"Trust Me"

[emme]

tonight I was told "Trust me I'm protecting you" by my husband because he won't tell me about an argument he had with his mother. Why is that so hard for me to trust him about now?
Other decisions like finances, cars, work, and our children which are more important, I find it easy to trust him about.

I was curious for feedback if I was alone getting caught up on the little things.

 

[jadefirefly]

It's hard to guess without more info, which isn't my business to ask, but...

Is it possible the argument was about you, or your relationship with him or her, or anything at all related to you/your family/something you'd get pissed about if you knew?

Trusting him to pay a bill is a whole lot different than trusting that you don't want to hear something unpleasant. He may be trying to spare your feelings.

I dunno. *shrug*

 

[catalina_francisco]

My thoughts are that if you trust him with everything else, this is most likely as he has inferred, something which is better left to him, possibly to protect you and/or your feelings. Families are strange entities sometimes ( I have just had yet another huge eye opener of that), and often what is said in an argument is not worth repeating, and often far from the truth or the reality. Unless you have reason to do otherwise, trust him to handle whatever took place with his mother by himself, and be happy he is considerate and concerned enough to want to protect you.

Catalina

 

[FurryFury]

Sometimes the line between what you think you want/need to know and what you REALLY don't want/need to know is so thin you can't see it until it's too late.

Families are full of emotional baggage. Dangerous landmines are everywhere.

I would be VERY uncomfortable too!

Fury

 

[heckle]

Perhaps he is saying that because he does not want to "relive" whatever happened.

 

[caela]

I don't know your relationship but if you trust him with everything else you are most likely better of simply trusting him with this. Most of the guys I know only say they're protecting you from an argument they had with their mothers for two reasons, 1) it was about you or 2) it had nothing to do with you but whatever it was about would only make you angry and frutrated when you couldn't do anything about it.

Either way your best bet is to just try and let it go. Prying will likely only make him angry and will seem ungrateful of his efforts to make your life a little easier. If/when he's ready to tell you about it he will.

 

[Red Sonja]

Hey... I agree with what everyone is saying... you should trust him with this like you do with everything else. That said, I'd be hounding him til he finally told me and got mad at me in the process. I can recognize good advice, but don't think I could take it.

I'm way way too nosy.

 

[emme]

thanks

Thanks for the feedback everyone. I know it is better I don't know the details, but I'm still curious.

Emme

 

[Guest]

tonight I was told "Trust me I'm protecting you" by my husband because he won't tell me about an argument he had with his mother. Why is that so hard for me to trust him about now?
Other decisions like finances, cars, work, and our children which are more important, I find it easy to trust him about.

I was curious for feedback if I was alone getting caught up on the little things.

Goodness...This is an easy one.... Just ask any guy that has been married...
LOL!!!! Just not the one that is married to you...
He's covering his ass.... Like a smart boy...
I can say this with some assurance (even though I may still be wrong..I'd bet money I'm not), he isn't trying to do anything but keep an argument (probably a stupid one in his view) from turning into a multi person, inter family, fight. With him in the middle..
Been there....Done that...
What I am saying is that he has probably had some form of argument with his mother, in which he ended up taking your side.. But he wants to keep it between the two of them so as to not have to deal with a problem between you and his mom.. Which is an exceedingly awkward position for him to be in..
"Trust Me"