Trouble reaching orgasm (female)

[honeybee_345]

I've been having trouble orgasming. I get really into sex/masterbation but never seen to reach my peak. The sex/masterbation will be REALLY good or intense, but it's like I reach a plateau and can't get over it. I try squirting and that is a wonderful release, but what I want is a clitoral orgasm. Its a different experience. A whole new pleasure world I'm having a really hard time reaching. It's also been making me irritable and kinda sad to be honest. Its difficult to use a vibrator since the walls in my house are very thin.

Has anyone else experienced this?

Any advice?

 

[sixfeetundernea]

Yes. I've been anorgasmic for quite a while and I'm still young. I've never had a orgasm while in the presence of a man and it on average takes me 1-2 to orgasm while masturbating IF I do. My orgasms are very weak with probably two or three contractions each time.

One of my problems is I'm on a couple of SSRIs. They are very strong anti depressants and it's not uncommon to be anorgasmic while on them. The only reason I'm not on lithium is because I don't want to lose my high sex drive.

There are actually prescription pills and creams available to help women with actual arousal and better orgasms. I think even sometimes Viagra is prescribed to some women. The Hitachi magic wand has a very high success rate to give women orgasms. One study showed a little over 98% of women were able to orgasm or have better orgasms with it, even women who hadn't had an orgasm with sex or in a long period of time. Vaginal vacuums I think are supposed to help.

Most people will probably say to take your time, relax, but that doesn't help me. You can try to take a warm bath, lightly touch yourself there and explore yourself, but I've had no luck with that.

I hope that helps. Despite all the reading I've done on it, I haven't had much success because of my ego. If you are comfortable communicating with your partner, they can help a lot as well. If you haven't, be more vocal and tell them what you like and don't like beforehand and during. You're not being selfish.

Good luck hun

 

[hashtag45]

I've been having trouble orgasming. I get really into sex/masterbation but never seen to reach my peak. The sex/masterbation will be REALLY good or intense, but it's like I reach a plateau and can't get over it. I try squirting and that is a wonderful release, but what I want is a clitoral orgasm. Its a different experience. A whole new pleasure world I'm having a really hard time reaching. It's also been making me irritable and kinda sad to be honest. Its difficult to use a vibrator since the walls in my house are very thin.

Has anyone else experienced this?

Any advice?

After googling it, I see that statistics show that a large proportion of the population are depressed or are on antidepressants, and that either of these can cause such problems. And that other medications or physical ailments can cause that, too.
Perhaps asking your doctor for advice, too?

 

[honeybee_345]

F!@$%^%&$^@%^
Yeah I'm on a new med and its helped my mood a lot but if it's what's messing with my sex drive I'll have to find a new way. My partner has a hitachi though I 've never used one. I'll try it with him if we ever have a place to do it. The problem is the hitachi is so loud and I live with my family. This is just another growing point for me. Thanks for the support <3

 

[MaryanneB]

OK....
Anti-depressants are notorious for squelching orgasms in both men/women. Talk to your doctor or whoever is prescribing. DHEA is a good thing to counteract the effects. But find out about the lowest dose that will help you and not hinder the mood.
Look for a vibe that says it's quiet. I have one that doesn't sound like the voice of God.

 

[hashtag45]

Indeed, and the general practitioner could also help with some advice, prescribe the new pink pill (if approved), or, otherwise, refer her to appropriate services that could give some suggestions. It's the GP's responsibility to support, in a way, since he prescribed the medication in the first place

 

[honeybee_345]

If anyone has any other tools to help me in this quest I'm open to just about everything. I'll be purchasing a quiet vibrator to see if helps.

Love to you all <3

 

[JorjaRayne]

If anyone has any other tools to help me in this quest I'm open to just about everything. I'll be purchasing a quiet vibrator to see if helps.

Love to you all <3

Honeybee, if you can get your clit aroused enough to stand erect, try tying a silky ribbon around it. Go just below your clit, to the u spot. Use a silicone based lube and rub tease your vaginal opening, but don't finger yourself. Then press a dildo against your anus without pushing it all the way inside. You'll get what you need, sugarplum.

 

[Everyday_Man]

Next time you're having trouble reaching your orgasm, try standing on a box or a step ladder, which is probably the safer and more stable of the two methods.

I hope this solution works for you.

 

[sks43]

Next time you're having trouble reaching your orgasm, try standing on a box or a step ladder, which is probably the safer and more stable of the two methods.

I hope this solution works for you.

This solution sounds so practical... and I cannot stop laughing.

 

[JorjaRayne]

Clever dude. Bwahahahahaha.

 

[honeybee_345]

Honeybee, if you can get your clit aroused enough to stand erect, try tying a silky ribbon around it. Go just below your clit, to the u spot. Use a silicone based lube and rub tease your vaginal opening, but don't finger yourself. Then press a dildo against your anus without pushing it all the way inside. You'll get what you need, sugarplum.

This sounds like an idea worth trying

 

[honeybee_345]

Next time you're having trouble reaching your orgasm, try standing on a box or a step ladder, which is probably the safer and more stable of the two methods.

I hope this solution works for you.

facepalm.

 

[xxxLunaxxx]

There are cheaper versions of a hitachi style vibe. I have one that takes batteries and is waterproof to an extent. It's not as strong as a hitachi, but can be taken in to the shower. I wouldn't suggest submerging in water, but just regular shower play has never ruined mine. And since you're concerned about noise, the noise from the shower should mask the noise of the vibe. Even better if you have a bathroom with an exhaust fan.

You could also try masturbating by humping something, such as a firm pillow or the arm of a couch or chair. Some people find that technique useful.