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[Another Shy One]

Not that it is the most important thing, but just out of curiosity, what is the most numerous orgasms the ladies have experienced with this technique? Mr. GGG said something about 42 in the space of a day (did she survive? ) but what about the others? Also, for the women, how do you feel after experiencing so many orgasms?

 

[Bandit58]

Not that it is the most important thing, but just out of curiosity, what is the most numerous orgasms the ladies have experienced with this technique? Mr. GGG said something about 42 in the space of a day (did she survive? ) but what about the others? Also, for the women, how do you feel after experiencing so many orgasms?

I've never counted but I know I've had to safeword a few times it just gets too intense! Afterwards I feel on a "high" (especially if I've had a spanking to go with it). I'm gasping and giggling and my legs are shaking - they will shake for several minutes after. Then I get incredibly relaxed and my legs feel heavy and I just want to snuggle and sleep (but usually Master Gil wants a bj then! )

 

[Gil_T2]

I've never counted but I know I've had to safeword a few times it just gets too intense! Afterwards I feel on a "high" (especially if I've had a spanking to go with it). I'm gasping and giggling and my legs are shaking - they will shake for several minutes after. Then I get incredibly relaxed and my legs feel heavy and I just want to snuggle and sleep (but usually Master Gil wants a bj then! )

But I'm just a male, I don't know what I'm doing.
Private joke.

 

[MR.GGG]

G? G? What? WHERE???

I just found this article. It seems like most of the rest of the world is still looking for this and even when they do stumble upon it they don't know WHAT TO DO !!!

As GIL stated "But I'm just a male, I don't know what I'm doing."

APPARENTLY.

Another quote, this one from down below, pretty much explains why none of these ""researchers"" could find an ocean from the beach!!

""On the other hand, maybe some G spots shrink up upon laboratory probing but respond well to cute guys.""

WELL DOIHH!! Ya THIINNKK ??


Searching for the G spot
BY FAYE FLAM
Knight Ridder Newspapers

It took decades for society to come to grips with the Copernican solar system, years to put together a complete quantum mechanical description of the atomic nucleus, and so we shouldn't be surprised that sexologists are still grappling with the G spot.

A German doctor named Ernst Grafenberg first announced this female erogenous/orgasmic zone in 1950 and some people are still looking for it.

A few doctors have argued this spot lacks any of the special mythological powers attributed to it - it's like the Bermuda Triangle of female anatomy.

But over the last 30 years, Rutgers University sex researcher Beverly Whipple has been gathering scientific evidence for the G spot's erotic potential. She co-wrote the 1980s bestseller "The G Spot", just reissued by Dell last year.

Whipple says the spot can be felt through the wall of the vagina toward the front of the body. Impatient with my questions, she referred me to papers for the details, the most enlightening of which explained that you're not exactly looking for a special patch on the vaginal wall - you're trying to feel through the wall for something three-dimensional in the next room over.

Apparently you're after something that feels like a "spongy bean", and consists of glands that surround your urethra and would have become a prostate had you been a boy.

So the G spot is really just a portal to this other glandular universe.

By studying women in the laboratory, she said, she's found that for some, stimulating this area creates its own kind of orgasm with a unique configuration of internal contractions.

And touching the G spot can make the glands swell up and induce women to ejaculate a clear fluid, which Whipple analyzed. She found it's not urine and has some common ingredients with semen.

It's nice that she's found clinical evidence for a G spot in some women, but why, I asked, can't all women get their G spots to work? Do we even all have a G spot?

To this the professor grew exasperated and told me they didn't know how many women had or didn't have a G spot. There's no percentage breakdown. She said her goal is to validate the experience of women whose G spots gave them orgasmic pleasure.

"We should not set up orgasm from G spot stimulation as a goal every couple should achieve," she said, adding that not everyone likes the same thing.

If it isn't her job to help those with recalcitrant G spots, then whose is it? Suddenly I realized I knew who had the answer.

It was two or three years ago, I ran into the guy at they gym, of all places. It was at the pectoral fly machine. He looked about 35, with thick, longish hair and a nice face.

The conversation turned to the writing of books because at the time I thought I wanted to write one. He said he was already a published author. What was his book about? He didn't want to tell me. He said I didn't want to know. (it wasn't me)

But I did. After some coaxing he said the book was about how to make women ejaculate during sex.

A long and awkward silence ensued.

The book is called "The Secrets of Sensual Lovemaking: The Ultimate in Female Ecstasy" published by Signet. The author proposes in it that all women can have ejaculatory G spot orgasms - and that this is really fun.

All you need is a lover armed with the "secrets."

It's hard to say whether our local Casanova studied a statistically significant sample in order to get such a high G spot hit rate. On the other hand, maybe some G spots shrink up upon laboratory probing but respond well to cute guys.

I never saw him again. A Google search shows he hasn't published any more sex secrets and has taken up dragon boating. Still, it's nice to know so much work on female sexuality has gone on in the Philadelphia region. If there's ever a survey of best cities for finding your G spot, we should win.

http://www.fortwayne.com/mld/newssentinel/13692108.htm

 

[TBKahuna123]

Apparently you're after something that feels like a "spongy bean", and consists of glands that surround your urethra and would have become a prostate had you been a boy.

Huh. You know, this actually makes a great deal of sense, physiologically.

There's no denying it's existence, though it does seem true that different women respond with different reactions, which is understandable. I know I started my own research by sneaking it up on my wife, not telling her what I was about. After her first series of crashing g-gasms she ask "what the fuck was that!" That was my scientific way of verifying a genuine physical response, unclouded by mental expectations.

This story illustrates the problem with most sex research today though. These days it's not about research, it's about selling books. There is no "pure scince" sexual research being done anymore. More's the pity.

 

[smilinjenn]

All I know is, I'm sooooo happy I know where my Gspot is..hehe. I'm still learning how to relax more to gush. I have a friend that can make me gush huge volumes but most of the time with other's I either can't OR it's a small amount, in comparison.

 

[kiwichyck]

help.......

So, we tried this. Dunno if it's a technique problem or what but everything was going fine, then my G seemed to move away and he couldn't find it again! Then after that it was all just too much for me. I have no problem getting off by penetration (hits my G real good). Any suggestions?

 

[Arden]

The first time I experienced squirting was right after I came for Him twice on the phone early one morning ~ while using a hard plastic rechargeable vibe… then, like a bad girl, I slid it inside and held it tightly against the upper wall… I was incredibly aroused to begin with, and was taken aback when I squirted… Mmm, unbelievable! *wicked grin*

Could I do it with a toy… without the mental, physical and emotional stimulation that He had already put into place? Maybe, but it would never satisfy me in the way that it did that morning. I can’t imagine begging and pleading with a toy to fuck me harder and harder until I screamed out in pleasure for it lol. Something gets lost in the translation.

Last Saturday evening was an incredible one for Us. Soron was here for eight days, and we were able to run away from home on Friday and Saturday night. We rented a cottage by White Lake, and spent two beautiful nights together without interruption by kids, computers, phones, etc. Sheer bliss

Anyway, after Our special event, and an exquisitely long and sensual spanking received across His lap while naked, he asked me to lay on my back with my head on the pillows. I had to leave the bed to do so, and upon standing, I felt my juices already flowing down from between my lips.

Once my head was on the pillow, He spread my legs and knelt between them - so close to my bottom that I couldn’t move. Like being tied spread-eagled to the bed, yet without bonds. Excellent music playing in the background, he started massaging my outer lips and clit firmly but never allowed me to come close to orgasm. Mmm… then he began to work His fingers in and out of my already drenched pussy. I have no idea how long this went on, I lost track of time and space… I was floating…I held my lips open for Him with my fingertips in the manner that He likes… God, I was so aroused for Him. He encouraged me to stroke my clit with my fingertips while he massaged my g-spot repeatedly… Geezes, my clit felt like a hard, throbbing rock. I had to stop several times because I was so close to cumming and relax… and the tension inside continued to build. I noticed that my body was swaying with His rhythm…bearing down, trying to fuck His fingers yet he retained complete control. Mmm, what magic hands! Suddenly, I felt that strong urge to pee and I raised my hips to meet His fingers…and he demanded that I stroke my clit for Him. I had to stifle myself or the owners would have heard two lots away. I experienced a dual climax… clitoral and vaginal together while squirting for Him the first time. God, my entire body still quakes when I recall the intensity. I didn't soak the sheets like I did the first time, but who cares... God, it was so intense~

Did we blow it by His demanding that I cum by clitoral stimulation at the same time? I don’t think so, at all. I could have kept on cumming and cumming, but… it was His turn to be pleasured. Who am I to disagree?

And so it goes…

 

[Bandit58]

Beautiful post Arden

If you read Gil's post above you can see I experienced something similar It's amazing how our men seem to be able to read our bodies, Gil is the only one (in my limited experience) who is able to make me gush like that

 

[TBKahuna123]

So, we tried this. Dunno if it's a technique problem or what but everything was going fine, then my G seemed to move away and he couldn't find it again! Then after that it was all just too much for me. I have no problem getting off by penetration (hits my G real good). Any suggestions?

Take it easy and don't panic if it doesn't work the first time. Hell, everyone reacts differently. Just keep at it. If it starts and then fades, just try again. If it's not happening, move on to something else, but don't dwell on it!

Maybe try some other stimulus along with the g-spot stimulation. I know that Mr. GGG frowns on this, being the purist that he is, but I know that without this it is too intense for my wife. Contrary to taking away from the g-gasm, she feels it facilitates and enhances the pleasure for her, and I know there are a few other women her who feel the same way.

Not every woman can handle a big run of 50-60 orgasms. I know I was really bummed when my wife physically couldn't go forever and a day, but she could have cared less. 10 was plenty for her and it didn't lessen the experience one bit. That's when I realized how important it is not to get hung up on the size/volume/number of the response you recieve from g-spot stimulation. Just focus on the fact that you are exploring a new facet of you sexuallity and having fun in the process. Even if it takes a hundred tries, it's a hundred excuses for your SO to spend time lavishing your pussy with loving attention. There are worse things in the world.

 

[eudaemonia]

Maybe try some other stimulus along with the g-spot stimulation. I know that Mr. GGG frowns on this, being the purist that he is,

Well, fortunately and will all due respect to Mr. GGG, he isn't anyone's bedroom coxswain (that I know of <g>).

Contrary to taking away from the g-gasm, she feels it facilitates and enhances the pleasure for her, and I know there are a few other women her who feel the same way.

"Whatever works," should be our mantra.

Even if it takes a hundred tries, it's a hundred excuses for your SO to spend time lavishing your pussy with loving attention. There are worse things in the world.

I'm convinced that far less blood and ink would be spilt in the world over hideous evils if more people took this advice. Seriously.

 

[rwattsIII]

Speed II

 

[imsnowman]

A spot

Has there been any further discussion of the A spot that GGG spoke of since he said it was located behind the cervix and that one must be careful not to damage the bladder?

 

[MR.GGG]

FeeFye Fo Fum I smell ...

RE: ""I know that Mr. GGG frowns on this, being the purist that he is,..."

Absolutely NOT. Early on in this thread I've reiterated time and time again (is that redundant?) that you SHOULD deviate if things aren't working or you need a change of pace or a slow down due to things getting too intense. I even mentioned the great CARE one must have the first few times you do this to your woman so as not to scare her. Likely for the first time in her life YOU are controlling her orgasms NOT her and it can really scare her if you're not carefull or there is some trust issues still.

and for the other comment: ""Well, fortunately and with all due respect to Mr. GGG, he isn't anyone's bedroom coxswain (that I know of <g>).""

COXSWAIN ???

Ahahaha - I WOULD be someone's cockswain if I could get my ass (legally) to Phoenix ... any time soon would be nice. As far as YOU guys are concerned, think of me as trainer - double skulls - AHAHAHAHAAAA and all I've done is just advise on a new STROKE that some of you didn't know about before. A neat new "stroke" that lets you win ALL the races you ever attend. Better than free tickets to the SupaBowl !!!

In fact, belay that me hearties. Think more of me as your FAN CLUB.

 

[eudaemonia]

Right on, G man. You really are El Capitain of Starship Erotika.

 

[TBKahuna123]

Right on, G man. You really are El Capitain of Starship Erotika.

Now that's what I call the Final Frontier!

Did anyone else just imagaine GGG as Spock, but with a slight variation on the vulcan hand gesture?

 

[BC_Canuck]

Just reporting my experiences with this technique.

First time I tried this with my girlfriend was about a week ago, I didnt tell her about what I'm going to try, first because I wanted to surprise her, and second, it wasnt successful for all people and didnt want to get her hopes up.

We started with the usual foreplay then I told her to lay down on her stomache and started to give her some more oral sex first, told her to relax and slowly slid my thumb into her already wet pussy. I wasnt 100% sure where her G-spot is (because I'm too lazy to read through all pages on this thread), but I found it right away without any problems.

As soon as I touched it, she already let out a very loud moan, and started to rub it gentle as if it were her clit. After a short time I started to rub harder and harder and she went nuts. Just seeing her squirming underneath me made me damn horny. Anyway, I held her down with my other arm and continued to rub her G-spot hard, again I wasnt 100% sure how hard I actually had to rub it, but I just kept going harder and harder, changed the motion every now and then, clockwise, counter-clockwise, up-down, right-left, etc. Then after about 5 or 6 minutes she exploded, I never heard her scream that loud before, I held her down hard and kept going, she couldnt stop screaming. So, after a few mintues I stopped, but kept my thumb in her, to let her catch some breath, and continued for a little longer. It didnt take much effort to make her cum again or continue her orgasms, however you like to put it.

After a total of 15 mintues I stopped, she was completely exhausted, didnt even bother to turn around and asked "what the fuck was that????" I layed down beside her, kissed her asked out of curiousity "how often did you cum?" and she answered with a moan "I lost count after a dozen..."

So, for us it was a complete success and I spoiled her too much. Now she wants it every night And the other day I came home, she was in the kitchen to get something to drink and I saw the computer on. I took a closer look and saw a few websites open, number one was google with keyword "how to please your man" lol. Guess I could ask her to do about anything but cant think of anything else we havent done yet. I am completely satisfied and happy with her

Anyway, thank you very much for sharing this Mr.GGG

btw. next time I will try to get her squirt, after the first time we tried this I asked her if she had the urge to pee and she said, she felt the urge a few times. So I told tell her to take a pee before get started and just let it go

 

[TBKahuna123]

And the other day I came home, she was in the kitchen to get something to drink and I saw the computer on. I took a closer look and saw a few websites open, number one was google with keyword "how to please your man" lol. Guess I could ask her to do about anything but cant think of anything else we havent done yet. I am completely satisfied and happy with her

Funny, after a few sessions of this same treatment my wife told me she felt guilty because I had gone out and researched something special for her. She felt like she should do the same. It's quite cute, and you know, quite rewarding to be acknowledged for the effort, isn't it?

 

[BC_Canuck]

Exactly TBK She really appreciates the effort I put in the research and asked if I found anything special for me. I said I did find a few things, but am not really into those. One of those is anal-play on me, which she asked me to do a few times before, but its just not for me. Not because I'm homophobic, she jokes about it "oh, you're just scared that you might like it...". But thats not it. I wouldnt care if I liked it or not, its just not for me. I'm not really interested in any sort of anal-play, either on me or her.

 

[eudaemonia]

Just reporting my experiences with this technique.

First time I tried this with my girlfriend was about a week ago, I didnt tell her about what I'm going to try, first because I wanted to surprise her, and second, it wasnt successful for all people and didnt want to get her hopes up.

We started with the usual foreplay then I told her to lay down on her stomache and started to give her some more oral sex first, told her to relax and slowly slid my thumb into her already wet pussy. I wasnt 100% sure where her G-spot is (because I'm too lazy to read through all pages on this thread), but I found it right away without any problems.

As soon as I touched it, she already let out a very loud moan, and started to rub it gentle as if it were her clit. After a short time I started to rub harder and harder and she went nuts. Just seeing her squirming underneath me made me damn horny. Anyway, I held her down with my other arm and continued to rub her G-spot hard, again I wasnt 100% sure how hard I actually had to rub it, but I just kept going harder and harder, changed the motion every now and then, clockwise, counter-clockwise, up-down, right-left, etc. Then after about 5 or 6 minutes she exploded, I never heard her scream that loud before, I held her down hard and kept going, she couldnt stop screaming. So, after a few mintues I stopped, but kept my thumb in her, to let her catch some breath, and continued for a little longer. It didnt take much effort to make her cum again or continue her orgasms, however you like to put it.

After a total of 15 mintues I stopped, she was completely exhausted, didnt even bother to turn around and asked "what the fuck was that????" I layed down beside her, kissed her asked out of curiousity "how often did you cum?" and she answered with a moan "I lost count after a dozen..."

So, for us it was a complete success and I spoiled her too much. Now she wants it every night And the other day I came home, she was in the kitchen to get something to drink and I saw the computer on. I took a closer look and saw a few websites open, number one was google with keyword "how to please your man" lol. Guess I could ask her to do about anything but cant think of anything else we havent done yet. I am completely satisfied and happy with her

Anyway, thank you very much for sharing this Mr.GGG

btw. next time I will try to get her squirt, after the first time we tried this I asked her if she had the urge to pee and she said, she felt the urge a few times. So I told tell her to take a pee before get started and just let it go

Great! Are you two a lucky twosome. Nice to see these reports.

 

[MR.GGG]

Go TEAM !!!!

WOOHOOOO ** MR.GGG high in the bleachers cheering on my "team"** YEAAAA TEEAAAMMMM!!! GO GO GO GOOOOOO TEEAAMM.

""Anyway, thank you very much for sharing this Mr.GGG "

You are most welcome. The biggest THANKS you can give ME is that I hope you and your SO pass on the technique to anybody you know who might enjoy it as much as you guys did. GREAT description BTW!! Thank YOU.

I'm sure I can speak for most guys in here too when I say, Ladies it is nice that you would love to find something that works as well on us as this technique does on you but it ain't gonna happen and that's fine with us. It's just in the piping and the biology. Maybe one day when they can use cortical stimulators but then I figure if guys can just sit there and orgasm forever that'll be IT for society. Better / worse than heroin.

Anyway the technique is the only one on one "sport" where you can "score" a dozen or more times to her one - maybe two - and NOT feel like you're a loser. We LOVE making our women feel this good. It rocks us to our core. There is nothing that make ME feel better than reducing my lover to a quivering, sweat soaked, gasping and completely satisfied lump.

Don't get me wrong I love making love the normal ways too (and hell YA - the NOT so normal ways too ) but again we are just limited in what we can do that way. It is hugely satisfying to be in bed with a lover and dominate/take her. While giving her pleasure you are TAKING yours and that's cool too. Moving her around to different positions so that everything feels and looks different and her knowing that SHE, by just being her, is turning you on so much that this animal comes out in you.

The technique though is just perfect for those couples where you are both relatively satisfied but the guy knows that she COULD go a lot further - cum a LOT more. She may be satisfied being the object and release for so much pent up sexual energy but it is an amazing (as BC described so eloquently) time to be able to take your woman to that next level, keep her there as long as you want or she can take and then and I think only then can you both feel completely and utterly spent.

BC - having achieved this higher level of intimacy and sexual power and empowerment your ability to make her cum like this and her discovery that she can cum like this will probably change your whole relationship. On top of that her friends and/or coworkers will notice the difference in her and ask her what's going on. She will likely have much more self confidence and will just fucking glow the next day after one of these sessions. People who know her will ask her,"What's up?" and YOU too will look at women differently. You now know the secret and with it comes awesome responsibility. MORE research is needed and more people need to be given the secret. You are now carrying he torch, the knowledge to change the sex lives and even whole relationships of many couples around you. I'm serious. By passing this on and helping humanity and our much loved ladies out there reach this level of sexual excitement and release, you join an ever growing Karmic MLM. Tell your friends. Hell, tell your PARENTS. You'll see it in their faces when this works for them too. Never ask. You'll just SEE it.

So cool!!

Oh ya. New official motto for the room is "" WHATEVER WORKS !"" OK we all have work to do. Go ... TEAM!!!

 

[jethrobodeen]

Should be perfect, right? (long)

Funny, after a few sessions of this same treatment my wife told me she felt guilty because I had gone out and researched something special for her. She felt like she should do the same. It's quite cute, and you know, quite rewarding to be acknowledged for the effort, isn't it?

You are very lucky. I need serious help with this now....

Hats off to Mr GGG. I became interested in the female sexual response after
relationship failures in my teens. By my late teens, I learned to delay my orgasm until after she cums, which along with other delightful behavior, increased chances of her wanting to keep coming back for more. Chasing after a woman never worked so I figured the chemistry/pleasure approach to be better. The first time I tried this it worked on the girl of my dreams, now my gorgeous wife of 23 years. I'm average-build white, athletic for mid-40s and my wife is drop dead gorgeous, a delicious asian beauty 1-year younger than me and very petite.

Her enjoyment of our sex fueled me further. To our mutual delight I stumbled onto stuff about multi-orgasmic women. It was essentially what we consider basic g-spot info today although I get subtle tips and insight from MR GGG thread. The first time I found my wife's g-spot, about 10 years ago, it opened a new era for us, most importantly a closer, deeper spiritual connection. But also of sexual enjoyment for us--me giving her multiple-mind-blowing-x-gasms and of course her receiving them.

I love to give her so much pleasure and it seems that even now, she still has
even greater potential for sexual enjoyment, so I continue to read and learn and experiment. This propelled our sex life further and soon it became futile to try to keep count of her orgasms. Together, by me reading her responses: breathing, heartbeat, hip thrusts, groans/vocalizations, chest heaving, gasping when I touch the right places; and her telling me I've got the magic spot...don't stop....please.....ooooooohhhhhhh. Hips shaking uncontrollably and her eyes glaze over and roll back into her head again for the...uh-how many times now? And the wetness...oh the wetness, I find soooo erotic.

It just keeps getting better as I learn and try new things. I became determined to make her squirt ejaculate which she never experienced before. But persistence over the years is paying off. Eventhough she's not squirting streams *yet*, she is now increasingly oozing sweet cum that soaks my cock/face/hands and slicks up her ass and legs and drips down wetting the sheets or fills my lap when she rides cowgirl. I love her stuff, sweet taste, great mild scent. She loves my fingers and lips and mouth and tounge but after about 6-8 or more big orgasms, she has to have me fill her with my cock and cums quickly and often, over and over, spasming around my cock like a constrictor snake smothering her prey.

Typically, we go at it like this for 30min-2hrs, trying to mix it up and changing
positions and moving from one furniture to another, etc....

Here's where my troubles start. I think I may be giving her too much of a good thing. I understand her mind is blown and she can't talk or walk or make a fist or...do much anything but expose her holes to me so I can pound at them to get myself off, and I go after it like a madman because I really need a release. I've got a giant load of cum dying to explode, but now I'm tiring from all my thrusting and pounding, and having trouble bringing on my own orgasm, like my penis gets overstimulated and desensitized from earlier holdings back when I felt orgasms approaching. I taught myself to delay my orgasm for her pleasure but I sometimes have trouble turning it back on.
But I keep interested and stay rock hard because she keeps cumming on me so I continue to eagerly thrust my manhood in and out of her. I'll keep changing on her, go down with my tounge on her clit and fingers back on her G for a few thigh slappers, then back to thrusting after I've recovered my breath.

But now, she's floating in a trance-like state, she wants for me to cum and be satisfied but she is unable to function mentally or physically to help get me to the finish line. So I roll off, unable to orgasm becasue I'm overstimulated and/or desensitized and physically exhausted. But still my balls feel like bursting and my manhood throbbing, my mushroom head stretching and straining within its skin, deep purple, the shaft rigid and stiff, clearly veins under pressure along the length of my hardness. She'll suck me, that's not a problem, but she has only brought me to orgasm herself about 5 times in our 23 years of marriage. She lets me fuck her mouth like crazy using one of her hands to block over zealous thrusts and she swallows and tells me it tastes sweet (I'm taking herbals for big loads and it really does make it taste good too). But I don't often cum this way either, because if she is passive, it's kinda just like pounding away at her other holes. Hey, I've been doing all the work!

We talk about it, my needing to release. We know I'm exhausted and desensitized but my wood rages on. She is completely satisfied and rolls over and goes to sleep. I'm feeling good about my abilities to please her, but frustrated that we have so many sessions without me reaching orgasm.

What I want from her is TAKE ME in a different direction, a course that doesn't have have her passive and me pounding, a course charted by her, making whatever adjustments along the way to help expand my sexuality, there is lots of room for trial and error, experimentation, but fueling her should be some reciprocation of desire to pleasure me completely as I do her,
to make me squirm and shoot. Play the part of the inquisitive student, eager to expand her knowledge and ability as I have done for her. I want her to want my cum, want it bad, won't take no for an answer, determined to make me explode. I want her to crave my love juice and approach me to take me in her hand or mouth and go after my cum like there is nothing better. I gaurantee it wouldn't make me stop wanting to please her, quite the opposite.

She can tell when I'm horny, or stressed, or bored. Even with a raging hard-on sticking up and she's got ten minutes free if I ask her for a quick hj or bj, she gives me that "what's in it for me?" and the best answer I could give her is the last 10 years of uncountable orgasms but I don't say it--that would be like rubbing her face into it and manipulating her for what I want. But the true best answer would be because she wants me to be completely satisfied, but somehow I'm not sure if she is capable of that, but I still keep hope. In 23 years she has only approached me one time herself (was recent actually) unselfishly and took my manhood in her hands and masterbated me to one of the best orgasms of my life without expecting me to get her off first or at all. God, I'm fucking hooked now.

Last weekend was rough, but we still had several great love making sessions. As usual she came countless times every session and I came during one of the sessions on Saturday night. Sunday morning I awoke with a raging woody and rolled over to snuggle with wifey. She remarked something about me being a naughty boy, and put her hand on it and carressed it lightly and then kinda wrapped her fingers around me, no squeezes though. I couldn't stand it and started humping her hand. She said let's get up and have coffee with a somewhat complacent tone, showing no concern for my condition. Man I was hurt. What hurt most was I was in agony and she completely passed on an opportunity to give me back a little of what I have been giving her so much. I got pissed off and developed hurt feelings and made a big mistake. I sulked around for a while and then went back to the bedroom to lay on the bed where I started to feel really sad, I don't even know why that had such a devastating effect on me. She came in the room and made some excuses which weren't helping me feel better. Then the big mistake, I blurted out "you don't give me what I want!" and walked away. Now I fear that if she was underconfident before, she's really going to retreat from giving me what I really want. I'm such a jerk!

I have apologized to her, we kissed and made up, and I told her it was a weak moment and I shouldn't have said what I said, but I told her there is something I need to discuss with her, I just don't know how to talk about it yet.

Please, please o-wise and experienced Lits. How do I tell her how I feel? What
do you think my approach should be. I don't intend to beat around the bush, I
can be tactful and direct and considerate at the same time. But I'm clouded and confused, too close to see what I'm doing wrong, help me think this through.

-JB

 

[TBKahuna123]

Please, please o-wise and experienced Lits. How do I tell her how I feel? What
do you think my approach should be. I don't intend to beat around the bush, I
can be tactful and direct and considerate at the same time. But I'm clouded and confused, too close to see what I'm doing wrong, help me think this through.

-JB

Alright, I for one think this reaction is completely understandable. As unproductive as said outburst may be, I also understand how that much frustration could build up and explode(pardonthe pun). The answer is easy. Talk!

If you've been married 23 years, you know how important communicaiton is. Sit down with her in a non-sexual setting. Apologize for your outburst, but tell her you need her to understand why you said what you said. She may get defensive and may be hurt by feeling like she's failed somehow, but jsut talk it out. After all, unless we tell someone there's a problem, they can't fix it, even when we think they should know it's there.

 

[jethrobodeen]

Alright, I for one think this reaction is completely understandable. As unproductive as said outburst may be, I also understand how that much frustration could build up and explode(pardonthe pun). The answer is easy. Talk!

Thanks for the peer support TBK. When I apologized earlier I told her everything's ok but we have to talk but I'm confused and need to think how to talk about what I said.

I humbly request any and all feed back, quicker the better. I especially want to hear from the ladies, tell me if I'm on crack and just get over it....or would you sympathize with my situation.....or better yet, can you think of an approach I can take with my beloved wife that would help keep her off the defensive???

-JB

 

[vato]

Sounds a lot like my wife. She is a taker, I'm a giver. Sometimes I want to be the taker.

Until recently (and it ain't fixed yet) she wouldn't even 'finish me off' if she climaxed before me. A dry handjob just doesn't cut it. Takes too long, I do it better, and she tires quickly. The other night I handed her a tube of lube, and said "here, try it with this". Well, it worked. I shot so hard it hit us both in the face. We both laughed. She told me she felt better, because she HAD been thinking about how she never reciprocates. It blew my mind that she actually thought about it!

Anyway, without presenting new ideas/thoughts (through communication) you won't get anywhere. You need to sit her down and blurt it all out. Tell her how you really feel. I'm still having a hard time with this, but I'm slowly learning it's the only way to do it.

TALK TO HER.