spicecajun
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sweetaspeaches
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Yes! It is an evil drug that has taken many a hostage, but there are many who have been strong enough to fight the demon and win. I say everyone deserves at least one chance to redeem themselves.
bknight2602
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spicecajun said:
How can he prove he's clean, will he do a drug test? I don't know the retention time, but I'm sure that would not be hard to aquire that information. If he's not clean, dump him!
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LOVE CAN OVERCOME
Hi Spicecajun
Drugs of any kind can kill a relationship...I know through experience....but love....love that is mutually strong from both partners can over come anything including drugs. I would have begged for just one chance and made it work if I knew then what I know now.
Only you know in your heart if he's worth the effort....if so...give him the chance. You could say his life.
I wish you the best ......
Hi Spicecajun
Drugs of any kind can kill a relationship...I know through experience....but love....love that is mutually strong from both partners can over come anything including drugs. I would have begged for just one chance and made it work if I knew then what I know now.
Only you know in your heart if he's worth the effort....if so...give him the chance. You could say his life.
I wish you the best ......
lovechild27
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In my experience....a druggie is very hard to trust. It takes time....a lot of it. ASk him to go into a treament group to stay off. Most people cant wean off any drug without support for very long. Just give it time...
capricious_chic
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hotNnasty said:*sighs*
You don't
I tend to agree.. In my experience, you can never trust an adict again. Regardless of whether they are recovering or not. At some point in the future he may do something "off".. you will start to wonder if he is using again.. you may discuss it.. he will be upset and hurt that you doubt him (regardless of whether he is using again or not).
If you decide to go ahead.. many well wishes!!
I for one, would leave it alone and move on. Trust takes a very long time to earn.. let alone earn again. If he can be content to be your friend for however long it takes to regain your trust, and you are willing to ride that roller coaster again.. good luck.
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Re: LOVE CAN OVERCOME
I'm going to assume that you meant "save" instead of "say" and I think that's way too much to put on one person. That's like saying that my SO is my whole happiness. I can't stand the thought of depending on someone so much that they are my only source of happiness.
I do think though that there is trust to a point. That point though is different for different people. My SO did a terrible amount of drugs in the past but I trust him to never do it again. He's told me that he craves it occasionally but then he thinks of the things he would loose if he did it and then busys himself in a project---usually fixing the computers.
With the situation with the lying, it's hard becuase was he lying due to the drugs or does he just lie all the time. Some people I know lie all the time and have done drugs so I wouldn't believe them if they told me they were clean.
I wish you luck. Follow your gut instinct on this one.
STUDDOG said:
I'm going to assume that you meant "save" instead of "say" and I think that's way too much to put on one person. That's like saying that my SO is my whole happiness. I can't stand the thought of depending on someone so much that they are my only source of happiness.
I do think though that there is trust to a point. That point though is different for different people. My SO did a terrible amount of drugs in the past but I trust him to never do it again. He's told me that he craves it occasionally but then he thinks of the things he would loose if he did it and then busys himself in a project---usually fixing the computers.
With the situation with the lying, it's hard becuase was he lying due to the drugs or does he just lie all the time. Some people I know lie all the time and have done drugs so I wouldn't believe them if they told me they were clean.
I wish you luck. Follow your gut instinct on this one.
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Listen to your instincts here.
They're already telling you to stay far away from this stuff. It's your inner voice trying to protect you by keeping your distance from these addicts. Beyond our advice to you, you already know the answer. Protect yourself not just physically but emotionally. You deserve better; you don't need to be worried about a SO with this kind of habit. You've got good things to offer and you just don't need to be involved with these guys.
Your gut is trying to tell you to walk and walk far & fast. I'm not saying it isn't easy to do it, but there can never be anything good getting involved in that insideous world of drugs.
Good luck.
They're already telling you to stay far away from this stuff. It's your inner voice trying to protect you by keeping your distance from these addicts. Beyond our advice to you, you already know the answer. Protect yourself not just physically but emotionally. You deserve better; you don't need to be worried about a SO with this kind of habit. You've got good things to offer and you just don't need to be involved with these guys.
Your gut is trying to tell you to walk and walk far & fast. I'm not saying it isn't easy to do it, but there can never be anything good getting involved in that insideous world of drugs.
Good luck.
