Unpopular opinion

[Massive_Ass69]

Okay so full disclosure, I have ADD sometimes it is a challenge to articulate my thought process so I hope you can all follow along with what I am trying to say. (And I apologize if I sound scattered or confuse any of you)

I am sitting here watching the Ashley Madison doc on Netflix and it got me thinking about a few things. I do have a cheating kink (one of many fetishes/kink) but I recognize how it can hurt your partner and destroy a home. I am not promoting it or saying that it’s all good but I generally try not to judge. I think a fetish can be a fetish and contained in your heart and desires without being acted upon but I also think that acting out most fetishes and desires can be harmless (with the exception of mutilation, r*pe, loss of life, underage, beastiality- none of those are my fetishes/kinks). It has to be consensual. I honestly can read some of members cheating fantasy stories on here and be sated or watch a porn for some other link and be perfectly happy.

Thinking about this sent my thought process down a rabbit hole of other things that not only me, but other people may like/desire/need. It made me think about the things that I like and why.

My unpopular opinion is that I understand sexualizing/objectifying a person for sex, especially when men sexualize/objectify women. Not in a way that is harmful but I see nothing wrong with a man looking for/desiring a woman based on sexual attraction and I find it empowering when a woman chooses to be sexualized and objectified. She enjoys bringing a man to his brink and being the one who drive him crazy with desire. I don’t view her as any less of a woman. I even understand and enjoy when women enhance themselves to be more sexually attractive to men. Not saying that I don’t like natural women, I enjoy it all. I enjoy watching a man pursue and get his sexual needs met with the caveat of the man ensuring the woman’s mutual pleasure. I think it is needed, again, it has to be consensual so I do not support those who try to take by force.

Is there a word for how I feel/what I believe? I realize I may sound like I am rambling but I tried to articulate it the best way I could.

 

[Crownvic]

Okay so full disclosure, I have ADD sometimes it is a challenge to articulate my thought process so I hope you can all follow along with what I am trying to say. (And I apologize if I sound scattered or confuse any of you)

I am sitting here watching the Ashley Madison doc on Netflix and it got me thinking about a few things. I do have a cheating kink (one of many fetishes/kink) but I recognize how it can hurt your partner and destroy a home. I am not promoting it or saying that it’s all good but I generally try not to judge. I think a fetish can be a fetish and contained in your heart and desires without being acted upon but I also think that acting out most fetishes and desires can be harmless (with the exception of mutilation, r*pe, loss of life, underage, beastiality- none of those are my fetishes/kinks). It has to be consensual. I honestly can read some of members cheating fantasy stories on here and be sated or watch a porn for some other link and be perfectly happy.

Thinking about this sent my thought process down a rabbit hole of other things that not only me, but other people may like/desire/need. It made me think about the things that I like and why.

My unpopular opinion is that I understand sexualizing/objectifying a person for sex, especially when men sexualize/objectify women. Not in a way that is harmful but I see nothing wrong with a man looking for/desiring a woman based on sexual attraction and I find it empowering when a woman chooses to be sexualized and objectified. She enjoys bringing a man to his brink and being the one who drive him crazy with desire. I don’t view her as any less of a woman. I even understand and enjoy when women enhance themselves to be more sexually attractive to men. Not saying that I don’t like natural women, I enjoy it all. I enjoy watching a man pursue and get his sexual needs met with the caveat of the man ensuring the woman’s mutual pleasure. I think it is needed, again, it has to be consensual so I do not support those who try to take by force.

Is there a word for how I feel/what I believe? I realize I may sound like I am rambling but I tried to articulate it the best way I could.

Excellent statement..I know that feeling very well...

 

[markchamberlain]

I guess it depends on context. Sometimes people (both genders) are in the mood to display their sexuality and be viewed as a sexual object. Sometime they're not. It's OK to be receptive and play along when the signals are really there. But men in particular need to be perceptive and very cautious. It feels a bit sad and wrong when a woman is aggressively flirted with, when she was only trying to look sophisticated, well-dressed, and fashionable.

 

[Kenrychard]

Okay so full disclosure, I have ADD sometimes it is a challenge to articulate my thought process so I hope you can all follow along with what I am trying to say. (And I apologize if I sound scattered or confuse any of you)

I am sitting here watching the Ashley Madison doc on Netflix and it got me thinking about a few things. I do have a cheating kink (one of many fetishes/kink) but I recognize how it can hurt your partner and destroy a home. I am not promoting it or saying that it’s all good but I generally try not to judge. I think a fetish can be a fetish and contained in your heart and desires without being acted upon but I also think that acting out most fetishes and desires can be harmless (with the exception of mutilation, r*pe, loss of life, underage, beastiality- none of those are my fetishes/kinks). It has to be consensual. I honestly can read some of members cheating fantasy stories on here and be sated or watch a porn for some other link and be perfectly happy.

Thinking about this sent my thought process down a rabbit hole of other things that not only me, but other people may like/desire/need. It made me think about the things that I like and why.

My unpopular opinion is that I understand sexualizing/objectifying a person for sex, especially when men sexualize/objectify women. Not in a way that is harmful but I see nothing wrong with a man looking for/desiring a woman based on sexual attraction and I find it empowering when a woman chooses to be sexualized and objectified. She enjoys bringing a man to his brink and being the one who drive him crazy with desire. I don’t view her as any less of a woman. I even understand and enjoy when women enhance themselves to be more sexually attractive to men. Not saying that I don’t like natural women, I enjoy it all. I enjoy watching a man pursue and get his sexual needs met with the caveat of the man ensuring the woman’s mutual pleasure. I think it is needed, again, it has to be consensual so I do not support those who try to take by force.

Is there a word for how I feel/what I believe? I realize I may sound like I am rambling but I tried to articulate it the best way I could.

You made a good statement, maybe just not quite polished enough for a college class. But one comment, I had a favorite cousin who was a high end stripper. LA area club called The Cave, a block off Hollywood and Vine. She personified your last paragraph. I loved her, she was fun and wild and open minded... but when she actually fell in love and wanted a relationship, she couldn't find her way OUT of the game of seduction and become a loving partner, she drove her boyfriend nuts with always holding back.. exactly how a stripper gets return customers, instead of giving completely and satisfying her guy which is how husbands and wives fulfill each other and keep each other content and happy. What you say is true, but really is destructive if you aren't self aware enough to realize its not the whole package. Relationship based just on sexual attraction should be just sexual... try marriage with just that and your doomed from the start.

 

[LMWM321]

s there a word for how I feel/what I believe? I realize I may sound like I am rambling but I tried to articulate it the best way I could.

Yes, the word would be "normal." It might not be everyone's normal, but it is yours and that is fine. I find nothing wrong with ANY kink that is consensual in nature and is about mutual enjoyment. And most importantly you have a keen understanding of the difference b/w having a kink, and the potential havoc it wreaks by acting on it. ..So, like so many of us her at Lit, you come here to scratch your itch in a way that is not destructive to your relationships.

I doubt you'll find anyone here who will take issue with anything you've said - and said quite well. Bravo