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[FieryVixen]

She doesn't NEED to squirt to "pass" some test or qualify for the new car, OK?

That should be an interesting replacement for the ever popular "hands on a Honda" contest.

 

[BicMan]

I tried this technique, both on stomach and back a couple times over the past few days and it didn't work. Not sure what I was doing wrong. She felt bad because I was sitting there just trying to do something new to pleasure her. I have no problem giving her clitoral orgasms. I can give her at least one every session, sometimes two depending on how she is feeling and how long my jaw/tongue can hold out. When we first started having sex she could orgasm from most sessions, then randomly she stopped and hasnt in a while for some reason.

Anyways we tried this technique, we did the whole foreplay thing for a while, got her nice and wet and then tried it. It dried her out. It ended up making her pussy really dry, so dry that when we tried to have sex afterwards (even after going down on her for a bit) we couldnt for a few hours. Now I was applying so much pressure that my thumb got sore and started to cramp. I do have pretty strong hands from my work and from weight lifting, so I am not sure if I just used too much pressure. I was applying as much as I could. So maybe that was it (but this was after going soft at first).


I did feel something kinda harden and rubbed that but she kept thinking the G-spot was in different places, telling me to move the hand one way or to the left or right...basically she just didn't know where it was, and I wasn't positive either. She said afterwards she'd feel something for a little while, but then lose the feeling. I tried rubbing up and down, tried tapping it rythmically, side to side and circles (both directions).

I do have small hands so it occured to me afterwards that my thumbs weren't long enough? I tried the regular technique on her stomach with butt in air with my thumb, and tried with her on her back...I'm not sure what I am doing wrong, but really want to figure it out, everyone could use a boost of confidence plus I just love making her feel good, in and out of the bedroom. Any suggestions? ANY help MUCH appreciated

 

[Honeydew56]

Don't give up, we tried for a couple months before we got over the top with this.
Get some good water based lube and use it, this made a big difference for us, plus a couple of clit cums before even trying for the g.
Also my husband does not use his thumb, 2 fingers instead.

Try relaxing and go for something else for a while, maybe you 2 are putting too much pressure on each other to get this.

Honey

 

[Mr.G]

Agreed

I can't tell you the number of PM and Emails I've received that said, "..didn't work" , " didn't work", "didn't work." and then all of a sudden it just DID.

Strangely enough the women who seem to have no trouble at all getting their GSpot to FIRE at will (with or w/o help) seem to be older women. Many younger ones seem to take many many attempts and THEN it works. The older women seem to trigger right away at least from most of the IMs, PM,s etc I've received.

I have no idea why either.

I just feel bad for the couples who've tried it, it didn't work and they got frustrated and gave up althogether. It IS worth the attempts. Once it has happened ONCE it doesn't take much for the second time. It's like the body has learned that neural pathway and as soon as a thumb hits it BADAABOOOOM! again and again and again.

 

[Don K Dyck]

Re: Agreed

I can't tell you the number of PM and Emails I've received that said, "..didn't work" , " didn't work", "didn't work." and then all of a sudden it just DID.

Strangely enough the women who seem to have no trouble at all getting their GSpot to FIRE at will (with or w/o help) seem to be older women. Many younger ones seem to take many many attempts and THEN it works. The older women seem to trigger right away at least from most of the IMs, PM,s etc I've received.

I have no idea why either.

I just feel bad for the couples who've tried it, it didn't work and they got frustrated and gave up althogether. It IS worth the attempts. Once it has happened ONCE it doesn't take much for the second time. It's like the body has learned that neural pathway and as soon as a thumb hits it BADAABOOOOM! again and again and again.

Hey Mr G . . . a thought about why maidens have trouble finding the supernovagasm.

Very early in your discourse you said that you belived that the reproductive system had been hijacked to create non-reproductive sexual pleasure.

Well, taking that astute insight to a logical conclusion, if maidens have difficulty, it may be because they have by definition, not experienced child-birth where the pleasure systems fire up to ease the pain. Once fired up, these pleasure systems are likely to continue operating when stimulated on later dtaes. Hence the ease with which older women find their G-Spot may be explained.

Just a thought. What do you think??

Don

 

[psyche]

Re: Re: Agreed

Hey Mr G . . . a thought about why maidens have trouble finding the supernovagasm.

Very early in your discourse you said that you belived that the reproductive system had been hijacked to create non-reproductive sexual pleasure.

Well, taking that astute insight to a logical conclusion, if maidens have difficulty, it may be because they have by definition, not experienced child-birth where the pleasure systems fire up to ease the pain. Once fired up, these pleasure systems are likely to continue operating when stimulated on later dtaes. Hence the ease with which older women find their G-Spot may be explained.

Just a thought. What do you think??

Don

That may be true for some women, but I have not had any children. Older women may just be more relaxed about their bodies and more able to just let go. I think that just letting go and giving yourself over to your partner is an important part of the experience, but that may just be me..........

 

[Bandit58]

Re: Re: Re: Agreed

That may be true for some women, but I have not had any children. Older women may just be more relaxed about their bodies and more able to just let go. I think that just letting go and giving yourself over to your partner is an important part of the experience, but that may just be me..........

Not just you psyche Gil has been the only one who has been able to make me do this. With other partners I always felt like I was holding something back - I hold nothing back with Gil and trust him completely. Not sure whether the Master/sub dynamic comes into it as well, I always feel submissive and giving with him whether we are "in scene" or out, and it's much easier for me to relax and "go with the flow" if I put myself in submissive mode

 

[psyche]

Re: Re: Re: Re: Agreed

Not just you psyche Gil has been the only one who has been able to make me do this. With other partners I always felt like I was holding something back - I hold nothing back with Gil and trust him completely. Not sure whether the Master/sub dynamic comes into it as well, I always feel submissive and giving with him whether we are "in scene" or out, and it's much easier for me to relax and "go with the flow" if I put myself in submissive mode

Like sisters! LOL! I have only done this with one partner also, and he is the best lover that I have ever had. I have complete trust in him and because of that he has taken me to places that no other man ever has. He is always in complete control and I have never been with anyone like that. He takes me away completely and once he touches me it is all him and nothing else exists for me, I am completely lost............what a wonderful feeling......totally physical.........only able to think of him and what he's doing to me...........My overwhelming feeling is that I belong to him and will never belong to anyone else........

 

[F-man]

Re: Shocking

""" We compared techniques, pressures, times of the month

Ok I am game and so is my wife. We going to try but does certain times in the month better than others. Like I notice that my wife is alot more active in the middle of her cycle so is there a better time for this?

 

[Mr.G]

F - MAN, all I can say, again, is that EVERYBODY is different. It may work better at certain times of the month. Then again it may work better at the opposite times than what you'd expect. I have no way of knowing your woman's physiological cycles, moods, blood sugar levels, testosterone production, Oxytocene levels, whether her boss yelled at her or she stepped in gum or poo on the way home and is pissed off.

I know with my dearly departed there were times when either with this technique or my tongue I could have her cuming in 10 seconds maybe less. Other times it took several minutes.

Just go with the flo. Talk to her and for the first time trying this technique I can't stress enough that you should turn her on just like you do every time you make love. Get her half wild before you even try to do this and tell her NOT to try and DO anything. Relax and let the body's natural functions kick in. When it works for you it's a trip you'll BOTH be absolutely addicted to.

Mr. Don K suggests:- ""Well, taking that astute insight to a logical conclusion, if maidens have difficulty, it may be because they have by definition, not experienced child-birth where the pleasure systems fire up to ease the pain. Once fired up, these pleasure systems are likely to continue operating when stimulated on later dates. Hence the ease with which older women find their G-Spot may be explained.

Just a thought. What do you think?? ""

I think it could be a significant factor for some. As our resident receiver testified, she can cum using this technique - LOSES herself in the sensations and has yet to breed or calve. I think that may be the trigger for some women but then some just have a natural predilection for orgasming like psyche .... poor thing.

 

[ReadyOne]

In theory, 10-14 days after her period starts.

In practice, 10 women = 8 different answers.

Bottom Line: Ask her when she can go the longest while having PIV sex.

 

[BicMan]

Don't give up, we tried for a couple months before we got over the top with this.
Get some good water based lube and use it, this made a big difference for us, plus a couple of clit cums before even trying for the g.
Also my husband does not use his thumb, 2 fingers instead.

Try relaxing and go for something else for a while, maybe you 2 are putting too much pressure on each other to get this.

Honey

thanks I'll try that, what is a good waterbased lube? I've used the warming lube they advertise on TV and that burned her...forget the brand its the most popular one tho that everywhere has, might not be the best tho, dont really know much about lube to be honest

thanks for the encouragement we will keep trying, when you were trying did you just go real slow and soft touches inside and THEN started feeling really good and then you went hard, we are both just conscious of needing to go hard for it to work, so maybe we are going hard too soon

 

[psyche]

thanks I'll try that, what is a good waterbased lube? I've used the warming lube they advertise on TV and that burned her...forget the brand its the most popular one tho that everywhere has, might not be the best tho, dont really know much about lube to be honest

thanks for the encouragement we will keep trying, when you were trying did you just go real slow and soft touches inside and THEN started feeling really good and then you went hard, we are both just conscious of needing to go hard for it to work, so maybe we are going hard too soon

A good lube is Astroglide.........very nice. I can't really help on the hard or soft issue. My lover can be very rough, very quick and I will squirt for him, but I can't remember exactly what he did the first time. One of the most wonderful feelings though are his fingers in my pussy on my g-spot and his tongue on my clit.........

 

[Honeydew56]

Astroglide is fine, you can get it at drug stores, even wallmart has it, we like IDGlide for now.
AS to the softness/hardness well he gets me really turned on and will just sneak a finger in once in a while as a tease then out comes the lube and then he goes to town slow to start then faster and harder. he says he can feel my g growing firmer and kinda bulging then he knows to keep it up he also does this vibrating tapping thing that just sends me over the edge. Once I start cumming, he can slow down and not so hard but keep on that spot for as long as she can take it.
It took alot for me to just calm down and relax and go with it at first, now I know the reward waiting for me so it is easier.

Good luck and keep trying

Honey

 

[acer144]

The best part of sex is the pleasure you can cause in your partner

,
While being stimulated by your partner is certainly far better (for most people, if their partner's any good at it) than masturbation, it is still pretty much the same, only better.

Going down on a lover, on the other hand, allows you to get a kind of pleasure that you cannot give yourself, even in part; the vicarious or empathic response you get from their reactions.

The techniques here, therefore, are centered around cunnilingus, including (since there's no separate name) using your fingers. Along a similar line I've now written Advanced Fellatio Techniques and Secrets. This was learned as a subject, not performer, but with the same quality of skill involved. Because of the number of questions I received on the subject, I also have Advanced Anal Sex Techniques, for those who want to know about that.


Basic Guidelines:
"Less" is always the best way to start out if you don't know exactly what a specific person likes. It's much safer to build up from "not enough" than to try to back down after shattering the mood by being too rough. The final argument to ensure that you always apply this rule is this -- If you start out "too" gentle/slowly, in most cases this just excites your lover more, even in the rare cases that it frustrates her a little. But if you start out "too" rough for her, it almost always turns her off to the whole thing.

The differences between women cannot be emphasized enough -- no matter what you have encountered so far, always assume that you have no idea what a new partner enjoys. It is entirely possible to have had many lovers, and think
A. They are all pretty much the same or

B. You've learned all of the variations, and can tell who's what.

But this can be (and usually is) just a matter of random chance...you happened to get several similar lovers. Eventually you will run into someone, or many people, who are completely different than those you've known before.

Don't start by going down on her. Work your way up to it. Exceptions may be if you're in a hurry before your Press Secretary shows up, or other situations where you're expected to act more directly. It's worth observing that "work your way up to it" remains true no matter how many times you've been with that lover. With a long-term lover it may seem like you can get right to the direct stuff, but working your way up still has the same effect of increasing her excitement, with most women.

Along the same line of reasoning, don't start licking her clitoris immediately, when you do get there. Start with the area around it, which can be pretty sensitive with some women, even if it doesn't seem to cause the same dramatic response.

Even more important is to not immediately start inserting fingers in her vagina. With most women, that really needs to be built up, first. It usually doesn't hurt to build up a little, even if she's already excited.

Remember this -- Most often, the tongue works best with the clitoris, the fingers with the vagina/g-spot. Someone else's fingers on her clitoris tends to be a little rough, no matter how careful they are...and almost all of the excitement she gets from attempting to lick into her vagina is psychological; she can't really feel much that way.

Hand Care: It's best to be sure your fingernail edges are very smooth, and preferably cut all the way down to where they connect to your skin. No matter how careful you are, they are likely to cause her to get a little sore inside, or even really hurt, feeling like a knife cutting her. This can even be the cause of soreness that she doesn't realize is being caused by your nails. Being a guitarist, I have the nails on my left hand trimmed back as far as I can cut them, anyway. Guitar also gives one's fret-hand amazing endurance and finesse, for g-spot stimulation and other tricks.

Dental Dams: These are, in most cases, just plain silly. Unlike almost any other form of sexual activity, the odds of you transmitting or catching AIDS this way are almost zero. There are almost no cases of any female homosexuals, for instance, even claiming to have caught AIDS this way. In case you're wondering what the hell I'm talking about, a "dental dam" is simply a condom cut in half lengthwise and used to keep fluids from passing between mouth and vulva. And it's being advocated primarily by people who are simply jealous that they're missing out on a great chance to be a "victim" in the issue of sexually transmitted diseases.

Interesting note -- A little noise on your part usually doesn't hurt, and sometimes it helps. Some women are very hung up on cunnilingus, determined to believe that, no matter how much you say otherwise (and she claims to believe you), it may be at least a little unpleasant for you. If you're excited by her responses, or by the act itself, don't try to stay quiet about it. The same kind of sounds that will reassure and excite a lover when they're pleasuring you will often work when you're pleasuring them, too. This could be considered a secret weapon in sex in general, because most guys are rather quiet, and yet women almost always find responsiveness very exciting. The contrast between someone who's responsive and most of the other guys makes it even more effective than it would already have been.


More Advanced Techniques:

The G-Spot
This does exist. And in over half of the women out there, it works better than anything else you can do to cause a strong, prolonged orgasm. The original name is the Grafenberg spot, after a doctor, Earnest Grafenberg, who documented the area (which may have been known by people here and there throughout history) in the fifties.

This "spot" is a small "mound" of tissue inside the vagina, between a penny and quarter in size, which responds to being pressed upon. It's almost certainly not the skenes glands, (which are located around the urethra, which is behind the G-spot area), as has been suggested by a few people. In fact, the G-Spot is the tissue in that raised area of the vagina, which has a higher concentration of sexual nerves, and produces hormones similar to those made by the male's prostate gland.

A sort of map to the area -- Imagine your lover lying on her back, legs spread. Your position is between her legs. You would slide a finger inside her vagina, palm up. With your finger straight back, middle finger is best, you would curve it toward yourself, gently, as if you were gesturing to someone to "come here". In doing so, the area you press on should be pretty near her "G-Spot" area. If you know enough to follow the urethra (the tube that leads from the bladder to where the pee comes out), along the inside of her vagina, you may feel a slight swelling (if she's excited) at the point where the g-spot is.

She must be excited, especially if either you or she is new to the g-spot, for the g-spot to have any real effect at all. It's not the ideal area for getting your lover aroused.

But when she is excited, this area (more often than not) is the best way to bring her to orgasm. You work your way back to it gradually, teasing her (typically, this works best) with your fingers, slowly and gently. It's easier to hit the right area with two fingers, but this may not be comfortable for her, depending on how "tight" she is at that moment. When you have your fingers around the right area, try gently pressing, not too quickly. The movement should be fairly rhythmic. It's typically best if you're licking her clitoris (or near it, depending on the woman) at the same time...don't make a big deal out of the "quest", this will often make her feel self-conscious, or distracted. The licking should seem to be the primary activity.

When you find the right area, she should respond by getting more excited. Most of the vagina's inside surface isn't really that sexually sensitive, believe it or not...most of the excitement of randomly inserting fingers is more psychological than from the actual stimulation.

While more complicated techniques work with some women, some of the time, the best basic technique, upon finding the g-spot, is to continue to slowly, rhythmically press on it, while licking her clitoris (for a few women, the labia (lips) are sensitive to licking, too).

This should cause her to build up to an orgasm.

A G-Spot orgasm is different (always, when it works at all) than any other kind women have. It is possible, with some women, to have different qualities and kinds of orgasms from vaginal, clitoral, anal, and even breast stimulation...but with other women, those kinds of orgasms are all pretty much the same. But the G-Spot orgasm not only feels different; it also causes her body to react in a different way.

First, it often causes a "push out" orgasm. The area around, or "above" (farther inside, that is) your fingers seems to swell up or to contract toward the opening of her vagina.

If you find the right combination of pushing back when this happens, and slacking off to let it push out, you can cause (in perhaps half of the women) her orgasm to continue happening, long after normal ones would have subsided. In some women you can even keep her at a "plateau" (raised level) of sexual excitement, like a prolonged orgasm (or a little less than one) afterward, building up to an even bigger climax. I've managed to keep this pattern of build-up, orgasm, plateau, orgasm, build-up, orgasm for over four hours, with one lover. We stopped when, though she wanted to go on, she was so exhausted that she really had to stop.

That brings me to another important point; G-Spot orgasms sometimes (less than half of the women, I'd guess, and in some of those women only occasionally) causes a huge amount (relatively speaking) of lubrication (juices, wetness)...far more than even the most excited woman gets from "conventional" stimulation. It's a good thing, too, because otherwise g-spot orgasms can only be prolonged for as long as she does not get raw/sore from it...which is yet another reason to be gentle.

When that extra wetness combines with the push-out orgasm, you get actual ejaculation...like a guy, but much better tasting. The built up juices can shoot out in such volume that you, or she, may be afraid that she lost control of her bladder. That is (almost always) not what happened. The fear that she peed can be enhanced by the fact that the urethra is behind the g-spot, so that in rare cases the woman can sometimes get the feeling that she needs to pee, even though she does not.

In reality, in both men and women, enough sexual excitement prevents peeing, unless you try really hard. This is a built-in reflex, because urine is something of a spermicide. The "pee hard-on" that men get in the morning is partially his body taking advantage of this reflex, to keep him from accidentally wetting the bed with the urine that built up while he was sleeping.

 

[F-man]

Originally posted by Mr.G
Mr. Don K suggests:- ""Well, taking that astute insight to a logical conclusion, if maidens have difficulty, it may be because they have by definition, not experienced child-birth where the pleasure systems fire up to ease the pain. Once fired up, these pleasure systems are likely to continue operating when stimulated on later dates. Hence the ease with which older women find their G-Spot may be explained.

This interesting because my wife and I have two kids. She has been through child-birth twice but both of my kid where c-section and never made it to that point in her pelvic area. She has really good clit orgasms but I am not sure about one from the G-spot. She also has them from intercoarse so never worried about what kind they were as long as she had them. We are probably going to try in about a week or so.



Thanks

 

[deathbypickle]

Lets see, I am a newbie. This is my first post and the first thread I ever read. As soon as I did, I emailed it to my BF and said I want to try this.

He was game. WAHOO for me.

I had my first ever G-spot O, and I was WOWed beyond belief.

We tried it again last night and almost right away I was cumming.

For the fourth round of our night, I was on my back and he was hitting the spot and licking my clit.
OHMYFUCKINGGOD, I squirted. He said so cause he got the salty taste in his mouth and I could feel it.

This thread is the best thing ever, cause in my 15 years of having sex I have never felt like this.

THANK YOU MR. G - you are a God in my book, right behind my BF
THANK YOU LITEROTICA -you saved my sex life

 

[Wizard]

Lets see, I am a newbie. This is my first post and the first thread I ever read. As soon as I did, I emailed it to my BF and said I want to try this.

He was game. WAHOO for me.

I had my first ever G-spot O, and I was WOWed beyond belief.

We tried it again last night and almost right away I was cumming.

For the fourth round of our night, I was on my back and he was hitting the spot and licking my clit.
OHMYFUCKINGGOD, I squirted. He said so cause he got the salty taste in his mouth and I could feel it.

This thread is the best thing ever, cause in my 15 years of having sex I have never felt like this.

THANK YOU MR. G - you are a God in my book, right behind my BF
THANK YOU LITEROTICA -you saved my sex life

Now to me that is what Lit. is all about~!!!!!!

Good news to hear now all ya have to do it make it over to the pictures section and post a few of the new fun.......

 

[deathbypickle]

Actually, we have been thinking about taking pics.

Or even going on cam.

Maybe one day

 

[Mr.G]

WAHOO is THE password!!!

WE HAVE ANOTHER GOLD MEDAL WINNER !!!!!



GAWD! You guys just have no idea how GREAT that makes me feel that it worked so well for you.

THANKS SOOOO MUCH FOR SHARING.


peace,love, etc...

 

[uptoplay2]

Re: WAHOO is THE password!!!

WE HAVE ANOTHER GOLD MEDAL WINNER !!!!!



GAWD! You guys just have no idea how GREAT that makes me feel that it worked so well for you. THANKS SOOOO MUCH FOR SHARING.
peace,love, etc...

How in the world can this thread not be 5 star?? Shouldn't mind blowing orgasms be rated at like 10 out of 5?? That would bring your average up.

Like the stars matter! You are changing lives, Mr. G.

 

[BigTatDawg]

im very glad to hear that it's workin for everyone .... but still no success here....keep tryin tho i guess..

 

[deathbypickle]

Re:

im very glad to hear that it's workin for everyone .... but still no success here....keep tryin tho i guess..

The first time I was on the pillows just as Mr. G, suggested and it worked, but the second time on my back while being licked was much better.

Seeing that it was only our second time trying, and I am no expert. The key that helped me was to be completely relaxed, but I also helped grind against his fingers. I could tell that they were getting tired.

The other thing that helped was to get my mind-set straight. I finally looked at sex to be enjoyable, and not just as something that I had to do.

I am not sure if the whole already having kids thing helped.
But prior to having my kids. I never had any O's like that.

Actually I have never experienced sex like I do now. I guess a good man really make the difference.

-toodles likes her Bagelboy

 

[Mr.G]

Need more research

""The first time I was on the pillows just as Mr. G, suggested and it worked, but the second time on my back while being licked was much better.""

Interesting. Of course when I first stumbled on this and began my "research" one of the first objectives was combining the "over the pillow/extended Ggasms" with a combination of the more copnventional tongue lashing. On her back was obviously the best position for this. Face down AND oral AND Gspotting means somebody's gonna get a broken nose.

Combining the two was easy but the reaction was surprisingly mixed. There were times when oral AND GSpotting would just knock their socks off. Other times a gentler more intimate "just oral" was preferred. The GSpotting was usually associated more with a wild and crazy session. Oral was quieter. There were times when we'd combine them and that was truly awesome. There were times when they would want oral first and then 10 or 15 hard Ggasms. Other times 15 or 20 hard Ggasms along with a good spanking. At the end it is POLITE to cool them down like a race horse. Those were THE best times - they'd be getting cold cold cream rubbed on their hot V. bums and a nice slow intimate suck on their clit for one last big one. Then a cuddle. It was NOT unusual to have one last orgasm rip thru them just as they started to fall asleep too. Just a spontaneous reaction to what had happened earlier. Very cool!!

 

[deathbypickle]

Yes, we were very careful about not breaking his nose. Seeing that he told me I was about a foot off the bed.

I have yet to go for the mega-multiples. Usually after the first one, I am ready to enjoy all his splendor.

Once agian thanks for the great advice, and one day I will get those multiples in.