*True Confessions*

[Wintermute]

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It's never too late for honesty hun...and that includes being honest with yourself. If we all got what we deserved we'd all be homeless and hungry. Stop with the self beatings and decide if this woman is what you want and worth making apologies and concessions for. If you truly love her...don't let her go.

Guys suck...

You know that You and Gina are very beautiful people, and you are just as easy to look at.

Gina, Maybe he'll get it together, maybe he won't. Be true to yourself.

Tina, thank you for your insight. Hopefully, we can both learn from the information we share.

Me, I realize now I'm just like most guys, as much as I'd like to think I'm not.

 

[gina3]

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Guys suck...

You know that You and Gina are very beautiful people, and you are just as easy to look at.

Gina, Maybe he'll get it together, maybe he won't. Be true to yourself.

Tina, thank you for your insight. Hopefully, we can both learn from the information we share.

Me, I realize now I'm just like most guys, as much as I'd like to think I'm not.

Thanks hon

You don't have to be like most guys- you can change that! Help improve their reputation

And Jenny, 48????

I don't believe that

 

[gina3]

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You have no idea how familiar this sounds...my heart goes out to you.

Thank you fiesty!

 

[JennyOmanHill]

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I read it all, however this shocked me.


You type so young-ly

http://www.youngatheart4.com/gfx/slogo.jpg

Another true statement: You're only as young as you feel!

Being in love with someone who is "IN" love with you keeps you young at heart, so I suppose it shows in my writings!

Wish it would show in other ways too!

Edited to add that I am currently 51, but I was 48 when I met Oman.

 

[nrcma98]

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http://www.youngatheart4.com/gfx/slogo.jpg

Another true statement: You're only as young as you feel!

Being in love with someone who is "IN" love with you keeps you young at heart, so I suppose it shows in my writings!

Wish it would show in other ways too!

Edited to add that I am currently 51, but I was 48 when I met Oman.

<thud> And the O-ster?

 

[SuperShyGuy]

((((Gina)))) I'm sorry to hear about your troubles, but you're getting better advice from the others here than I'd certainly be qualified to add so I'll just add that you've got my support too. Good luck!

 

[JennyOmanHill]

<thud> And the O-ster?

heehee

He's 48 now! (OMG, a younger man!!)

Glad he likes "older" women!

 

[InLust]

Good morning all...Have a good day!

I have been "smober" for One day, 6 hours, 53 minutes and 44 seconds. 38 cigarettes not smoked, saving $5.79. Life saved: 3 hours, 10 minutes.

How are you counting this up? The hours and minutes are a given, but I really like the number not smoked, $$$ saved and best of all, how much time has been added. If this is a fancy new gadget please tell me where I can get one (or several; holidays will be upon us soon)!

BTW, good luck! I tried quiting last Feb...made it 3 weeks and midterms began.......I dunno was working along and next thing I knew I was sitting there with a lit cigarette. I did learn that quiting with a full carton in the house isn't a real good idea

 

[naughtygirl]

How are you counting this up? The hours and minutes are a given, but I really like the number not smoked, $$$ saved and best of all, how much time has been added. If this is a fancy new gadget please tell me where I can get one (or several; holidays will be upon us soon)!

BTW, good luck! I tried quiting last Feb...made it 3 weeks and midterms began.......I dunno was working along and next thing I knew I was sitting there with a lit cigarette. I did learn that quiting with a full carton in the house isn't a real good idea

Its a ticker from www.silkquit.org Its awesome. You enter in your information and time and day that you quit or will quit and it keeps track for you in your taskbar. I have it downloaded at work too to help me there. Currently I have been smober for Two days, 7 hours, 5 minutes and 24 seconds. 68 cigarettes not smoked, saving $10.33. Life saved: 5 hours, 40 minutes.

Yesterday was the worst. The first day is not that hard for me because I think Im all pumped to quit. But yesterday -- horrible!!! I was a mess....but I made it through the day, partly because I didn't want to start my ticker over....Good luck to you Lusty! Its a hard thing to do.

 

[Bandit58]

Good luck to the ones trying to quit smoking......I quit myself in 1986 and haven't smoked since. Gil is a 30 a day smoker and is totally physically and psychologically addicted, he's tried everything to give up but nothing worked, in fact his blood pressure got so dangerously high trying to go cold turkey that his doctor actually advised him to start smoking again

He used to smoke over 50 a day before I moved to live with him so I am doing him some good

 

[naughtygirl]

Good morning all. I don't have a lot of time to post this morning but I wanted to extend my support....

Gina...Im sorry you are having a difficult time. Love really can suck at times, but that does not mean you "suck". Whatever his issue is, its his issue. I know that it does not take away the feelings involved that hurt but I encourage you to not let his issues dictate how you feel about yourself. Just some of my thoughts!

Jenny -- I hope you are surviving ok....Know that we are here for you to keep you company! And Holy Cow! I had no idea about your age....As I have told Oman before -- y'all seem like an enigma because we never seem to have any "personal details"...

ok I gotta run guys....take care! and I will check in tonight!

 

[tonitits]

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Thank you darlin

Actually, I think I've been trying TOO hard to make them happen. I see what I want to see, not what's actually there. By then, my hopes are up for something that will never happen and there I am once again, picking up the broken shards of my heart and my dreams.

I love this man with all my heart. He is everything I've ever wanted and all I want to do is share the rest of my life with him. And he loves me! And he is so wonderful to me. I've never known another man quite like him. But now it's, " I love you and I want to be with you- you're a great girl. But I'm not ready for anything serious. And I don't know that I ever will." So now, we're taking it easy, or "keeping things casual" as he calls it. Or something. I don't know quite what it is that we're doing. I don't think he does either. I thought we had been serious for a long time. Shows you what I know.

I'm just tired of getting the shit end of the stick. I can't go through this again, so if it happens, it happens. If it doesn't, it doesn't. I'm certainly not going to get my hopes up.

Thanks for listening to my rambling

Gina I feel for you. I am in a similar situation. Have never really been lucky in love and then thought that I was, but then suddenly after 2 yrs he wants to just be friends at least for the time being. Not exactly sure where we are or what we are doing. We always said that we would at the very least be friends. He is a great guy and I guess I would rather have a wonderful friend than nothing at all. Hang in there.

 

[tonitits]

Good morning all...Have a good day!

I have been "smober" for One day, 6 hours, 53 minutes and 44 seconds. 38 cigarettes not smoked, saving $5.79. Life saved: 3 hours, 10 minutes.

Good luck! Keep up the good work. You can do it. Just think about all the money you will save!

 

[tonitits]

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FUCKITY FUCK FUCK

Dishwasher shot craps (and an assload of water across the kitchen) today.

Went and bought a new one. Als bought the new washer and dryer I've been needing.

Get everything home...An hour and ten minutes from the store.

Washer works. Dryer pours smoke.

And I need a part for the dishwasher.

I am not happy.

I'm going to bed have to be up early to take the fucking dryer back.

So sorry you didn't have a very good day! Your luck sounds about like mine. Maybe the one that you replace it with will be the best ever and have no problems at all!

 

[DreamOfSun]

Good morning, gang!

Jeff (Pinnochio) -

Gina - I am sorry that you are going through this. Didn't you just move recently to be closer to him? -sigh- Relationships are hard. I wish I had more advice or words of wisdom. Just take care of yourself and don't let his actions make you feel like you are less than you are.

NG - I am so proud of you!!!

Jenny & Oman - It is so fun learning new things about you both after so long!

Winzy & Fiesty -

Toni - I like your optimism!

Waving hi to IL and SSG and anyone else who may be lurking.

 

[DreamOfSun]

Update

Well, an short update from me... my h. is not giving in so easily to to the divorce proceedings, so it looks like it could be a long and painful process. I hate his ways of being so manipulative and controlling.

The kids and I are heading up north for a visit with family soon, and when we get back I wll be looking for a job and an apartment for us here in Florida. It is scary and overwhelming at times, but I know that we will make it and be better for it in the end.

I started the job search process recently. So, any good thoughts would be appreciated! I am up and down about it... looking forward to the challenges and independence and new experiences, but also feeling completely devastated at the thought of not being with the kids for the majority of the days while I work. I have been home with them for over four years now. I can't imagine what it will be like to not experience their days with them. Change is hard, even wehn it is for the best overall.

 

[InLust]

Re: Update

Well, an short update from me... my h. is not giving in so easily to to the divorce proceedings, so it looks like it could be a long and painful process. I hate his ways of being so manipulative and controlling.

The kids and I are heading up north for a visit with family soon, and when we get back I wll be looking for a job and an apartment for us here in Florida. It is scary and overwhelming at times, but I know that we will make it and be better for it in the end.

I started the job search process recently. So, any good thoughts would be appreciated! I am up and down about it... looking forward to the challenges and independence and new experiences, but also feeling completely devastated at the thought of not being with the kids for the majority of the days while I work. I have been home with them for over four years now. I can't imagine what it will be like to not experience their days with them. Change is hard, even wehn it is for the best overall.

Divorce is hard...even when both want it. But when one of the parties doesn't, it can get very nasty. Couples say and do things to hurt the other out of pain and rejection......and generally regret it after all is said and done. Just remember nothing worth while is gained without a bit of pain.

It will be difficult not to be with your kids every hour of the day, but it will be sooo worth it. You will discover a whole new world that doesn't include Sesame Street and the kids will get this happier, new improved Mom. A year from now after things have settled abit, you'll look back at this trying time and be proud you had the strength to grow and move forward.

 

[DreamOfSun]

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It will be difficult not to be with your kids every hour of the day, but it will be sooo worth it. You will discover a whole new world that doesn't include Sesame Street and the kids will get this happier, new improved Mom. A year from now after things have settled abit, you'll look back at this trying time and be proud you had the strength to grow and move forward.

That is what I am counting on. Thank you, IL.

 

[Bandit58]

Hi Dreamy......be strong hun
I'm in the process of filing the final papers for my divorce after more than 2 years of separation.....I do remember the shit I went through trying to sort out the matrimonial property settlement In the end it came down to either do it this way or the farm would have to be sold....he backed down quick smart but things have been very strained between us ever since.....I hoped to continue to have some sort of relationship with him because of the kids but he will hardly speak to me now......

Just as well we are in different countries, but our daughter still lives with him so my heart is in my mouth every time I call her on the phone......

 

[DreamOfSun]

Hi Dreamy......be strong hun
I'm in the process of filing the final papers for my divorce after more than 2 years of separation.....I do remember the shit I went through trying to sort out the matrimonial property settlement In the end it came down to either do it this way or the farm would have to be sold....he backed down quick smart but things have been very strained between us ever since.....I hoped to continue to have some sort of relationship with him because of the kids but he will hardly speak to me now......

Just as well we are in different countries, but our daughter still lives with him so my heart is in my mouth every time I call her on the phone......

I feel for you. I hope things are settled for you soon.

When I began this process in early April, I was so naive to think that it would be finished by the end of summer. -sigh- Wishful thinking.

 

[tonitits]

Dreamy and Bandit good luck with the divorces.

Dreamy I am sure that you will find a job and you will be very proud of what you have accomplished. Alot of times we, especially women, feel scared to try the unknown and to embark on something as big as this. But we can do it, we are alot stronger than ppl give us credit for. I am always in your corner and I am sure everyone here is too! I will be quite honest with you. It will be hard to leave the kids at first, but you just keep telling yourself that you have to. And know that it is for the best in the end, for you and them. I am a single parent, and at the time I had my son I had moved back home. My mom kept him and my brother's kids. I was off most of the summer. I was off two weeks before he was born and 7 after. I always thought that I would WANT to work, but when you get that little one in your arms and hold them you never want to let them go or anyone else to touch them. They are yours!!!!!! (I knew that he was going to be the only child I ever had and I didn't want anything to happen to him and didn't like sharing him at first) When I went back to work after a week I had to work evenings. 1:30-10p and I was so sad and missing him, in between calls I would cry from missing him so. I was jealous of my mom, because she was with him all the time, but we worked it out that when I was home I would do everything for him and she would when I was at work. So he grew up to love us both. My mom was such a great help for all those years. I lost her almost 2 yrs ago, but I still hear her telling me to hang in there and that everything is going to be fine. She raised me to stand on my own two feet and not be dependent of anyone and I guess that is how I have survived all the hard times and it will help you to be closer to your kids in a way too. They will see you working to support them and you will enjoy the quality time that you spend with them. My son just turned 12 and he is a tremendous help to me. He helps me when I am down and blue and nervous about medical reports,etc... He is not much help around the house though!!! lol. But that is a different story. Good luck and God Bless you. Remember I am here for you if you need a shoulder or want to talk.

((((((((((((((Dreamy)))))))))))))

 

[DreamOfSun]

Thanks, Toni. I know it will be difficult in more ways than one, but I also know that it is the right thing. I try to experience those moments of sadness and anger and grow stronger from them. My mother always taught me to be strong and independent and to have the ability to take care of myself. Somewhere along the way I got caught up in the 'happily ever after' and lost myself. That is something that won't happen again. I want to teach my children those same values and show them the strength and courage that it takes to be true to yourself and not allow anyone to compromise your personal convictions of what is right and wrong. I hate that he has made me doubt myself so much over the years. But, I made it through.

 

[Wintermute]

Diggleberries!

Today isn't going any easier. Was on the receiving end of a Godsmack this morning. Sleep late, was up taking a shower when my cell rings, it's my boss.

"Where are you?"

"I'm running late."

"Oh, I got some good news and bad news." Ok, waiting for the sucker punch here.

"What's the good news?"

"I just saved a bunch of money on my insurance by switching to Geico." followed by a belly laugh. "The bad news is we got broken into again last night and this time they *did* get your radio. How soon can you get here?"

Fuck, "I'm on my way."

I hurry up and get dressed, run out to my car. The front right tire is completely flat.

The friggin' Universe is out to get me today.

 

[InLust]

Diggleberries!

Today isn't going any easier. Was on the receiving end of a Godsmack this morning. Sleep late, was up taking a shower when my cell rings, it's my boss.

"Where are you?"

"I'm running late."

"Oh, I got some good news and bad news." Ok, waiting for the sucker punch here.

"What's the good news?"

"I just saved a bunch of money on my insurance by switching to Geico." followed by a belly laugh. "The bad news is we got broken into again last night and this time they *did* get your radio. How soon can you get here?"

Fuck, "I'm on my way."

I hurry up and get dressed, run out to my car. The front right tire is completely flat.

The friggin' Universe is out to get me today.

Ok, this is twice in the last month you guys have been broken into....I'd say it's time for a better alarm system or a change in address. And it's probably time to have your tires checked out.....if there wasn't a nail involved, it's maintance time. When God smacks ya upside the head, there is a reason.........and it's a good idea to pay attention

 

[kikmosa]

Ok, this is twice in the last month you guys have been broken into....I'd say it's time for a better alarm system or a change in address. And it's probably time to have your tires checked out.....if there wasn't a nail involved, it's maintance time. When God smacks ya upside the head, there is a reason.........and it's a good idea to pay attention

When God smacks you upside the head it's usually because he couldn't get your attention any other way, lol. I agree with InLust, new addy or alarms are defintely needed. And I'd get all my tires checked, just to be sure.