UK Sexless Marriges ( Advice and Support Group)

Sparky74

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I really was not sure whether or not to even post this Thread but here goes.

As the Title Says am looking for any UK Men and Women who's Sexlife has completely Stopped, like mine to offer any advice, Support and Understanding.

My Wife and I are both 49 were Married in 2019, In August of that Year my Wife had a Heart attack and now has to take medication daily, I also have to take medication daily due to my own ongoing health issues, hence our libido is none existent.


Would love to hear from others who are in a similar position, so we can offer support to each other and advice.

I really just would love to know I'm not alone.

Please note if you don't feel comfortable posting in the Thread I totally understand, feel free to drop me a PM

Thank you All for Reading.


Kind Regards Sparky.🙂
 
Sparky: It's incredibly brave, touching, and inspiring of you to post this. I've not been part of this community for very long, but it's clear to me that it's very supportive and I hope others will rally around.
I'm sure many on here have varied reasons for joining, trying to fulfil gaps in their sexually unfulfilled lives, myself included. Good on you mate!
Don't hesitate to PM me if you want/need to talk.
 
Sparky: It's incredibly brave, touching, and inspiring of you to post this. I've not been part of this community for very long, but it's clear to me that it's very supportive and I hope others will rally around.
I'm sure many on here have varied reasons for joining, trying to fulfil gaps in their sexually unfulfilled lives, myself included. Good on you mate!
Don't hesitate to PM me if you want/need to talk.
Thanks for you support really appreciate it.
 
reassuring to know I'm not on my own.

Would love to hear from any ladies in the same position as well to get there thoughts and perspective.
 
Hi.

I'm in a similar situation. I've been with me wife now for 31 years, time, medication and health have made our time together less and less physical.

Its in fact become a running joke in the house.
When either of us asks if the other can do something for them, they replies are usually, (me) bend you over and make your legs buckle or (her) ride you till you see stars.
 
Hi.

I'm in a similar situation. I've been with me wife now for 31 years, time, medication and health have made our time together less and less physical.

Its in fact become a running joke in the house.
When either of us asks if the other can do something for them, they replies are usually, (me) bend you over and make your legs buckle or (her) ride you till you see stars.
Love that thanks for taking the time to reply. 🙂
 
Just wanted to say thank you to all that have left comments on Thread or messaged me personally very much appreciated.
 
I was really not sure at all about starting this thread because I feel internally torn, like I'm betraying my wife who I do love very much.

Does that make sense or am I being stupid?
 
Hi Sparky, sorry to hear about your wife, sounds like it was due to health that the physical side has stopped. I have been with my wife 26 years and most of that has been sexless with no affection, she finds it hard to even hug etc. Apparently its her not me!!! To date I have been faithful but there are times when it is really difficult and wish I was the type of guy that would just go and find someone else, but you can't help who you love.
You are not alone, happy to chat if you want to pm me
 
I'm 37, my wife is 38. Very normal people. We've been married 8 years but haven't had sex in at least 3. It's slowly eating away at me inside. What hurts most is the rejection... To be knocked back every time I try to suggest or initiate sex until eventually I've stopped bringing it up. Masturbating alone only takes the edge off for so long. I miss having a connection with a sexual being.

We've talked many times and she acknowledges she is the one with the issue and feels bad for me. She's not willing to seek help or a resolution for what I think are psychological blocks meaning she has zero desire for any physical contact.

I've forgotten what it's like to interact with a woman with a sex drive. The idea of talking to someone who can get turned on at this point is incredibly erotic. To tell the truth I feel pathetic.

We have two kids aged 4 & 6. I can't and won't leave them. So I'm stuck in a sexless marriage with nothing to suggest anything will ever change.

It seems tonight I've reached the stage where I just needed to say all this into the void.
 
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Sorry to hear about your wife, the reality is that most people are still in love after many years however we subdue our needs to support your family.
Our needs are important but is it more important than our family 🤔
 
Hi Sparky, sorry to hear about your wife, sounds like it was due to health that the physical side has stopped. I have been with my wife 26 years and most of that has been sexless with no affection, she finds it hard to even hug etc. Apparently its her not me!!! To date I have been faithful but there are times when it is really difficult and wish I was the type of guy that would just go and find someone else, but you can't help who you love.
You are not alone, happy to chat if you want to pm me
Am so sorry for your situation, my wife and I are still very affectionate, it is just the actual sexual intercourse and foreplay that has stopped.
 
I'm 37, my wife is 38. Very normal people. We've been married 8 years but haven't had sex in at least 3. It's slowly eating away at me inside. What hurts most is the rejection... To be knocked back every time I try to suggest or initiate sex until eventually I've stopped bringing it up. Masturbating alone only takes the edge off for so long. I miss having a connection with a sexual being.

We've talked many times and she acknowledges she is the one with the issue and feels bad for me. She's not willing to seek help or a resolution for what I think are psychological blocks meaning she has zero desire for any physical contact.

I've forgotten what it's like to interact with a woman with a sex drive. The idea of talking to someone who can get turned on at this point is incredibly erotic. To tell the truth I feel pathetic.

We have two kids aged 4 & 6. I cant and won't leave them. I'm stuck in a sexless marriage with nothing to suggest anything will ever change.

I don't want to cheat but sometimes I find myself wondering if I should pay someone to "sort me out".

It seems tonight I've reached the stage where I just needed to say all this into the void.
I can understand your thoughts and feelings, can't have been easy to share, I'm glad and happy to have provided you with a platform to share openly. Feel free to PM if needed, will always answer when back online.
 
Am on line early for a little while if anyone needs to PM, if not will always answer when I next log in.
 
Just a post as a reminder, that this is your safe space for everyone, for advice, support and guidance.

Always happy to receive PM's.
 
I really was not sure whether or not to even post this Thread but here goes.

As the Title Says am looking for any UK Men and Women who's Sexlife has completely Stopped, like mine to offer any advice, Support and Understanding.

My Wife and I are both 49 were Married in 2019, In August of that Year my Wife had a Heart attack and now has to take medication daily, I also have to take medication daily due to my own ongoing health issues, hence our libido is none existent.


Would love to hear from others who are in a similar position, so we can offer support to each other and advice.

I really just would love to know I'm not alone.

Please note if you don't feel comfortable posting in the Thread I totally understand, feel free to drop me a PM

Thank you All for Reading.


Kind Regards Sparky.🙂
You are not alone mate
 
There's a lot of people here in the same position. It's nice to know your not alone. Still hard. I have been in this position a long time and some times I can go through life easy and other times like an addict needing a fix. I hope you all find what works for you.
 
There's a lot of people here in the same position. It's nice to know your not alone. Still hard. I have been in this position a long time and some times I can go through life easy and other times like an addict needing a fix. I hope you all find what works for you.
Thanks Paul really appreciate it.
 
Your most welcome. But your definitely not alone. No one has a perfect life but its nice to find the things to make it easier if that makes things easier and nor fuck things up to much in reality
 
Your most welcome. But your definitely not alone. No one has a perfect life but its nice to find the things to make it easier if that makes things easier and nor fuck things up to much in reality
If you ever need to chat can always Pm, even if I'm not active on lit will always message when I'm back on line.
 
I'm 37, my wife is 38. Very normal people. We've been married 8 years but haven't had sex in at least 3. It's slowly eating away at me inside. What hurts most is the rejection... To be knocked back every time I try to suggest or initiate sex until eventually I've stopped bringing it up. Masturbating alone only takes the edge off for so long. I miss having a connection with a sexual being.

We've talked many times and she acknowledges she is the one with the issue and feels bad for me. She's not willing to seek help or a resolution for what I think are psychological blocks meaning she has zero desire for any physical contact.

I've forgotten what it's like to interact with a woman with a sex drive. The idea of talking to someone who can get turned on at this point is incredibly erotic. To tell the truth I feel pathetic.

We have two kids aged 4 & 6. I cant and won't leave them. I'm stuck in a sexless marriage with nothing to suggest anything will ever change.

I don't want to cheat but sometimes I find myself wondering if I should pay someone to "sort me out".

It seems tonight I've reached the stage where I just needed to say all this into the void.
Hey, you are not alone on this, there seems to be quite a few people in similar situations.PM if you want to chat
 
I really was not sure whether or not to even post this Thread but here goes.

As the Title Says am looking for any UK Men and Women who's Sexlife has completely Stopped, like mine to offer any advice, Support and Understanding.

My Wife and I are both 49 were Married in 2019, In August of that Year my Wife had a Heart attack and now has to take medication daily, I also have to take medication daily due to my own ongoing health issues, hence our libido is none existent.


Would love to hear from others who are in a similar position, so we can offer support to each other and advice.

I really just would love to know I'm not alone.

Please note if you don't feel comfortable posting in the Thread I totally understand, feel free to drop me a PM

Thank you All for Reading.


Kind Regards Sparky.🙂
Hi Sparky

First of all, you a most certainly not alone!!

Although at the moment I'm not totally in the same position as you, and I am a lot older than you. Let me just say that my husband and I had many sexless years. Mostly due to illness, in that I have spinal stenosis, which was supposed to have been fixed about 14 years ago, but wasn't. I have other illnesses too. Recently, two and a half years ago I had another surgery, which at least keeps me out of a wheelchair. However, I do have a lot of pain at times, and there are no cures, just plasters! The plasters I have to provide unless I want to become a zombie on opoids, which I do not. I'd rather learn to live with the pain, which I think I have done, however I could not do it without my husband who is the kindest man I have ever met. He helps me a lot with it all too.

The thing was that during those sexless years I thought it was because I had become fat, and undesirable. So I used to read the stories here and in other places, and take care of myself, as you men say lol. When I discovered 'chat', someone persuaded me to talk to him about it. Now he has prostate issues so he's not into much at all. However, he did hear me and does try once in while.

I know that due to your wife's condition it would be dangerous for her to become too excited, however I am sure that there must be stuff that can happen...........may I ask have you been to see a heart specialist about sex itself? Perhaps there is something that they can offer you? I'm just throwing out suggestions I hope you don't mind.

Anyway, I wish you and your wife a good solution. You guys are far too young to stop having the best part of life together.
 
Hi Sparky

First of all, you a most certainly not alone!!

Although at the moment I'm not totally in the same position as you, and I am a lot older than you. Let me just say that my husband and I had many sexless years. Mostly due to illness, in that I have spinal stenosis, which was supposed to have been fixed about 14 years ago, but wasn't. I have other illnesses too. Recently, two and a half years ago I had another surgery, which at least keeps me out of a wheelchair. However, I do have a lot of pain at times, and there are no cures, just plasters! The plasters I have to provide unless I want to become a zombie on opoids, which I do not. I'd rather learn to live with the pain, which I think I have done, however I could not do it without my husband who is the kindest man I have ever met. He helps me a lot with it all too.

The thing was that during those sexless years I thought it was because I had become fat, and undesirable. So I used to read the stories here and in other places, and take care of myself, as you men say lol. When I discovered 'chat', someone persuaded me to talk to him about it. Now he has prostate issues so he's not into much at all. However, he did hear me and does try once in while.

I know that due to your wife's condition it would be dangerous for her to become too excited, however I am sure that there must be stuff that can happen...........may I ask have you been to see a heart specialist about sex itself? Perhaps there is something that they can offer you? I'm just throwing out suggestions I hope you don't mind.

Anyway, I wish you and your wife a good solution. You guys are far too young to stop having the best part of life together.
Thank you so much for your lovely heart felt reply your welcome to PM would love to chat more when I have more time. 🙂
 
Sparky, hang in there. Being in a 43 year marriage with the last 9 years sexless I understand the frustration. My advice is to try to keep as much physical contact as possible.
I really was not sure whether or not to even post this Thread but here goes.

As the Title Says am looking for any UK Men and Women who's Sexlife has completely Stopped, like mine to offer any advice, Support and Understanding.

My Wife and I are both 49 were Married in 2019, In August of that Year my Wife had a Heart attack and now has to take medication daily, I also have to take medication daily due to my own ongoing health issues, hence our libido is none existent.


Would love to hear from others who are in a similar position, so we can offer support to each other and advice.

I really just would love to know I'm not alone.

Please note if you don't feel comfortable posting in the Thread I totally understand, feel free to drop me a PM

Thank you All for Reading.


Kind Regards Sparky.🙂
Sparky, hang in there. Being in a 43 year marriage with the last 9 years sexless I understand the frustration. My advice is to try to keep as much physical contact as possible. ie, Cuddling, mutual masturbation, massage, oral, nude movie night, making out, anything to keep contact. Also, you have to try to keep the romance going. I know easier said than done.
Our issues started with prostate cancer and having it removed and the wife going through menopause (perfect storm) so falls on both of us. We both lost interest in the beginning and time just goes by, but now I have desire (still performance issues) but she has no physical contact desire.
So, last couple of years I have been living in my fantasy world where I have the greatest sex of my life. Know that your not alone out there.
 
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