happiness. Always remember that... in the end, it doesn't matter how much experience in the bedroom you have, if you're unhappy. Happiness is found within, not fabricated by the presence of others.

Why?

Because when that person leaves, you become unhappy again... that person is merely a bandaid.

Yeah, but I'm still horny. I wish I could click off sex drive for a while.

 

[lilminx]

Actually, I thought I was pretty subtle about it. I only mentioned the dating thing to her a few times. I didn't want to scare her off, like I'm afraid I have a few other people that I've actually dated, cause I DID come off too strongly.

Yeah but if you mention it once and she doesn't seem into it, mentioning it again will only make her uncomfortable.

I've been in that situation before, and it makes me want to avoid the person if he brings it up more than once.

 

[Cheyenne]

Honey, you're using that wheelchair as a crutch. Just cus she likes your looks and personality doesn't mean she feels that attraction to you. I think lots of people are beautiful/handsome and nice, but that doesn't mean I'd date them.. I like them as a person and appreciate their appearance.

Secondly, have a conversation with Pixie Mischief. I think it might do you some good.

You beat me to it. I was going to suggest bluespoke as another source of conversation.

You're in a chair, but the chair is not who you are, Nasty.

 

[red_rose]

You beat me to it. I was going to suggest bluespoke as another source of conversation.

You're in a chair, but the chair is not who you are, Nasty.

Looks like I'm a little late on the draw here, too.

Blue is handicapped? I hadn't realized.


Nasty - I once dated a guy who had CP. He could hardly walk, but he was fun to talk to. After a couple of dates, though, I realized we had nothing in common. His disability had nothing to do with it - he just wasn't the guy for me.

 

[peachykeen]

Hugs, nasty. But you know what, there of plenty of folks who are not in wheelchairs who get put through the wringer before finding someone to be with too, you know. vix and others have said it already, so I won't belabor the point. There's someone for everyone out there.

 

[nasty1]

I'm REALLY regretting sendind her an e-mail taht plainly said, "It's not cause I'm in a wheelchair, is it?" Didn't get a response back. Not good. But, I just had to know, dammit.