truth and lies

[pabloback]

today i told somebody the truth and it hurt them , a couple of hours later somebody told me a lie and it hurt me
if i had told a lie , they would have known it was a lie but they would have felt better abut it .
if i had been told the truth i would have felt better for hearing it
why is this always the case?

 

[Spinaroonie]

Here's what I've learned....

Sometimes... Nobody wins... and it sucks.

 

[Phoenyx]

Your Dammed if you do and your dammed if you dont.

 

[kiwiwolf]

A bird in the hand is safer than two overhead?

 

[Demian]

Truth

It's better to be killed for truth when you can be trusted with it than to be loved for a lie

 

[Angelus]

It is always easier to tell the truth and if you are disliked for it then it happens but if you live by a lie and you are found out then you are basically f***ed.

 

[Lost Cause]

The best you can do is tell the truth. How the other(s) handle it is their problem. We are all responsible for our feelings since they come from a thought we create. The same is true on how you react to a lie. Your hurt feelings came from a thought about the situation of the lie being told. Sort out your interpretation of the lie, and I believe you won't be hurt if another is told to you.
People have their motivations for truth/lies, if I don't understand why, I don't insist on some kind of justice that I understand.
If people tell me a lie that's vicious, I just never trust them again..period!
**Let the hurt go...you're more important than the lie.**

 

[erosman]

truth or consequences?

It's interesting how we filter everything through our wants and desires, so that whether something is a reflection of reality can be a secondary consideration. I'm not sure that's good..but it seems to be the way it is...whether I want it to be, or not.

Thankfully the human spirit is elastic.

 

[Shy Tall Guy]

why is this always the case?

Because we all, to one degree or another, cannot handle the truth. Still, I always prefer to both hear and speak the truth if it needs to be said - it is very rare that I will think it is better to tell a lie. I might sugar coat something, but I intensely like lying and being lied to.

Sure, there are little innocent lies, like "honey, yes, your casserole was great!', but when it comes to the important stuff, then the truth, properly said, is always preferable.

I would rather be hurt by the truth, than be hurt by a lie - and eventually lies are found out and the longer they exist, the more they hurt.

 

[Cheyenne]

Interesting threads lately on the topic of lies vs. truth. For a long time, I didn't think many people on this bb cared one way or the other. It's especially interesting to see some people who even said they didn't care about lies switch sides all of a sudden. (No one on this thread, by the way.)

I think anyone who knows me already knows my position on the topic of telling the truth. Even here, at Lit.

 

[morninggirl5]

I'm definitely in the truth category. The truth may hurt me, but I'm far more hurt to discover the truth and that I've been lied to.

A little tact is helpful to ease the sting, but tell me the truth.

 

[pabloback]

deception especially in a relationship is evil
the one thing i covet most in a relationship is honesty

 

[JennyOmanHill]

Honesty always. Even in a site like this, I have discovered that being yourself (even under an assumed name) is truly what makes Lit the most fascinating place I've ever visited. I feel friendship among the threads and in the chat rooms. And I'm continually comforted by so many of my new online friends.

Honesty may hurt, but it's the only way to go for me.

 

[Jellybeangirl]

the truth is always better...and easier to remember later.

The question shouldn't be asked if the answer doesn't want to be heard.

 

[Georgia Girl]

If you tell the truth you don't have to remember anything

If you recall the old saying "The truth shall set you free". Deception in a relationship is a huge weight to have to contend with, you are always having to shift the weight around to make yourself accessable without it interferring. Eventually you either decide you cannot handle the deception and end the relationship or your deception is discovered and you must start over in your relationship and redevelope trust. This is hard to do once there has been a breach in this trust.